| Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/1/2009 1:59:09 PM |
OP, not all men view porn (my exes never did). If a guy values porn over his wife or gf then he has a serious issue. Porn is unrealistic and a fantasy world.
A couple of things:
Your exes never did, that you know of.......EVERY and I mean E V E R Y man views porn at some point. Whether it is often, occasionally or rarely, they do. If they say no they don't? They are either lying or in the priesthood.
Secondly "porn is unrealistic and a fantasy world"....
BINGO
Women fantasize about knights on white horses, (or white lambos), dashing pirates, rich movie stars flying around in G3s, men fantasize about 10 women licking them from head to toe and since we are visual creatures, porn helps us along the way. TYVM lol..... | |
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| Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/1/2009 4:33:35 PM |
Because Porn is a performance free, anxiety free, fun activity. Plus it's the only place where I can see how a real blow job is supposed to look!
Depends what sort of porn you're watching I guess but I can't say as I've seen any really well performed blowjobs in commercial porn. They usually look like they are afraid of it, and other than so many "fvck-me eye stares" and going through the mechanics of it, they lack a certain je ne sais quoi.
I prefer erotic film over porn myself. There is just something much more cultured about it and much more in depth. Porn is so packed, so plastic and so trivial. It's a "you seen one , you seen them all" thing.
On occasion when I'm having a bad case of the "tension" I'll check one of my preferred amateur porn sites and have a peruse to find something that titillates me. I certainly don't need it to get aroused but it gives you some fodder for fantasy.
So OP, you're young yet. I too felt a bit offended by porn when I was in my early twenties but life has a way of opening you up to things you never thought you'd be okay with. Just give it time. You'll see.
And I wouldn't worry too much about how compromised is a man's loyalty to you if he does use porn once in a while. It doesn't replace the real thing. But men do seem to have something about "variety" and I'll likely be writing a book about it. It's a fascinating feature of the male psyche that I've been trying to understand. Don't feel threatened by something a man views as a plaything. | |
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| Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/1/2009 5:18:01 PM | Rentahusband, that's right my exes never did that and not every man views porn. They knew they'd be dumped pronto if they did.
And the things you believe women fantasize about made me laugh as it's so untrue. I fantasize about finding a decent guy with a concept of loyalty not the things you mention. | |
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| Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/1/2009 6:50:55 PM | That's so naive, REALLY, you were there with your boyfriends 24/7?
They did it, if you don't they have your lying to yourself. Cause all it takes is one day when he's really in the mood and your not for this to happen:
I got into a major row with an ex once. She came home from work (worked nights) I was turned on and wanted to fool around she didn't. So I took care of myself. She heard me and got pissed. I said to her: if I'm hungry and want a sandwich and you don't, does that mean I have to go hungry just because you're not? NO.
best analogy of the thread. | |
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| Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/1/2009 9:49:19 PM |
that's right my exes never did that and not every man views porn. They knew they'd be dumped pronto if they did.
lol. Do we have to explain? | |
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| Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/1/2009 9:51:55 PM |
While rentawreck might disagree, love takes time.
I think we do lol....
As for your fantasy, you're close enough. Obviously you're not fantasizing about 2 conan looking dudes playing finger cuffs with you! lol.......finger cuffs, that term STILL makes me laugh lol....... | |
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| Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/1/2009 10:04:36 PM |
If you have the real thing in real life then why go to porn?
Why do guys watch football if they know enough guys to get a game going?
Porn (when not something seriously affecting their life) is simply another form of entertainment.
Can't guys go without looking at other girls??
I would like to do an experiment where a guy watches some porn.
Then a day later porn stars are lined up in their normal clothes. Then the guy picks out the woman he saw in the porn.
They may be looking at another girl, but that doesn't mean they are really paying attention to her. At least that's my opinion. | |
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| Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/1/2009 10:10:45 PM |
I would like to do an experiment where a guy watches some porn.
Then a day later porn stars are lined up in their normal clothes. Then the guy picks out the woman he saw in the porn.
They may be looking at another girl, but that doesn't mean they are really paying attention to her. At least that's my opinion.
I could pick Tera Patrick out of any line up. 
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| Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/2/2009 12:26:32 AM | OK- so Darcy is riding his big stallion (clip clop clip clop) and meets Lady Jane on her mare,they go for a ride together (cloppity clop cloppity clop) and they are talking in a very erudite restrained manner about which family they will banish from t' Mill and whose children would it be best to starve to death.
