| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/5/2009 1:51:03 PM | @Rush
You're timid?
As for the "REAL" reason I'm here? Dammit, it's easier! My "game" is just fine I think, but pickings seemed to be really slim and I wanted to expand my options. I don't drink, I don't club, I guess I'm not inclined to get out into social gatherings very often, so this has been a logical choice. And the proof is in the pudding.
Irony of ironies, I've met 3 ladies on this site that live literally within a 2 mile radius of my apartment. I should have met them in Target. | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/5/2009 2:03:36 PM | I think more the issue than just being a christian democrat living in a bible belt state slightly less than half democrat, for some, what makes them undatable is deciding everyone around them is quote [ Could it be you are older and are looking for much younger girl? Or a guy with a hobby like motorcycles and you are looking for a play partner...but know it is hard to find that interest in most women? Or maybe you have a conservative life but are looking for a wild sex hookup on QT? Or you are middleaged, fat, bald, short, a single parent, socially inept, overly shy, multiply divorced, separated, unemployed...?] Some people's issue is simply the size of their heads
Caution!! the Dazzle reflected in the mirror can cause blindness! | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/5/2009 3:21:27 PM | | I agree, plus you got to remember if the saying is true, that there is someone for everyone out there. Now that being said, with 6 billion people on earth, half being female then the internet will give you a better shot finding your beter half. | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/5/2009 3:42:50 PM |
Could it be you are older and are looking for much younger girl? Or a guy with a hobby like motorcycles and you are looking for a play partner...but know it is hard to find that interest in most women? Or maybe you have a conservative life but are looking for a wild sex hookup on QT? Or you are middleaged, fat, bald, short, a single parent, socially inept, overly shy, multiply divorced, separated, unemployed...? Anything less than the young, beautiful and successful singles who easily meet potential partners --do we come online to increase our chances of meeting a partner that we aren't able to meet in person because of an issue?
Do you agree with this? What is your issue that makes it harder to meet people in your everyday life?
This is a strange post....all your assumptions why we are internet dating are refering to males, I didn't see you make an references to women....just an observation.
You appear to assume, it's only males on internet dating sites with unrealistic goals. | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/5/2009 3:56:21 PM | Yes. I live around rednecks and I don't date rednecks. I know it sounds blunt, but I've tried to... many times.
Solution? Seek someone who's similar to me within a 50 mile radius.
End result? Success.. after a painful 2 1/2 years. | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/5/2009 4:01:57 PM | GeminiMan66: You appear to assume, it's only males on internet dating sites with unrealistic goals.
In all fairness, you appear to be assuming that Wingsonmyfeet is appearing to assume about it only being males on dating sites with unrealistic goals.
Just say'en | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/5/2009 4:10:14 PM |
In all fairness, you appear to be assuming that Wingsonmyfeet is appearing to assume about it only being males on dating sites with unrealistic goals.
Just say'en
^^^^ You assume correct...lol
I assume too much for my own good...need to cut back | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/5/2009 4:12:57 PM |
GeminiMan66 :^^^^ You assume correct...lol
Do you know, I didn't even realize I WAS assuming, but you're correct, I WAS!
Therefore, it can be uniquivocally stated that GeminiMan66 was correct in his assumption that I was assuming that he appeared to be assuming that Wingsonmyfeet is appearing to assume about it only being males on dating sites with unrealistic goals. | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/5/2009 4:29:12 PM | I get confused by too much a$$ you ming
I was merely making a statement, like so many others have previously, that to start a post for nothing more than gender bashing by either sex about either sex probably is a signal that professional therapy might be in order. Sadly, gender bashing was the only clue before many psycotic attacks that have happened recently, and to reach such a state in one's mind can't be healthy. | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/5/2009 4:39:51 PM |
wingsonmyfeet: Sadly, gender bashing was the only clue before many psycotic attacks that have happened recently, and to reach such a state in one's mind can't be healthy.
Yes, it can probably be safely assumed that psychosis is not a healthy state of mind. | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/5/2009 4:48:25 PM | I use it because I'm very shy..so for me...it's an issue, but one that will get better over time?
AT least that's what the fortune cookie told me!
Truthy..there I said it. | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/5/2009 8:16:38 PM | | My location seems to be my issue. I internet date because there isn't much to do here in the evenings except the bars. Not my thing. I go to church but haven't met anyone there to date. Other than that, I don't know what I could do to meet anyone here. | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/5/2009 8:19:55 PM | I am shy, and refuse to be a bar fly. That is the only place to meet singles around my area.
Oh and the fact that I am missing some body parts:)
But issues? Say it isn't so, how could ANY of us have issues | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/5/2009 8:41:20 PM | | i agree with invictus 24-i also met a couple of men who lived right in my area. However, if I had seen one of them in Shop Rite, I wouldn't have had the nerve to approach them and vice versa. I mean I guess I could have asked them if the melons were ripe-but somehow I don't think I could pull it off! However, if you meet on line the fact that you live near one another gives you an easy way to start up a conversation. At least you know that you have geography in common-and maybe even more than that. | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/5/2009 9:24:57 PM | I have big issues. LOL
I can't figure out how to date. Go out and sit in a club? Who do you ask out, you don't know any of those women. Walk up and ask wrong one out? Might take years. And in some clubs all the women you walk up to are extremely young. One night I asked, "Hey where are the women my age?" Figured they were probably home wondering where to find men my age.
