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Posted: 7/29/2009 3:01:11 AM | Had to laugh when I read this one – we’ve all experienced this type, there is a difference between spontaneous funny and trying to be funny.
I met this guy through a relative recently (nothing gay going on here, nothing against gays I’ve met quite a few, all ok, just not my thing) we were at a night club, I go out for a cigarette he follows me out, half an hour later – hey brother want to go out for a cigarette? No thanks, I’m ok (reminded me of when ladies go to the ladies they all go together) then he starts telling me jokes that aren’t funny and acting like he owns the place, every so often he’d come over again, hey brother your cool I’ll introduce you to some chics if you like – no thanks I’m ok. Then he starts dragging these poor ladies over and introducing us.
Cant get rid of this guy, I was stupid enough to give him my number in the beginning it was work related, hes texting me every Friday, Saturday and Sunday – what’s ya doing brother want to go out? No thanks I’m busy.
Last Saturday I’m getting ready to pick up a lady, we were going out to dinner, I get this text – hey brother what you doing tonight? Ah I’m going out to dinner with a Queensland Bikini Supermodel (in other words LEAVE ME ALONE). Cool brother I like your style which restaurant? No way not that dumb he’d probably turn up sit himself down and drink our red wine, the belly dancer didn’t turn up that night, knowing him he’d be dancing on the tables, who needs a belly dancer anyway lol.
This guy keeps texting, where are you brother, how’s dinner, everything ok brother – I turn off the phone, when I switched the phone on there were at least 5 more texts from this guy. 2am I’m taking the lady home, he calls where are you brother lets meet up somewhere.
The moral of the story – stay away from these people, they suck your energy you walk away feeling drained, exhausted. I have a lot of time for people but this type is literally draining. If I want to spend a night with a comedian I’d go to the comedy club. | |
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Savona
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| Always on?
Posted: 7/29/2009 5:44:14 AM | A man who does not need to be the center of attention gets my attention every time.
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| Always on?
Posted: 7/29/2009 6:31:56 AM | Two things. My father was this way, it mortified me as a child/teen. Now, I don't know that he was into the silliness that you have described with the glass on the head, but the rest of it, the shameless flirting and talking to people, yup, that was my dad.
Guess what, that's me AND my kids. Something I noticed a few years ago, and something that I did recognize about my father as well, we get better service anywhere we go, people will break company rules to help us out, they may roll their eyes but most people in service jobs in particular are talked AT all day long, and people tend to like you even if they think you are too forward. I think if you asked him to chill and he didn't, I might have just gotten up and said, I thought I was with you, not everyone in the building and walked outside. No scene, just make it clear you've really had enough. My dad was one who more than occasionally didn't know when to stop. I don't think they mean to.
What is more strange is your comment about him not turning it off when you two are alone, that would strike me as a total inablity to deal with whether you really like him. I think mom's right on this one and depending on how long you are dating, will this continue to wear? I know there are worse things but bottom line it would mean constant ego stroking. | |
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| Always on?
Posted: 7/29/2009 11:41:39 AM | AFL - maybe it's the new wig! I wouldn't know, though; I'm completely lacking a sense of humour. (And hey! I never did get that private pic! lol)
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Posted: 7/29/2009 12:22:14 PM | Op, a person who is 'on' is not focused on an audience -- you or anyone else -- other than to make sure he's holding their attention. He's focused on himself, experiencing and stroking himself. Even at home, you are an audience so he doesn't feel weird being that way with no one else present.
If he is not engaging in normal conversations with you, there is no connection really, other than as an audience, in my opinion. The age difference is more in line with a father/daughter image, anyway.
If he ignores you on outings and dates, in favour of whoever else is present, it is not a date; it is an opportunity to scream to a new audience, "Look at MEEEEEEEE!".
What you do about this is up to you, but if you can look at it from the outside, I think you will know what you have, and don't have, in terms of a 'relationship'.
My condolences. | |
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| Always on?
Posted: 7/29/2009 12:43:02 PM | Attention whores of any kind bother me. I couldnt hang with one long. And in your case you may have to ask yourself if you can either. Could simply be your personalities dont match. Doesnt make him a bad guy, or you a bad person. But, wow it is super annoying to be with someone who constantly needs attention in one capacity or another!!
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