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Posted: 3/3/2008 8:20:19 PM | Hands down, I'd much rather be alone than be with the wrong person. It would compromise my self-respect and my integrity to settle for anything less than a partner I can thank God daily for bringing into my life. If I settled, not only would I feel that "something" missing every day, but it would be horribly unfair to the person I'd settled for.
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Posted: 3/9/2008 9:43:28 AM | Instead of saying types, I use this (My Standards). Your standards can be high or low. Like large women or small women, Tall or short. black or white,old or young,teeth or no teeth, Its what you have set as your standards in who you are looking for . As for being with the wrong person better off alone. I'm alone until the right person comes into my life that has the standards I'm looking for.   | |
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Posted: 3/9/2008 1:46:57 PM | | It is better to be alone than unhappy with someone else. For one you aren't going to find someone who can make you happy unless you are single. Second of all it is not fair to lead someone on and use them because you are too pathetic to be single. Being single can be a great time to figure out who you are as a person and realize what you took for granted in your past relationships. Most important to figure out what you want in someone else and what you have to give. Best wishes to all you fish! | |
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Posted: 3/9/2008 1:55:19 PM | Is it better to be alone Or settle for someone that is not Your type.
I made the decision as well to be alone.
I am still looking on the odd chance my knight in shining armour is still out there, but its not fair on someone else, just to be with them because you cant find your ideal guy/girl.
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Posted: 3/9/2008 1:56:07 PM | Alone.
Let me compare people to couches. Might be a bad analogy but run with me for a bit will ya.
"Look at this couch I bought. I know it doesnt really go with anything else I have. Its kind of old and lumpy. Has a few stains. Stinks a bit. But it was cheap and available. Yeah I know I could have waited a few weeks and saved my money and gotten one I really liked but I just had to have one right now and this was all they had. Im sure Ill grow to love it. Or if I still dont love it in a few years then maybe I can fix it up a bit. Clean the stains and fix the broken parts. Maybe add some new stuffing here and there. Make the couch presentable to all my friends. Make it something I can be proud of instead of just an eyesore that swallows my loose change...."
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Posted: 3/10/2008 5:17:52 AM | I'd settle down if I found myself acting the fool.
I'd settle in to a big, comfy down feather bed.
I'd never settle for anything less than what I want in a partner/lover.
Settling for someone means you're giving up your wants, needs and desires and that has all the possibility of leaving you with nothing but regrets down the road.
Regrets lead to resentments.
Resentments eat away at anything healthy 'til there's nothing left but anger.
No settling for when it comes to matters of the heart. | |
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Posted: 3/10/2008 6:04:12 AM | I lost my love of 10 years about 15 montsh ago. Met someone here online, it was nice to have that person, kind of was a wake up call that I can move forward. We had fun and enjoyed things but maybe we were both alone to long. Trouble is now that I've been alone, don't want anyone full time, high maintanence or underfoot. To enjoy some quiet time, do what people do is fine but what I want now is to take things slowly and when the door closes it is me alone which is fine. Am not going to ride the merry
go round and grab for and at a cheap brass ring, just take the slower ride and savor
the time. You would end up with trying to meet some demands and expectation that neither of you is able to meet or want. Better to close the door on yourself with sanity peace, dignity and emotions intact then get shredded and pulled into an emotional and physical wreckage of diminished hope and expectatons | |
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Posted: 3/10/2008 8:54:52 AM | Settling just to settle means you're lonely and desperate...therefore, you will attract the same kind of person, or a person that won't make you happy, and you will have a not so happy life, and neither will the other person.
My suggestion is take care of you, make yourself happy first!
When we're happy and positive, we will meet a person with likewise views and you won't setle, because you are confident and happy.
Find things you want to do, try new things, improve yourself either at school, new hairstyle, hobbies, etc...in doing this you will be too busy to worry about finding the right one, or having to settle, because you will be focused on what you are doing, the new people you are meeting, new experiences and just getting out there. Life is not a guarentee, we never know when our last day is...enjoy it! Love life and those around you, love yourself, we are what we think.
I've been a widow for 6 yrs. now and have three kids...we had our days then...., but we've moved on and enjoy life for my husband /their dad as much as for us...and learned that life is short.A positive attitude and faith can get you anywhere!
Believe in you!
Good luck,
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Posted: 3/10/2008 8:57:11 AM | [quoteWho cares about types? Do you know what your type is? should we change our types? are we to quick to judge who our "type" of person is? just meet someone give them a chance if it does nto work it does not work what;s the worst that can happen?
Good point Adam. For a lot , the decision has been already made for us.
Imo, reading just the last 2 pages of replies I get the impression and if I may to play Devil's Advocate for a moment, that is it really the type of person who would be right for you , or a
self imposted prophesy, which will make all suitors for the most part,not one's type.
But you say why?
I can see that if one is not already happy with themselves or has other past lingering issues, and to think that maybe someone else can make it better for you, it's not happening,
that being said, the writing is on the wall and your fate has been sealed once more.
So yes, tis better to be alone because if Humpy Humpy is not whole, all the kings men is not going to put you back together again,only you can do that. | |
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