| | The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....Page 11 of 14 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14) | The ones I hear the most are;
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 9/16/2009 11:25:08 AM | camper28,
But on average, women have had very different experiences than men regarding sex and whether their partners always respect them in regards to that. That in turn affects what fears and hesitations they are likely to have regarding such a conversation.
You seem so unwilling to take a woman's perspective into account here, and that is a very unsexy trait, at least if you're wanting to sleep with women.
So you only want women who feel comfortable answering those questions, asked just like that, a week or two in? Fine. Maybe there are some out there. But... whether they're the smart, independent, brave, self-respecting kind with a history of emotionally meaningful relationships and a sense of her own sexual desires and needs, like most of us want to date, is a separate question. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2009 12:06:19 PM |
So you only want women who feel comfortable answering those questions, asked just like that, a week or two in?
Yes, I want someone who is confident and knows exactly what they want and is not afraid to say no I don't like this or yes I do like this right from the get go, so basically I want a confident person and someone who is confident will answer questions like this without hesitation.
But... whether they're the smart, independent, brave, self-respecting kind with a history of emotionally meaningful relationships and a sense of her own sexual desires and needs, like most of us want to date, is a separate question.
I disagree someone with a sense of there desires and needs will answer questions like this early on, I know that for a fact because my last 2 relationships were very open right from day 1. So anything less then complete confidence is not going to fly me so to speak. | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 9/16/2009 12:09:19 PM |
Yes, I want someone who is confident and knows exactly what they want and is not afraid to say no I don't like this or yes I do like this right from the get go, so basically I want a confident person and someone who is confident will answer questions like this without hesitation.
No, you want someone who knows exactly what YOU want and is cool with that. Someone who knows exactly what THEY want would be asking you questions like the five I posted above.
Besides, what one does or doesn't like sexually varies with the partner, at least if you're viewing it as an experience, a journey you take WITH that partner, rather than just a performance. It seems silly to try and plan it all out ahead of time. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2009 12:25:43 PM | No, I don't ask such questions, at least not with a straight face; maybe if we banter playfully or something ("Oww you're not into tranny midget anal sex ?? We're so breaking up!!"). Not so for not being "disrespectful" but because I'll find out in practice if we go that far.
More importantly, I know that I may well be the first that she'll feel comfortable doing something she was rejecting so far, so a negative answer on, say, if she does anal is irrelevant before we get to that point. Actually I love being the first that introduces a girl to new experiences, so as long she's open minded and feels trust and comfort, a "no" may be better than a "yes". Few things are more satisfactory than making a woman squirt for the first time...  | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 9/16/2009 12:46:43 PM | OP
This has something to do with the quality of men you are allowing yourself to meet or talk to. I've NEVER come across this in my whole life! I have daughters in their early twenties who are very open about their dating experiences and they also have never had your experience.
Here's the secret. When starting to talk to a guy and he asks question #1, you move on. Then questions 2 to 4 don't have an opportunity to arise. These are questions for intimate relationships. If you are willing to answer these questions upon meeting a guy, I suspect that you don't have much respect for your own value. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2009 2:46:33 PM | OutMind your comment ring soooo true lol
I dated a woman once and no matter how many times i would visit her at her place she never once offered me a cup of coffee,
Her reply was " I don't even own a coffee maker "
I then told her, " And that's the problem " when she asked why we were breaking up.
The fact that she didn't buy a $10.00 coffee maker showed just how clueless she was, and thoughtless. ( or at the very least instant coffee=$2.99 )
( Granted i found out much later that she was an anorexic and an alcoholic, but you really don't know these things until the lights are out and they are holding a knife to your nuts! or unless you ask up front before you date them, so sad as it is, sometimes you just gotta go there!)
YIKES, forget about they swallow or not, how about " Do you own a coffee maker?"
Much less invasive than sexually related questions and deifnetly more noble. | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 9/16/2009 7:33:50 PM | 1)So are those real?
