| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/15/2009 9:36:05 PM | Charlie, this and you are pathetic, this is all I can say
lots of folks on here gave you some sound advice, if you're too stupid to see what this woman is all about you deserve the misery she's putting you through.
To which now I have to question you? and why are you wasting people's time, or is it because you love the attention you're getting on here? she's a loser, her family are losers, and unless you're a loser than wait around for her and see if she comes back, and when time passes you by and you're on your death bed after a life a being alone and waiting for some friggen loser who plays games, what then?
You remind me of a former client of mine who kept buying equities ,and he lost his shirt time and time again, every time he asked me, should I buy this stock and I would tell him the same answer time and time again NO. and he buys and then loses money, and then whines about the stock market how it sucks and bleeds you dry. | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/15/2009 10:01:21 PM | | You will have to lose your mind before you come to your senses. Stop losing yourself to her. Gain back some of your self respect by saying NO MORE! Her calling you can be considered stalking. | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/16/2009 5:37:43 AM |
He never cared about me or how he treated me. He only cared about himself and his needs: a true narcissist. You will meet people in your life that aren't good for you. She is one of them. I don't care to talk badly about people, but I believe actions speak louder, than words!
For the person to do this much harm to you. She doesn't love you and probably doesn't know how to love anyone else, except herself!
Well said. I wonder what her motivations are for the continued contact? My guess is she's enjoying playing mind games and deliberately provokes him for fun. She is a dangerous, toxic parasite. AVOID!!!! | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/17/2009 7:12:05 PM | Hey MelD,
Your experience is quite familiar to mine and some of my friends (men & women)!!
I never took the leap of getting engaged/married with this ex. I always kept this one at a distance to my heart strings, after he walked out on me. (Left me at one of the most important times of my life, when I needed him to be there for me). He was a weak man and still is to this day. I hope one day he will grow up and become the man that we all think he can be.
I plan to keep my distance and never embark down that dark road again ;).
One day I would like to hope and believe I will meet the man who will stand by my side through thick/thin. To this day I only have had one man in my life that hasn't given up on me, kept his word, and left me hanging: my father!
I don't mind being independent, single and handling my life. It would be nice to meet that right person to connect with. Until, that day I will enjoy the bumpy road along the way!!
Take care and good luck! | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/17/2009 7:14:06 PM | | Mabe she just enjoys making you hurt. Mabe shes calling to rub in the fact that shes getting married. Some women hate to see their x's happy. | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/20/2009 9:25:33 AM | Some do hate it.. Next time she calls tell her your moving on as well.. Even if your not.. If its to hard to talk to her then to ingore her call and text.. I know its really hard not to fall back in to their trap again. I have fallen over and over but at sometime you have to walk away..
I am sorry and I wish you the best of luck with everything.. | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/20/2009 2:59:22 PM | | I don't remain in contact with any ex's, I once loved this person so it would way to difficult on my emotions to keep an Ex around | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/20/2009 3:09:10 PM | | My ex and i were married for 16 years.We've known each other for over 30 years,we have a daughter. She has remarried...we still talk,we're friends...always will be. One thing we both know.....we will NEEEEEVVVVVEEEERRRR be a couple again. | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/20/2009 4:47:37 PM | I still talk to both my ex,s i mean its not like i didn,t love them before . And in most ways i still do . I wouldn,t of married them if i didn,t . both of them cheated i don,t know why women think you can,t tell . but we are no longer married so whats the problem , we have history and not all is bad . so we remain friends .and of course the kid is still there holding us in place .   I don,t intend on marrying anyone ever again . So don,t worry about it ..My exs are both beautiful women . | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/20/2009 5:21:59 PM | | my ex does the same damn thing. He cheated on me, we've been broken up for over two years now (i broke it off with him he wanted to work it out. Fat chance!!) and still once in awhile he'll call me to see how I am. Best past is everytime he calls I either don't answer or send him a text back about how I don't want to talk to him. After he got engaged he ran into my mom at a mall I showed her a picture of the ring he bought for his finacee. Well you can imagine the choice words my mother had for him. Sometimes I think its a guilt thing, maybe hes trying so hard to be my friend to make himself feel better about what an ***hole he was, but I won't give him that sastisfaction, and I think you should do the same. Don't talk to her, shes getting married? Why does she need to talk to you, she obviously didn't value you enough when you were dating, whats changed | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/22/2009 12:36:00 PM | To the OP,
If you continue to take her calls, you are allowing her an open line of communication. If you continue to answer her questions and continue to ask her questions, you are feeding her fire and her fuel to keep calling you. You are both playing games with each other. If either of you are to continue with your lives, stop talking to each other, or it will never cease!
