| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 12/29/2007 2:24:29 PM | Everyone is differnt. I agree that you can have a very strong attraction to someone that you meet online. But Love. Real LOVE. I don't believe it, but then it does happen for some people.
We are all different and each of us reacts and responds in a different way.
As far as falling in love. Like Falling. I do believe that you can fall in Love with someone, even if you don't intend to. It's like our hearts have a mind of their own. Our brains try to steer our hearts to the right place, but ultimately, it is our heart that makes that choice.
call me an old fashioned romantic..
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 12/29/2007 5:16:20 PM | To ANOTHER TAY .......I have already said above in another post that my age was a typo . . .a misprint. I am 39 ! he is 30 !
there is a nine year difference . . not 19 ! hope this clears up the age thing.  and why should I flame you ? and how ? thanks for the advice. | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 12/29/2007 5:22:51 PM | ANOTHER TAY " I personally, can't help feel that at 39, you should have more control over your behaviour on here. "
Perhaps you should read posts - all of them . . to get the facts.
I am 39 and he is 30!
My age was a typo in that post.
My apologies.
I have now rectified it twice. As for the profile, it was NOT on HERE but myspace and I was only there for networking and friends.
I hope this clears up the age thing and eases your mind as well.
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 12/29/2007 5:35:49 PM |
I personally believe that someone can fall in "lust" online, but to actually fall in love, that takes time and personal time spent together.
Part of falling in love, is first falling in lust. It's pretty much what people mean, when they talk about "love at first sight", so the point, in response to the topic is that it's just as possible to fall into "initial love", or call it lust, online as it is in real life. It's just a different process in terms of the way things fall into place. | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 12/29/2007 5:37:30 PM | People have celebrity crushes, even though they've never met them. All you need is an idea, to fall in love.
If you think about it, the computer is an interface similar to reality. You can communicate and see one another via it. I know of cases where pen pals fell in love... | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 12/29/2007 6:22:31 PM | Its all relative I guess. I do think its possible to fall in love this way. But moving in with each other without meeting ? hmmm that could be a mistake. After several weeks and getting to know each other so deeply, is moving in without meeting wrong? I have told my friend my real age btw ..last night in fact .. and he was a little shocked because I didnt tell him the truth. He loves me more.
I am not so sure that this is real and lasting love .. still debating this issue. I know the euphoria is wearing off. I didnt set out to lie to him or anyone.. friends and networking on myspace should mean exactly that besides after a ten year marriage I was not looking for anything more than friends and having some harmeless fun on myspace.. it is a fun place and if anyone is really looking for genuine love. . you may well find it on myspace. 
To be brutally honest I dont know about cyber love . I love him and he loves me. . this is cyber space. It may well work and then again. . ..but its worth a try to see what happens. Before we crash and burn.
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 12/29/2007 6:27:28 PM |
To be brutally honest I dont know about cyber love . I love him and he loves me. . this is cyber space. It may well work and then again. . ..but its worth a try to see what happens. Before we crash and burn
I realize that my experience won't necessarily be the same for others, but for me, it's been pretty consistent. That "love feeling" connection from online, has worked out in real life about 33% of the time, but, that's far better than what's come from making "quick hit" dates at the grocery store, and having that "wow" feeling from 5 minutes shared together at the salad bar. Infatuation to love to enduring love is tricky and unpredictable, no matter how one begins. | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 12/29/2007 6:59:37 PM | Snowgum,
Regarding the age thing, apologies for getting it wrong, it did get very confusing.
Regarding the love thing......... if he's okay with everything now you've been honest with him.........then go for it. | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 12/29/2007 8:46:37 PM |
But moving in with each other without meeting ?
Methinks that's breaking and entering... But, perhaps it's just me.
I have told my friend my real age btw ..last night in fact .. and he was a little shocked because I didnt tell him the truth. He loves me more.
See... it did not hurt... Wait, was he schocked or does he love you more? Mixed messages.
I am not so sure that this is real and lasting love .. still debating this issue. I know the euphoria is wearing off.
To be brutally honest I dont know about cyber love . I love him and he loves me. . this is cyber space. It may well work and then again. . ..but its worth a try to see what happens. Before we crash and burn.
Again... so very mixed up.. . Either you are absolutely confused, or this is trolling... And, now I am thinking it might be trolling... Otherwise why the "crash and burn" attitude... If you start it in such a way, it's quite certain that you will indeed crash and burn.