2)Were your first three husbands deaths really the result of failed car brakes?
3)So you got that tattoo while you were in prison?
4)Is it suppose to be that red? | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 9/16/2009 8:23:13 PM | Obviously you have not met a gentlema who is mature enough about sex with a partner, not sex as a thrill and selfish fun.
Do you put it in your mouth, do you swallow, do you this and that .......
Men ........ oops,letmetry again: BOYS (That's what you are really after all),
How about youstay away from that subject if you can even behave like anormal human being. It's as if some guys watch too much porn and have only some ideas on their minds.
If you are turned off by these immature conversations you have the option to tell them you are not interested in the subject or dn't even waste your time with them.
Whatever sexual act you do, it should be your partner's to discover not only from doing but also discussing in a normal way. Since making the experience pleasant for the woman is pretty important, maybe if a boy becomes a man he can start asking the more important questions. It has to do if you are comfortable doing certain things sometimes, but hey, how about: WOULD YOU LIKE ME TO TRY THIS FOR YOU?
WOULD THIS FEEL GOOD FOR YOU?
BOYS, a woman who is pleased by her MAN is more willing to try than with a freak show looking for porn in every women they meet. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2009 8:26:09 PM | Dear oohlala,
I agree with points 1 and 2 full speed.
I have to admit I don't know what points 4 and 5 are yet LOL
MMF, MFM, not everyone care about it, or feel comfortable / curious about it. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2009 9:14:07 PM | I agree with miss_contemplative that it is a respect issue, and an issue of someone who just wants sex.
Nothing wrong with that if both people agree to recreational pleasure.
However what are you talking about that leads them to ask the question? I only ask because in some cases flirting to suggestively too soon could certainly trigger ummm interesting questions.
Some folks have asked inappropriate questions way before I was ready to answer. It just let me know they were in it for the immediate gratification. Mostly though the people who have chatted or emailed with me have been polite and fun to talk to. I like seeing so many guys surprised by the questions and posting their reactions, kinda restores my hope for chivalry. ;-)
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Posted: 9/16/2009 9:40:55 PM | And the "lamest breakup reason" award goes to...
I dated a woman once and no matter how many times i would visit her at her place she never once offered me a cup of coffee,
Her reply was " I don't even own a coffee maker "
I then told her, " And that's the problem " when she asked why we were breaking up.
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Posted: 9/16/2009 9:48:24 PM |
MMF, MFM, not everyone care about it, or feel comfortable / curious about it.
Yes, I would agree it's about as asinine as the original four questions. That was my point. | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 9/16/2009 9:55:13 PM | camper28
It's not a matter of not wanting to answer them like I said they are all very important questions. However OP made it sound like every guy she meets asks the same thing. THAT is a problem. | |
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Posted: 9/17/2009 8:00:43 AM | Three of these questions arent on my list to ask. I dont care if a woman swallows squirts or does anal. Heres my four questions.
1. When was the last time you got a check up? --paperwork
2. When was the last time you had sex honestly?
3. Do you tie down love with sex?
4. What are ur likes and dislikes during sex? | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 9/17/2009 8:03:47 AM |
...1. Do you give head 2. Do you swallow? ...
These are important to me, but I generally won't come right out and ask. People are looking for sexual compatibility. Well, young guys are just looking for everything. :D | |
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Posted: 9/17/2009 8:24:23 AM | Sorry, I must be the odd duck of the bunch. OP, these questions won't be coming from me in the form of an email to my Lady.
It would be when we are in each others arms and she is ready to be intimate. That is the time to find out what pleases her. (Of course, once you are in the relationship those questions can be a great form of foreplay!)
MY object in love making it to try to make sure my partner has a great experience! Why? Because if I please her, then she'll want me to please her again. | |
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Posted: 9/17/2009 8:30:30 AM | Hmmm, Oohlala
1) Do you lick it and stay down until she comes?
2) Do you make sure she gets off before you do?
