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Posted: 8/29/2009 3:48:37 PM | I see your point C.Ashley S but there are people out there with many different tastes and no amount of romance is going to make me want to do certain things.
I had a date once and this person's idea of getting off was peeing on me and taking a dump on me and smearing it all over me without asking me and this person thought it was ok to do it..boy did it end real fast after that.
These questions 4 questions and others need to be asked on early on to save a lot of head ache and disappointment especially from the above date I had once. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 4:42:30 PM | well here's a secret for you girls, some men have found the fine art of getting women to terminate the conversation and for them to feel that its the mans fault and not theirs.
1.talk about themelves
2.be too honest
3.be crude first
4.stop having convesation and just state needs | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 4:51:45 PM | | Wow! Great post! I had no idea I was doing this wrong. I'm going to go through these great suggestions and write down and memorize these questions. No wonder I'm not getting anywhere with women. I always ask them what they enjoy doing, and then actually suggest we do that! What a fool I've been! | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 6:56:44 PM | "What kind of people dating, camper!"
Lately it seems I am attracting weirdo's, serial daters,emotionally disturbed people
Ya that one was a dousy I was not expecting that because everything was going so well right up until that point lol
You should of seen my latest date as well, my date just wanted see what it was like to get with someone who is disabled lol, so dropped that one as well because I didn't want to be someones social experiment lol.
My dating track record has been dismal lately
Hopefully it picks up
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 9/5/2009 12:36:33 AM | This makes me LMAO
1. So, just how big are your TITS?
2. If I'm fixed do we still need to use a CONDOM?
3. Can you ask a friend to help us out?
4. What did you say your name was again?
5. Can I take pictures of us doing it?
6. Can we have cyber sex? ( that cracks me up----no thanks!)
7. Can I dress up like a baby and you change my diaper?
Omg...this is just some but I assure you when a man is horny and thinks he has a live one on the line he'll ask just about anything related to sex to bust a nut. Just saying..lol.
This just blows my mind. There are actually men out there that think asking crude questions like this are going to get them anywhere. No wonder there are so many men out there that ain't getting anything. There about as subtle as a sledge hammer. | |
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Posted: 9/5/2009 4:57:41 AM | yep I dated someone that got turned on by taking a dump on me, however this person didn't actually do it before I stopped it .
This person got into the squatting position and I asked what was happening and when I found out that's when I just left instantly because doing something like that is not my cup of tea and no amount of love or romance is going to make me want to do something like that.
That's not anal sex, that's scat and which I find completely disgusting
This is why waiting to ask these kinds of questions is just asking for a disaster to happen. | |
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Posted: 9/5/2009 6:19:41 AM | For the record I found that out 6 months into the relationship and I was not happy to find that out so far into the relationship and I really liked this person right up until then.
I have also waited months into a relationship only to find out my date doesn't like to have oral or anal sex and those are my favorite thing to do so now I wont wait more then 6 weeks to find the answers to these questions and you actually have to show me and not just tell me.
Some of you are going to say well you don't like scat but you like anal...crap doesn't come out when you have anal people.  | |
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Posted: 9/5/2009 12:09:19 PM | Here are my four favorite questions.
1. Does your husband own a gun?
2. Why is this STD medical report written in crayon?
3. Was there a forest fire down there?
4. Can I leave now? | |
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Posted: 9/6/2009 5:09:34 AM | I've hear that too(what the op said) but I guess those questions never come to mind when first chatting with a woman.
I'm more interested in the things we have in commong to talk about than anything sexual. That being said though, I've been given the boot a few times because I didn't come out of the gate asking stuff like that right off as well. I guess that saves us both some time then. | |
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Posted: 9/6/2009 5:53:05 AM | Okay 8sf8,
here's the scoop, basically your being rude to the ladies! If you want to ask questions of your dates okay. But, putting down GoodWitchBeth's comments is just rude. If she doesn't feel those subjects are any of their business until she deems them of value its okay. That is her perogative! I say again, that is just rude! Good Witch Beth I agree with your position on it, its really none of anybody's business until you reach that part of a relationship, and then they will usually answer themself. | |
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Posted: 9/6/2009 6:21:48 AM | its really none of anybody's business until you reach that part of a relationship, and then they will usually answer themself.
