| | Did you expect to be single this late in life?Page 8 of 9 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9) | Hey Spatula! Lol(that's good)
My marriage of 25 years ended, not my choice. But I wouldn't change a thing(well almost nothing) After a time of healing, My ex is now my best friend, and will remain a part of my life. Sadly from a distance. I can even tolerate the "other woman". Things aren't always bad, and neither is marriage. I agree it's not for everyone, but it is the best. I don't plan on it again, but I have also learned to not say never...Maybe I was lucky in truly believing for a time. And I will again. I hope someday you to find the complete joy in this, married or not. If that is what your looking for. If not, best wishes in ... | |
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| Did you expect to be single this late in life?
Posted: 5/10/2010 5:11:03 AM | | Wow repeat one - After a 25 year marriage you have far from spent your entire life alone. I saw this thread as did you think you'd STILL be single this late in life. Having a partner for a quarter of a century would hardly make a woman a lonely old spinster but I guess singleness would be more difficult on someone who is used to having a partner around. | |
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| Did you expect to be single this late in life?
Posted: 5/10/2010 12:16:48 PM | | I don't believe any of us in our 40's thought in our teens or twenties that we would be single at the age. But I say make the best of it. Enjoy your life the way you always have, be it with someone or not. Life is too short to sit back and worry about being single. | |
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| Did you expect to be single this late in life?
Posted: 5/10/2010 3:57:29 PM | | I lead a reckless life, motorcycles, skydiving, mountaineering, snow shoeing, military deployments.... I never expected to make it this long. There was supposed to be some firey crash in a exotic automobile somewhere in europe. | |
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| Did you expect to be single this late in life?
Posted: 5/11/2010 8:12:58 PM | I didn't expect to be single this late in life until i found a career that i loved. (which involves travelling) The desire to travel the world outweighed my concern for weather or not i'd be single later on.
When / if the opportunity comes to settle down ..i might (and thats a big ''IF'').
But it hasn't happened so i'm not sweating it. it's not the end of the world.
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| Did you expect to be single this late in life?
Posted: 5/14/2010 12:41:11 PM | | hi people, i ve just turned 30 this year, after a couple of serious relationships in my 20`s, im happy to be single again at this age. people meet people at all ages...age doesnt matter one bit. its who you are as a person. | |
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| Did you expect to be single this late in life?
Posted: 5/14/2010 5:44:17 PM |
I never expected to live this long much less worry about my marital status if I got this old... How did this happen?? Yeah seriously....I'm waiting for my ticker to give out (occasional chest pains I experience excite me...."is it time to go yet mr reaper?"). I'll keep drinking alcohol and not exercising like I should/want to (I got tired of solo hiking long ago) and since no woman wants anything to do with me I await my demise. I just hope it's quick. Like BOOM massive heart attack and I'm done. | |
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| Did you expect to be single this late in life?
Posted: 5/14/2010 8:14:52 PM | Its a litter harder to date but better because you too know what the game is,and woman like to play the games and they say we do.ha ha dont think so.
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| Did you expect to be single this late in life?
Posted: 5/19/2010 9:11:51 AM | Like a few others here I never actually expected to 'be' around this long...so not much thought about marital status. No special reason for expecting a shorter life, just one of those 'feelings'. Guess I'm happy I was wrong.  | |
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| Did you expect to be single this late in life?
Posted: 5/22/2010 7:21:26 PM | I think that ppl really arent ready for marriage until they got their oomph together. Where they are going.. what do they want and have they found the ideal person to do it with. No I DID NOT see myself at nearly 36 and single AGAIN.
Ill be honest.. I was YOUNG AND DUMB AND BLIND. I think i went through those "TESTS" to find our what I DONT WANT now. Its sad, it hurts, but it makes you stronger, and also ready and more mature to really make it work with THE ONE.
no.. I dont want to be here. But.. id rather be alone single and smiling than wasting away with a dud.  | |
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| Did you expect to be single this late in life?
Posted: 5/23/2010 6:20:15 PM | No I did not expect to be unmarried and childless,but then again so many things have happened that I did not even remotely think would happen either.When I was 25 I never thought for a million years that 35 would look like this.
I have learned that you can't let bitterness invade your life and rage at the powers that be because life has given you the short shitty end of the stick.You accept your circumstances and work with them.The issues I have to deal with will never get any better unless there is significant advances in medicine,but I can try my hardest to make sure it gets no worse. | |
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| Did you expect to be single this late in life?
Posted: 5/23/2010 7:20:57 PM | I must agree with those that say this is a depressing thread.
For the question of whether I expected to be single now, I guess the answer is I don't know.....I never picked an age that I felt I needed to be married by, or even in a committed LTR. I did, however, expect to have had a few experiences with women by now......or at least one.
Most of the responsibility for this is me, I acknowledge that the past was mostly my doing. Engineering major and then the military......didn't really have any time for me during my twenties...so I am just now really feeling like I'm getting started. | |
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| Did you expect to be single this late in life?
Posted: 5/24/2010 6:08:15 AM | | I never wanted to get married and have children at all so yes I expected to be single but pushy overbearing parents demanded to have their way.At 18 I was just to timid and scared to stand up to them. | |
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| Did you expect to be single this late in life?
