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 wideband
Joined: 4/6/2009
Msg: 26
Why do guys love porn so much??? Page 2 of 11    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11)

If you have the real thing in real life then why go to porn?? Can't guys go without looking at other girls??


I remember the first time I heard this same mentality expressed and it really confused me. I didn't understand why a woman had any right to be upset about what their partner does in his own private time. Although I can understand where women are coming from now, it still bothers me. First of all, it's not as though a guy can have the same instant gratification he obtains from watching porn, no matter how liberal a woman claims to be having sex. Secondly, what do you care? It's not a reflection upon your status as the girlfriend/wife. It's about having personal time.
 Metallguru
Joined: 5/12/2007
Msg: 27
Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 7/31/2009 6:41:59 AM
Film scenario

OK- so Darcy is riding his big stallion (clip clop clip clop) and meets Lady Jane on her mare,they go for a ride together (cloppity clop cloppity clop) and they are talking in a very erudite restrained manner about which family they will banish from t' Mill and whose children would it be best to starve to death.
Jane has the Princess scene going in her head "I COULD be Lady of of t' Mill, and we could have lovely obscenely rich babies" etc
D'arcy is actually thinking- "Boy I love the way her tits jiggle up and down- I might hang back so I can check out her rump."
Cut to the end of the film- After many arguments, black moody scenes, disagreements etc, Darcy is just about ready to outdo even Rogerius his huge Black Stallion in the thumper stakes, and CUT/THE END/SHOWS OVER FOLKS!!!

Bugger we all wanted to see Janes tits jiggle up and down for real, but strangely, now Jane is all mentally worked up, she has to IMAGINE D'arcy's Hardy because otherwise it would be porn...

Ok- I'm not talking naked Midget throwing into a squirming pit of more oiled midgets- but Porn is what you want it to be- and if the porn is in your head- or on the screen- does it really matter...?
 CappyHamper
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 28
Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 7/31/2009 6:48:08 AM
Way to start the post off by pointing out the unfairness of generalizations until:


We're not looking to have one of those cocaine addicted dumb twits actually become our real life girlfriends

OT: Farceur, you are my forum hero
 Closer2U
Joined: 2/19/2009
Msg: 29
Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 7/31/2009 7:15:52 AM

I don't understand why guys have to always jerk off to porn even when a guy is sexually active with his girlfriend or whatever for some reason they still have to do it. If you have the real thing in real life then why go to porn??


Wasn't her point that some men would rather watch porn than be with a real woman sitting right there? If that's the case then I can see her gripe.How would a man feel if a woman was more interested in watching porn than being with him i wonder?

'Sorry baby...this guy is SO much hotter than you,I don't have to deal with his emotions or needs and I am bored with you'......

I got this handled.

Porn alone is not the issue....it's when a man would rather watch it than have actual sex.....right OP?
 CappyHamper
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 30
Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 7/31/2009 7:22:07 AM
^^^^If that is what she actually meant, well of course. Who wouldn't take offence? It wasn't specified, however- Being in an active sexual relationship and using porn doesn't tell us the whole story.
"Bitter Beerface"! For ten points, what was the brand?
 RushLuv
Joined: 4/16/2009
Msg: 31
Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 7/31/2009 7:23:50 AM

I don't understand why guys have to always jerk off to porn even when a guy is sexually active with his girlfriend or whatever for some reason they still have to do it. If you have the real thing in real life then why go to porn??


Porn addicts. Though I wouldn't want my boyfriend jerking off to porn, when I'm right around the corner.
 Closer2U
Joined: 2/19/2009
Msg: 32
Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 7/31/2009 7:31:49 AM
That was just my take on her question.....who knows what she meant.


If you have the real thing in real life then why go to porn??


It's a valid question if you ask me.Some guys are addicted to porn....that's why.
Real women have emotional needs and don't like to be objectified or treated the way porn stars are.....with minimal respect...Porn is about emotionally detached instant gratification.It's about fantasy and wishful thinking or an educational value.It has a time and a place,with or without a partner to be sure,but if given a choice.................i'd say the REAL thing tops Porn!


What I really want to know OP...is how you anus is doing after that anal sex incident you posted about awhile back! That was insane!
 CharmedinKtown
Joined: 5/25/2009
Msg: 33
Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 7/31/2009 9:13:52 AM
Um I can't really answer this because I am not a guy... but from a woman's perspective I don't care what they watch or who they do it with.