Yes you're right they usually do answer themselves at some point however what if 6 months from now your date likes to do something you don't and she really likes it and it's a deal breaker for her as well, what then?, the relationship is obviously not going to work because of that.
It is pointless to start a relationship with someone you aren't compatible with and I am most certainly not willing to wait more then 6 weeks to find out that my date is not into the same things as I am. | |
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Posted: 9/6/2009 7:31:43 AM |
It is pointless to start a relationship with someone you aren't compatible with and I am most certainly not willing to wait more then 6 weeks to find out that my date is not into the same things as I am.
Informed choices are the finest kind, so between two willing, rational adults, exchanging specs is a laudable thing. BUT, you gotta realize that the most detailed and precise list of specs on any individual is just a snapshot in the long flow of that person's life. She's becoming, just like you are, and both of you will change. The devil is in the details- I'd try to pick the one who I can "work" with best, although that includes lotsa play, one who can be a reliable partner to get through all the unpredictables that pop up along the way. Your criteria for that kind of partner will look much different from the one your probably working with right now.
In several previous societies, your mate was chosen for you, by your parents and her parents. As I understand it, the failure rate of those matches was no different from the results in our contemporary free agent market . jmho | |
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Posted: 9/6/2009 7:50:12 AM | Sex is no longer something that you can just attain harmoniously with two random people. We've all got our own kinks, likes, and dislikes now.
So men asking you about your sexual preferences, ladies, means he it taking this whole meeting thing seriously - and there's a good chance he is serious relationship minded.... or at least wise enough to find happiness. So true. I think for many of us who now find this important and a good topic to discuss probably learned the hard way about how important sexual compatibility is in a relationship. Maybe others are just so vanilla that it's not applicable. Still others view sex as part of a relationship, but not really important - the being in a relationship is more important (I've seen this phenom with men when they turn 30 - OMG all my friends are getting married and having babies! I need to find a woman to do that with too! - egads). If that's your thing, go to it; but you won't be compatible with a woman who has a different view on sex no matter how much she excites you. I would imagine this would be the same for some men.
I agree with both comments.
Like it or not, sexual compatibility is a big deal to some people. It's an important aspect in what I would like from a partner.
I don't care what you tell yourself or the rest of the world, asking about those questions means that he only cares if the woman has a vagina. If a guy's taking the meeting seriously, he's NOT asking about sexual preferences. Totally disagree. Maybe if you're 25, but not as you get older. What I found, as I got older, is that ALL women have a vagina (wink). And I've had enough sex to know what I like in a woman and what I don't - most of it boils down to "attitude". How they feel about things. If they're going to wrap it up, lock it up, and hold it over your head as if it's some kind of holy grail prize, they're not for me. Personally, I'm long past the age of scoring. Most people my age can get laid if they want to - so the notion of just looking for something wet and warm is totally off the mark. What I told my daughters is: "When you buy a pair of gloves, you inspect them and try them on right? To see if they fit." This is the same thing. You go in with the intent to buy, but the gloves may not be the right color or not fit. You act as though asking personal questions, or questions about preferences is wrong. It's not. It's a matter of when and how. Showing respect for a person doesn't mean avoiding the questions altogether. Riddle me this Batman... if you find it a big turn on when a girl swallows, and want a girl who does, when is the best time to find out whether or not she does?
I generally go by intuition, like another poster said, and almost universally end up with everything I would want in a partner. Not sure how that actually works, as I generally never bring up the topic of sex.
But there is the odd time that I have been intimate with someone, and I found out just how incompatible we were, and that was it. Game over.
As far as I'm concerned, there's nothing to discuss. I just don't want to continue seeing her any longer. It should be apparent that it is over the sex, but it's not always. There's no way that I know of to tell her kindly that we are simply sexually incompatible.
If that matters that much to you, you're not looking for a relationship. You're just looking for sex. Her personality, emotional connection to you, possibly looks to an extent should be why you're with her. Those should be strong enough for it not to matter whether she fulfills your fetish.
Sorry 21 yr old guy. If you're lucky enough, one day, you'll be laughing at the words you typed here....
Seriously...
Now as for a man being interested in someone for their heart vs their boobs. To be honest, I want both. I want my man to want me for everything about me. I want him to be passionate about me and also respect me and want my heart in the package too. I know I'm not wrong when I know men think the same way. As I've said a million times before, nice guys like sex too.
