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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/12/2009 12:17:38 PM | She thinks you are fun, but for some reason doesn't want to f*ck you.
You know how women have gay (male homosexual) friend?
You are basically that to her.
Sounds harsh. But thats how I take it when this happens to me. | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/12/2009 12:20:23 PM | | I have an ex-husband who had called me from time to time over the years (we've been divorced for over 20 years). He was suddenly calling me almost daily a few months back. I thought it was a little odd that he was suddenly calling so often until he made a vulgar remark to me during the last phone call. I blew it off and simply stopped answering the phone after that. While he wasn't "getting married" he is living with someone. I can only assume he thought we were going to have a fling. He thought wrong. Sounds like this gal is attempting the same thing with you. | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/12/2009 12:43:31 PM |
Isn't kind of weird considering that they're getting married and still calling you? It shows some signs that they're still interested in you?
You were her "starter marriage".
Now you're her fluffer.
Grow a pair, and move on.... | |
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Posted: 8/12/2009 1:00:49 PM | Honestly OP, this calling and using you as backup could go on for years. Stop it now. Dont answer her. She deserves nothing from you.
I had an ex call me off an on for 2.5 years, trying to hook back up. These crazies can go on forever, looking for their "emotional" fix. She's told you there isnt a chance of you guys hooking up again, tell her she is sick and to leave you alone. Does the fiance know she is calling you? Bet that would be a bit of useful information for him. He would make her quit calling you. | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/12/2009 1:08:52 PM | Why don't you put a stop to this. Call her fiance and ask him to tell her to stop contacting you. Tell him 'man to man' that you feel that her actions are disrespectful to him, and honor requires you to let him know that the woman he is getting ready to walk down the aisle with and share his life, home and money with is attempting to cheat on him before the ring is even on her finger. Tell him she did the same to you, and you don't want see him go though the same thing.
Reassure him that you want nothing to do with her, that you are not doing the calling. Just tell him that you are giving him a 'heads-up' as a man.
Be prepared for an angry phone call or two from her. But I'd personally just laugh them off. She gets what she deserves. She is a dishonest, cheating tramp, and no man should be saddled with her.
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/12/2009 8:08:05 PM | Thanks everyone for your support and advices.
I am doing ok now....I am trying to get busy and keep my mind occupied.
As for going back home, I can't. I moved 300 miles away for two reasons--to continue my education and to find happiness. | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/12/2009 9:26:46 PM | I've had two ex-boyfriends cheat on me and both of them married the person they cheated with, and then started a family with that person. A few years ago, they both contacted me on flippin' myspace within days of each other. Talk about creepy. They both gave me the same story that they were sorry, they had something good with me, they missed me, blah, blah, blah. They still attempt to contact me at random times, but I don't respond to them.
Fast forward to my husband of nearly 6 years leaving me for someone else. Guess what? Same damn story that the other two ex's told me--minus the kids and marrying the person he left me for...but it was close.
It's been over two years since my divorce. I admit that I still have love for the ex-husband because we have a mini-minion, but I do not actually love him. Would I take him back? Hell no. The only reason I still stay in contact with him is because we have a mini-minion. | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/13/2009 1:58:49 AM |
Have you ever had an ex who cheated on you, broke up with you, still calls you from time to time, and maintains communication? On top of that, they are getting married with that guy.
First of all, I know some of you might say that you are still friends with your ex, or there an ex for a reason. Isn't kind of weird considering that they're getting married and still calling you? It shows some signs that they're still interested in you? Trying to found out what's going on with your life.
Just because someone cheated does not mean that they lost all feelings for their partner.
Plus, it's quite possible that they feel guilt at what they did.
yes my x still rings me and texts me.and im glad he does if that means hes still interseted.
I feel the same way whenever any of my exes do that, although I don't think they do it because they are still interested in having a relationship. They probably do it because they wish to remains friends with me, despite all that may have happened and regardless of who the 'guilty' party was. | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/13/2009 4:51:31 AM | | My ex still calls me, usually to moan about his life or whatever he always seems shot down when i don't wanna hear it but at the end of the day he's an ex for a reason! | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/15/2009 4:15:17 PM | You know what....
