| Putting the Cart before the horse
Posted: 10/28/2009 3:08:37 PM | | I request a few emails, then move to the phone. If I don't care for the phone conversations, I move to the couch to watch TV. | |
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| Putting the Cart before the horse
Posted: 10/28/2009 4:42:57 PM | ...
anyway. much ado about nothing.
if her wheel was off her car on the highway. or his tip were not appreciable at the restaurant. the nice person routine which gets her tire replaced or gets her knowledge of his economic situation that much closer or farther from what be most appealing to either. and that is do the person which replace the tire or bring her to smile have respect as a tire replacer or good company. and in that moment were respects exchanged. what ever purpose more grand may be potent of those common or pressing circumstances which show human respect ...and not only intent to get in her bed or his bank account. | |
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| Putting the Cart before the horse
Posted: 10/28/2009 4:45:05 PM | ...
people that show respect generally are given respect. ... unless....now think about this. ...unless their purposes are not to meet someone at all...but to pretend to be wanting to meet someone...for an alternative purpose. | |
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| Putting the Cart before the horse
Posted: 10/28/2009 4:49:00 PM | ...
as for my self. i would not want to think that tradition and modernity relate to have us hanging blindly by the curtain in the meat market for a sale which grant no life.
sex is not going to keep you bonded if mind and feelings are absent.
minds are not going to bind if body and feeling are absent.
feelings are not going to bind if feelings change to minds thought and will and divide purposes of persons.
balance is required. self knowledge enables to show the other what you bring to balance.
be well | |
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| Putting the Cart before the horse
Posted: 10/28/2009 4:53:06 PM | ...
nor would i partner for money or estate.
intimacy. thats where it is at. intimacy.
intimacy is the horse which bring the carriage of purpose for rest or mobility.
intimacy is a must for relationship to endure in our busy stressfull contradictional social environments. | |
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| Putting the Cart before the horse
Posted: 10/29/2009 7:21:51 PM | | Let me see....today I have recieved two from a cross dresser....the first time I turned him down he asked me if I like women and sent me a picture of him dressed up as a woman. I just received one with a phone number. No name. Out of my area but a phone number...these are just a dip in the barrel.......I have stories that make your toes fall off your feet.....and their even true........ | |
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| Putting the Cart before the horse
Posted: 10/30/2009 9:10:21 AM | My phone number is widely available to the public on my site, and from years of advertising and participation in other special interest forums. I am not too worried about stalkers. The most recent one was someone I had known online for maybe seven years, suddenly became irrational when he came out to LA on business and I did not want to meet him for dinner. I called him on it and he denied but the wee hours of the dark of night phone calls stopped shortly afterward.
I just don't think statistically there are that many whackos out there. I think there are a TON of men who are not as single as they say they are, but whackos, no. Anyone wants my number that don't sound half bad in their profile and messages, no problem. I would rather talk than type anyhow. Cuts to the chase, both ways. | |
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| Putting the Cart before the horse
Posted: 10/30/2009 9:35:33 AM | It's all part of this online process . It helps to find someone that sees things through roughly the same eyes .
Everyone has differing ideas about how they want to go about getting to know the people they've contacted ( or been contacted by) online.
There's instant gratification folks , those that like a long slow build-up , and others at all points in between .
I'm not at all paranoid - but on the other hand , because I happen to have a good telephone voice , I've had a couple phone "stalkers". Nothing horribly threatening - but mostly a pain-in-the-butt !
So as some others here have stated , I like abit of email back and forth first ( maybe a few days ), before moving to the phone . And I do all the initial calling after first blocking my ID . If some key questions are asked , each step along the way can yield all sorts of helpful info , and can save all kinds of wasted time by revealing significant road blocks - or not .
But of course bottom line always is the face-to-face . Works .... or doesn't !
If it's a struggle to agree from the very first contact - that's generally a sign to me to keep on goin' !
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| Putting the Cart before the horse
Posted: 10/30/2009 11:02:51 AM | | If requested for email, yahoo id, or phone number, I just give them my yahoo id to chat (IM) online. That gives us time to get to know each other. Then if things are going well, they give me their phone number and we talk on the phone. Yahoo (IM) chat can last a day or two or several days. If a problem occurs, you have the option to block them from Yahoo. But I don't do the emailing thing that often. I would rather yahoo (IM) chat. I seem to only do the emailing thing on POF with men who do not intend to meet. I also will initiate the yahoo (IM) chat idea. Most men want to get right to the point of getting to know that person. They feel if the woman doesn't want to yahoo (IM) chat or talk on phone, they're not that interested; just killing time emailing until someone else comes along (what some of the men on here have told me). I figure that I'm over half-way to dead. (lol) No time to be dragging things out. | |
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| Putting the Cart before the horse
Posted: 10/30/2009 11:16:37 AM | | If I find or feel a connection with a lady here on POF (gee, that hasn't happened in a long time!) after a few emails on the site, I prefer to move to private emails. (I don't do "IM"s). For one thing, you can exchange more pictures...not necessarily of yourself, as required on this site, but of your surroundings, your life style, etc...sort of getting to know more about each other. If that works, then maybe a phone call? I'd be the first to offer my email address, then phone number, because I feel it shows sincerity. I won't ask for the lady's. If she cares to give it, in response to me giving mine, that's her choice. If she chooses to use mine to "stalk" me, well, that could be interesting, too! Never been "stalked"! | |
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