| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/6/2009 5:56:44 AM | | i dont see anything wrong with it each to there own i used to date somebody who loved knife play in the bedroom i also know somebody who has just started getting into latex its meant to be pshycological as to why you enjoy certain things | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/6/2009 11:39:16 AM | i don't understand why anyone would not want some bizarre kink in their life
In an emotionally healthy relationship, sex is an expression of intimacy, caring and affection, and you certainly don't want to violate/control/dominate/humiliate/defile/inflict pain on your partner. If feeding a bizarre kink is the only way you can reach orgasm, then you're not connecting with the other person - you're just mindf*cking them to boost your sagging self-esteem, IMO. | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/6/2009 4:18:01 PM | I'm fairly 'live and let live' about things but the 'fetish scene' can be all things to all people and not necessarily what appeals to any one person. Just because someone would like to wear clingy, shiny or fantasy stuff doesn't necessarily mean they want to be involved in S/M stuff and vice versa but often clubs have to cater for all interests.
For some the all-inclusive funfair nature of these events is ideal so they can pick'n'mix from what's on offer. For others it's all too OTT to be enjoyable, so horses for courses depending on the event, caveat emptor.
I notice the current range of women's extreme high-heeled shoes are definitely fetish inspired. | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/6/2009 6:46:37 PM | The fetish scene can encompass all aspect of fetishism, a love of high heel shoes is a fetish, a love for girls in jeans can be called a fetish also, and a fantasy about men dressed as firemen, policemen or indeed anything else could be considered a fetish too.
It doesnt have to involve latex, PVC, chains, whips or any of the myriad of things YOU would consider a fetish.
So the converse to a fetish of any type is a desire for nothing in perticular.
And I think that we all have a desire for some kind of fetish, its just the way we are.
I couldnt make any judgment or comment about those who are in what we know as the established fetish scene, BDSM scene or any other related ilk.
Im with *Private Dancer* on this one, I have my likes about it, but I couldnt by any stretch of the imagination say that I am part of the scene at all... not the fetish scene anyway. | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/7/2009 5:50:07 AM | I have just been informed that I am sending out secret signals to dominant men that I am submissive and seeking ownership. This is due to the necklace I wear, a silver torque or collar. This could explain EVERYTHING. Or of course it could explain nothing. Either way my gob is smacked. Hey thats submissive. Ah I am starting to understand. (not really). So does anyone else know about this?  | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/7/2009 7:55:18 AM | i do s.j but it's mostly all nonsense ... i'm all for kinky sex but the bdsm crowd is comprised mostly of strange people who put too much significance on such things as collars or, as it may be the case, anything that looks remotely like a collar.
if this is what they mean then a collar is symbolic of ownership or being owned by someone ..... yuhuh .. like i said .. it's a lot of nonsense ....
a damn good spanking followed by some weird-n-dirty sex is a different matter entirely though | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/7/2009 8:41:35 AM | Iknow it`s about -1 in a scale of 20 in the in this kinda thing......
but how many of us has dressed up in sexy undies for our partner,or been tied to the bed blindfolded.......mild i know....but did it feel wrong?
How many of us girls....had a silly grin on our faces,when micky rourke,done that scene,from 9 and a half weeks,feeding kim every thing from jelly to cough mix,from the fridge,and she was blindfolded,even the ice cube scene,again very mild...but everso slighty risky.....
i`v been chattin to some very different people this week at work....and yes they do wear jeans and a te shirt,.....they are not always in a gimp mask and gag ball....
......it still makes me feel abit qwezzy thou............
and i will not be going to any more clubs...........mind you the music was good.... | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/7/2009 12:13:59 PM | I always like to be in charge so the whole dominatrix thing wouldn't work for me, I'll leave that to the toe sucking, nappy wearing disfunctional section of society!  | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 1:02:19 PM | So after all that what good designs did your company come up with. Are you trying to hit the cheap Ann Summers market or be on level with something more corture such as House of Harlot, Breathless, Jane Doe etc. Very interested to know
My x | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/7/2009 1:13:16 PM | To each there own, lets figure some people think bdsm is not a turn on, but how many do the old web cam or fone sex? At least the bdsm people meet up lol
then again what if they do the bdsm by web/fone?  | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/7/2009 4:59:46 PM |
So does anyone else know about this?
I can't see anything particular about that necklace, although some may choose to use it for that purpose. OTOH if it looked more like the one in the 'Story of O' movie (not the book) then it would be less ambiguous. | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/7/2009 5:13:45 PM |
In an emotionally healthy relationship, sex is an expression of intimacy, caring and affection, and you certainly don't want to violate/control/dominate/humiliate/defile/inflict pain on your partner.
I would agree, I don't see anything sexy about being slapped around during sex or doing the same to someone else. | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/8/2009 3:13:29 AM | I feel that many of the replies from folk here answer the question asking 'are people held back sexually because they fear what others think'.
