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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 8/26/2009 11:51:57 AM |
I figure the answers to all/most of those questions will get answered the 'first time' you are together.
Some of us don't want to add another notch to the bedpost, generally after time and money spent on dating just to discover that someone is not sexually compatible with us.
/epic fail
I for one would prefer not to have to fukc half the world just to find a compatible partner. | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 8/26/2009 6:32:13 PM |
Why is it when starting to talk to a guy an sex subject comes up men always have four questions they ask 1. Do you give head 2. Do you swallow 3. Do you squirt 4. Do you do ana.l now i dont mind answering questions as i ask some as well but from alot chattin to men theses are the favourite ones they ask an if you answer them No its like the end the world has arrived.... Oh an one more hitting the list asap is you into beastility! Whats wiv that boys? Girls have you had this happen to you too?
Men don't start those kind of conversations with me and any conversation that included bestiality would end very abruptly.
I have never asked a women if she swallows...or if she does anal....where's the surprise in asking?
Discovering it for yourself is so much more fun! If guys are asking you these questions, then its clear all they want is sex.
Trust me! Those are NOT things most women want to be surprised with!
More fun only if you prefer your BJs chunky style!
I don't see anything wrong with asking these questions. In fact, I prefer a man who does ask. It's all in how the asking is done.
Adults are still nervous about sex and really have no clue to talk comfortably about it. It can be difficult, so many stumble on how they ask certain things.
Yes, it makes a HUGE difference when and how the subject is broached.
I actually enjoy talking about sex and making sure we are on the same page upfront...especially after reading these forums!
I tend to just say what I'm wondering outright but I usually don't have to worry about offending the delicate sensibilities of a man regarding sex talk...they are usually only too happy to oblige.
As women, our radar goes up because we have been taught that sex is dirty, nasty and that you don't talk about it (sex, religion, politics right? - a rule I do NOT follow).
I think that's only a problem if we don't know the man well enough to be talking about sex or if he's not someone we want to have sex with.
Too many people cannot talk about sex without getting all het up. People think that when you talk about sex, it needs to be romantic or sensual or they get excited. Frankly, the first few discussions on sex need to have some maturity and seriousness about them. When there is not, the whole STD talk goes out the window because folks are too scared to bring it up.
I agree. I like to have all of the worrisome details out of the way before I form any attachment.
And why not talk about sex?
Isn't sex the primary factor that differentiates a romantic relationship from a friendship?
Sex is, presumably, the ONLY thing that you will not be doing with other people so it makes sense to be compatible in that one area.
If a guy likes action movies and I like romantic comedies it's not going to be a deal breaker in the relationship.
If he prefers anal sex and I only want vaginal penetration then we are going to have a problem.
I can handle the odd d!ck flick every now and then...hell, I can even watch hockey...but anal?
Uh uh! No way! Not even occasionally! Not even on his birthday!!!
Riddle me this Batman... if you find it a big turn on when a girl swallows, and want a girl who does, when is the best time to find out whether or not she does?
Preferably before you lose control in her mouth!
If you have deal breakers you should lay them down on the table.
There are things that are out of my realm of consciousness that I could be enticed into trying but I definitely have some nonnegotiable no-go zones.
I'm all for clarity.
I for one would prefer not to have to fukc half the world just to find a compatible partner.
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 8/26/2009 6:36:17 PM | ^^^ Very nicely put.
It seems like the wiser ladies are the ones who understand this issue.
And explain the logic in a way that... quite frankly, I am ill suited to attempt.
lol | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 8/26/2009 7:32:08 PM | Well, I've had first emails with specific questions about my body, and the latest one was just an "are you sexually submissive" So yeah,,mmmm..some guys dooo like to get right to the point, lol. At least give me a "hi" first, ok??? | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 8/26/2009 7:44:33 PM | A great subject, as I had been wondering about these things. I think maybe this online thing has given guys courage to ask things as if they are on a sex hotline or something.
It is amazing and this happens from the first contact often. And the hair down below, come on guys-get real--- I have had all those things said. I wonder why they are worried about grooming and they don't bother to shave under their arms and have all these full bushy beards, body hair and mustaches??? Hey a woman's face might not like all that hair either guys!!
The other thing is the cam on messenger, seems doesnt' take but one conversation before they want to show and tell!!! Guys in public would not do that!!!!
It is all perplexing to me. And yes, 90% of guys are doing these things and saying these things.
