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Posted: 9/8/2009 1:35:29 AM | ^^^ I'm a "kid" who's been around the world, been to war, been divorced, saved lives, taken lives, and been a member of every socio economic class. Not to mention being a "kid" who is ridiculously overeducated and far too intelligent for his own good.
What have you done? I mean, other than just live longer than me?
Was it hard?
+3 logic for 8sf8!
Creepy is creepy. Trying to attribute the perception of creepy to ageism is utterly and inexcusably retarded. There are plenty of younger people on POF who are creepy - just check out the, "I'm still a virgin and girls should throw themselves at my feet!" threads.
My best friend is 39. I have good friends in their 50's.
Nice try for the whole condescension thing, though... I bet it made you feel better about being over the hill and overweight for a few minutes...
Up until I pwned you.
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Posted: 9/8/2009 2:02:59 AM | Doing all those things does not make you a mature man! You are still just a 27 yr old kid who's been around the block (so to speak)! Just because you feel you are overeduated and intelligent doesnt auto mean that POOF,,insta smarts in ALL things. In some, yes you probably are and yay for you...and i mean that. But still, you do still have the mindset of a youngster when it comes to THIS topic. It shows,,,its just so obvious. You dont see it because you cant.
I bet it made you feel better about being over the hill and overweight for a few minutes...
Um,,,no actually my previous post didnt make me feel any better or worse about myself! Just making an observation and posted my thoughts. Owned? Hardly. haha
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Posted: 9/8/2009 4:47:39 AM |
8sf8: Nice try for the whole condescension thing, though... I bet it made you feel better about being over the hill and overweight for a few minutes...
Up until I pwned you.
Oh yes, those comments definately speak of maturity
too bad in all your experiences.......u didn't learn some respect. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2009 10:52:46 AM | ^^^Why would I want to learn a thing like that?
Then I could join the multitudes of "boo hoo! I'm such a "nice" guy but I can't get a date!" guys.
Screw that.
I'd prefer to be honest and date hot chicks.
Anyone who ignores my logic simply because of my delivery lacks maturity in my opinion.
I think political correctness should be destroyed... and I am just doing my part.
-8sf8
PS - compare my ramblings to those of some posters 20 years my senior on here. I am much more mature, and much more intelligent than some of your bretheren.
It's intellectually lazy to skew the gist or the tone of someone else's words simply because they offend you. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2009 12:53:44 PM |
And the women who don't seem to get the logic that sexual men looking for a serious relationship are looking for a sexual woman on top of all the other compatiblity issues ...
we have a winner, that's exactly it, I expect my date to be just as sexual as I am and like everything I like and at the frequency I like it at otherwise we aren't going to work at all and the relationship will end.
I like to know these things before I get attached to someone and its only fitting that you ask these questions even if they are direct before things get too serious and feelings are involved so I don't waste time on someone that is never going to be compatible with me. If I have to wait too long I wont be a happy camper and my date will be confused and wondering why I disappeared 6 months into the relationship.
These questions don't necessarily need to be answered on the first date but if we haven't discussed sex with a few weeks of the first date I will leave and if you can't prove to me that you can do these things you say don't mind doing within 6 weeks I will leave. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2009 1:29:06 PM | These men that want a woman who is equally interested in sex, don't they also want a woman who has self respect and who wants to be respected?!
In my experience I haven't felt that men, who ask things like that, have respect for me mind.
Wanting sexual compatibility is fine, but I don't think it should be so much more important than all the other forms of compatibility that a man can't wait to find out the answers until a more opportune time when it can be explored in a more fun way for both parties! | |
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Posted: 9/8/2009 1:34:59 PM | wow, how mundane and unimaginative...
my four questions:
1) is it ok to hit you with a brick during doggystyle?
2) are you into midget porn?
3) can you spell paternity test?
4) will your mom be joining us?
ok, these are all just jokes so please keep the Ro-bashing to a minimum..good luck darling and happy hunting.
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Posted: 9/8/2009 2:05:33 PM |
These men that want a woman who is equally interested in sex, don't they also want a woman who has self respect and who wants to be respected?!
Yes but asking these questions is not disrespectful in anyway, it is ensuring I get what I would like so I don't waste time on a date that's never going to be compatible.
