| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/6/2009 11:50:42 AM | OutMind,
"In the internet you see 100 women worth your time. You start sending e-mails and by the time you have sent messages to 10, 3 have responded and one says yes to a date."
Am I on the same internet as you? | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/6/2009 1:19:49 PM |
"In the internet you see 100 women worth your time. You start sending e-mails and by the time you have sent messages to 10, 3 have responded and one says yes to a date."
Am I on the same internet as you?
Is the glass half full or half empty?
You will see only the side you choose to see. No less, no more.
Unless you change your paradigm. | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/6/2009 2:40:04 PM | B-I-N-G-O ....we got a winner!!! (er, meaning the post right above this one)
Why is there such an issue with what people think? Better yet, why is there such a 'stigma' when it comes sites like this or those who use such sites as these? | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/12/2009 3:15:21 PM |
To the people who are wondering what this has to with the forum thread
i am answering someone from the last few posts. But that's it i'm not an answering machine.
I'm right.
You did a good job of answering the thread too... question was "is there something wrong with the people in here?"
Yep, lots of fruit loops like this guy.... the reason we're here is we're single but internet dating isn't anyone's first resort. Unsuccessful would-be-boyfriends / girlfriends resort to it because they are either socially inept or just plain undesirable. I think most of us think we're just socially inept but have an unrealistic idea of how desirable we are.
The reason she whispered is she didn't want any of the people getting their car washed hearing about how much dope their shammy-boy smokes. | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/12/2009 4:14:17 PM | | According to government statistics, there are 40 million people on dating sites in the U.S. alone. In the U.K., there are 8 million singles, and in 2008, 69 percent of them went on first dates with people they met through dating sites. (FYI: Income generated by paid dating sites in the U.S. topped $1 billion in 2008.) That's an awful lot of people with issues! | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/12/2009 4:43:46 PM | It’s another venue to meet just like anywhere in the physical world. Just a few different rules and precautions. Plus for many people, especially those living in *small towns* it gives you more reach.
Plus with online dating, you can see profile of them in advance and maybe even a true age or photo!
The only “issues” I think anymore might have is a shortage of time or being a little shy and introverted. Other than that, online dating is making for a lot of marriages these days. This is a new tool for meeting, just like the old newspaper ads… | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/12/2009 5:28:12 PM | I did the internet dating thing because (1) I don't come into contact with many people, much less women, much less datable women in my daily routine; (2) I have no interest in going to bars, joining toatmasters or any of the other cliche ways of meeting women; (3) there are thousands of women on pof; (4) I don't have to play games or deal with b.s.; and (5) it's worked pretty well. I can't imagine an easier way to get a date.
Is the glass half full or half empty?
You will see only the side you choose to see. No less, no more.
Exactly. | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/12/2009 5:30:55 PM | Sorry, I didn't read any of the responses but only wanted to respond to the initial thread:
YES! We all have issues. Every single person who is alive and breathing has issues. Married people or people in relationships are not perfect. They are all as screwed up in some way as we are, they just managed to find someone else just as screwed up who could deal with or ignore their issues. So we're not on here BECAUSE we have issues. We just happen to be on here with issues.
Everyone is damaged in some way. Get over it. | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/12/2009 5:49:59 PM | OP, you have a point. I'm not sure its exactly Issues as much as looking for someone who's not obviously within our normal meeting cycle.
Hope a side story is okY....- my squeeze asked me to modify my profile to make it impossible for anyone to imagine junk. What I had listed was peculiar to begin but I added a bunch of bizz about an imaginary dream women who wrestles eels, canoes like a roman slave and just emerged from europe with excellent creds and definite plans for outdoor activities of the most demanding type. This was odd to read for a lass who used to work for Fisheries Canada dealing with Lampreys and just spent 4 years in Europe making a name for herself. She had to wonder, "how does bullet-head know I'm here? is he trying to steal my kevlar canoe?" | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/12/2009 6:00:03 PM | | I would agree with the original post. I have always been a private person which has contributed to fairly small social circle. On top of that, being a single father (even part time) makes dating somewhat daunting to say the least. I guess I would classify myself as somewhat socially dysfunctional. Online dating sites are an equalizer that allow me to put myself out there on my terms at my comfort level and allow people to get to know me at a much slower pace. | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/12/2009 6:36:14 PM | My issue is the desire to try and use all available avenues to meet someone.
Whatever my other issues are.. they will be present no matter what venue I choose to meet someone.
This question smacks of "Isn't it only misfits that use dating sites?" | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/12/2009 7:33:55 PM | Yeah I have an issue
- I play soccer and ultimate frisbee 4 days a week to stay in good cardiovascular shape
- I weight train twice a week
- I work a 9 to 5
- I'm finishing a designation in my field through correspondence
- I meet up with friends and family at least 1-3 times a week for a quick drink, dinner, whatever
- I need my alone time, I run errands, do things I want to do (Salsa and Tango, other dance lessons), etc.
That's my weekly schedule.
Out of those points, the only possibility for me to find a girlfriend is the last two point. I don't date girls I work with, I'm focused on myself during weight training sessions so I don't talk to anybody.
So when I'm out with my friends or doing dance lessons are pretty much the only time I truly get to meet new people, whether it's at a pub, at a house party, whatever. So do I have an issue and therefore I internet date?
