| The Silent Treatment
Posted: 7/26/2009 4:18:18 PM | | ive no-one to be silent to....... ill try ignoring the dog. | |
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| The Silent Treatment
Posted: 7/26/2009 4:44:19 PM | | ^^^^ awww what a shame, i'm sure you would be good at being quiet too, and i bet the dog would appreciate it too :) | |
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| The Silent Treatment
Posted: 7/26/2009 8:13:05 PM | | Had the silent treatment a few times and it usually ends up with me binning an blocking the bint as i can't be doing with childish carryings on. | |
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| The Silent Treatment
Posted: 7/27/2009 12:45:30 AM | | Girls, girls, girls how can you give boys the silent treatment, they can't even ask for directions. Me being a gobby notherner origionally, tell them how you feel, they are not mind readers. A ten minute rant is better than two days of silence. If in doubt girls.....draw diagrams. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2009 12:49:36 AM | | I have never given anyone the silent treatment, i can't see the point, if you have something to say then just say it! how would saying nothing help? men struggle to understand where women are coming from even if we spell it out so how the hell can they understand if we expect them to mind read! | |
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| The Silent Treatment
Posted: 7/27/2009 10:32:44 AM | Scints,
With my ex, he would refuse to talk about stuff like housework. I would get replies like "I'm not a house ****. I don't do housework. End of."
That's when I would do my silent treatment. Not because I thought I'd get him back, but because I couldn't talk to him as if nothing was wrong. If he refused to talk with me about what was happening between us I didn't want to talk about his mates or whatever.
Isn't that more like him giving YOU the silent treatment?!
I reckon so, because he may as well be silent rather than talk about nothing when there is something that needs attention. | |
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| The Silent Treatment
Posted: 7/27/2009 11:34:41 AM | Yeah, sam. I'd have thought so too, but he would act as though nothing was wrong. He'd talk about work, his mates, his mum, footie, tv, so I guess he wasn't being silent, just not prepared to talk about anything to do with being responsible.
And I would just switch off, and think "arsehole" whenever he spoke to me.  | |
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| The Silent Treatment
Posted: 7/27/2009 3:58:28 PM | Hi Scints,
yeah, my ex would decide something completely against my wishes and refuse to discuss it never mind compromise but expect me to accept that he had spoken and I should be subserviant.
To be honest, I don't care a monkeys about his part in it all now, what bugs me is my own part in it by putting up with it all that time! | |
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Posted: 7/27/2009 4:59:01 PM | | hello ladies......time to brush with my feminine side ...its all very simple MALES are NOT peripheral ????? by this I mean from neanderthal times BOYS?MEN are ONE TRACK and cant cope with decision making unless it suits them !!! Whilst Girls/ ladies and women are peripheral and see everything practically this is where the conflict arises ...PS I am male..and admit my faults lol | |
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Posted: 7/27/2009 5:07:11 PM | So are you saying msg 59 that men have not evolved from neanderthal times?
I think you do your fellow men a dis-service, or are you suggesting that women are the smarter sex as we developed and evolved?  | |
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| The Silent Treatment
Posted: 7/28/2009 12:15:31 AM | I can't do the silent treatment even if I wanted to, I talk far to much
Communication is always better but if I feel I'm not getting anywhere I usually bugger off down the pub for a beer & watch the football with friends. I'd far rather spend my time laughing with friends than sulking, arguing or silent treatment. Guess maybe that's why in the 8 years of marriage I had we never had one single arguement in that time! | |
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Posted: 7/28/2009 10:44:39 AM | Cleverkitten....PLEASE...Some men clearly have "evolved"..... others ??? I suppose the same can be said of both genders ..good and bad at relationship skills...My fellow (WOE) man and woman are like dreams..you wake up and just want the dream back ..know the feeling ? HOWEVER in not responding to whats termed as "the battle of the sexes" my answer to your remark and the subject under discussion ( SILENT TREATMENT) would have to be ...men have not evolved beyond being egotists... | |
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| The Silent Treatment
Posted: 7/28/2009 11:11:57 AM | | Hi can you please tell me where the Shoreham community centre is? I like Tamla mRegardsotown and soul,but d'ont think it is near the Wirral where i live | |
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| The Silent Treatment
Posted: 7/28/2009 11:50:47 AM | ^^^Savvy? erm.....