I watch porn because I LIKE IT. Watching it is not a substitute for sex.
 GeekedNow
Joined: 7/27/2009
Msg: 34
Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 7/31/2009 9:31:28 AM
TO OP:

I have read someplace that women are just as sexual as men but in different ways.
So, I would suggest getting some erotic novels and read them, get yourself turned on, do what you must with that sexual engery and then tell him about it.

I bet doing that would improve your sexual experience as well as the both of you as a couple when together.
 Zebra Circle
Joined: 4/12/2009
Msg: 35
Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 7/31/2009 9:37:09 AM
First off, pornography is wonderful! I can't imagine a world without it. Seriously, I love porn. And if you're in a long-term relationship, whether married or with a girlfriend, it's like adding sprinkles and toppings to your one-scoop of vanilla ice cream (or chocolate or strawberry or whatever flavor you are to spend the rest of your life with). It just totally enhances the whole masturbatory experience.

Obviously, like all good things in life, too much of pornography can be bad. So you got to be cool about it.

Also, I'd like to add: To the person who says porn is nothing but whores just in it for the money, I hope you're referring to the guys, too, then. I thought that was a cheap shot to women. Yeah, I'm sure that there are some seedy things that take place in the porn world, but I understand that there are large aspects of it that are professional and legit.

Plus, with the whole amateur boom out there, you aren't seeing the people in it exclusively for the money. For many of these people, it's a turn-on for them. For me, as one example, I view only amateur stuff because I know that the people posing nude -- men and women -- are doing it for their own kink and sexual fun, which in turn is a big turn-on for me. Not only that, but I'm not into fake breasts, twiggy models, and airbrushed faces at all. Give me women with sexy pudgy tummies, dimples on the thighs, a few rolls, hairy vaginas, and uneven shaped breasts!

Secondly, I thought red buttons made some excellent points with the following:


A few good answers have already been offered but I'll add one as well by posing a question instead: Why do women like romance novels so much??

The first reply I'd make is this in one huge generalization--hopefully the OP wasn't assuming or saying "all guys..........." ??

The short answer is because its stimulating to that part of the brain were we individually feel or sense sexual needs & feelings. Not being of the opposite gender we can't really understand why something so vastly different from our own turn ons could ever be sexy or fun BUT making an effort to know it DOES provide some fun would be a huge step towards getting along better with one another.

Then again this notion when a man is invovled with just one woman his fantasizging about another woman is a violation or bad thing is as foolish as I've ever heard. The key word here is FANTASY! If some self gratification is involved its not that we seek "better"--we're simply seeking "different". Women like to yammer on about variety, keeping things alive in the relationship and on and on----hard as it is to believe this has roots in the very same feelings.

We're not looking to have one of those cocaine addicted dumb twits actually become our real life girlfriends BUT we do like they're seemingly so eager and enthusiasic about pleasing us. Difficult to believe perhaps but women tend to be very demanding in a committed relationship and sadly one of the first things to suffer is the level of sexual intimacy. Where they once willingly engaged in an almost anything goes mindset they begin to act and think sex is a duty. Nothing more disappointing that knowing or thinking your significant other is only going through the motions in order to keep that happy home intact. Oh boy----what fun that is! LOL

I'll be some of the naughty, filthy and very, very sexual thoughts SOME women have would make a lot of porn weak by comparision----tap into that sometime and show your guy what goes on in those deep recesses. My guess is the DVD player will have a whole other selection of videos from then on!

As I once read on these very forums: Women-----embrace your inner slut!!
 GoodmanGreg
Joined: 11/24/2007
Msg: 36
Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 7/31/2009 9:45:37 AM

It's a valid question if you ask me.Some guys are addicted to porn....that's why.
closer2u: As has been pointed out in the past few threads, women have their own "porn" or obsessions or addictions. They have romance novels, soap operas, Malls with endless supplies of shoe stores and clothes stores. Plus pocketbooks. How many pocketbooks, Designer and other wise does one woman really need? How many pairs of shoes does on woman really need?

Remember, we are all human and we all have our addictions. BTW, I never pay for porn. I will not contribute to what faceur has mentioned that its all about the money. I don't spend one red cent on porn. Its freely available here on the internet. I watch it at my leasure, when I feel like it, and sometimes with a partner. It can enhance the lovemaking experience greatly.

For Faceur: BTW, I'm with you all the way brother on your outlooks and ideas and if its any consolation to you, I hear that the Male pornstars earn more, in some cases, much more than the female stars.
 HarDayKnight
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 37
Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 7/31/2009 10:15:23 AM

I don't understand why guys have to always jerk off to porn even when a guy is sexually active with his girlfriend or whatever for some reason they still have to do it. If you have the real thing in real life then why go to porn?? Can't guys go without looking at other girls??