But you all keep thinking you are "with the times" now. Which by the way is not a problem, the problem is most people think they are so "with it", when really they are not. Most of you are still stuck in your parents lives and ideas.
Bingo. Well said, wild heart.
Yes, it makes a HUGE difference when and how the subject is broached.
Totally agree. There's a time and a place for everything.
I actually enjoy talking about sex and making sure we are on the same page upfront...
Most women will either talk about it before I do, and allude enough for me to know that we'll more than likely be compatible. Lots of women also want to know that what they happen to like, will not freak a guy out.
I agree. I like to have all of the worrisome details out of the way before I form any attachment.
And why not talk about sex?
Isn't sex the primary factor that differentiates a romantic relationship from a friendship?
Sex is, presumably, the ONLY thing that you will not be doing with other people so it makes sense to be compatible in that one area.
You took the words right out of my mouth...
I have enough female "friends"....
I for one would prefer not to have to fukc half the world just to find a compatible partner.
Same here.
I tend to attract or be attracted to men with the same mindset sexually as mine...don't know if it is intuition, or vibes, or what...but, we seem to be drawn to each other...
Same here.
I'm very open...with the right guy...that's all..
I'm very open, in order to find the right girl.
The number one thing I look for, is physical attraction. Period.
The second is chemistry.
I don't zoom in on sex when getting to know someone, because there needs to be other things in place beforehand, but sex is near the top of my list. If it's not for her, then we're not on the same wavelength, and most likely, never will be.
And you can spare me the "once we get to a certain stage" , and "it will be amazing when we finally do get to connect" BS. I may want more than you can handle, or are comfortable with. Great lovers are made, not born. At the age I'm at, I'm not looking for someone who's "evolving", and I'm not looking for someone to "train", whether you want to be trained, or not. I'd prefer someone who's totally into the same things, gets off on the same things.
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Posted: 9/6/2009 11:26:45 AM |
sex is near the top of my list. If it's not for her, then we're not on the same wavelength, and most likely, never will be.
It's this way of thinking that will cause most men to be alone for a long , long time. One thing that the grand majority of men never seem to understand is as for women who are looking for a true life long relationship sex is way down the list. It's on the list, But for most the priority is way lower than the mans. She's looking for something else. Something that is way above sex. Most women are looking for a man that can touch her mind and her heart. A true connection if you will. When a man finally learns to touch a woman's mind and heart the right way, Sex, Won't be a issue. You will get all you want and then some.
As long as men think the way they think, Put sex way up here,
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And what she is looking for way down here, Well, Mary and her five finger friends will be the closest to sex you will come. | |
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Posted: 9/6/2009 11:40:15 AM | I'm sure that Mine are W a - a - a - y different from Most Macho-slobs....
~Would you like to Dance...??
~ Would you join me for a Chinese dinner..??
~ Can you stay the weekend..??
~ What size Ring do you wear...??
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Posted: 9/6/2009 3:47:49 PM | Well Aries Looking I completely disagree with you there and if sex is at the bottom of your list or anyone's list why do you bother to date?, just hangout with your friends.
When I date I am looking for a lover, someone that can fulfill all my fantasies everyday and someone that desires me so I have to make sure that this person I am dating can live up to that expectation which means these questions must be asked.
If I wanted a person for just there mind I would hang out with my friends and thats exactly what I am not looking for.
Personally I would prefer Mary and her five fingered friend if the person I am with does not desire me and is unwilling to do something I like sexually. | |
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Posted: 9/6/2009 8:48:10 PM | camper
No where did i say that sex was on the bottom of my list or anyone else. It's on every ones list that has a pulse. The only point i am trying to get across is to most women, especially the ones that have already been married, done been down the road with a few of the wrong men, They have already learned for the most part where sex lies in there lives and in what order it comes.
I guarantee you, unless your dealing with a woman that is just looking to get laid herself, Sex is farther down her list than it is yours. Unless she just wants to get laid herself she is looking for something deeper first. She is looking for that connection that comes before sex. These women you will get no where with. They will see through you in a NY min. Which is the case with i would say 95% of the women. There are more women that are looking for that connection first than they are women who are just looking to get laid. The grand majority of women are just not wired that way.
