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| Is it better to be alone Or settle for someone that is not Your type.
Posted: 3/20/2008 10:19:40 AM | Personally, I'd rather be alone than hanging out with someone I only pretend to care for...
That's a form of lying, and it is really kind of unfair to everyone involved.
Unless you are just "hanging out" as "buddies" or something... and yes, I have women friends, who are just friends and activity partners, and never in my wildest dreams would I hit on them, or anything. It would be kinda like hitting on my sister or my best friend's wife or something. You just don't do it. | |
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| Is it better to be alone Or settle for someone that is not Your type.
Posted: 3/20/2008 12:08:11 PM | I think this is an individual question each person would have to answer for themself and depends on how much of a taker or giver you are.
It also depends on what any one person wants out of a relationship and what they are willing to settle for and also the other persons understanding of your feelings, are they deeply in love with you or do they also feel half hearted and settling. If the person is not your type you would be unsatisfied and still wondering about where is Mr. or Ms. Right. Eventually I think most people would go on the hunt again especially if Mr./Ms. Right was later encountered hitch-hiking on the road of life. If and when one person does go hunting again they should conscionably have to ask themself is/was it worth taking up time out of another persons life and quite likely hurting them.
For myself the answer right now would be, better to be alone. It is very hard for me to tell someone who in themself is a very fine person that they do not measure up to who I want to be with after I had known it for a long time and I do not want to waste time for another person in their life. Someone wasted years and years of my life and I know what it feels like. Maybe when I am 105 and only want to stare out a window I could settle for just about anyone, but not yet. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2008 5:20:33 PM | It is better to remain alone.
Besides it is selfish because you are depriving that other person of what it feels like to have another person feel genuine passion toward them.
What is more, you’ll most likely end up cheating on them or breaking their heart when you meet someone you do feel passion toward and abruptly dump the person who was never your type. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2008 5:37:56 PM | I have had plenty opportunities to settle down with a woman that wasn't 100% up to scratch and now, currently, I am alone.
Do I regret some of the decisions that I have made? Of course I do in SOME cases. But the way I see it, Love, true Love... The kind that makes you want to stay with a single person for the rest of your Life, either happens or it doesn’t. And if it happens then that's all good... And if it doesn’t then it doesn’t... And there’s no point dwelling on it.
A cold, philosophical view perhaps, but bottom line, I'd rather be alone and relatively OK (although not happy 100%) than being with someone and NOT being happy. That, to me, sounds like a complete and utter nightmare. One that I personally hope to avoid at all costs.
But don't get me wrong... Being alone sucks... But not being alone AND unhappy sucks even more. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2008 1:46:33 PM | | Definately ALONE!!!! Why should you settle for a mate when Its not gonna last long in the first place because its not the type of person you want to be with. NEVER settle for anything less then what you want!! Not saying that is going to be an easy path, because it will be a long lonely one but you will eventually find it in the end. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2008 4:18:14 PM | Well what if your both?
What if your alone and unhappy? What then?
Most of you guys seem to be in agreement that its better to be alone than to be with someone you haven't clicked with. I agree with that too. But how much rejection is a person supposed to take? | |
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Debi00
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Joined: 2/18/2008
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Posted: 3/22/2008 4:42:45 PM | I agree with everyone else! I would rather be alone, than be with someone, and still feel alone! Cuz if you don't have that feeling in your gut, that this is the person you want to spend time with (for a long time) than you might as well, hang up your skates!
Doesn't matter how often you sharpen them, they'll still be dull!! Like getting a round peg, into a square hole!! Just doesn't work!!
My two cents!! | |
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Posted: 3/22/2008 4:44:02 PM | ugh ALONE! always always ALONE! what could be more depressing than going thru the motions with someone, what a colossal waste of time (yours & theirs)
What's sadder to me is that i know a TON of girls who do this - they cannot be alone for whatever reason, so they end up with some dude they don't love, sometimes moving IN with the guy, and when it all falls apart they feel worse than when it all started. Life just doesn't need to be that complicated!
Be happy & love yourself :) | |
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Posted: 3/22/2008 4:55:07 PM | It is always better to be alone than with the wrong person. I am one who has to have the sparks, magic, fireworks.
I was with someone who I loved with all my heart.....but I knew I couldn't deal with his drinking for the rest of my life. One of the hardest things I've ever done is to walk away from that relationship, but now I am so glad I did. Nothing worse than being in a relationship and feeling so alone. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2008 5:31:45 PM | | Alone....I don't like being alone...but when I listen and watch some married people I am glad to not be married or attached. I know I am definitely too picky. Trying to be friendly with some men leads to the wrong conclusion even when I say in my profile I am only looking for friends. Still searching, though. | |
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swf001
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Joined: 2/16/2008
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