I made a mistake again. Today I picked up two of her calls. The first call she wanted to know how I was doing with my life in Orlando. I played it cool and calm and said, "I am doing good. I am calm. No drama. No problems." She was telling me that her current boyfriend had some problem with her cousin. Some false accusations, but she said she didn't care. She said that she's only worried about herself. Then I interrupted in the middle of her talking and I said, "Are you worried about me too?" and she replied back with, "This is why I called, right?" Again, she just puts everything in my face like all of the previous phone conversations I had with her. She was telling me how she went to the club with her current boyfriend's mother yesterday and that she got drunk for the past three days.
There was no arguments. A little bruce here and there. It was just a normal conversation. I played it cool and calm.
Then the second call was a few hours later. She called me informing me that she bought a new car. The car of her dreams, the Chrysler 300. I was kind of surprised and told her 'Congratulations, I am proud of you'.
After six months as friends, and one year and half as her boyfriend, I tried to open her eyes a bit. I was trying to inspire her to better her life like going back to school and getting a car. I guess I wasn't enough for her. My opinion doesn't count.
Anyways, further to the conversation, we started an argument when I said, "Would you give me a ride?" You know, it was just a joke. She replied with a "no" and I said why. She replied back with 'Never. You will never get a ride." I told her, "Do you hate me that much". She said yes. I asked her why and she said because I treated her like crap and that I was regret to her. Her feelings towards me was a regret. She told me I was a "whatever" to her. At this point, she's was blaming everything on me. She never protected my sanity. Never protected my feelings toward certain things. Disrespected me when I had something planed with her and she ended up with her friends and her current boyfriend.
Then I asked her, "Why do you keep mentioning his name in front of me? Are you trying to get me jealous?" She said no. Again, she was putting everything in my face saying that she is getting married in a very expensive banquet hall and she's happy...blah...blah..blah...She said that she changed a lot and that now she's going to act like a **** to everyone. At this point, I was disappointed because if she's going to be that way, she will have a lot of problems with people.
Anyways, after she was telling me everything in my face, I had enough. I told her that she made the best decision of her life. She reacted with a "woooooow..." She was pulling back trying to act tough and wanted to hang up. She doesn't care for me or care for my feelings. All she is doing is harming herself.
Then I said, "You cheated on me. What goes around comes around." She said, "And? I don't care. Nothing is coming around here. If he cheats on me. I don't really care." You see what I mean, she doesn't even love that guy and she claims she does.
Look, I know I made mistakes with her because my anger took over me, but how I possibly be happy if she didn't protect my sanity against her family and friends? We were in a mentally-abused relationship. The reason why our relationship failed because her friends and family didn't approve our relationship. They assumed things about me without even getting to know me. They wanted her to be unhappy for some odd reason. She even told me herself that her family in Miami are bunch of hypocrites and gold diggers. That's why she's currently lives in cape coral, which is like two hours away from Miami.
It's unbelievable how you know someone like the back of your hands only to be confused by their actions and the words that comes out of their mouth. It's like Satan has taken over them. | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/15/2009 4:45:33 PM | Rest assured she's building up a karmic debt. Payback is just around the corner.
Stop contacting her, you're keeping her alive in your mind, you have to move on for your own health and sanity. You're worth more than this BS. She is poison, rotten to the core. Best of luck. | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/15/2009 4:52:06 PM | Girlfriends come girlfriends go ... some want to stay friends and some just can't stand the guy they broke up with (or vice versa)
I don't think anyone is train wrecks for breaking up when it is only boy/girl friends. Until there is a full committed relationship.
My kids have had different boy/girl friends before they met the one, so I guess you are just not the one.
If you don't like her calling you, well all you got to do is say so. As far as trying to find out about your life, well some girls are just nosy, no biggie.
Savona | |
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Posted: 8/15/2009 5:07:33 PM | Ya they call occasionally when they want something or email when they are depressed and such but what the hell that is why they originally fell in love with me because I would listen to their crying and give them the most sound advise I could at the time.