Internet makes it easier. Well would if women ever replied in emails and took a chance to get to know everyone, even if it was for just two emails and go, "Yuck." But here you can read about the person before sending a letter and before replying. Few emails back and forth you can get a feel for the other person. Then if it seems right move on to the, "Hey lets meet" stage. Thats just my reason I came here. I like to know people before I ask them out. | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/6/2009 1:16:45 AM | Issue? Hmmm....why do I use online dating sites? Is it because I harbor some dark deep seeded issue....? Let me think....um, nope I can't think of any right off. Oh wait. Maybe it's because I work 2nd shift? ....or could be, it's because I'm a recent breast cancer survivor? (hey, that right there could be deemed 'a major issue' to some). Or....perhaps it's just the fact that I am a divorced mommy busy raising my three rug-rats; am pushing 40 (eeeegads! did I just type that?) and I don't go out to the bars that much...?
Hmmmmm....crap, those could all be considered issues.
The thing is, *I* myself do not deem the facts listed above as being 'issues'. Nor do I feel they make me a 'misfit' of society (in regards to that I would chose online dating verses meeting people in real life). The above stated facts are not the reasons I have a profile on here. They are simply aspects of my life that make me...well, me.
On the other hand...others themselves may very well have any number of issues with the aspects listed above...and might assume that because of them I am either #1) a misfit, and can't get a date and/or #2) have issues because of (#1) therefore I must need to utilize internet dating as my only option to meet other people.
Nothing could be father from the truth. I'm a normal, well educated, well adjusted, stable and balanced, accomplished female. I too, myself, meet various people throughout my comings and goings during any given day. Can't help it. I'm a people person. I'll strike up a conversation with just about anybody; anywhere (and sometimes do wish I then hadn't...lol...hey, I guess that could be deemed an issue too LOL).
Internet dating is merely just another avenue to meet people you would otherwise not meet. And although I'm not actively searching myself right now, I still simply leave the option of internet dating open....because, well because one never knows who you might meet really.
As for the question "do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?" My answer to that is this: Nobody's perfect. And everybody is different. That's what makes us human. And I have to ask... Doesn't everybody at some point in their lives have at least some type of an issue nowadays? Shy/Fat/Bald/Just surfing the sites hoping for a wink wink discreet encounter/Single/Divorced etc etc etc...the list goes on and on. Regardless of what issues you claim as yours, and whether it's deemed good or bad, it doesn't really matter how or where you decided to meet others (whether it be online or in real life), you're still gonna have to deal with whatever issue you feel you have....not to mention the added issue(s) of the other people you do happen to meet... ;-) | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/6/2009 7:38:30 AM | ^^^^ "....not to mention the added issue(s) of the other people"
That was along the lines of what I was thinking... considering the nature of the matching up process -- i.e., "it takes two to tango" -- only half the population has to have ISSUES for the other half of the population to be totally SOL.
So it's really just half as bad as the OP is thinking. For every person with an "it's not you, it's me" attitude, there's a corresponding one thinking "it's not me, it's them".
They just need to add this as a checkbox thingy on all our profiles so we can sort this out for ourselves and find someone who complements us on this, er, issue. | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/6/2009 8:43:23 AM | I have no issues at all whatsoever to meet people out there, even though I do not go to clubs Bars etc..
I had my time when I use to club a lot and even though I picked up a lot of man, none of them became my partner, and even with on line dating, I have tried Lava Life, E Harmony, now plenty of fish and I met lots of guys from other websites and truly I didn’t like any of them, maybe I think is because I have a stubborn heart. Most of my relationships I have met the guy through a friend or at the store just met the guys in the weirdest places like one time he even walked inside my house hahaha!!! A complete stranger haha! Anyways I’m just starting to think that the more you look for love the farther away it goes, maybe cupid doesn’t like for us to know when he is going to strike with his little arrow.
Mari | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/6/2009 11:27:02 AM | "They just need to add this as a checkbox thingy on all our profiles so we can sort this out for ourselves and find someone who complements us on this, er, issue."
 oooooooh, I like that idea Now that right there would put an extra twist on this whole internet dating concept itself.  Just think of the possibilities...
Please check the box which applies while creating your online profile.
1) Sex? [] Female / [] Male / [] Yes / [] No / [] Maybe; I'll think about it / [] Sorry I have issues with this very topic
2) Have kids/want kids? [] Yes / [] No / [] Sorry, I have issues with this topic
3) Smoking? [] Yes / [] No / [] Occasionally/Socially / [] Sorry, I have issues with this question
4) Looking for/Why are you *really* here? [] Long term / [] Dating / [] Friends / [] people with NO issues about other people using internet dating / [] people who might possibly have an issue meeting others in real life, but really don't, yet feel inhibited by the possibility of meeting people in real life / [] Yes I was deemed a misfit / [] Issues R Us the more the merrier bring them on because I love drama / [] Normal people with no issues whatsoever who simply wish to meet like minded individuals which may possibly lead to life long happiness so I don't have to use online dating sites as an option and be consider a person with 'issues' and/or a 'misfit'
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/6/2009 11:33:37 AM | | I'm only on these sites cause of boredom.. nothing more nothing less. I like to mingle with new people from other states and across the globe. Not everyone signs to these websites for true love.. sounds like a social issue to me.. | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/6/2009 11:50:31 AM | The same people you meet online are the same people that you would meet anywhere else. If you are socially inept in person then you would come off as socially inept online also.
1 picture is worth a thousand words. Learn to read what the pictures tell you about how someone views themself and how they would like for you to view them and whether or not they are being realistic.
Other than that... it's just another avenue of dating and getting to know people. It's easy and fun. We get to ogle and lust without being offensive and if we say the right thing to the person we are ogling and lusting after... we just might get lucky... and L-A-I-D  .
Just keeping it real for everybody.
Be good, be safe, have fun, and keep internet dating ALIVE  .
Rock On  | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/6/2009 11:50:42 AM | OutMind,
"In the internet you see 100 women worth your time. You start sending e-mails and by the time you have sent messages to 10, 3 have responded and one says yes to a date."
Am I on the same internet as you? | |
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