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Posted: 8/13/2009 7:03:21 PM | Very reasonable response, SB. Must be that European thing.
How do I know? Because I am that guy you talked about.
I seems to me, after numerous POF messages, private emails, meeting for drinks for 1-2 hours, most women know what kind of guy they're dealing with. I see nothing wrong with inviting someone over for dinner and a movie. I do it all the time. I've never had anyone decline my offer, unless they had already invited ME over to their place.
No one has ever left until late ,and NO ONE has ever filed a police report on me
I don't, in any way, see it as an invitation for sex. A relationship becomes intimate when you are both ready for it to, if at all .
For the thread starter, if you're still out there: Hang in there bud. You can't please everybody.
For those who saw fit in ripping him a new one: He was upfront and honest, and very forthcoming. Much more than I care to be. You should have cut him some more slack,..
unless you just enjoy being difficult.
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Posted: 8/13/2009 7:10:20 PM | | I dont cut anyone any slack who chooses to bed a woman who is clearly not in complete control of her faculties, then comes on a dating site to brag about it, no less. Is that how you expect men to treat your sister?? Guys down at the pool hall might find it ok to cut this wannabe cassanova some slack, but decent men and women find that behavior immoral and reprehensible. | |
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| When is it appropriate to take the step of inviting new friend home for dinner/movie?
Posted: 8/13/2009 7:20:13 PM | If what you say is true, then Mr. Cassanova was drinking excessively while taking his cialis, something I dont think they recommend and until the rendezvous in her boudoir, where the "attack" came as a surprise, expected to get in his car and drive home after brunch completely inebriated. Ya sure.
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| When is it appropriate to take the step of inviting new friend home for dinner/movie?
Posted: 8/13/2009 7:51:22 PM | I think oh somewhere around the fourth date is okay unless you have children at home at the time and then I would probably wait.
I think your right though it is a really nice way to get to know someone and it is a lot of fun cooking with someone else.
Whenever you feel comfortable and maybe you want to to put this person at ease first so they don't feel they are walking into a situation that they weren't ready for yet.
I am going to get on my podium for just a minute:
Try a Neti pot or a nasal irrigator they work wonders for chronic sinusitis and allergies .
I use one after I mow the lawn and when I shower or bathe in the morning.
Its like a little tea pot and you put warm water and a 1/2 tsp of fine sea salt in it put it in one nostril and tip your head back and to the side while you are doing it and it is phenominal. at first it may feel weird but just slow your breathing down and keep yourself calm . Sometimes they have little salt packets that come with this I have not had a sinus infection in 4 years. Use 1/2 the pot for one side and the other for the other side. | |
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| When is it appropriate to take the step of inviting new friend home for dinner/movie?
Posted: 8/14/2009 8:01:28 PM | If I know the person from several dates , in other word I have to case the person that he is not JackTheRipper then, I'd invite him to my house for a nice dinner... But it doesn't man that we are already *ON* .... and vice versa, I don't go to a man's place unless I know him very well.
People have to be cautious on people that they hardly knew.... | |
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Posted: 8/18/2009 9:19:01 AM | | Wow, has this thread ever been enlightening! lol. I was with the OP for the first little bit of his thread. Yes, you really can do just dinner/movie at someone's house, but only after very careful screening. I can ususally pick out the wolves in sheep's clothing right out of the gate. Where I think the OP went wrong, was to then post about two women that he slept with within hours of each other. That makes him look like a manwhore to be quite honest. If I was reading his profile and postings, I would most certainly not even entertain the idea of dating him as he sounds like he has "serviced" quite a few gals. Not the type of man I seek. Our OP does in fact sound like an intelligent gentleman, but I think he needs to clear some things out in his own mind. If one wishes quality, one must present that way. jmho | |
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Posted: 8/18/2009 9:58:55 AM | He is one of those that talks the talk, but does not walk the walk moonie......
There is no need to promote yourself about your sexual escapades, and did we not already talk about the topic of not caring about how many partners one has had? You would not even know about his servicing others, unless he brought it up, and in my mind, a man would not do that if true, and be much more discreet.
I am sure moonie that you can tell those wolves right away, but much harder to figure out those of us that are eagles and fly silently until the right time to enjoy our target, or they us......
OT........Once the meet and greet has happened, and you had at least one date getting to know each other, inviting that person over for dinner and a movie is more than appropriate. If other things are to happen, that discussion should have already started, and all the ground rules laid before you two get laid......smiles
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Posted: 8/18/2009 10:10:06 AM |
am sure moonie that you can tell those wolves right away, but much harder to figure out those of us that are eagles and fly silently until the right time to enjoy our target, or they us......
Not many eagles of interest seem to fly in these here Canadian skies Mr. Deac!
 Maybe I need to move!
OT: You are correct Deac, in that the OP had no need to show off his sexual escapades. It has totally discredited what his original intent was. Sure, I know sex happens on a first meet. But not always. And NOT always when a gal/guy asks you over for dinner and a move, errr, I mean movie! | |
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Posted: 8/18/2009 11:02:12 AM |
I have had the experience of a first date that went out of control. In fact recently for Sunday brunch this very good looking very tall blonde asked me over to her place after a couple of hours of rich brunch and too many bloddy marys. Well, I'm not unhappy to say that as she showed me through her beautiful new home, the last stop was her bedroom where she practically tackled me! I said, Babe, take it easy! Let's get nekked first! LOL! A good time was had and we haven't seen each other since. AND, NO; I do NOT feel the least bit guilty about what happended. I don't feel cheapened, violated or any other negative emotion. In fact, when I think of it, I Grin from ear to ear
My question is did you tell your various dinner dates about this too?