Jane has the Princess scene going in her head "I COULD be Lady of of t' Mill, and we could have lovely obscenely rich babies" etc
D'arcy is actually thinking- "Boy I love the way her tits jiggle up and down- I might hang back so I can check out her rump."
Cut to the end of the film- After many arguments, black moody scenes, disagreements etc, Darcy is just about ready to outdo even Rogerius his huge Black Stallion in the thumper stakes, and CUT/THE END/SHOWS OVER FOLKS!!!
Demmit - what happens to Lady Jane? Does she marry D'arcy and the mill? Does she run off with Rogerius the huge black stallion and become Czarina of Russia? Details, man, details!!!
P.S. and I would have taken this off the forums, but bloody Americans are not permitted to message the author - clearly due to our lack of class and love for cheap pornos. | |
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| Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/2/2009 2:18:05 AM | | You are generalizing guys. Fact is a lot of guys don't. Masturbating on the other hand is perfectly natural, I don't do it that often, once every few days, but I don't need visual stimuli, I normally just think about someone I love or like. | |
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| Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/2/2009 7:54:21 AM | You are generalizing guys. Fact is a lot of guys don't. Masturbating on the other hand is perfectly natural,
You use your other hand and it feels natural? Whenever I use my other hand it just feels weird hehehehehe
I don't do it that often, once every few days, but I don't need visual stimuli, I normally just think about someone I love or like.
Talk about contradictory statements, "not that often every few days" lol....Dude every few days is OFTEN. (sorry, just checked your profile, every few days for a 20 yr old isn't that often) | |
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Cizuz
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| Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/2/2009 10:57:50 AM | | I used to more but I lost the will to. That and I have a problem. When I was in a relationship I found out fast that it took me forever to... Well release. I'm not talking about like 10-20 minute thing or something that would be tolerable, I am talking hours and honestly it was like torture. So I stopped masturbating as much, and stopped worrying about it, got used to it and even without being in a relationship it doesn't bother me much. | |
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| Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/2/2009 12:01:56 PM |
I used to more but I lost the will to. That and I have a problem. When I was in a relationship I found out fast that it took me forever to... Well release. I'm not talking about like 10-20 minute thing or something that would be tolerable, I am talking hours and honestly it was like torture. So I stopped masturbating as much, and stopped worrying about it, got used to it and even without being in a relationship it doesn't bother me much.
That is true. Alone time is like being tickled, sex is like being massaged. If you're used to being tickled it can be hard to laugh over a massage that you never want to end.
However, porn is fun, most women won't view having a hard time to finish as a problem, and you can do anything if you put your mind to it and get after it ;) lol | |
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| Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/2/2009 12:15:33 PM | | I don't see what the big deal is. Personally, I like to vary things when it comes to sex, so for a guy to watch porn to get turned on, even if he's in a relationship, is just another variance in his or her sex life. I'm also not threatened by a s.o. masturbating, I don't think it has a reflection of any lack that he may be experiencing in sex with me, but it's just something he feels like in that moment. It's not as if he's cheating on me. It's a different story, if he always needed porn. But if it's just a part of the overall sex life, then I don't see the problem. | |
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| Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/2/2009 12:20:22 PM |
I don't understand why guys have to always jerk off to porn even when a guy is sexually active with his girlfriend or whatever for some reason they still have to do it. If you have the real thing in real life then why go to porn?? Can't guys go without looking at other girls??
OP -- You're 18, so of course it's still all about YOU now ain't it? 
Guys will wank and rip one off at will even if they're sexually active with their partners because they choose to. For some, it may be because they are too wound up with sexual energy and have this compulsion to yank one...for others it may be because the partner ain't really all that shit hot in bed (and yea guess what...that happens) but it's still tolerable so they rub one out to fill the gaps in between...and for others it's as simple as, porn doesn't need to be seduced/romanced/taken on a date/in the mood/flattered/etc it's just THERE and ready to serve the visual stimulus the men desire.
Anyone that thinks, or believes for even one second that solo play should cease because gee...we're sexually active as partners - is delusional at best. Masturbation is an ever present factor, hidden or otherwise. If you CHOOSE to stop solo play in order to please your partner, then that's all on you. Expecting someone to stop just because you're now a couple is startlingly unfeasible. Smacks of insecurity.
