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Posted: 8/8/2009 5:40:47 AM | your meyers briggs and what appears to be a goal driven personality in your profile, off the cuff, makes me wonder if you are taking these comments too literally. sometimes, with a relationship, you just gotta "be".
maybe there is a ceiling or limit on "goals" and "acheivements" and "doing". maybe they just want to "be" with you. i myself used to be very goal driven. part of "being" involved trust-- and implicit in that, vulnerablity-- and underlying that, strength.
there is a balance between being and doing, not a a limit or a ceiling. however, there is a limit as to how many hours in a day and days in a week, et al. so, that gets down to priorities. sometimes, the cats have to play second fiddle to your man--and vice versa for whatever absorbs his fancy and his comparable responsibilities.
yes, often responsibilties are "chosen". but, so are the people in your life to hold dear to your heart. i had a dog, who died last week, who could have been a companion animal. he demanded a lot of my attention and he protected me and was very "bonded". he was a herding dog, flat coated retriever mix. with him absent, i see now how much more time i can devote to who i am with of the human variety.
still another dog and another three cats and lots of wildlife in my world--but, all are not quite as demanding as my lukie. in that sense, my time was limited when he was alive. same with when my kids were fost/adopted and living at home with all their post trauma issues and their struggles to grow and often blame "mom".
now, i can just "be". it took me long enough to get here, all the while chasing my tail-- and loving it!
i believe we are in our bodies for three reasons: to learn, to serve and to love. the last one is the simplest, yet we make it so difficult for ourselves to deserve it and to exercize it. too many other things on our "to do" list. this is just my opinion. take what you want and leave the rest.
to bed, up all nite talking. i suppose it was another form of love. | |
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Posted: 8/8/2009 6:16:19 AM | | Endless love, ask the heart, only it knows such things. You can try to question it, analyze it, define it, but still it comes back to what you can feel with your heart and then finding it goes on and on and on. | |
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Posted: 8/8/2009 6:43:43 AM |
Perhaps he feels he's playing second fiddle to the felines.
That was enough to cause me concern and not to date either of these men. What it translated to me is I do not want you to have any other interests that take up your time. Retired to me does not mean lounging my life away on some beach.. I might enjoy that for a week and after that would be bored out of my tree. I have my hands in many projects (aside from just cats) that I love and hope he would also.
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Posted: 8/8/2009 7:45:40 AM |
There's a possession limit and a daily catch limit, as far as I know. You can have two in the boat and one on the line, but no more than six in your possession at any time, including love in transit and storage. There are size limitations as well. I think only one of your loves is allowed to be really big, and any that are very small should be thrown back. It has something to do with the time of year, but I forget the dates.
Your capacity to love others is indeed endless. It's helping them move furniture that puts a practical limit on how the love can be expressed. People who own pick-up trucks learn this before the rest.
As for how big love can get, the size to which it can grow, in any given instance with one person in particular, you're stuck within their capacity to accept it. People won't let you love them bigger than they can fit it into their heart. What's left over gets used for poems.
This is bang on....that is why I fish in the middle of the night, drive a convertible and write lots of poetry....I just have too much love with no way to show it, prove it or share it - except in poems that is!!!
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Posted: 8/8/2009 8:30:17 AM |
your meyers briggs and what appears to be a goal driven personality in your profile, off the cuff, makes me wonder if you are taking these comments too literally. sometimes, with a relationship, you just gotta "be".
Thanks Serenity it is something I do concern myself with and perhaps I do get somewhat overly concerned when I hear people make these type of comments..
I liked something I read on a fellow poster's profile so am posting it here I believe it was dnto's. I find that really hit home for me.
"You don’t stop doing the things you love to do because you get old, you get old because you stop doing the thing you love to do…"
I will be old when I can no longer do those things I really love to do. Until that time I will keep on ticking and taking a lickin.. lol
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Posted: 8/8/2009 3:52:34 PM | | well, as i said, given the limits of time, we all have to develop our priorities. i must make sure my own behaviour is not on auto pilot and i revisit my own paradigm every so often! not saying you should give up yours for his 24/7 either. need private time and shared time. i guess it's easier when the shared time is something that you both enjoy doing--and then there's the "being". that part can get very creative with a "good" partner. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 6:35:35 AM | | Define LOVE. People who say:" I will always love you!" are "romantics" whatever that means. My definition of LOVE is it's Reflection of one's EGO and NEEDS. People want to be with beautiful ones because it pleases their ego and they need affection and/or sex, whatever comes first. However, everyone has shortcomings and it's annoying. So, after a while people get annoyed with each other. To be in love and to be loved is beautiful - that is what everyone is after. But when people get irritated with each other for a long period of time, Love is gone. Or when a man (in most cases) have discovered a woman, he gets bored and wants to discover another one. It is just his NATURE. And there is nothing that woman can do to change his feelings towards her. Some women go after plastic surgeries to change the situation, it's just desparate and pathetic. Yet, there are men who are capable of loving a woman for a long period of time. Most women just get attached to a man and they think they love him. I am sure that many just do not know what LOVE is. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 6:40:35 AM |
I just have too much love with no way to show it,
Well jeepers Ms actualizing ...
Trust me on this.............
I got some mighty fine suggestions........!!!
---SoldierByte--- | |
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