That simple. Quit toying with each other. | |
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Posted: 8/22/2009 5:16:25 PM | | no.. if a man cheats on me...i am not going to tolerate it...it is a waste of my time and energy...i do keep in touch with somebody that i have had a relationship with...we still have the feelings...hopefully everything will work out | |
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Joined: 8/10/2009
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/22/2009 5:18:11 PM | | X. Double XX. Still would call and say no matter what he still loved me. Not going there. No they were just using you on some level. Don't even give it a second thought because that could mind f##k you into places you don't need to be since they have obviously moved on. If you had children this might be a consideration, otherwise, she is probably realizing that you truly loved her but she was NOT WORTHY. She is probably a player and will never be truly satisifed. DON"T OWN IT> | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/22/2009 5:23:14 PM | I had your same situation a couple months back.
Call your service provider, and have them block her number(s). If you're on Verizon, they will do up to 5 numbers for free.
Trust me, it makes things work for you a helluva lot easier and less stressful. Out of sight, out of mind. | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/22/2009 5:44:19 PM | yep my ex contacted me just a few months ago. she cheated, left, got married. I told her i forgave her then she told me how bad her life has been since.. she ask if we could meet for coffee, and how she was not the same person, i then told her she needed to put her focus on her marriage where it belongs and not talk to old boyfriends.
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Posted: 8/22/2009 8:19:41 PM | Yes most of my ex's try to keep contact with me for some reason.  Right now I have two that call. One is a good friend that I also call as well. We broke up on mutual terms. The other was just a guy that I rebounded with. He couldn't handle that I was much younger than he was and so he told me it would never work out. No big deal, I moved on. But he calls me every other day and tells me I should call him sometimes. Not gonna happen.
I think if someone is calling you while they are getting married, it's either one of three things. They are having 2nd thoughts about the marriage and are wanting you to 'rescue' them. TOTAL BS. Don't even play that game. Let them be man/woman enough to do their own dirt.
2. They just PRETEND to be moving on or getting married to get you jealous enough to make a move. Don't fall for that either.
3.) They want their cake and eat it too! They want to move on but they don't want to lose you. That's ok if you're over them, but if you're not. It's not worth it!
Personally I think you should leave baggage in the past. Unless it wasn't baggage to begin with but something uplifting from the get-go.
adylia
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/22/2009 10:03:02 PM | I still talk to my ex-husband quite often, and not always something concerning our kids. We have remained friends and although he has remarried we still enjoy an amicable relationship. I also talk very often with a couple of ex-boyfriends. I don't think there is anything weird about it, we are adults and realize that although our lives took us in different directions that we can still remain friends and wish each other happiness.
My partner now still maintains contact with his ex-wife (probably ex-girlfriends too) and there were no children so actually be no reason for communication but they too remained friends. Does that bother me? No, it actually affirms his integrity to me. To continue to care for someone whose life touched your own and moulded some of who you are as a person only demonstrates emotional maturity in my opinion.
If it breeds insecurity in you that your partner maintains contact then I think you have a problem. They either want to be with you or they don't and being jealous over stupid things will definitely put you on the "don't want" list. | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/23/2009 1:28:05 PM | | They do it out of guilt i think or they dont want you but they dont want anyone else to have you either. | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/23/2009 1:43:56 PM | | My ex dumped me Wednesday afternoon. That night, she was basically interrogating me about what specifically I said to one of my friends about our breakup. Then, the next day, she basically asks me for a booty call - the day after she dumped me!! She still tries to IM me every once in a while...I simply don't reply. Haha, whenever she does, i just say to myself "who has 2 thumbs and doesn't give a shit? (points at self) THIS GUY!" | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/23/2009 2:54:06 PM | NO! I make sure to sever all ties - I hate that crap. The only exception are two exes whom I have known since childhood, but even with them I keep a respectful distance. I have respect for them and their new relationship.
Plus, I have more respect for myself and just because they are a cheater and have no principles doesn't mean I don't. If they need to do that, I feel sorry for folks like that. Sounds like they are just getting married to fulfill some societal or monetary need.
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/23/2009 2:56:01 PM | You are right....
Closure doesn't come from your partner, it comes from within YOU! In any case 'closure' is a meaningless word which gets banded about when a relationship fails. What it really means is you haven't moved on, you know exactly why the relationship is over, you don't need reassurance or clarification, it is OVER and you need to cut her out of your life, which means NO CONTACT!!!!!!!! | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 9/9/2009 4:21:02 PM | My ex-wife has to call, I have the kids with me. But every now and then she will call and hold a conversation. I always keep it "kid" friendly and "kid" orientated. | |
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| Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 9/10/2009 6:02:00 PM | She usually calls or drunk-texts me on weekend nights between midnight and 2:30am. BTW, it has been 10 years since we split up . . .
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