Posted: 5/24/2010 9:56:21 AM | | The way I figure it, if you don't expect the relationship(s) you're in to last, then you're pretty much setting them up to fail. Relationships only work if the people in them make a deliberate, conscious decision to make them work. Expect it to fail, and guess what? It's going to fail. | |
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| Did you expect to be single this late in life?
Posted: 5/25/2010 1:52:25 AM |
The way I figure it, if you don't expect the relationship(s) you're in to last, then you're pretty much setting them up to fail. Relationships only work if the people in them make a deliberate, conscious decision to make them work. Expect it to fail, and guess what? It's going to fail.
I agree but at 18 I was too scared of my family to say no to them.Now I couldn't give a sh!t what they have to say about anything. | |
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| Did you expect to be single this late in life?
Posted: 5/25/2010 7:22:15 PM | | When I was in my teens, I didn't expect it (I believed in "true love" and that there was somebody out there for me and one day we'd meet and get married and have kids, etc. etc., etc.), but by my early 20s, I knew this was exactly where I was headed, assuming, like many of you in this thread, that I actually lived this long. I may stumble upon a few more dates every now and then before I die, but I don't really expect to ever be in a normal relationship -- I think you have to be "normal" to qualify for a "normal" relationship. My best friend has known me for 14 years, and even she thinks my life experience is bizarre, and she's lived through quite a bit of the bizarreness. I actually finally met my prototypical "dream girl" on Match a couple years ago, but she had led a completely normal life and thought mine had been too abnormal for her to deal with. There likely isn't going to be a second woman like her who is also physically attracted to me, so that's probably that. This is not to say I don't think I couldn't get married at some point, but it would almost certainly be an abnormal marriage, considering all of my so-called "relationships" to date have defied description. | |
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| Did you expect to be single this late in life?
Posted: 5/26/2010 3:19:04 AM | I turned 31 last year, turning 32 soon and my PLAN was to be Married and at least have a kid or two by 35, not dating, no prospects, just living my life as a single man. Sorry I am not 40 or 45 yet but I have dated a 42 year old woman a few months ago that turned out to be an insecure party girl that had a million guy friends and was probably sleeping with half of them lol.. there was just too many clues but at the same time she was a professional game player and told me everything I wanted to hear and i was a clown because I fell for all of it.
If I am still single by 45 I will just accept the fact that I wont have a family and move on living my life is a bachelor man. | |
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| Did you expect to be single this late in life?
Posted: 5/26/2010 11:54:55 AM | | I thought i would be married with kids at 38 but did not work out that way. but i suppose i am not very surprised quality people after all are not easy to find at any age. | |
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| Did you expect to be single this late in life?
Posted: 6/2/2010 5:03:44 AM |
But my life changed once I decided to sign up on international oriented dating sites. WOW, what a breath of fresh air. So easy to meet amazingly sexy ladies who are so feminine and have traditional family values and most do not have any baggage even if in their 30's. To my surprise, most of these foreign ladies speak descent english, many darn near perfect english. And their only desire is to find a kind man to settle down with. They dont care how much you make as material things are not a priority for them. They dont have a list of intimidating demands or expectations I have to meet which is very refreshing. Ya know, I was also starting to think that maybe my problems with the US dating scene were me. But after traveling overseas I found the problem was not me but was due to "location location location". Now, I have met a girl from Peru who is university degreed and is a asst manager in a law office. She is thin, sweet, and beautiful. She is very refined and likes opera and the classics. I really do not believe I could have realistically met such a quality woman who meets all those qualities here in the states. Girls like that get snatched up pretty fast as the competition for thin no baggage ladies is fierce in the states. I continue to be amazed at how many lonely men will choose to stay single and dateless just because they are not willing to look outside of the US matrix for love. With so many beautiful sexy ladies available overseas, its your own fault if you are lonley and miserable.
So why are you still on here? It seems that it would behoove you to even post in these forums. | |
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| Did you expect to be single this late in life?
Posted: 6/2/2010 1:27:48 PM | Excellent question for which I'm glad you asked. As my profile says I'm only here for forum participation.
Actually, it says "long term". And your tag line is "Relationship minded guy".
So, you are essentially keeping yourself open to women who do a search.
I'm here for the forums - my tag line, profile AND status say that. Yours does not.
Also, your relationship status is single.
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| Did you expect to be single this late in life?
Posted: 6/2/2010 6:19:37 PM | ^^^Your profile says Dallas Texas, but I knew you couldn't possibly live in the US if you feel there are no women here, that'd be rather - hypocritical.
Congratulations to you for actually having the stones to move out of the US rather than live here and go on and on about how miserable dating is here. Obviously if you support out of country dating, you have to also live out of country to back up your point - since bringing a woman here to marry just produces another American - and one that gets instant citizenship at that; I'm sure you wouldn't put yourself in that position.
P.S. Of course a lot of women in other countries aren't concerned with money, they tend to not have much, or assume you have more. But if you're moving to them, that's irrelevant once you meet the family and get settled.
You're right I'm never looking. If I see something I like, I go after it. It's rare, tho. | |
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