I cut the porn out when I'm seeing someone who is available for me, but if not, here are a few things to think about...

Porn never says no.
Porn never has something else to do.
Porn + masturbation = 100% satisfaction.
Porn = fantasy participation without judgement
Porn = Spice in a boring sexual relationship
Porn can also = He's not that into you.



I think the list of reasons could get very long, but I think we'd all prefer a mutually satisfying sexual relationship with someone we care about.
 rentahusband
Joined: 4/17/2008
Msg: 38
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Posted: 7/31/2009 10:16:31 AM
Porn addicts. Though I wouldn't want my boyfriend jerking off to porn, when I'm right around the corner.


So, I gather that you've never "done the laundry by hand" while in the shower? Or spent a little extra time making sure she was perfectly clean whilst using the shower massage?

That's just it: watching porn has NOTHING to do with you (you being the female in the equation). It is about what WE like to do and the poster who compared it to a woman watching soaps, dr phil, oprah or whatever is bang on.

So, to the ladies, if you and your guy go out to dinner, you order a glass of wine, HE has to have wine too when all he wants is a beer?

I think it really just boils down to the old adage: some women just can't stand to see their partner have a good time without them.

I got into a major row with an ex once. She came home from work (worked nights) I was turned on and wanted to fool around she didn't. So I took care of myself. She heard me and got pissed. I said to her: if I'm hungry and want a sandwich and you don't, does that mean I have to go hungry just because you're not? NO.

I could go on and on with the analogies

Anyhow, while there are SOME movies that are not always in the woman's best interest, all the big production studios pay the women 10x what they pay the guys. The WOMEN are in power in the porn industry and are always in control of what they do, who they do it with and how long they do it for. Anyone who thinks otherwise knows nothing about the industry and should do some research before jumping to conclusions.
 InsomniMac
Joined: 12/23/2007
Msg: 39
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Posted: 7/31/2009 11:42:55 PM
Guys have an incomparable sex drive.

The analogy I like to use here is this - guys have porn, girls have toys.

It is merely a tool in which to stimulate oneself and is disregarded as easily as it is picked up - only when needed. You can make a lot of arguments for sex drives between the sexes, but guys have a notoriously overabundance of sexual urges, I mean, just look at the internet. Girls can basically shut it off when necessary, their sense of sensuality stems from other things.

What I sense here is this, you're saying "other" girls. What I think is hardest to understand is that it is merely a tool to invoke a man's idea of sex. We're visual people, in a simple way. Women read erotica, or even just listen to the sound of their lovers voice to get aroused. We're not as dynamic.

I stress this, it's just a tool like any other. I mean, vibrators, erotica, ice cubes, whatever. It's another tool, nothing more. I guarantee you, those women you see in those pictures - a man would be perfectly content if that women never existed except for those 10-15 minutes when you need to be able to see something.

And it always could be worse - would you rather he be holding tightly a memory of someone you know, or don't know who's nearby, or some throwaway model who he is glad he'll never meet?
 Closer2U
Joined: 2/19/2009
Msg: 40
Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/1/2009 4:49:38 AM
Did I say you had a porn addiction Greg? lol...Nope.


<div class="quote">Remember, we are all human and we all have our addictions

So true.Wasn't reallyjudging porn addiction so much as trying to answer the question she posed as to why a guy would rather watch it than be with his G'F.

When it comes to choosing porn over real time pvssy....that's where men should draw the line.I don't watch porn or read romance novels,nor am I addicted or shoes or shopping.

I am aDDICKED to real time d*ck! lol

Damn this oral fixation of mine!

I need help! lol

 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 41
Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/1/2009 5:22:38 AM
How many pocketbooks, Designer and other wise does one woman really need? How many pairs of shoes does on woman really need?


How many colors are in the rainbow? Or in her closet. That's how many, I think- they call it accessorizing, a technique to enhance the presentation, which, after all, is "everything". Lol. Men are clueless about accessorizing. I say let 'em alone on this stuff- almost all women seem to have a good grip on the best ways to present themselves.

OP. this may be a stretch for you, but maybe men use porn to accessorize their lovemaking mindset. Pumped up is generally a better "presentation" than a limp-stick start. Lol An enthusiastic lover is almost always a prize. And alot of us accessorize sex, whether through visual aids, lingerie, toys, threesomes or +somes, role-playing, block and tackle, ED drugs or the contraband kind, alcohol.