Wanting sexual compatibility is fine, but I don't think it should be so much more important than all the other forms of compatibility that a man can't wait to find out the answers until a more opportune time when it can be explored in a more fun way for both parties!
For me I place sex at 5O % of total compatibility and the emotion side is the other half and equally important too me and both do have to be working but it does not take for then a couple dates to figure out the other compatibilities either, however to find out that we are sexually incompatible by exploring as you put it would be very disappointing and a total turn off. I don't want to find out that my date doesn't like anal or oral or spanking me in the middle of things.
I guess what it comes down to for me is that I know exactly what I like and want and I want my date to be the same way and be able to express it with out any reservations about saying exactly what my date wants and if my date can't do that pretty much right away then that person is not the right person for me. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2009 3:43:18 PM | I don't zoom in on sex when getting to know someone, because there needs to be other things in place beforehand, but sex is near the top of my list. If it's not for her, then we're not on the same wavelength, and most likely, never will be. It's this way of thinking that will cause most men to be alone for a long , long time.
Speak for yourself. You can choose to roll the dice anyway you want when seeking a woman, and hope for sexual compatibility.
One thing that the grand majority of men never seem to understand is as for women who are looking for a true life long relationship sex is way down the list.
I've never had a relationship with a woman who did not have a libido equal to mine. And the women who I date, have both sex, and sexual compatibility high on their list of priorities.
Most women are looking for a man that can touch her mind and her heart. A true connection if you will. When a man finally learns to touch a woman's mind and heart the right way, Sex, Won't be a issue. You will get all you want and then some.
That's a strawman.
See how far you'll grab a woman's mind and heart if you're sexually incompatible.
And as far as "getting all you want and then some", give me a break. Women can be like apples and oranges when it comes to sex. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2009 5:13:28 PM |
'm very open, in order to find the right girl.
The number one thing I look for, is physical attraction. Period.
The second is chemistry.
Well , that's kinda the point , isn't it? I can not know I even want to meet someone , let alone have sex with them..till I actually meet them/have some conversation, etc...this post was about men you haven't even talked to yet..asking all kinds of personal sex questions right off the bat? Myself, being physically cute, hot, etc...isn't enough of criteria to know this yet...plus the fact that I can't tell chemistry till I meet them..because for me, at least..it is also about how they act/talk etc..not just how they look? If I am interested, I have no trouble talking about it openly, frankly ( but not crudely)..etc...however, I don't know this from a first contact?
And you can spare me the "once we get to a certain stage" , and "it will be amazing when we finally do get to connect"
I don't know if you thought I implied this...but, I don't agree with that either...I'm old enough and had enough experience to know what happens when you aren't compatible...and it has happened that he has been more conservative than I am....which frankly, really surprises me, because while I know there are some more sexually conservative men, I would have thought they were way the minority...learn something new all the time...have even had some remark that I was "odd", or "weird" because I am more liberal, open about it..or, that there was something wrong with a woman who knew a lot or had some out of the ordinary likes...
I don't need to get to a certain stage...nor, do I actually think leaving it all to chance is a good idea..I do need to know that I even want to go there, and that he is looking for more than just sex..and I will bring it up myself a lot at that point...to open the door?
And the women who don't seem to get the logic that sexual men looking for a serious relationship are looking for a sexual woman on top of all the other compatiblity issues ...
tend to be BBWs.
Sweeping generalization there soldier...though I know you have a personal issue with us anyway...
BBW nonwithstanding....I get it...really..so I am...just gonna be with someone I actually am interested in, and want to go there with..not someone right out of the gate..and certainly not someone who is very crude about it...it's about when and how, not if... | |
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Posted: 9/8/2009 8:43:42 PM | 8soldierfalcon8 Said,
You obviously do not talk to the same women that I do.
Your right i prob' don't. I stepped up to the big leagues a long time ago.
I no longer attract air heads.
It's hard for me to believe your a soldier. You sound to much like a wet behind the ears, immature kid. Most soldiers have plenty of common sense and good aim and maturity. If they don't they come back in a box. Also, They don't get on a forum for millions of women to read and shoot themselves in the dik.
Believe me. Women do read this. There are more that read the forums than they are that participates in them. So go ahead and brag about how women love you for millions at anytime to read. Open mouth, insert foot. Your not the first one on here that there mouth shot them down. And you won't be the last.