You bet I do. I don't have the time to go and meet girls on a daily basis. I came here 3 years ago to increase my chances, but now I'm mostly here for the forums since to me Internet dating doesn't work. I've found other organized dating alternatives like speed dating and singles events so much better and have gotten much better results.
The forums are great though. | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/12/2009 7:50:57 PM | I think its the exact opposite. we go to internet dating as most of us is working with limited time; it takes 6 months to find out about a person in real life, things we can read in a profile. It is not the whole story, but at least a good start.
Personally i think we all do have preferences and it is as it should be, so internet dating gives us the option to only meet a person we are compatible with, least on the surface
I do have two issues with all this how ever, maybe 3
a 60 year old man posting a picture of himself from when he was 40
A man divorced 20 years, was in a live i situation, lost that woman to cancer, but to date he is referring to his first wife as "my wife"
Also i seen pictures of man, a woman on each arm, claiming to want a serious relationship. Do those guys think we are that desperate or think him soooooo attractive that we CARE to compete with his playmates for affection? | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/12/2009 8:20:33 PM | I used to date from the newspaper personals because I had an ISSUE. Actually, once I started that, I had to get a SUBSCRIPTION.
I date online because I have a COMPUTER. | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/13/2009 8:05:56 AM | | No, we come to an Internet site because they are too few places that cater to a 30+ crowd. There's nothing worse than going to a new pub, walking in and being made to feel so out-of-place because everyone there is 23 and younger. Remember those old "E.F. Hutton commercials where the guy goes, "Well, my broker is E. F. Hutton, and E. F. Hutton says ... " at which point everyone freezes so they can hear the rest of the sentence. It's pretty much like that. | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/13/2009 8:26:45 AM | Everyone has issues, people who don't use this service aren't really immune to human nature. I guess being shy would be considered an issue though, I usually have a hard time breaking the ice with women.
There are other reasons why I like online though, for one thing, I know that the women here are actually looking to meet people, so I don't have to feel bad about striking a conversation with someone that doesn't want it. Doesn't help that all my friends are now married, so they really aren't interested in going out to meet people anymore. I do try to go to other social events though. Also, with my job, meeting women is not a very common event for me. I'm a programmer; it's my gift, it's my curse. 
Edit: I also deal with people who have very little knowledge of computers on a regular basis and they certainly have their own issues too. It's nice to meet some people on here that know a little bit about computers too though.
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/13/2009 8:50:54 AM | OP - I use internet dating for several reasons 1) I work from home therefore having less day to day contact with my fellow man than others who work outside the home 2) my clients are mostly women 3) my kid is not active in sports where I would be in front of single/divorced dads every week 4) I don't go to bars 5) I don't go to church 6) I work out at the gym between 8am and 9am after all the single guys have gone to work 7) and online dating has worked for me in the past.
I think most people use online dating because they don't have the opportunities to meet people IRL, not because they are socially or emotionally dysfunctional. I know of a few couples who met on the 'net who would have never gotten together if they didn't venture online, and each are sane, happy, mature adults. | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/13/2009 10:46:42 AM | | I think "issue" is wording things a little strong. Speaking for myself, I really don't run into what I would consider "dateable" people during the course of an average day. Trying to keep my work and personal life separate just makes sense to me. | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/13/2009 11:00:17 AM | Wanna know what I really think? The internet is a good TOOL to find single people and some people that prefer getting dates "in person" do view it as competition...I even have nosy friends that dislike the internet because they simply don't have something to gossip and gripe about because they don't know who your chatting with...It gets a lot of bad publicity by the ones that have negative experiences...they can't just quit quietly they gotta moan an groan about it on the way out the door and ruin it for everyone else too...It is true there is a lot of soliciting for sex thru dating sites and that gives it a "bad rep"...not eveyone here is bad...how logical is it to say EVERYBODY on here is a bad apple? That's not logical to me unless you've met every single apple here...seriously....
I've met some nice people on here...but to be honest they have been few and far between....I guess you gotta be tough and stick it out or make the choice to leave...
It is true there is alot of guys and gals on here just looking for sex, but but unless you've met every single and entire member here how can you honestly say whether or not everyone on here has an issue? Only a true scientific polling or a good psychologist could make a statement that the entire group of people have issues here...is that a reasonable assumption? In my experience people that are having a difficult time getting a good date thru this site like to gripe about it...
Im here because alot of folks not on this dating site in the dating pool have issues too!!!
If they were so desirable they'd be taken too right? Is that a reasonable assumption?
I've had guys outside of the internet dating world try to get in contact with me thru my friends...to be honest if a guy is that shy I don't like to try it...I like a guy to be able to directly contact me here and I can cut my friends out of the equation...I love my freinds, but my dating life is "my life" not theirs...that makes me uncomfortable when someone can't approach me directly in real life and goes thru my friends...The guy that is that shy may have communication issues to me and isn't the right type for me....
So you can definitely run into people with issues outside of here too | |
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| Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE?
Posted: 8/13/2009 12:16:49 PM | yeah I have issues alright.... I work 50+ hours, plus have a dog and friends and all that crap, plus my personal "me" time....
when am I going to meet chicks ?
This is what we call "multitasking" I am at work, and meeting wimmin... one stone...2 birds...  | |
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