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| Exclusive dating???
Posted: 8/27/2009 7:56:58 PM | | I would never ask someone to date exclusively after the first, maybe even the second date if it ever got that far. But, if she wanted to see me again, I think I would stop looking at that point out of respect for her and to see if anything happens, if that makes sense. Like some of the men on here, I am old fashioned and would not date multiple women at a time if I thought there might be a chance on things progressing with one as it wouldn't be fair to the others, if that makes sense too...LOL! | |
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| Exclusive dating???
Posted: 8/28/2009 4:43:01 PM | | I had it happen several years ago. Became exclusive for about 2 months, when I broke up with him he harassed me! Eventually (after I changed my phone number), he stopped...it was an ordeal though. CREEPY!! | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 8:05:44 AM | LOL - in my age group, most of them are insane or emotionally imbalanced. If you're not willing to drop any other romantic interests you may be persuing 3 minutes after you've met them, they accuse you of being a 'serial dater' or a 'cheater.' Even though there's been NO exclusivity talk at ALL.
ROFL. Yeah, good times, good times... | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 8:50:28 PM | | With the last guy I met, we hit it off right away and both said that we would not see anyone else after we met. With the other guys I've met off this site, I wouldn't have agreed to it because I just "wasn't that into them". To me, if I really like a guy, the furthest thing from my mind will be going out on dates with other men. If I start dating multiple guys at once, I end up feeling really bad about any who I have to turn down, and it just creates unnecessary drama that I don't want to deal with. I can usually tell pretty quickly if I can picture myself in a relationship with someone, if not after the first date, definitely after a couple. If by that point, I haven't been able to gauge my interest in him, he just isn't right for me. It isn't really about moving quickly, to me, it's just about avoiding drama and getting hurt. I don't think that I would straight out tell a guy that I didn't want him seeing other women that quickly, but at the same time, if I thought we had great chemistry, I would probably be a bit disappointed if he kept seeing other people. I am also only 21, however, so this could just be an age thing. | |
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| Exclusive dating???
Posted: 8/30/2009 7:20:25 AM |
How many women out there date a man ONE time and have them ask you if you would please ONLY date them so that you can be exclusive??? How many men ask that of a woman after the first or second date? and why???
See I don't get it, if a woman asks a man this after like 3-4 months she could easily scare the guy off but if a guy thinks he can ask us that after date one we're meant to just be exclusive how does that work?!! And yes I know this doesn't happen with everyone but it has happened to me, makes no sense to me. | |
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| Exclusive dating???
Posted: 8/30/2009 11:02:22 AM |
if a guy thinks he can ask us that after date one we're meant to just be exclusive how does that work?!!
It's only the occasional, unusual guy who would ever mention exclusivity that early. There is no double standard here. The guy who does this is a clinger, or is obsessive, just as surely as a woman who mentions exclusivity too early. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2009 4:16:28 PM | I still don't get why people want to leave their options open for so long. If I watch a movie on TV, I don't surf the channels. Are you afraid of missing something better? Are you so backlogged with dates? So popular?
Whether I say it or not, if you have that 'keep looking' mentality, it probably won't work anyway. I would formulate the request to be exclusive as giving it serious thought and attention and focussing on this shot with this candidate. Try formulating the opposite position without a reasoning that involves getting a better deal. And if that is your mindset, who says it'll stop when you two are together? | |
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Posted: 8/30/2009 7:18:43 PM | wolftxus I completely agree with you, a person that wants to keep there options open and date others at the same time (even if it is the just the first date) will never stop looking no matter what even when we are well into the relationship.
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| Exclusive dating???
Posted: 8/31/2009 4:53:38 AM |
With the last guy I met, we hit it off right away and both said that we would not see anyone else after we met. With the other guys I've met off this site, I wouldn't have agreed to it because I just "wasn't that into them". To me, if I really like a guy, the furthest thing from my mind will be going out on dates with other men. If I start dating multiple guys at once, I end up feeling really bad about any who I have to turn down, and it just creates unnecessary drama that I don't want to deal with. I can usually tell pretty quickly if I can picture myself in a relationship with someone, if not after the first date, definitely after a couple. If by that point, I haven't been able to gauge my interest in him, he just isn't right for me. It isn't really about moving quickly, to me, it's just about avoiding drama and getting hurt. I don't think that I would straight out tell a guy that I didn't want him seeing other women that quickly, but at the same time, if I thought we had great chemistry, I would probably be a bit disappointed if he kept seeing other people. I am also only 21, however, so this could just be an age thing. I feel absolutely the same - so it's not an age thing, it's a matter of perception | |
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Posted: 9/14/2009 6:52:20 PM | I was never asked, but would ask the guy. If he was already dating someone, I would tell him to get in touch with me when he wasn't. I only dated one guy at a time and wanted the same chance in return. I don't see it as a commitment, but giving each person the best chance you can give them. If the date didn't work out, you move on. If it did, you go again. Always seemed to work for me.
Dating too many guys at one time was too confusing to me and tiring. I didn't like it and don't feel I gave the men the best chance of it going anywhere. - eschec mat
I agree with you, eschec mat. I can usually tell after one date, especially if we have been chatting via email, IM &/or phone for a few days beforehand
(many are weeded out in the process & never end up on a first date); if I am interested enough to have a LTR with someone. If he needs more time, I might
consider a 2nd date, but unlikely, as it seems to me people with such differences would not be very compatible. JME.
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I don't get the point of it, really. You can really get to know someone fairly deeply, fairly quickly if it's a one on one focus, but if it's a multiple people scenario, it's just "dating lite" and seems rather pointless to me. - RenaissanceMan1950
I couldn't have put it better myself, RenaissanceMan1950! 
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Reading the various differing opinions on this thread just reminded me of something similar. When I fisr started dating online (5 years ago), I was contacted
by this guy in California. We chatted for a couple weeks & were discussing the possibility of a visit, when he found out during a phone conversation that I was
on multiple free dating sites & talking with other people. He apparently only TALKS to one person at a time. He was so offended & upset by the difference in our
approaches, that he immeadiately put me in the "friend zone"! ROFLMFAO!! I think people should discuss these things before the date, so you know that you are on the same page (or not), no mis-understandings, mis-
interpretations, or inadvertently hurt feelings. Good communication is important in any relationship. | |
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| Exclusive dating???
Posted: 9/15/2009 2:46:19 PM |
Good communication is important in any relationship. Yup, if you can't communicate forget it.
I didn't need to say that to my fiance, we both just didn't date others and when it came to the exclusive talk, we were on the same page. It was great having a meeting of the minds and being able to discuss the adult stuff. If he would have asked me about dating others, after meeting him the first time, no way did I want to date anyone else and it would not have been a problem at all for me to tell him that. He had me from my first look at him | |
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Posted: 9/15/2009 3:02:25 PM | Haha, nice theory but doesnt actually work in practical terms. Sex is just "Sex". It does not grant you any rights or ownership over anyone. Just because a girl or guy puts out on the first date doesnt mean you owe them anything but an orgasm.......
I agree with this......Sex can be just sex....even for some women....I think some women are just afraid to admit they have desires also that have to be met. You can have awesome sex and not be a sleeze..... | |
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