| help asking out a girl at the office
Posted: 8/14/2009 6:14:38 PM | | Do you like your job? Do you want to LOSE your job? Do you want to KEEP your job? Have you ever heard the term "sexual harrassment"? If you want to stay employed and your job is important to you.. stop stop stop looking at co-workers. Go date and pursue women elsewhere. | |
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| help asking out a girl at the office
Posted: 8/14/2009 7:33:01 PM | | It all depends on how much you care about your job. If the job doesn't mean too much to you then go for it. Otherwise the unpleasantness of always being around someone that rejects you harshly is pretty bad. | |
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| help asking out a girl at the office
Posted: 8/15/2009 3:26:51 AM | | hey OP, don't sh*t where you eat. but if you don't want to follow this sound advice i received from my Chief Warrant Officer, go ahead and do it. if things don't work out as you planned, i hope you've updated your resume because you're a*s will be looking for a new job. | |
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| help asking out a girl at the office
Posted: 8/26/2009 6:55:58 PM | Oh, please... Lets just live our lives afraid of taking a chance. Ive had great relationships with co-workers both during and after we stopped seeing eachother. So there... You cant live your life afraid.
Casually ask her if shes going out with the others to the bar. She say's she hadent heard anything about it and then say you assumed she had and that she should be there for a laugh with the others. Be sure and tell her when and where and then when she shows up alone and you are the only one there, well, guess the others couldnt make it... All your bases are covered. You thought there was a planned party and if she is interrested, than she will gladly stay and get to know you better. Dont be a p***y! Go for it!
Then again, theres always the submarine races! | |
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| help asking out a girl at the office
Posted: 8/27/2009 5:58:01 AM | | Women have it so much easier because Love always just comes to them, us Men always have to fight tooth and nail for it. | |
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| help asking out a girl at the office
Posted: 8/27/2009 10:58:06 AM | Drusurfer06: Dude,something is wrong with you.You post the same thing over and over in just about every thread.
As for the OP,unless you are sure she is "the one," the risks outweigh the benefits. | |
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| help asking out a girl at the office
Posted: 8/27/2009 11:20:46 PM | OP: Take the good advice given by those who stated that dating in the workplace is NOT , and never is, a good idea.
Keep the business/work life and personal life separate. | |
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| help asking out a girl at the office
Posted: 8/28/2009 6:20:37 AM | | I know it is Tradition, it has always been that way, but still, it sucks when you are a guy and you don't know how to do it. | |
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| help asking out a girl at the office
Posted: 8/29/2009 5:51:21 PM | You have a crush. How cute :P Balls. Its all about confidence man. Get in there and ask her out. If you do it in front of her friends, you won't just get to take her out, you will get browning points.
Her friends will talk to her because they will know, and that my friend is a great thing. :) | |
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| help asking out a girl at the office
Posted: 8/29/2009 8:43:56 PM | Dont ask out a co-worker? Dont listen to that BS.
I asked out a girl at my office, she said no and that was that. The next day we just went on as if I never asked her out. Now we are really good friends and we talk about it sometimes. A situation is only awkward if you make it so. The office is a great place to meet women. BTW, asking a woman if she wants to go out once is not sexual harassment. Grow up. | |
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| help asking out a girl at the office
Posted: 8/31/2009 2:49:36 PM | | It would not surprise me if us men are still expected to take the initiative and ask the woman out, make the first move, for at least another thousand or million years. | |
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| help asking out a girl at the office
Posted: 8/31/2009 2:55:44 PM | I once dated a girl where I worked... after we decided it wasn't going to work, it got akward as hell.
Eventually after I got away from that job, we're able to talk and be friendly but...
Dating a girl at work causes many things to happen...
One, you see each other way too damn much...
"Things" can happen at work....
EVERYBODY knows your business and they know everything.
When it ends, refer back to EVERYBODY.
Even my pet pig poo's far far away from his food friend. | |
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| help asking out a girl at the office
Posted: 8/31/2009 10:23:08 PM | OP: Depends on so many different things. I'd agree with others that have said take it very slow and be prepared for the worst -- just in case. I've had situations where things went badly but we didn't work closely enough for it to cause a problem but I've also had cases where it worked out great.
A few things for the other posters:
I've worked with a woman who was EXTREMELY flirty. After knowing her at work for quite a while at work, I found out she had previously filed a sexual harassment lawsuit on the company. Stopped me in my tracks completely -- even from asking if she wanted to have coffee.
I've also been called onto the carpet and warned about sexual harassment -- for asking for a ride home when I had car problems. I asked if anyone in an office (4 people -- 1 man, 3 women) was going my way, everyone said no, I said thanks anyway and looked elsewhere. The next morning, I found out one of the women had viewed it as sexual harassment.
ANYBODY can report you for harassment -- and you don't have to even be around them. In many companies, just the report is enough to get you fired. Just like lots of lawsuits these days, sometimes it's just an attempt to get money to "settle" or a better position in the company. | |
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| help asking out a girl at the office
Posted: 9/1/2009 1:49:48 AM | Drusurfer06, I'm going to tell you something, that is to be used ONLY in this situation... and only this one time...
Let her initiate it, it will save you a lot of pain and trouble. | |
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| help asking out a girl at the office
Posted: 9/1/2009 10:49:11 AM | | This is something I think you should handle on a case by case basis. If she is the love of your life, you two can always get different jobs. But if it is just a fling and you don't want the whole world knowing your business, that might be another matter. Only you can answer that question. | |
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