That's why there are more men going without sex than they are men that are getting it. It goes back to what i already said. Get on the same wave length with her. Once you do that then you will not have to ask crude and rude questions that for the most part get you no where. All asking questions like that get you is alone and branded a pervert. Believe me, I know because i have more than a few female friends on here and out in the real world. They talk, I listen. Even for a woman that wants to get laid being asked rude and crude questions like that is a huge turnoff.
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 9/6/2009 8:55:23 PM | The more Direct a guy is, early in a discussion...The more Defense is applied...by the Lady not wanting to seem 'Easy'...!!!
Use a l i t t l e *tact*, on occasion and let H E R squirm for a while...
Let Her initiate a sexual discussion...!!
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Posted: 9/7/2009 7:41:23 AM | BBW 4 U,
I guess that makes me a rare breed of man because I've never asked those questions. I can actually keep intelligent conversation. If the subject of sex comes up that's different but just out of the blue I wouldn't ask those things.
If the subject of sex came up I sure wouldn't ask those four questions that's for sure. I'd like to think some of us aren't so cliche'. | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 9/7/2009 1:28:47 PM |
aries looking said: When a man finally learns to touch a woman's mind and heart the right way, Sex, Won't be a issue. You will get all you want and then some.
yup he's right...i agree..
i mean heres the thing
the scenrio a woman gets appraoched or messaged by some random guy an she has only known him for 2mins of her life..
before he's even asked her name or what does she enjoy doing on the weekends or even how does she feel or what she's looking for..
she gets drilled an harrased with multiple questions of "SEX"
hey babe hey sexy you swallow? how big are ur tits etc etc etc..
can i cum over now where do you live can i do this an that an blah blah blah..
well dam son that would scare anybody off..
you just opened your mouth an vomit came out..
ok so in 2 minutes the man has already made it obvious that his only mission with her is to "F uck" an leave an hop to the next..he's not intrested in her as a person he don't give a s hit because IF he did have true intrest in wanting to know her..
then the conversation would have never started like that..
so not only have you made yourself look like a first class A ss hole.. but you don't even know if the lady herself is attracted to you physically or if your even her type or if she would have been intrested in wanting to get to know you on a mental an physical level an sadly you don't even know her name..baby an sexy has never been anybodies first name.
at this point even if she did find you cute or sexy or was eventually going to open an have intimate an deeper conversation with you or even if she herself wanted to get to know you better behind closed doors XXX lol..
you sir have already f ucked everything up for yourself..
with your rambo attack mission jumping out of nowhere hands in the air an d ick flappin in the wind as you run full speed at the woman screaming hey hey you do you swallow hey can i stick my c ock in ur ass..
ya that style of appraoch probably wont get you laid
wether it be in person or thru the net
that will get you beat up cussed out or charged with sexual harrasment or assult..
theres a way to do everything
an theres a certain way of appraoching an talking to people if you truely have any real intrest in wanting to be friendly an getting to know them as a person...
everybody is differant
we all want an desire differant things from life an from each other..
some peoples emotions are in thier hearts an minds..
some peoples emotions are just in thier penis or pu$$y..
an men an women are so differant i cant seem to really undersatnd how we can half way get along in the first place sometimes,, unless of course he's gay then its like peas an carrots -BFF- lol with the ladies..
however if your just out to f uck anything an everything then continue on with your rambo style technique true enough there's always that 1 dumb dumb out the bunch that will fall for it be like really?? you really gonna call me?? you really just wanna cuddle?? you really love me??.... | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 9/7/2009 2:02:24 PM | AMEN ! that_girl*
There is a time and a place for everything. We' Men and women are sexual people. We both want it. But coming out in the first,second, third conversation about sex and how you like it is stupid. When a man does that he is cutting himself off at the dik.
A lot of men need to learn some tact. A lot of men need to learn how to approach a woman he is dating about sexual likes and dislikes. But at the same time they need to also figure out that for the most part women want to know that the guy there sleeping with really loves them. Once they know in there heart that they are loved by you, You may get what you want. for example, If a BJ or rump humping means so much to you the man, You love her and she knows it, Depending on how she feels about it, You may get your way. But, If she isn't comfortable with it you will respect that if you love her. If you can't respect her feelings on anything sexual in nature you get mad because she doesn't feel comfortable with you humping her a.s.s hole for example, You don't love the woman. If you did you would respect her feelings and shut up about it.