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Posted: 8/18/2009 11:55:46 AM | Okay... I just came back to this thread (posted on the first page, I think).
Did more reading and now I see that the OP is quite the "wolf in sheep's clothing".
OR maybe OP is just doing a bit of "brag fantasizing"? Lying, in other words.
I caught this from one post about the blond that came up to you, and you went to her home and had a sexual encounter:
A good time was had and we haven't seen each other since.
And this from a later post about this blond:
When we spoke of our time together a couple of days later...
OOOOoooooooooooooookay. You didn't keep your story straight!
Far as I'm concerned, now nothing you said on this thread can be trusted.
It was a good topic, until you kept adding to it and showed your real intentions. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2009 12:20:12 PM |
OOOOoooooooooooooookay. You didn't keep your story straight!
Hi Breath,
Not really he never stated he saw her again only that he spoke with her? However agree he does sound like "a wolf in sheep's clothing"
When we spoke of our time together a couple of days later she admitted that she was in need and that she found me very "appealing." I was just grateful that the Cialis I use was still kickin from the night before with someone else! Bet you like me even less now? LOL!
Well your not exactly endearing!! 
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Posted: 8/18/2009 12:57:41 PM |
Not really he never stated he saw her again only that he spoke with her?
Oh brother.
Sorry, I still see it as a discrepancy.
To brag of a wild "one-nighter" with someone, and then end the story with "a good time was had and we haven't seen each other since"...
in my mind doesn't mean we talked on the phone later!
But maybe my mind is just too untrusting when faced with a braggart.
Or maybe my mind is just too tired & grumpy right now, had a very busy day and I'm plumb worn out. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2009 1:05:29 PM | To the OP: Fully agree that there is no need to brag about the frequency and nature of your services.
I wouldn't suggest to proceed to quickly at the initial coffee meet, but a second date - dinner or vigorous walk, followed by a hot shower in her place, is a good opportunity to proceed with the more intense exploration. In my experience, an invitation for a home cooked dinner is due after having sex on a previous date.
That way, when there is an invitation to a home cooked meal, there is no pressure and you can enjoy cooking and playing in the kitchen together. And you both know, that the dessert will be served in the bedroom. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2009 1:20:38 PM | In fact recently for Sunday brunch this very good looking very tall blonde asked me over to her place after a couple of hours of rich brunch and too many bloddy marys. Well, I'm not unhappy to say that as she showed me through her beautiful new home, the last stop was her bedroom
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I have to admit that I was offered and accepted also several invitations and home tours. Although I usually do not succumb to the sexual overtures on the first date, I enjoy being invited to the home of a nice lady. You can observe and learn a lot during such a visit. Having experienced a few unpleasant episodes with pets, I usually check for misbehaved cats and dogs. If a cat walks on the kitchen counter or a dining table, I leave quickly without eating anything in that house. And if the pets sleep on her bed, I keep out of that room, and attempt the steer the hostess to the kitchen table or her bathroom. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2009 2:34:45 PM | So what, he had sex.
Who's to say he is a dirt bag? Maybe those women just saw him as a human BOB.
Good grief people we're not teenagers. We don't have to worry about our "reputations" anymore.
I don't see how a woman having a few drinks and asking the OP for sex means he took advantage of her. Sounds like they both wanted it...
And as for him having sex with another woman soon after? Again, his business.
I also don't see him as bragging. I see him as getting a bit too comfortable in his posting..forgetting he's not talking to his buddies here. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2009 3:27:29 PM | I have had the experience of a first date that went out of control. In fact recently for Sunday brunch this very good looking very tall blonde asked me over to her place after a couple of hours of rich brunch and too many bloddy marys. Well, I'm not unhappy to say that as she showed me through her beautiful new home, the last stop was her bedroom where she practically tackled me! I said, Babe, take it easy! Let's get nekked first! LOL! A good time was had and we haven't seen each other since. AND, NO; I do NOT feel the least bit guilty about what happended. I don't feel cheapened, violated or any other negative emotion. In fact, when I think of it, I Grin from ear to ear
My question is did you tell your various dinner dates about this too?
LOL they will all know now,right there on his profile! | |
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Posted: 8/18/2009 3:53:32 PM | FFs my sister in crime! Who really cares what the OP has done in his past?
Do I or should I give a rats hinney? No I don't! lol
The whole point of the OP'S thread was if you could invite someone over to dinner and be chaste. Dinner only, no sexual expectations. OK then, paint me stupid cuz I think it is quite possible. But? Then our dearest OP starts bosting about getting porked within hours between two women? Wth does that have to do with the thread? I get we are all adults here and are more than capable of doing what we wish with whom we want to. But don't start a thread with one train of thought and move on to another in it. You listen girlie, want me come over there and spank yur butt? | |
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