Where is the sensual guy gone? One that knows, intrigue and learning about someone is more than rude and crude? I even had a few guys that like to grab your hand and put it on their privates to show you they are excited, --ON a first date!!! These are professional men!! One more thing, guys, height--why do you say you are one height when you meet them I stand taller?? I am sure I have not grown taller lately?
Well done complaining, just has been happening way too much too.
All my best and Women__ We should speak up more and not put up with these things.
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 8/26/2009 7:53:36 PM | And I must add, talking about sex- is great- but think there is a time and place, and it should be AFTER you know them, " IN" person and as you are trying to learn each others' likes and things "IF" you are dating. Not to put it out there before even knowing anything about each other. So, just because a woman would like to learn about you in a seductive, romantic way, does not mean she doesn't like sex or is uptight. Rude, crude and disrespectful is not sexy.    | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 8/26/2009 8:04:20 PM |
I for one would prefer not to have to fukc half the world just to find a compatible partner.
Well, there aren't enough men I even WANT to fukc that it would encompass half the world..the only compatibility issue I have ever had was one time a lower libido than mine....and that became evident pretty fast...so, I guess I can't relate and have no fear about it...
The question isn't talking about it at all...the question is prefect strangers , who you don't even know, have no clue you even like, let alone want to have sex with them..asking you personal questions...usually with an agenda that has nothing to do with a relationship...
I have no problem answering questions if a guy is that worried about something in particular...but , this would be a guy I know, want to have sex with, would like a relationship with..and we were considering going there...and I wouldn't want to discuss every detail, at any rate...I prefer the learning as we go thing...I'd also prefer to not let sex become about specific activities and more about sharing ourselves with each other..I want it to be a lot less clinical myself...
Then ,too, I have a list of: A) been there, done that..not going back, B)willing to give it a shot to see, for someone I care about, C) no way in hell...I can't imagine anything on that list being a real deal breaker ( and preference is much different than have to have?)...I'm not that close minded...conversely...there just isn't that much that really trips my trigger, that I can't imagine most men liking...never had that problem before...like I said, there just isn't that much ( aside from low libido) that I would die without...I like so many things...lol..
I tend to attract or be attracted to men with the same mindset sexually as mine...don't know if it is intuition, or vibes, or what...but, we seem to be drawn to each other...
Anyway...I can talk about sex , it's even a lot of fun with someone you have established some connection to...but, no, it is rude and disrespectful from someone who I don't know, didn't agree to cross that boundary with, or , is all about what they want. | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 8/26/2009 8:36:48 PM |
I for one would prefer not to have to fukc half the world just to find a compatible partner.
I must be a freak,,, I'm thinking I only have to be compatable with a woman on other levels and sex sort of makes the icing,,, then again, I don't use flamethrowers or peanut butter or axel grease,,,
JTOoaGOM | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 8/26/2009 9:50:15 PM | | So these guys you chat with ask you about bestiality does it entail you riding around naked, wrapped in cellophane, smeared in Vaseline on top of a Great Dane…that makes a very interesting mental picture. The only reason I ask is, I’ve never asked any girl about giving head, swallowing, squirting and anal. I guess if I want to get laid these are the four questions I should be asking, huh? | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 8/27/2009 8:30:23 AM |
I for one would prefer not to have to fukc half the world just to find a compatible partner.
The logic of this seems to be lost on some people.
I tend to attract or be attracted to men with the same mindset sexually as mine...don't know if it is intuition, or vibes, or what...but, we seem to be drawn to each other...
Exactomundo!! You may prefer not to be so upfront in the beginning, but I do so a man who cannot talk upfront with maturity is NOT the man for me.
Often, another person's ackwardness causes the other person to be uncomfortable. Believe me, I've dated both types and I prefer the open guy.
And for you nitpickers, by open I don't necessarily mean someone who tries everything, but rather someone who can talk about everything. | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 8/27/2009 1:16:01 PM | ^^^ Exactly.
A woman who does not reconize that sex is just another compatiblity issue...
Is not open enough to talk about personal things when talking about dating...
Or does not have the maturity to talk with/deal with sex in a non-sexual, factual, adult manner...
Is just not compatible with me. I like, no, I DEMAND open communication with someone I date. Bad communication = drama. Drama = bad. | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 8/27/2009 3:00:28 PM | ^^^Not guilty as charged, but I'm tired of trying to explain it...lol..
