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| Whats wrong with a single parent woman?
Posted: 8/26/2009 3:26:55 PM |
If she was married when she had her kids thats better, men tend to respect them more than the unmarried baby mommas. They should judge her on what the circumstances of her divorce were and how she treats her ex. Like if she allows him to see his kid often and whether or not she is gold digging off him. If she is an independant woman with a dad for her kids and doesnt need a new one and isnt looking for a meal ticket and keeps up her looks then she should have no problems getting a man.
Who cares if she was married or not married when she had the child. Still makes her a single mom. It's the fact that there's this other man out there who will have a lifetime connection to her whether the new guy likes it or not -- and most of the time the Ex is a jerk. It's a complicated issue for anyone to get into a relationship. Who want's to get in a relationsip where it'll never be just you and him. It'll always be you, him and the other guy.....Oh, and the other guy's kids. | |
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| Whats wrong with a single parent woman?
Posted: 8/26/2009 3:31:04 PM | I can't speak for other guys but here's my $.02 (I have a degree in psychology specializing in childhood and adolescent development): The vast majority of single moms I've encountered are recognizably apologetic to their children for the fact that the dad is gone. They overcompensate by becoming "friends" with their children and compromise discipline for this friendship. This creates children who learn to take advantage and manipulate. Soon, the kids rule the roost and mom has no clue what happened. After all, she was just trying to be nice by giving them everything she could imagine they needed. What's worse, these children become frustrated later in life (if and when they ever leave the nest) because it becomes very clear that strangers are not going to coddle them as their mother did. It leads to poor relationship building skills and the inability to get a keep a responsible job.
The short answer is that guys don't like brats. single moms often create brats. Discipline your children just as if dad were still around. Don't let kids walk all over you, much less disrespect others. If you do this and the guy still doesn't want to be around, it's his loss. | |
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| Whats wrong with a single parent woman?
Posted: 8/26/2009 3:51:24 PM | | ^^^^^My ex-wife commented to me that the childern respond better to me, and her boyfriend because of our deeper voices. Often the kids ignore her, trust me she isn't lax on displine. | |
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| Whats wrong with a single parent woman?
Posted: 8/26/2009 4:09:25 PM | Why do single parents even question this?
Before I had my son, I would never have been interested in men with children! I dont expect single childless men to be interested in me.
You made your choices, as I did, to have your children. Live with it. Some have chosen to wait, and they are entitled to that. Some have chosen to not want to raise others children, and they are entitled to that....as you were entitled to make your choices. Get over it and focus on meeting men who want the situation you are in.
I just dont see why any single parent would expect childless singles to want to be in thier situation...it is a difficult role!
Some of the comments made here, although crudely written, are bang on-there are issues with dating single parents that just are not part of the equation with childless people, and we are all entitled to choose which situation suits us best, without being judged for it. | |
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| Whats wrong with a single parent woman?
Posted: 8/26/2009 4:49:51 PM |
Let's make something perfectly clear: you can be as indignant as you want,
Thanks I will, because many of these unnecessary comments were indeed indignant
I'M not losing any dates
me either thanks!!! I started this thread merely to get an idea of how some men up here think about the situation because i honestly was ignorant to many things.
Mr. Nem0: (deftly ripostes with "big poopy-head")
Thanks for letting me reminisce about the times in 3rd grade, where silly little boys called me names because i wouldnt want to play jacks or battleship with them...to now 20 some years later, having a grown old man call me names like hypersensitive and poopy head...
It seems everytime a woman speaks her mind or rebuttles a rebuttle, were labelled as the hypersensies when ofcourse doublestandardly, some of the dudes are just speaking their mind
Whatever, i could care less.... You know im right......about what i said before
For the last chick..i agree 100 % on what you said...im not out looking for single men to "ruin their lives with my baggage"..For the last time, i was merely curious and again ignorant..and definitely realize now what i wasnt completely enlightened of why single men choose to not date single moms..most of them anyway.. | |
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| Whats wrong with a single parent woman?
Posted: 8/26/2009 5:21:04 PM | Thanks for letting me reminisce about the times in 3rd grade, where silly little boys called me names because i wouldnt want to play jacks or battleship with them...to now 20 some years later, having a grown old man call me names like hypersensitive and poopy head...
Says she who started throwing the 'douchebag' epithet around because she didn't like what some posters were saying, so she thought stamping her feetsies would be an effective means of communication....
Whatever, i could care less.... You know im right......about what i said before
.... "...and, in about TWO minutes, if you don't agree with everything I say, because I'm ALWAYS right, I'm gonna take all my toys home....
.... so, neeener, neener, NEEEEeeeener!"
I really hate the following, 'cause it's one of those female things that so many broads like to throw out there, but it just seems appropriate:
"Grow up! Stop being so immature, little grrrrrrrrrrrrl!"
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| Whats wrong with a single parent woman?
Posted: 8/27/2009 6:32:32 PM |
"Grow up! Stop being so immature, little grrrrrrrrrrrrl!" Take your own advice please and you grow up..i've explained several times why the douchebag comment was thrown out, and it wasnt because of something i disagreed with ....it was because it was indeed douchebaggery.. Many people have made a lot of comments that i disagreed with but at least had tact about it throught their comments...everything you've said up here has been some sort of insulting uncalled for comment..so please bugger off! Im bored with you and your douchebaggedness...If you have something debateable..debate...dont just throw out useless information about comments i've made . Youve made your point...so now go on with another forum.. by the way..there is no need for all the "douchebaggery is not a word "comments...im in neologism mode and that's all i'll say...sometimes jumbled words flow together easier when making points..  | |
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| Whats wrong with a single parent woman?