I've been told of a lot of men on this site that can't carry on a decent conversation without asking something crude. For us decent guys that approach women with tact and respect, Well, Now you know why there are so many messages that never get answered. With all the idiots on here they don't know what to expect when they answer a message. "Am i going to answer a guy that will talk to me like a human, Or am i going to get some Neanderthal with his dik in his hand looking for something, anything will do, to stick it in. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2009 4:40:57 PM | That Girl,
Wahooo, daaang, you did it !
I look for conversation levels, and not crudeness. In public I want a playful LADY!
NOT a " bar stool b imbo"!, wanting to have her 15 min. of fame on Springer.
Sex is usually best left discussed after a connection is made.
A man can flirt playfully a li'l later, to see if she is interested.
but to just up and flat out ask pretty much something , that in her mind, if she's a ho?
you will most likely end up with atheletes'mouth from putting both of your feet in yo mouth. if not a case of the crabbies
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 9/7/2009 10:39:48 PM |
The easiest way to go about having sex on this site...be direct. . This message gave me the biggest laugh from all of them on this thread. I am very direct and I will "put it out there" before they do just to see if they will take the bait. 99% of the time, they will bite...instantly. Ladies, we need to set the rules. If they want to play by mine, then fine...if not, they can move on down the block to the neighbor "girl." I have found that expecting them to be rude, crude and pushy about getting there way with me, no problem; but direct and honest...wow, now there is a concept. | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 9/8/2009 12:36:35 AM | Okay 8sf8,
here's the scoop, basically your being rude to the ladies! If you want to ask questions of your dates okay. But, putting down GoodWitchBeth's comments is just rude. If she doesn't feel those subjects are any of their business until she deems them of value its okay. That is her perogative! I say again, that is just rude! Good Witch Beth I agree with your position on it, its really none of anybody's business until you reach that part of a relationship, and then they will usually answer themself.
Rude works for me. I'm one of those a-hole guys that all the "nice guys" on POF seem to constantly be whining about. Supposedly I steal all of their women.
Steal is not the correct word. I'm not creepy, stupid, or needy. And girls like me. Imagine that!
I'm sure that Mine are W a - a - a - y different from Most Macho-slobs....
Says the weird old man wearing shirts from the 70's.
No where did i say that sex was on the bottom of my list or anyone else. It's on every ones list that has a pulse. The only point i am trying to get across is to most women, especially the ones that have already been married, done been down the road with a few of the wrong men, They have already learned for the most part where sex lies in there lives and in what order it comes.
I guarantee you, unless your dealing with a woman that is just looking to get laid herself, Sex is farther down her list than it is yours. Unless she just wants to get laid herself she is looking for something deeper first. She is looking for that connection that comes before sex. These women you will get no where with. They will see through you in a NY min. Which is the case with i would say 95% of the women. There are more women that are looking for that connection first than they are women who are just looking to get laid. The grand majority of women are just not wired that way.
You obviously do not talk to the same women that I do.
I guess that makes me a rare breed of man because I've never asked those questions. I can actually keep intelligent conversation. If the subject of sex comes up that's different but just out of the blue I wouldn't ask those things.
Wow... so I'm just looking to get laid... AND I'm stupid now!? Wow. I am glad that I am learning so many new things about myself! Pardon my incoherant ramblings, folks.... I can't help it. I'm an idiot and I obviously think with only my penis.
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I've noticed a trend... it seems that the demographic of men who think it's bad to ask sexual questions are over 40, and/or look ridiculously creepy...
And the women who don't seem to get the logic that sexual men looking for a serious relationship are looking for a sexual woman on top of all the other compatiblity issues ...
tend to be BBWs.
I don't feel bad pointing this trend out, because apparantly according to some posters I am a gibbering idiot with a raging hard on, and I'm just trying to populate the earth with illigitimate babies; all because I ask sexual questions fairly early off.
And what can I say? Truth is one's ultimate defense. ;) | |
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| The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 9/8/2009 1:30:54 AM |
I've noticed a trend... it seems that the demographic of men who think it's bad to ask sexual questions are over 40, and/or look ridiculously creepy.. .
You are a only 27 yrs old, soldier. There is a huge maturity gap between most ppl in their 20's to those in their 40's. When i was your age i thought 40 yr olds were creepy too. You are at the age where you are still thinking with your little head instead of the one sitting on your shoulders.
I am a gibbering idiot with a raging hard on
Yes, you are, but its not your fault. You're just a kid. | |
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