By the way, Did you ever think that the reason your 27 and alone is because of your attitude? Just a thought. Also remember, Your on a dating site just like the rest of us. If all that bullshyt you and others spew was working you wouldn't be here. | |
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Posted: 9/9/2009 2:40:37 AM | Your right i prob' don't. I stepped up to the big leagues a long time ago.
I no longer attract air heads.
You+are = you're. Just sayin'... it's not good to start a rant by looking uneducated.
Big women don't equal big leagues, bud. Dating is not fishing. We don't keep score with a scale. Well, I don't. I am not sure about others.
Additionally, I tend to mostly attract girls in grad school and extremely intelligent professionals. Next!
It's hard for me to believe your a soldier. You sound to much like a wet behind the ears, immature kid. Most soldiers have plenty of common sense and good aim and maturity. If they don't they come back in a box. Also, They don't get on a forum for millions of women to read and shoot themselves in the dik.
You+are = you're.
"Too" would be the correct form of "to" you are looking for.
How many soldiers do you know? Most of us (at least in the Infantry... and especially in Ranger bat) are raging a-holes. Our self confidence and alpha-male-ism tends to bother beta men. I believe that the post I am responding to here is a great example.
Do you think that professional athletes who are trained to kill and both give and accept orders without hesitation are girlie men who sniff roses and cry over emo music? Seriously?
What makes you think that women don't like what I have to say? Have you seen a single slim, attractive, 20-30 year old woman reply negatively to me so far? No? I didn't think so.
Believe me. Women do read this. There are more that read the forums than they are that participates in them. So go ahead and brag about how women love you for millions at anytime to read. Open mouth, insert foot. Your not the first one on here that there mouth shot them down. And you won't be the last.
I know that they read it. That's why I keep getting favorited more, and I keep getting emails from women who say they enjoy what I write, and think I'm hilarious. :)
Additionally, I don't do online dating anymore. I am not against it, but it's just a tool like any other.
PS. You+are = you're.
By the way, Did you ever think that the reason your 27 and alone is because of your attitude? Just a thought. Also remember, Your on a dating site just like the rest of us. If all that bullshyt you and others spew was working you wouldn't be here.
You+are = you're.
....and all I have to say to this is=
I've noticed a trend... it seems that the demographic of men who think it's bad to ask sexual questions are over 40, and/or look ridiculously creepy...
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Posted: 9/9/2009 9:47:59 AM | Okay you two. First of all, you are in two different age ranges.
The women that Soldier is dating are not from the same generation as Aries.
Aries is right in his post that women must trust men in order to be sexually open. Soldier is right in that sexual compatibility is important.
The thing is to touch on the subject in a timely yet mature manner. Of course, a man who sent me questions like that would get shown the door. Besides, I prefer a man who can actually talk in person about these things.
Aries, telling anyone that whole "no wonder you are "?" and alone" is not appropriate because someone can turn around and say the same about you. Heck, we can say the same about all of us on here, now couldn't we LOL.
I believe there are more people who are alone than ever before. Things have changed.
Soldier, you should realize that trusting a man is what makes the majority of women be totally open about their sexuality. With a man like this, women may try things that they have not in the past (however he should know what the hell he is talking about).
That said, there can be trust in all areas except the bedroom. But frankly, that is just plain because the communication is NOT there or in extreme cases, the trust really isn't there and the people are just deluding themselves. Most folks haven't a clue how to talk about sex like mature adults. So if you have the communication down pat, and the trust follows.....well it can make for some awesome bedroom adventures. Sex is not an easy topic to talk about completely openly.
Different people like different approaches, but no woman likes to receive an email with sexual questions right off the bat; you really need to meet to determine general chemistry, and then move on from there. | |
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Posted: 9/9/2009 10:59:36 AM | Your right, Wild heart. I shouldn't have said anything. Guys like this, They think they know it all. When in reality they know very little. He wants to call men over 40 creepy. Like one day he will never be 40 or older. Who knows, Maybe he won't. Something might come along one day and take him out before he reaches 40. That could happen to anyone i guess. But if the earth keeps standing and that doesn't happen to him he will reach 40 or more. By his posts i can see a little into the way his mind works. I use to be that age to you know. You know when you get older and made a few mistakes in life you learn these things. He keeps with the way he is thinking he will wind up alone. Then the women will be calling him a old pervert. That's OK. if he wants to get here on the forums and say things that us older men know women don't like. Peoples words one day have a way of returning to them.
