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Posted: 8/8/2009 8:38:39 AM |
Do I have a right to be upset about this? Thanks for reading...
Of course you do. But more importantly, I question why you wouldn't be jumping for joy that you don't have to put up with another bipolar moment with this girl.
Apparently loving and honoring yourself isn't at the top of your list.
Rejoice, sanity is at hand! And the darkness has released you! Wooot! | |
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Posted: 8/8/2009 8:41:45 AM | pilotforlife: Yeah I found out last minute it was a fever blister... Now I got it.... Which I heard is a sign of herpes.
mcwr- WTF? She had herpes and didn't tell you? I might have killed her if I were you
You're confusing HSV1 with HSV2.
Over 80% of the population has been exposed to HSV1 by adolesence, and is a carrier of the virus. Most do not ever show symptoms and those that do, are usually limited to cold sores on the outside of the mouth.
Kissing someone who has an active sore will expose you to the virus as it's very contagious but like I said the odds are that you have already been exposed to it and you wont ever show symptoms. | |
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| verbal abuse
Posted: 8/23/2009 12:46:22 PM | | When verbal abuse raises its ugly head, suggest abuser seek help and meds. | |
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| verbal abuse
Posted: 8/23/2009 1:31:52 PM | Unless you WANT to be an emotional punch bag - run as fast as you can, it WILL get worse and it will crush you.
It's called having a heart and thinking of other people... If you care enough about them...
With the greatest respect it is codependency. You cannot rescue her she can only save herself if she chooses to, but as long as you allow her to behave in this way, she will. | |
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Posted: 8/23/2009 1:40:41 PM | | I just got out of a relationship where I basically WAS an emotional punching bag. Here's just a little example - she went on various trips for about two weeks, and while she was gone I put on probably around 5 pounds...comes from my dead-end job at the time and just general laziness haha. The MINUTE I saw her, she instantly pointed out that I had gained weight and basically made me feel like shit about it. Basically made me feel almost obese (when I am well within my weight class). And to top it off, when I was about to get in the shower, she tells me to keep my shirt on until I was in the bathroom with the door closed because if I took it off she might puke!! That's just one reason why when she dumped me on Wednesday, I was more than happy to leave her alone. | |
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Posted: 8/23/2009 2:04:30 PM |
It's called having a heart and thinking of other people... If you care enough about them... She asked me to give her more time. I kept telling her if this continues I'm gone... I do have self respect in myself... I gave her plenty of time.
Dude, there are two sides to everything - but based on what you've told the forum, you are mistaken in thinking that you are "being a good guy", having self-respect and that you can somehow help her or fix her. You aren't; you don't; and you can't. Giving her 25 chances, letting her treat you like sh*t and not walking away from her problems that she refuses to deal with, are not helping her in any way. She is the only one who can decide to help herself. Your being there for her doesn't seem to mean squat to her, so why put yourself through that?
Your willingness to put with that kind of BS from almost day one is inexplicable unless you really are an enabler without any self-respect. | |
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Posted: 9/9/2009 8:13:49 PM | sound like more than verbal abuse to me, and besides I thought once a man get played, which she is clearly playing you for a fool, it is hard for them to trust again.... ok, if what you say is true, what? would it be ok for you too have some girl over spending the night or watching tv for a nite, however you put it? Are you not suppose to be her bestfriend, or tv buddy, man she needs a break when it time to play or she got some deep mental problems, for real, you best to be more than upset, n then again, maybe she dont mean nothing to you, but bottle line, this is the frist form I just dont belive, anit no man or woman that big of a fool, huh? | |
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Posted: 9/9/2009 8:32:04 PM | eh....dysfunctional!
I had a tumultuous relationship years ago....it was exhausting and it never got better. I don't regret it though, because I appreciated my husband so much more when I met him. Had I not gone through that, I'm sure I wouldn't have given my husband (now x-husband) the time of day. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2009 12:10:03 AM | Uh, it sucks to be nice sometimes.
You acted too quickly. Two weeks and it's dating? In the real world you were just 'kicking it', 'seeing each other', 'fwb'. I can't see your profile, but on both sides it seems young and immature. I think you were desperate so you put up with bad behavior. Figure out what you want in a partner then pursue it. Take your time the next go round. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2009 1:22:22 AM | She needs a therapist, not a boyfreind... she has serious issues (baggage), I'm sorry to say, and is not good relationship material for anyone... not right now at least... and not for you.
Everyone has some bagage... some people more, some people less... and some have too much to be reasonably compatible. Sad thing to say, yet it is true.
Cut her off cold and date other, healthy women. Resist the urge to go back, she will only continue to drag your heart through the mud... over and over again.
Always remember... just because a person is beautiful and breathing does not automatically mean they are good relationship material. Oh well.... like the sign says... there are plenty of fish. Thank goodness you only need one good one! | |
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