Yes they are an EX for a reason and will stay as such but if they are that down to be calling or emailing it does not hurt to at least listen a minute or two.  | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/15/2009 5:45:12 PM | | I am just worried she has it stuck in her head that everything will be perfect for her. Life is not perfect. Relationships are not perfect either. She quit on me and ran away by cheating with some other guy who she claims she'll marry. Before me, she had five relationships. All of them were bad, and three of them fell in love with her. She left them because they were either controlling, abusive or a cheater. On top of that, she didn't feel anything for them. I guess she gave up on love and started to treat relationships like it didn't matter to her. She's accusing me for taking too long to fall in love with her. Ah, after the mental abuse I withstood because her family in Miami accused me for being unfair to her. One of the reasons, besides her family wanting to see her unhappy, why they refused to meet me. | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/15/2009 6:11:11 PM | My ex didn't call me much when we were together, he was cold when he wanted to be, he was interested in other females I believe, he was a girl chaser for sure...
So I would definitely say I don't hear from him.. | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/15/2009 6:21:22 PM | You seem like your a really nice guy! However, your going to have to learn the hard way to cut this one off. No matter what other people tell you; you won't learn until, you feel enough is enough!
When you state that your worried about her and so fourth...
Your enabling her behavior, and this is a negative behavior. She knows how deeply you still care and is using it against you. This is a person you want to stay away from.
We all learn the hard way; most of us lol.
Believe me hunny, leave this one alone.
I had an ex- like her. Actually, just tried calling my cell phone the other day! This is a guy who I dated on and off for along time. It was hard to stay away from him when he kept coming back into my life. He left me hanging at a very vulnerable time in my life. That is when I learned what he was really about. It took a "terrible moment" in my life to make me stop and think! Is this healthy? Does he really love me? If he did, how could he just abandon me like that? So, fourth...
He never cared about me or how he treated me. He only cared about himself and his needs: a true narcissist. You will meet people in your life that aren't good for you. She is one of them. I don't care to talk badly about people, but I believe actions speak louder, than words!
For the person to do this much harm to you. She doesn't love you and probably doesn't know how to love anyone else, except herself!
She is calling you, because she knows she can. She is stringing you along. There are plenty of men and women who do this and it is wrong. They don't care how they treat other people. These are bad people! Don't get involved with this.
My ex called me to tell me he is going to be a father and that he is engaged. I didn't understand why he called me to tell me this. It is known of my business and we hadn't talked in a few years. I told him that is wonderful and he told me that I could call him whenever, that he would like to see me again. Well, I never called him. A few months later he is a father, hasn't gotten married. However, he is calling me complaining about his fiance! I'm like WTF! Anyway, I listen and try to be polite.
He tells me that they broke up. That he still loves me, blah blah... He keeps talking all this bs. I'm thinking what is wrong with this guy, he has a baby with this girl. He needs to man-up, stop talking to me and focus on them. He is still a child in many ways. Anyway, he tells me he will call me again, because he wants to pay for me to come out there. I'm like awww, I see and he tells me to call him. Well, I never called him. I think sometime passes and he gets married. He IM's me out of the blue to tell me this, I said, "Wonderful, I'm very happy for you! Congrads on your little girl!". We leave it at that. Like he is expecting me to be bummed or rub it in my face. That isn't how I took it at all. I'm glad when people are happy, even ones who have burned me in the past. Good for them, however I'm not interested in keeping in touch with this person. I make no effort to contact him and I'm polite when he IM's me.
About 6 months later he IM's me again, tells me how miserable he is... blah blah.. That he wants to call me, but can't do it now because he his wife is there. I'm like what is wrong with you. I don't want to talk to you, I'm not interested in you and I would never talk to a married man. I could never be friends with this person and I don't want to be. I'm way to nice sometimes, and this is what happened, because I didn't speak up for myself. Hunny, you don't want this person interrupting your life later on. I certainly don't. I got rid of AOL and don't pic up his calls, when he calls me.
I don't want anything to do with him. I wish him the best of luck. The best thing for me is to let this one go. He will be fine on his own and never needed me in the past. He just used me. That was one hell of a lesson, that took me awhile to learn.
I wish you the best of luck with yours. God bless! | |
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Posted: 8/15/2009 6:25:22 PM | Ah man Charlie - your still talking to this narcissistic sociopath
and her sociopathic family -
I give up. You cant heal like this.