Women have their own porn that is romance trash novels. Just because it is literature over image does not mean you can call it any different then what it is.

Not all erotica is bad btw. Not everyone looks at it through the same cynical or selfish eye. . . . it can expand the mind and your horizons on how deep intimacy can go for the right pair of people. I know as someone who does photographs that you have to understand what visual things stimulate the minds appreciation of beauty. Believe it or not naked human form can do that just as much as the perfect sunset.


You have some good points, imo, e.g., the lengthy histories of the human adulation of the more perfect forms, mega-reams of poetry replete with erotic imagery, sculpture, paintings and drawings, the more contemporary "cartoons", all forms of "fine art". Stimulants for both sexes abound- not so sure you need to tag all women with the one sorta wretched "trashy romance novels" source of inspiration to justify a general male appreciation of porn.
 Zebra Circle
Joined: 4/12/2009
Msg: 42
Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/1/2009 7:05:09 AM

BTW, I never pay for porn. I will not contribute to what faceur has mentioned that its all about the money. I don't spend one red cent on porn. Its freely available here on the internet.

In all the years I've viewed porn on the Internet, I have never paid one penny either. In fact, I don't understand why someone would pay for it. What could that person be accessing that I'm not?!

I have two free amateur sites that I frequent when the mood strikes me where real people -- couples and singles -- simply submit their own pics. They aren't paid, and I don't pay them. It's all for fun.

 ready_red25078
Joined: 7/23/2009
Msg: 43
Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/1/2009 7:37:19 AM
i like what porn does to guys

sex is always better with a flick
 Gentle_Soul_11
Joined: 6/4/2009
Msg: 44
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Posted: 8/1/2009 7:57:51 AM
I don't know what to tell you ladies, but don't assume all guys are the same. When I am happily with a girl, if she is definitely the girl for me when ever I get turned on I always expend my energy on my girl friend, when I have one.

If there is a situation where the girl friend isn't around then I gotta do something, but 9/10 times I won't watch porn while I have a GF though, I can occupy myself with other things until she is around. I mean it doesn't kill a guy to not be sexually active, or to not cum for a few days. If I am dating a girl and we aren't very active though, I am more likely to tell he its a problem, but I've never had that problem. lol
 Robbbyg
Joined: 3/4/2009
Msg: 45
Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/1/2009 8:10:55 AM
Heres the Answer:

Women 23 hours foreplay for every hour of sex

Men 1 hour of foreplay for every 23 hours of sex


Thats y we do it...

Women just cant keep up with men,.... men need more
 Heathen Chemistry
Joined: 5/18/2009
Msg: 46
Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/1/2009 11:51:13 AM
Because I enjoy watching random women suck**** and eat cum. Pretty simple if you ask me. A lot of guys watch it for the anal sex, but I find that fetish very gross. Any way it is just a fantasy. If more more were not prudes about sex acts then porn would not be so popular.
 Flaman49
Joined: 6/13/2009
Msg: 47
Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/1/2009 12:24:19 PM
Because Porn is a performance free, anxiety free, fun activity. Plus it's the only place where I can see how a real blow job is supposed to look!
 christ on a crutch
Joined: 2/1/2009
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Posted: 8/1/2009 12:31:01 PM

Women just cant keep up with men,.... men need more


robbyg, i see you're 45. i'm guessing you're not dating in your own age range, cuz brother, my extensive research into 40+ female libido demonstrates this statement just ain't so.
 honeyangel1985
Joined: 6/25/2009
Msg: 49
Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/1/2009 12:37:35 PM
OP, not all men view porn (my exes never did). If a guy values porn over his wife or gf then he has a serious issue. Porn is unrealistic and a fantasy world.
 rentahusband
Joined: 4/17/2008
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Posted: 8/1/2009 1:59:09 PM

OP, not all men view porn (my exes never did). If a guy values porn over his wife or gf then he has a serious issue. Porn is unrealistic and a fantasy world.


A couple of things:

Your exes never did, that you know of.......EVERY and I mean E V E R Y man views porn at some point. Whether it is often, occasionally or rarely, they do. If they say no they don't? They are either lying or in the priesthood.

Secondly "porn is unrealistic and a fantasy world"....

BINGO

Women fantasize about knights on white horses, (or white lambos), dashing pirates, rich movie stars flying around in G3s, men fantasize about 10 women licking them from head to toe and since we are visual creatures, porn helps us along the way. TYVM lol.....
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