I find it sad that sex is such a taboo subject in society, for years women in particular have been persuaded or influenced by the powers that be (most often relating to religion) to be the ones who dislike sex, find it a chore. I remember listening to women my mums age, now and then the subject would pop up and they all seemed to treat it as a joke or something they had to do because they were in a relationship. I remember my mum having one friend who talked openly in the group about rather liking the act, she was looked at as a bit of a slut, laughed at and gossiped about.
Times have changed a lot, but there still seems to be a bit of a tabbo when it comes to enjoying sexual acts that are a little out of the ordinary to some.
I personaly find it a huge turn on if i met a guy who is interested in living out his fantasies or experimenting with fettish with me and have in the past enjoyed being with guys who are open minded enough to want to experiment. I did have a relationship once with a guy who regularly attended such clubs and also dated someone who was into fetish play and bi. I can honestly say it was good, im talking     good.
I would find it a huge turn off if a guy was not willing to experiment, just dont think i could ever go back to dating a total vanilla these days, iv been spoilt. I was chatting with a guy for a while, we met up, got on in every way then one day i mentioned i liked a bit of bdsm, he freaked and i never heard from him again, shame cause he was rather hot.
Trust is a huge factor though. I dont believe it is something to rush into in a relationship. You need to find the right person to share the experience with.
I also find it sad that some here seem to think its all about dressing up in pvc and having sex with total strangers, its not like that at all. All i can say is dont knock it till ya tried it.
As far as im concerned providing its consentual between adult humans, no one gets hurt, every one agrees beforehand then all is good. I do draw the line at electric shocks, they really scare me and i prefer lace to pvc. | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/8/2009 7:24:48 AM | I also knew a guy heavily into and extremely active into the bdsm lifestyle. He was into violent pornography and was only interested in sex if he was 'allowed' to force himself upon the lady of his desire. A very intelligent guy who I quickly distanced myself from when he insisted that 'girls are ripe for*it* as soon as their periods began regardless of age'! I put the low age with the 'allowed to force' (consent) and ran for the hills!
The fettish fashion though is aboslutely amazing, I love wearing my pieces. | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/8/2009 7:57:44 AM | its not about fashion, a lot of the clubs go nude.
Techno, no guy whos into fetish should be using it as an excuse to force anyone into anything, to me that guy just sounds like a total pedo, which are not acceptable on the fetish scene and not welcomed either.
I think you will find that the rules are everyone has to agree, its adult humans in agreement or get out. People like him give those who enjoy the scene safely a bad name. | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/8/2009 8:27:45 AM | I'm aware of what the rules are, and surfice to say I didn't agree so nothing happened with me. The guy insisted that he wouldn't do anything illegal ...I didn't trust him based on his history with women (not girls I hasten to add) and had 2 daughters of my own to look out for.
I mentioned the fashion side of things purely because it was in the OP. The clothes are fantastic! | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/9/2009 10:50:22 AM | What would you girls say if your guy told you he was into scat play?
just because I happen to have a fetish for it!
But its impossible trying to find a girl willilng to have a go!
matt :( | |
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Posted: 8/9/2009 12:31:22 PM | Kath: I may go into business trampling on mens bollox with a mardy look on my face..theres some serious money to be made there I reckon .
Give me a shout when you start up, I reckon I could be really good at this. A taxi driver once told me that judges, MPs and the like paid hundreds of pounds to be scorned and insulted. I assumed he was lying but I could have missed out on a dream career. | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/9/2009 12:45:24 PM | I would happily insult and scorn men in exchange for cash. Sounds great to me. In fact I wouldnt class that as "bizarre". To me that would fun. Big fun as for the scat query. Eww never in a million billion years. I would be surprised if you get many women willing to admit to being up for that on here. I will watch with interest  | |
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Posted: 8/9/2009 12:55:45 PM |
Scat and mess/goo/sploshing isnt my thing ...
I like to think Im pretty broadminded but I cant for the life of me understand what pleasure anyone would get from scatting! Its so yeeuukk and unhygienic! | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/9/2009 3:56:59 PM |
If you met someone, and found out that they were heavily into the world of bizarre sex and the fetish scene, would it put you off
Yes......I can't do with women who obsess about anything unless it's housework. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2009 4:12:07 PM | I met someone once who was somewhat kinky and slightly sub.... she got well into me in bed. I went to her place one day and she met me wearing a PVC basque etc....she asked me if I'd tie her up and gag her. Well why not? There's no harm in it. The trouble was, she lived opposite a pub, I had a thirst and it appealed to my sense of humour So......
Three quarters of the way through my first pint I had visions of her having some sort of panic attack and axphyxiating and rushed back - she was OK - and very turned on by it. She got more and more kinky and more obsessed by sex and - it dominated (arf) everything and got in the way of a relationship developing. Ho hum. | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/10/2009 4:49:47 AM | Ive been reading this thread since it started and im stuck now.
What on earth is scat play? | |
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