Why do you feel so obligated to her and her well being? Love?
Listen- she is sick. She has issues. You are getting sucked in by her.
You are not seeing it.
NO CONTACT - she is holding you back from something really good
for you - from healing. From everything - Charlie- she is going
to meet someone AGAIN and leave you.
She is SERIAL. This is what she does. She is searching for a love in her
mind she cannot find - NOT EVEN WITH YOU.
This is a form of CONTROLING you. Staying in touch - making sure if
nothing else better is happening for her you are there.
She is an immature whore. Dont you get it - YOU are suffering because
of her- she could give a shit. She just needs someone to vent too - you
have turned into her GIRLFRIEND.
She is guilting you and blaming you for the demiss of your relationship - she
cant even take the blame for cheating on you- ITS ON HER - ITS HER ACTIONS.
She cheated because she WANTED too.
Charlie - you are staring into a black hole with her. YOU need to cut CONTACT.
I know its killing you - and this is the last time I am posting here to you because
just short of ME flying out there to kick your a ss - you need to see this on
your own. | |
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Posted: 8/15/2009 7:41:13 PM | wow when i saw this i had to respond....
My ex and i were together for over 5 years, engaged for 2 years......anyways he broke up with me out of nowhere...it was rough to say the least....well about 6 months after we broke up he got in contact with me again...we basically became "friends with benefits" to put it nicely for about 5 months...then i broke things off with him b/c i knew we were never going to get back together......well a few weeks ago he texts me to see how im doing b/c he "hadnt heard from me in a while, wanted to see how i was doing". he told me he didnt have a g/f and i found out that hes engaged...so once again he lied to me. i also found out after we broke up that he had cheated on me as well... im pretty sure he was dating this girl when him and i were "friends with benefits". ........it drives me crazy b/c just as i seem to be getting life back together he finds me and buts into my life again.!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 8/15/2009 8:41:25 PM | me and the ex where friends and getting along better then every. untill her daugther wanted to be a beocth toward me again. we still talk and such. i just started to re-think about me and her and getting ready to cut my losses and go away. if she had something to offer, that might make a diff. | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/15/2009 9:22:43 PM | If my ex were ever to contact me, I would be cordial, if terse. I have no ill feelings toward her and genuinely wish her the best in life, but I have no desire to maintain any sort of friendship, either. She broke my heart but good, and the only way to move on is to remove her completely from my life.
Still, if there was something she actually needed to communicate to me, I wouldn't have a problem with her doing that. In fact, I was the one who had to contact her after the break-up because I ealized I had forgotten my camera's memory card in her laptop the last time we were together. She mailed it back with a very nice note. | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/15/2009 9:36:05 PM | Charlie, this and you are pathetic, this is all I can say
lots of folks on here gave you some sound advice, if you're too stupid to see what this woman is all about you deserve the misery she's putting you through.
To which now I have to question you? and why are you wasting people's time, or is it because you love the attention you're getting on here? she's a loser, her family are losers, and unless you're a loser than wait around for her and see if she comes back, and when time passes you by and you're on your death bed after a life a being alone and waiting for some friggen loser who plays games, what then?
You remind me of a former client of mine who kept buying equities ,and he lost his shirt time and time again, every time he asked me, should I buy this stock and I would tell him the same answer time and time again NO. and he buys and then loses money, and then whines about the stock market how it sucks and bleeds you dry. | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/15/2009 10:01:21 PM | | You will have to lose your mind before you come to your senses. Stop losing yourself to her. Gain back some of your self respect by saying NO MORE! Her calling you can be considered stalking. | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/16/2009 5:37:43 AM |
He never cared about me or how he treated me. He only cared about himself and his needs: a true narcissist. You will meet people in your life that aren't good for you. She is one of them. I don't care to talk badly about people, but I believe actions speak louder, than words!
For the person to do this much harm to you. She doesn't love you and probably doesn't know how to love anyone else, except herself!
Well said. I wonder what her motivations are for the continued contact? My guess is she's enjoying playing mind games and deliberately provokes him for fun. She is a dangerous, toxic parasite. AVOID!!!! | |
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