I'm very open...with the right guy...that's all..
Wish I could post the absolutely x rated email I just got from a prefect stranger...we are talking a whole scenario here, not a one line crudity? We haven't exchanged three words before this...
Or does not have the maturity to talk with/deal with sex in a non-sexual, factual, adult manner...
It's the men that have this problem...not me... | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 8/27/2009 7:00:51 PM |
A woman who does not reconize that sex is just another compatiblity issue...
Is not open enough to talk about personal things when talking about dating...
Or does not have the maturity to talk with/deal with sex in a non-sexual, factual, adult manner...
Is just not compatible with me. I like, no, I DEMAND open communication with someone I date. Bad communication = drama. Drama = bad.
So any woman that isn't compatible with you is very compatible with me. | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 8/27/2009 10:11:08 PM | | If a woman asks me how much money I make the very first time we talk I will definitely think she is after money, no matter how she explains it, be it looking for a stable relationship or just asking adult and mature questions, or trying to avoid starting a relationship with a man only to discover later he is broke....yada yada.....Timing is important. She needs to understand this simple fact. If you read dating advice on eharmony or yahoo or any other websites there are always things that are NOT appropriate to say or do on a first date. It is not rocket science. | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 8/28/2009 12:57:15 AM | So any woman that isn't compatible with you is very compatible with me.
Doubt it.
Although, I bet it just burns you up inside to know that I was my x wife's first kiss. She was totally untouched before she met me.
Sooooo... even virgin girls don't want virgin guys. Seriously. I was a virgin until I was 21. I just didn't want to jump into anything...
And my dating life exponentially improved once I realized it was not that big of a deal.
Seriously dude. I was there. I understand.
And even though women will SAY they don't care if a a guy is a virgin... they really do.
And the girls who stay virgins are usually fat and/or weird.
I don't talk to fat and/or weird chicks. Sooooo ... actually, maybe you were right.
You can have them.
Normal women value good sex too. I sincerely hope that if you find yourself a nice, virgin girl, that she doesn't end up having a stinky vag, or really weird kink like witholding sex unless you take golden showers (I have heard of this happening before).
Getting involved, especially married to a girl who is not compatible with you sexually is ::miserable::. I speak from experience here. | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 8/28/2009 11:49:04 PM | If she withholds sex, I'm okay with that. I know that I can live without it. To me, it is a big deal, it always will be and if I end up alone because of it, then I was meant to be alone. I accept that.
Plus, you know something? Those fat chicks you don't talk to? I love them. Looks like we're both happy.
And no, I really don't care if you were with a virgin. I couldn't care less about anyone else's sex lives or relationships. | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 8/29/2009 2:43:13 AM | ^^^ I disagree. Because you were quick to patronize and condemn men who ask sexual questions about sexual relationships.
...Which happens to be an entire lifestyle that you know absolutely nothing about.
So, I'm calling BS. What other people do DOES matter to you.
This is like... if I were a a vegetarian. I had never eaten meat in my life.
And there are a few posters having a debate about pork versus steak.
Then I chime in (having never eaten meat in my life).. "Beef is by far the superior choice, and anyone who eats pork is a bad person with terrible taste."
Do you get the analogy? This is not your world. Don't cast judgment on it, because quite frankly, not all posters know that you're a non-sexual guy.
Some women may actually start to believe the tripe that men who ask about sex are just out to get laid. I am living proof that that is a bunch of BS.
-8sf8 | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 8/29/2009 7:58:10 AM |
For some of us, its all about testing the waters, I suppose. If a woman is shocked or offended just by the questions, its a good sign she's likely not too open minded when it comes to any kind of sexual variety at all.
This is extremely untrue.
It's pretty much ignorant.. not to mention presumptuous to start the sex questions in the first conversation as far as almost all women are concerned and this in no way relates to their attitudes about sex or their libidos.. I am the prefect example of that.
And as deerdog said, a lot of women (especially the libidinous ones like me) WILL bring up sex in some way as soon as they're comfy with you AND certain they are into you.
I hate to bash my own kind but what if women asked:
1. How thick is your c*ock?
2. How long is it?
3. Who measured it?
4. How long do you last?
5. How long does it take you to recover?
6. Do you take it up the azz?
I bet "guys" would stop asking those questions real quick.