Posted: 8/27/2009 6:53:28 PM | | Rings the bell and has the puglists to return to there respective corners. Lets bring it back to topic. Each single parent needs to be judge individually. No blanket statements work, as demonstrated in another thread. | |
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| Whats wrong with a single parent woman?
Posted: 8/27/2009 6:59:34 PM |
But tell me what else there is..i mean is that it really?? And are most men really thinking they cant date a girl because they dont want to get close to the kid or whatever in the hell it is.
Sweetums, darling, YOU posed the question. We answered and you chose to reject anything you didn't want to hear. YOU resorted to little grrrrrrrl tactics.
Many of us have dated single moms. Many of us have had numerous negative experiences dating single moms. YOU wanted to know, you were told. Stamping your feet and saying that men's experiences are wrong just doesn't cut it.
so please bugger off!
Such a wonderful, loving, warm attitude.
Has it occurred to you that your status as a single mother may not be your problem with men?
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| Whats wrong with a single parent woman?
Posted: 8/27/2009 7:03:03 PM | hmmmmmmmmmmmm puglist am i not gadget...
Thanks for being such a dutch uncle in my forum that I thought i did start and thought I was attempting to obliterate . The incendiaries here have said what they wanted, and i've rebuttled what i wanted..so refocusing is not a bad idea.. but once again...once i was a smidge ignorant on the subject..but as the Op feel im definitely feeling refreshed on the subject of exactly "WHATS WRONG WITH A SINGLE PARENT WOMAN". | |
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| Whats wrong with a single parent woman?
Posted: 8/27/2009 7:09:12 PM | | Okay. I'm not sure if I should be insulted by your statement. Trying to remain positive here....hmmm, a single mom should be able to cook. I know that is just going to get me in trouble. Flame away. | |
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| Whats wrong with a single parent woman?
Posted: 8/27/2009 7:17:05 PM | im tired of re-explaining myself.. i have no want to repeat myself once again to the last few who've tried to make themselves look better by attempting to make me look less than they...
Again, i've said what i've wanted and definitely heard what i wanted to. The End.   | |
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| Whats wrong with a single parent woman?
Posted: 8/27/2009 11:01:43 PM | | Not a thing wrong with it. Personally, I'm comfortable dating women without or with children. I know a lot of guys dont go with women with children because they think they cannot afford them. I believe it is more of a financial deal than most anything. Most guys simply believe they cannot afford a wife and children. . | |
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| Whats wrong with a single parent woman?
Posted: 8/28/2009 12:29:05 AM | | Dude, you said it all. Thanks! Some skank got knocked up by some douche during her "Bad Boy" phase and we're supposed to help raise her **stards? No THANKS. Let them strip and live off the Government tit until they become medical/ dental assistants on taxpayer funded student loans and demand respect after defiling themselves for $1s and $5s. All you stupid 22-25 year old skanks wanting a "tattooed guy" here's your future...lovely isn't it? I've yet to see one "b#$@h in Vegas to defy this stereotype | |
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| Whats wrong with a single parent woman?
Posted: 8/28/2009 1:14:31 AM | | problems with dating single mums ive dated single mum once and she was a really possesive person as you can expect from a typical american attauide she had wanted things her own way no thanks she had the drama in her life and she a very jelousey person of things and to be honest these woman get knocked up with bad guy then they come screaming why should people these woman a go in life forget it | |
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| Whats wrong with a single parent woman?
Posted: 8/28/2009 5:02:52 PM | | i have a son who is 6 at the moment and i didnt get knocked up by a bad boy... hes actually a normal guy, we just didnt work out, it happens......i would not expect any one else to pay for my child or look after my son, he has a father who does that for him....if i did ever meet someone, they would not meet my child until we figured out if the relationship was going anywhere.....on the other side of it, if the person i met had the view that i was out looking for a replacement dad and a walking atm then they didnt get to know who i was and are therefore not worth my time and effort..... | |
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| Whats wrong with a single parent woman?
Posted: 8/29/2009 2:36:46 AM | How about the fact that if the man were seen as a father-like figure, she can go after him for child support.
Gotta love the equitable doctrine of estoppel. | |
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| Whats wrong with a single parent woman?
Posted: 8/29/2009 2:44:04 AM | jenny,
Clearly nothing is wrong with you as a single Mom...or single Mom's in general. Take a gander at the posters that have taken the opportunity to openly bash single women with children in this thread you started.. The dialogue and comments were as perdictable if you were to dangle raw meat on a stick in front of a pack of wolves..
Didn't ya know...men are the victims?....life is tough for them these days..
They are really kinda confused.....the alpha male?....or the victim?...but rest assured they are thinking the exact same thing.....which persona they take on will cost them less when it comes to $ and cents? | |
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| Whats wrong with a single parent woman?
Posted: 9/7/2009 8:54:26 PM | | Yes, it that. Really. Dating a woman with children invloves a much heavier commitment than dating a woman without children. Some men--many men--don't want to take that. That's their right. | |
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| Whats wrong with a single parent woman?
Posted: 9/11/2009 4:01:23 PM |
Why do single parents even question this?
Before I had my son, I would never have been interested in men with children! I dont expect single childless men to be interested in me.
You made your choices, as I did, to have your children. Live with it. Some have chosen to wait, and they are entitled to that. Some have chosen to not want to raise others children, and they are entitled to that....as you were entitled to make your choices. Get over it and focus on meeting men who want the situation you are in.
I just dont see why any single parent would expect childless singles to want to be in thier situation...it is a difficult role!
Some of the comments made here, although crudely written, are bang on-there are issues with dating single parents that just are not part of the equation with childless people, and we are all entitled to choose which situation suits us best, without being judged for it.
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