3) How do you feel about MMFs where she get to watch you two guys making out?
4) Do you do snowballing?
1- At least twice.
2- Oh god yes, there is nothing more wonderful than to watch your partner orgasm while you're making love.
3- Sorry, not into guys.
4- Not yet, no one's tried.
5-Oops, didn't copy that one, sorry, but, I'm ignorant on this activity. Please elaborate if you don't mind. | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 9/17/2009 9:55:36 AM |
but, I'm ignorant on this activity. Please elaborate if you don't mind.
Go do the work yourself and research it.
This is what I refer to when I talk about those who do not really have an interest in the sexual. Myself, when I don't understand or am fearful of something, I look it up.
That said, I don't mind helping someone out, but to have to constantly explain things? I've found in general that some men need to update their sexual knowledge because they think that just knowing the basics is good enough. For some it might be, but I know that for many regular women posters on here, it probably won't be.
Just saying. | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 9/20/2009 6:48:40 PM | What I find most interesting about this thread is that without fail, every single woman who has been offended at the idea of a man asking her personal questions is a woman I would never be interested in.
The women who understand why a man would ask questions like this and don't take offense seem much more serious, worldly, and open minded.
I don't think I'm going to be changing what I do anytime soon.
lol
People are neither good nor bad - respectful or disrespectful. In the world of dating, there are just different kinds of people. One woman's a-hole, disrespectful man, is another woman's, "OMG, what a catch!"
::shrug::
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 10/14/2009 11:54:14 PM |
1. Do you give head 2. Do you swallow 3. Do you squirt 4. Do you do ana.l
1. i agree with if she has nice lips. but i/m usually too afraid to ask that question
2. well if she says yes to question 1, then why wouldn't she. Most girls don't for some weird reason. AND WHY IS THAT? it can't be THAT bad. WTF?
3. I hope you're refferring to cumming aND NOT pissing please cuz I'm not into pissing (except to go to the bathroom where that kinda thing belongs!)
4. I would NEVER DO ANAL NOR WOULD I EVEN ASK IT! if a chick DOES ask for it, the answer is NO! I don't wanna get poop on my****
as I always say "better SPIT on your**** than SHIT on your****"
What I find most interesting about this thread is that without fail, every single woman who has been offended at the idea of a man asking her personal questions is a woman I would never be interested in.
The women who understand why a man would ask questions like this and don't take offense seem much more serious, worldly, and open minded.
I don't think I'm going to be changing what I do anytime soon.
lol
People are neither good nor bad - respectful or disrespectful. In the world of dating, there are just different kinds of people. One woman's a-hole, disrespectful man, is another woman's, "OMG, what a catch!"
I actually agree  | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 10/15/2009 12:02:14 AM |
1) Do you lick it and stay down until she comes?
2) Do you make sure she gets off before you do?
3) How do you feel about MMFs where she get to watch you two guys making out?
4) Do you do snowballing?
1. as far as she was concerned I could stay down there for as long as i wanted.
(guys it's fun in a sick sort of way but also arousing)
2. it's happened once. I've always heard "if she gets done before you do, well then you must be doing something right."
3. WHAT? EWWWWWWWWWWWWW Not into that freaky stuff nor am i into to watching TWO WOMEN DO IT EITHER. i don't watch lesbian porn either and there's only one threesome scene i own where both girls are actullay uncomfortable with the guys suggestion that he watch 'em kiss. There weren't into that crap and they were also hot(in a natural way, NOT FAKE)
4. WHAT IN THE HELL IS "SNOWBALLING"? and do I really want to know?
If it's anything freaky, I'm sorry. NOT INTERESTED! | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 10/15/2011 9:32:19 PM | | Mine 1 What's for dinner 2 is there coffee 3 what movies do you have, and yeah any 3 stooges, that's a must. 4 Do you have any brothers that play football? I'm not one of those alcoholic couch potatoes. No we're not playing touch, get off the field. | |
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