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| Think i can see what he is doing...but y???
Posted: 7/27/2009 8:48:28 AM | Its just he makes it out to be a joke, making me feel im being stupid. Part of me thinks maybe i am taking it the wrong way and thats his sense of humor? But, last night i said to my mate that he had text and i said to him im getting confused by him and y does he lie. He said whatever, goodbye! so i said to my mate, i bet he texts later and asks if im still talking to him. Sure enuf he did, i didnt reply. I said to my mate, now he will text something nasty. He did, saying forget everything. Then i said if i dont answer he will ask if im still talking to him-sure enuf he did. So i figure it must be head games if i can predict what he is going to do?!
But what is he wanting me to do? chase him? i just dont know why he wants to upset me on purpose, then ask if i am annoyed, then when he knows i am turn it round to look like im being stupid cos its a 'joke' then get arsey, then ask if im still talking to him??
Does me head in! I am just going to ignore him-i guess i just wanted to get confirmation from ppl that it IS head games and not a 'joke' as he says, cos id feel bad if i am taking it the wrong way. Ive slept with him aswell (b4 i knew he was like this) | |
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| Think i can see what he is doing...but y???
Posted: 7/27/2009 10:38:39 AM | Does the term Bon voyage , relegate to the past tense,buh byeeeeee,kick him to the curb, later, see ya, run forest runnnnnnn, mean anything to you?
You think you see what he is doing? he's a liar, a fool and immature little hump , why waste your time with a loser when there are plenty of good men out there? I will never understand some of you people, you whine about your loser boyfriends and then ask " gee what do I do"
Doesnt matter why he's lying , he's lying to you, its not going to get better!! either dump his arse or take him in the back yard and throw him a beating or two | |
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| Think i can see what he is doing...but y???
Posted: 7/27/2009 10:42:40 AM | | Does not matter why he's doing it, it's that he is doing it. What kind of relationship dating/serious can you possibly have with someone like this? Don't even bother to analyze or figure it all out, way too much work for a relationship that's barely even begun. To the curb I say kick him and find someone else that's a bit more on the normal side of things. If you can believe anything that they say! LOL! | |
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| Think i can see what he is doing...but y???
Posted: 7/27/2009 10:56:05 AM | in a way im hanging on to him because he makes me feel i am the one in the wrong and i really cant tell if im in the wrong or not.
Part of me thinks maybe i am taking it the wrong way and thats his sense of humor? But, last night i said to my mate that he had text and i said to him im getting confused by him and y does he lie. He said whatever, goodbye! so i said to my mate, i bet he texts later and asks if im still talking to him. Sure enuf he did, i didnt reply. I said to my mate, now he will text something nasty. He did, saying forget everything. Then i said if i dont answer he will ask if im still talking to him-sure enuf he did. So i figure it must be head games if i can predict what he is going to do?!
Run away, NOW, as fast as possible. DO NOT "figure" its "head games", DO NOT try to "predict" what he's going to do, next time he says "goodbye", say it back - and IGNORE his texts, calls, emails, whatever. Preferably don't even wait, just walk away now.
This is classic "abuser" behavior, making you think "I am the one in the wrong", and then being nice... eventually escalating to starting arguments, then *hitting* you, to which (via his emotional manipulation) he has you thinking (still) "I am in the wrong for getting him angry", then being nice to you and apologizing until the next time he hits you, and you feel you are "in the wrong", making up again... repeat, endless cycle until YOU end it.
*PLEASE* end it, ignore his texts, ignore emails, ignore the phone calls, run as fast and as far away as you can from someone like this. | |
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| Think i can see what he is doing...but y???
Posted: 7/27/2009 10:59:18 AM | | OP; Don't know why you would try and have his personality analyzed on the forums. I would ask him WTF is his problem, and if it didn't change end it. | |
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| Think i can see what he is doing...but y???
Posted: 7/27/2009 11:09:56 AM | My question to you is...what difference does it make WHY he does it? The point is that he's doing it and it's driving you crazy....So, my next question to you is WHY are you putting up with it? You don't have to if you don't want to. You can tell him to take a hike, you can tell him to knock it off or you are gone, or you can continue to deal with his nonsense. He probably won't change his behavior, so you've got some decision making to do.
I agree with this. He's obviously completely immature, and he needs someone to snap him out of it (trust me, he wouldn't last long with some of the more worldly wise women, not that I'm suggesting you're immature, but he probably intrigues you as much as he annoys you. When you have more experience you get past finding intrigue of this kind attractive). He's either trying to implement some kind of power over you, by scr@wing with your mind until you don't know whether you're coming or going, or he's completely lacking in self esteem and needs you to constantly boost it for him. Either way he’s a looser, and you can do much better IMO | |
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| Think i can see what he is doing...but y???
Posted: 7/27/2009 12:14:17 PM | Dear "learnthehardway": You've only been here for a little over a month, you say you "dated" crazy dude for a month of apparent mental torment and some sex. .. Well.. You're screen name certainly suits you.  After reading this thread and having watched you repeatedly ignore the same response from every poster here and still wonder "why he does it" the only thing I can suggest is that you change your screen name to "hardlylearninganyway"   | |
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| Think i can see what he is doing...but y???
Posted: 7/27/2009 12:19:20 PM | Dump him. Flat out. Tell him you are sick of his lies, his head games, and his childish behavior.
Don't put up with this crap a minute longer. Tell him to take a hike.
Beth | |
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| Think i can see what he is doing...but y???
Posted: 7/27/2009 12:21:53 PM | Is really quite simple he has a problem with maturity. Maybe you should tell him to call you when he grows up. Games are for kids not consenting adults. If you don't know him now what have you got to lose. Just chalk it up to experience and move on.
I know some women think any man is better than no man at all but this guy does not fit the definition of a man at all so cut your loses dear there are real men out there and we can't wait to meet ya.  | |
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| Think i can see what he is doing...but y???
Posted: 7/27/2009 1:03:30 PM | | He's testing you, to see how easily fooled you are, what you will and won't put up with and just where he can stick you in his list of people who can help him in varies ways...like who would have sex with him but not bother him too much about the booty calls...that sort of thing. There will be the people who will give him money, feed him, do his laundry, etc. The real question is just why are you seeing this man and where would you like to be on his list of people to use? | |
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| Think i can see what he is doing...but y???
Posted: 7/27/2009 11:20:00 PM | | omg daynadays...he did wnat me to buy him meals! Thats it im ignoring him!! Thing is when i dont believe one of the things he tells me and i question it he gets natsy and syas 'well if u dont believe me...' only for him to later confirm it WAS a lie...what a fruitloop! thanku u guys xx | |
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