Honestly, I think the type of guy who would ask women these types of questions in the first contact would be happier than a pig in $hit to answer himself. He'd think he'd died and gone to heaven.
The rest of them would probably be as annoyed as the women get upon being asked. | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 8/29/2009 1:02:17 PM | "Its pretty easy to answer. Regardless of why the guy is on POF (longterm, dating, etc.) he will always take the sex from the one he is not interested in long term. "
That is definitely not true
"1. Do you give head 2. Do you swallow 3. Do you squirt 4. Do you do ana.l "
To some guys like myself those are deal breakers especially number 1 and 4 and I will end things instantly if my SO answered no to any sexual preference I have.
We could click in every other way personality wise and interests wise but if its not clicking in the bedroom as well my SO's charming personality is not going to mean a thing because for me everything has to be clicking including personality and the sex otherwise I am not going be fulfilled in the relationship. | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 8/29/2009 1:23:12 PM | I think most of us are talking about the new person we meet, messenger chat, being on cam or online conversation of someone to meet or just met.. There are ways to learn about someone that involves sex communication Of course!!. What I think most women are talking about is the crude guy that just says these things right out, telling you what you should shave or asking if you do certain things sexually, without even knowing much about YOU first.
I don't think women are asking on the first dates--do you get it up okay? how big are you? can you make a women climax during penetration? do you use viagra? do you smell good everywhere? do you shave your body? Do you know how to make a woman climax? Do you connect with a womans' mind as well as body and spirit? Or is just sex-- like the porno's you watch, unfeeling, cold and mechanical without real passion?
What happened to first seeing if there is attraction? Waiting until each other do get physical and then sharing their likes and dislikes. If you care for someone, have that REAL interest, sex is a learning experience. There is much more for two people being sexual than how much hair is down below, what kind of sex positions you like, if you do anal or swallow.
A real sensual man, will know how and what to do to turn you on and that goes both ways. A real sensual women knows how to please a man which in turn should please her by doing so. Starting from there you then learn each others' own special likes and dislikes and share and teach each other. No matter how much a person TALKS, when you do have sex, YOU might not have those feelings about each other , EVEN if you get ALL your questions answered before hand.
The art of seduction does not include throwing everything into the new conversations. Sometimes it is fun to learn and take time to learn about each other.  | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 8/29/2009 1:52:49 PM | | To add to my post, I most certainly don't want to know that we are not compatible sexually months down the road . Depending on the circumstance I usually give a maximum of 6 weeks of dating to find out this information and you have to show me that you are willing to do these things and not just tell me. | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 8/29/2009 2:57:26 PM | I think after reading some of the comments, many men-- haven't had a really great romantic, mind blowing, lose your mind, ulitimate --sexual relationship where you adored the woman and so attracted to her mind, body and spirit that you wouldn't dream of asking those things. Happily some I have read on here--"GET IT". Yummy- are you guys-- that do. Sex is more than what you are asking about in your sex questions, and don't be fooled, most women might go along but it doesn't " start the fires a burning"!!!. Most men know to get the full amazing sexual experience with a woman, they know how to seduce them, a kiss on the neck, a gentle touch to the cheek, a whisper in the ear, playful, erotic, ---"If you want a " fire in the oven", you "ignite the mind." Quote from a Movie" but so true! These experiences don't happen to us all that often and for some Never,( ladies watch out for those never guys!) but I have been there with a man that any woman would dream about. He would never ask crude things, as he is a "lover" he loves women, he loves EVERYthing about them. The things I hear on here sound like too much porn is being watched and guys think that is sexy? Well, I hope that the ultimate experience happens for you.
Men worry women aren't going to like sex or be sexual. Hmmm maybe it is the approach???? touch a women in the right way and you unleash her sexuality, and YOU will KNOW the difference.   | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 8/29/2009 3:37:59 PM | LOL----wait...there are MORE than 4 -----some other examples of questions I've received from fishes sticking out their poles:
1. So, just how big are your TITS?
2. If I'm fixed do we still need to use a CONDOM?
3. Can you ask a friend to help us out?
4. What did you say your name was again?
5. Can I take pictures of us doing it?
6. Can we have cyber sex? ( that cracks me up----no thanks!)
7. Can I dress up like a baby and you change my diaper?
Omg...this is just some but I assure you when a man is horny and thinks he has a live one on the line he'll ask just about anything related to sex to bust a nut.  Just saying..lol. | |
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