I'm not very good at keeping sschum.....my ex was pretty good at that, when he wasn't ruining my ears with his organ playing. | |
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| The Silent Treatment
Posted: 7/28/2009 11:57:55 AM |
when he wasn't ruining my ears with his organ playing
Just trying to think of a good answer to that one. No doubt it will come! | |
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| The Silent Treatment
Posted: 7/28/2009 1:55:22 PM | | Just goes to show that sometimes SILENCE can be a virtue! | |
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Posted: 11/15/2009 7:20:24 PM | | All that silent treatment is just plain childish. If I had a partner who acted out in that way, I'd tell him to grow up! | |
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Posted: 11/15/2009 7:23:26 PM | | If your man refuses to listen to you, then I suggest you start looking for a new one, its the start of a slippery slope | |
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Posted: 11/15/2009 11:39:38 PM | | Imo, I think that if your guy truly knows and understands you, then he would have a clue that there is a problem, and deep down he would know what the problem was. | |
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| The Silent Treatment
Posted: 11/15/2009 11:56:14 PM | I agree, my step father was like that , I think silent treatment is childish and it is about control whether for fun or not.
if you cannot communicate with your partner then you should not be together simple as that , if you behave like that then its more than likely the reason for you being single if you bring that too a new relationship.
Men do it too and play plenty of other games even though they think we as women dont notice, but if you play them back then you get nowhere in my book and stoop to their level. | |
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| The Silent Treatment
Posted: 11/16/2009 2:35:16 AM | My ex is the silent one, sulks for days on ends, it really annoys me then when i decide i wont talk he,d contact me, id say something he didnt like, the silent treatment starts.thats why we are exes. | |
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Posted: 11/16/2009 2:37:44 AM | I can't do the silent treatment and I can't sulk. I would rather say "this is what youve done/not done this is why im annoyed/what are we going to do about it", sort it out and then move on. I am far too chatty for the silent treatment I wouldn't last 5mins :)
At best it is a sign of emotional immaturity or a lack of emotional intelligence, at worst it is a common trait in people with Cluster B personality disorders such as borderline personality disorder, narcissistic personality disorder, etc.
Personally I'm not a sulker as I've already said but if some woman is so pee'd at her man that she takes herself off to the kitchen to slam a few pans around and ignore him for 10mins im sure this dosen't mean she has a borderline personality disorder, it just might mean shes piss.ed off. Your statement reads as being very judgemental, without knowing what any of these women are thinking or what they might be upset about. | |
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Posted: 11/16/2009 2:40:24 AM | If you find yourself in a relationship with someone who uses 'the silent treatment' as a form of punishment - for that is what it is - then run and do not look back. Only pain and unhappiness lies in being involved with such a person.
At best it is a sign of emotional immaturity or a lack of emotional intelligence, at worst it is a common trait in people with Cluster B personality disorders such as borderline personality disorder, histrionic personality disorder, narcissistic personality disorder, etc.
You can learn so much about people from reading these threads. | |
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| The Silent Treatment
Posted: 11/16/2009 2:42:01 AM | I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who gives me an 'ear bashing' or 'silent treatment'.
It's supposed to be a love affair not a battle zone. | |
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| The Silent Treatment
Posted: 11/16/2009 2:42:11 AM | "I have never given anyone the silent treatment, i can't see the point, if you have something to say then just say it! how would saying nothing help? men struggle to understand where women are coming from even if we spell it out so how the hell can they understand if we expect them to mind read!"
Well said ~*~Aella~*~ | |
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