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Posted: 9/9/2009 11:16:29 AM | I'd offer this to the discussion. While i don't really agree with a lot of what soldier thinks, and i think it's behaviour that i would never engage in, you HAVE to remember it takes different strokes to move the world.
Hell at least he's honest. Most women think i'm loud and if they are nice "confident" (most probably would say arrogant"). Know why i behave that way? Because that's what I AM. i AM loud, i AM confident. To act any different in the dating process would doom me to failed relationships.
The type of woman that can put up or WANT the type of dialogue i engage in tends to be a very strong, intelligent woman that scare a lot of guys. To present myself in any other way would be a lie and counter productive. My actions while different to you, and to most women have worked for ME. Deal is i don't WANT to make everyone happy, i don't WANT it to work on 90% of women, i want it to work for the ONE woman that I want. I'm not going to find that girl specific for me by playing by other peoples rules.
While his methods may be different from yours, he will find EXACTLY what he seeks, and he'll learn if he made mistakes on his own, as will I. | |
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Posted: 9/9/2009 1:41:51 PM | ^^^ Excellent post, big pacific.
Your logic and wisdom are commedable... and I will even forgive you for not agreeing with me ;)
Wild Heart: Trust me, I understand about the trust thing. I am not vanilla. I like girls who like to be spanked, and to some extent think that domination is hot. Trust is *critical* in these types of relationship, but my aura is so sincere that it's never been a problem.
Ever.
And any guy who sends sexual questions in the first email is retarded. That's when you just hit "block".
There is a time, and a place... yes. I just feel that when meeting online, the time and place is before actually meeting so both parties know they are not wasting their time and/or money.
And everyone who thinks that I am saying men over 40 are creepy.... should really work on their reading comprehension. I never said that, but I do stand by what I did say. :)
And when corrected multiple times on using the word, "you're" correctly... not using it correctly just makes one look obstinant in addition to not very intelligent.
-8sf8
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Posted: 9/9/2009 8:45:33 PM |
it seems that the demographic of men who think it's bad to ask sexual questions are over 40, and/or look ridiculously creepy...
Fact finding, getting to know you missions after a few dates or conversations, aside.. I think any guy asking about sexual stuff in a first contact e-mail are creepy and a little sad. Whatever their age.
I expect my date to be just as sexual as I am and like everything I like and at the frequency I like it at otherwise we aren't going to work at all and the relationship will end.
Ever notice how more often than not.. you both start out on the same 'sex page' and then after awhile it tapers off? I HATE that!
One thing that the grand majority of men never seem to understand is as for women who are looking for a true life long relationship sex is way down the list.
Not hardly. Jebus.. some of those notions I read here are mind-boggling! | |
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Posted: 9/14/2009 7:57:10 PM |
OK' I've been gone a few days, I see i need to do a little explaining here.
I can't tell you how many women over the years i have known that have been played by guys like some of the ones posting here. They have been played so much that there afraid to give of themselves to almost any man. They have been played so much that sex has become something that they, In a way, dread. The reason i say that is because in there minds they want to be loved. They want a man that will stay. So sex is pushed down the ladder a little. It's there, They want it. But they also want even more for the next guy they pick to sleep with that he will be the one that will stay around after he gets it. So for some women that i have met over the years sex isn't quite as important to them until they find that certain connection. For most men, As long as it's breathing, doesn't stink, or hasn't been dead over three days they will screw it.
Majority of women aren't that way. Sex isn't as high on the priority list. While most men are running around after women with his dik in his hand looking for anything to stick it in she is looking for something else. Once she finds what she's looking for then sex on the priority list changes. She may have a really high sex drive. Once she finds what she is looking for he may get more than he can handle.
Where most men, It's all they can do to go a week without sex a woman for the most part can go months or longer until she finds what she is looking for. That's another reason i say sex isn't as high on most women priority list. There drive & motivation is different from a mans. Yes, I know there is the exception. There are women out there that can put a lot of men to shame when it comes to sex. But just guessing, I would say that 95% of women look for that connection first before sexing a man.