Hell, if I was with a woman and she DIDN'T masturbate, I'd be worried. If she DID, it's status quo and all is well in the world. I couldn't expect my partner not to satisfy themselves if I wasn't around or available for sex. You can't be around 24x7.
Quit being insecure. Just because you're sexually active with him doesn't mean he's gonna abandon his hand anytime soon. Best get used to it, or start demanding that your future partners ditch their hands when they date you.
I'd suspect you'll be pretty lonely and almost perpetually single with the latter though... | |
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| Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/2/2009 12:25:21 PM | Porn, to me, is absolutely worthless. I feel the same way about pics, videos, or any other kind of "porn"... if I want to see a nekkid woman, I want to see her with my own eyes, and touch her with my own hands. What good is a pic of a nekkid woman? Yeah, OK she's hot, but it does nothing for me. And why on earth would I want to see someone ELSE making love to a hot woman and not ME?????
I can do without porn. Give me the real thing any day. | |
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| Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/2/2009 4:11:41 PM | Let me see, the woman **ENTHUSIASTICALLY** satisfies ALL of the man's sexual fantasies and desires? If TRUE, I sympathize with your confusion. Finding a woman who can ENJOY a man's desires is a RARE occurrance indeed. Unusual and extreme matches are truly QUITE rare, and BOTH the man AND the woman should be grateful that such a match may happen.
I share the confusion with the OP as to why ANY man or woman, when, after meeting the IDEAL match would even CONSIDER any sort of relationship, temporary or otherwise, with someone who seems FAR LESS compatible. This astonishes my sensibilities to no end.
But then, I find HUMAN behavior to conflict with RATIONAL behavior FAR too often.
A man entwined with an IDEAL woman searching ELSEWHERE for WHAT?
STUPIDITY **ABOUNDS** with SHOCKING MAGNITUDE!!!! | |
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| Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/2/2009 5:47:09 PM | | loneliness is the primary reason why i watch porn behind my family's back, which is probably not a good idea. i only watch lesbians, though, because i honestly do not like seeing a man naked. i do know the limits in real life, though, and hopefully, when i do get into a good relationship, i will be able to totally forget about this. | |
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| Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/2/2009 6:02:14 PM | Why not jerk off to porn? Its not that big of a deal. Nothing wrong with pleasuring yourself from time to time even when getting the real thing. If the worse my man does is watch porn and wack it from time to time , i'm a happy woman. Atleast he's not cheating or gettin into trouble. And about the looking at other girls thing, everyone looks. Its harmless. Just not psychotic staring, triple takes, or drooling. Jealously is an instant turn off for me! If it gets too bad, i'm jumping out. With or without a parachute.  | |
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| Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/2/2009 6:26:30 PM | | Well I stated my comments, which are truthful your the one make a huge dramatic issue about it. Nothing better to do with your time hmmm. Thanks for amusing me. | |
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| Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/2/2009 6:34:31 PM |
Well I stated my comments, which are truthful your the one make a huge dramatic issue about it. Nothing better to do with your time hmmm. Thanks for amusing me.
Explain how I made a big deal out of it? | |
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| Why do guys love porn so much???
Posted: 8/2/2009 7:57:09 PM |
When women start liking porn and start paying men to have sex,
Does that have to be all women?..lol...
Well, I like some porn...granted some annoys me because it is all about the women (who do not interest me sexually) and there is no real sense to it..but, I understand they cater to the audience, which is predominantly male..but, if it has some of the less than traditional activities I enjoy... I love it..I have watched it with a partner, and alone...it's a great foreplay device too..or a way to introduce a desire more obliquely ( you know how us women prefer to be subtle?..lol)
I understand there are women who pay for sex..minority to be sure...but, it happens. There have been times in my life I wondered about that...lol..and how you find these men if you wanted to do that...imagine having someone who would do everything and anything you have fantasized about?
I would only be hurt or insulted about men watching porn if it replaced real live sex with me, or if he preferred it to me...
When I was young , I didn't get it...I do now..men just are different about sex and can do it just for the sake of doing it, and can remove the personal aspect from it...watching porn is not about wanting someone else to them ( most of the time), it is just about being stimulated and fantasizing...
I would hope that in a relationship a man's need for it would be less if I was pretty open and enthusiastic myself...
EDIT: And I stopped reading romance novels and watching soap operas when I was in my late teens...not only an unrealistic fantasy, but one I couldn't relate to... | |
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