Below me,
Since you're not a woman, I fail to see ANY logic in speaking for them.
It comes with experience. Lots of experience. Listening women and making my own mistakes in relationships to.
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Posted: 9/14/2009 8:00:29 PM |
Where most men, It's all they can do to go a week without sex a woman for the most part can go months or longer until she finds what she is looking for.
Since you're not a woman, I fail to see ANY logic in speaking for them. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2009 8:16:16 PM |
Majority of women aren't that way. Sex isn't as high on the priority list.
You and I don't know the same women. Either as lovers, or as friends.
Once she finds what she's looking for then sex on the priority list changes. She may have a really high sex drive. Once she finds what she is looking for he may get more than he can handle.
Uh huh. And that can be exponentially quicker than you claim.
Where most men, It's all they can do to go a week without sex a woman for the most part can go months or longer until she finds what she is looking for.
None of this is making the point that a woman will need a long moratorium when she's met a man that she has likes and has chemistry with.
There drive & motivation is different from a mans. Yes, I know there is the exception. There are women out there that can put a lot of men to shame when it comes to sex. But just guessing, I would say that 95% of women look for that connection first before sexing a man.
I don't share your views or opinions at all.
It come with experience.
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Posted: 9/14/2009 8:37:04 PM | Here's an alternative explanation for the phenomenon described above (the explanation I personally subscribe too):
More women approach sex with the idea that if they're going to have sex with someone, it's only going to be with someone she could /potentially/ want to stick with afterwards.
Hence, men are more able to take the chance that a woman will be willing to stick with them after sex for granted. Hence, they do not have to experience the same anxiety regarding the potential for their relationship to last after sex /if they decide they like the woman enough/.
Because that's just the thing, really, guys who like a woman as a whole package and have good sex with her will want her to stick around, and will be just as sad if she doesn't as a woman would be when a man she likes doesn't stick around after sex.
If a woman has bad sex with a guy, or has sex with him and then decides she doesn't like him for some other reason, it's not like she's going to care as much whether he sticks around after all, she might even be the one to do the dumping.
Yes but asking these questions is not disrespectful in anyway, it is ensuring I get what I would like so I don't waste time on a date that's never going to be compatible.
Actually, whether something is respectful or not does not get to be decided just by the one making the comment, but by the one receiving it. Intention counts for less than half in these matters. Otherwise you are thinking like a child.
Me? I'm very open when talking about sex in certain situations, to the point that I can make other men or women my age uncomfortable (even as others are fine with it). BUT, if I feel like a guy is just interviewing me, that's bound to be a turn-off. And 8s8? You are right some of the time, but insulting women and discounting their opinions based on their weight SMACKS of misogyny and poor logic skills. You really have been coming across as an a*hole in some of your more recent posts, and not in a good way. Something going on in your life you need to talk about, perhaps...? | |
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Posted: 9/14/2009 9:19:55 PM | The proper response when faced with these questions could be:
1) Do you lick it and stay down until she comes?
2) Do you make sure she gets off before you do?
3) How do you feel about MMFs where she get to watch you two guys making out?
4) Do you do snowballing?
And/Or 5) Are you cool with pegging? | |
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Posted: 9/15/2009 9:54:49 AM |
Me? I'm very open when talking about sex in certain situations, to the point that I can make other men or women my age uncomfortable (even as others are fine with it). BUT, if I feel like a guy is just interviewing me, that's bound to be a turn-off.
Yes, I'm like that also. I actually like to talk about sex (and it is very high on my priority list in a relationship), but if it's not natural and mature when it needs to be, then it is certainly a turn-off. If I click with someone, there is plenty of time to be flirty and suggestive.
People only want this because it gives them that exciting feeling that makes one want to continue seeing someone. Then when it comes time to discuss sex rationally, they are unable to because all their feelings of sex were wrapped up in fantasy, so they get embarassed.
It's a fine line and figuring it out takes patience. | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 9/15/2009 10:13:21 AM |
1. Do you give head 2. Do you swallow 3. Do you squirt 4. Do you do anal...You forgot the hair down below question..
If you answer "no" to 3 of the 4 then you're no different then the majority of the women out there...If you answer yes to all 4. We'd think we've found gold...As far as the hair question...If you have more then alittle landing strip, it's nasty and an automatic deal breaker!
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