Time to think a little ... not act like a teenager, bc you might end up hurting that guy...
* picks the petals off of the daisy saying "She loves him, she loves him not... He loves her, he loves her not."
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 12/29/2007 11:10:56 PM |
Yes melofelo, lord of know it all.
That you have a "problem" with me is fine, well, and good. And if you would like to tell someone who might actually care, that would be fine. However, why hijack a thread to engage in personal attacks, in direct conflict with forum rules?
The fact of the matter is, that I do "know it all" in terms of my own experience with developing feelings from online, whereas you "know it all" in terms of yours. They're different. No one proposed that "everyone" experiences feelings of love from online, prior to meeting in real life. Some do, some don't. That's the point. Yes, it's possible, as those of us who "know it all" about our own feelings have posted. | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 12/31/2007 7:54:46 PM | Not being a net addict I dont know what trolling means .. however I think like some of the ladies who sit here 24/7 trying to give advice .. and have nohing else to give...I think you redcassandra .......need to find love and keep off this forum. Perhaps off line. Happy new year year.       | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 12/31/2007 8:08:28 PM | From my experience.....Anybody can be anything online....So a shy, not so confident person...can gain confidence and not have to worry about what they say cause hey, it's the net.....Nobody really knows you....The problem is, when you decide to actually meet up with somebody....Eventually the reality will catch up with you....
There are a few honest people online....but you just don't know....I believe in falling in lust with a person online, with their personality-be it real or fake....with the person you seem to click with (no pun intended) for hours.....You can chat, talk on the phone and seem to get along so well it's scary....But the net and reality are 2 very different places, so I say watch your heart and take it slow, if you start to feel like you may be falling in love with somebody online.....Stop and do a reality check of yourself.....and start thinking about meeting them in person to see if there is possibility of it carrying over in to real life from a keyboard and screen....and don't expect too much cause that is when you set yourself up for a fall.... | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 12/31/2007 8:21:08 PM | Looks and excitement do not last forever or make a great relationship.
A friend set me up with someone I didn't find very attractive at all. I wouldn't go out with him again. We seemed to keep bumping into each other and eventually he grew on me. It was a good, long-lasting relationship.
On the other hand, I have dated good-looking men who had instantly charmed me, but after I got to really know them, they didn't seem at all attractive anymore.
Falling in love on line isn't reality. Online is free from the real world--the stresses of life, schedules, traffic, kids, bills. It is a fantasy that many people get drawn into. | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 12/31/2007 8:26:51 PM |
Falling in love on line isn't reality. Online is free from the real world--the stresses of life, schedules, traffic, kids, bills. It is a fantasy that many people get drawn into.
Some people, when they are surrounded by a silver lining, will insist on climbing out, to see if they can find a cloud. That new car that you enjoy so much? Think of how it will look in 5 years, when it needs new tires, maybe has a few dents, and requires maintenance. That new born baby, that brings great joy, start thinking about the terrible twos, or when she is going through puberty, and her hormones create mood changes every 1/2 hour.
So, of course, listen to the posters that say "take it slow, think it through, question it, don't enjoy it" yada, yada, yada. As they advise, never enjoy the moment, because there will be bad ones to come.
Geez, I'm glad I don't think like that. | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 1/1/2008 5:48:21 AM | Well, it's more likely than in a loud, dark, smoke-stinkin' bar.
First actual meetings have their drawbacks, too... once the pheremones kick in, objectivity usually takes a looooooong powder. And who hasn't "fallen" for the wrong person, based on looks and charm, only to find later that there's not enough in common to form a carpool, let alone a relationship?
Who really knows when the starry-eyed lust morphs into actual love? At least you get a sense of the person's intelligence, humor, and creativity when you exchange messages for awhile. I think it is unrealistic to assume that it's LOVE until you really meet and mingle chemicals for a few weeks... but developing a "written-crush" can sure give you a good, running start.
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 1/1/2008 6:06:23 AM |
Not being a net addict I dont know what trolling means .. however I think like some of the ladies who sit here 24/7 trying to give advice .. and have nohing else to give...I think you redcassandra .......need to find love and keep off this forum. Perhaps off line. Happy new year year.
Yo, "Snowgum" (#141)-- the row of smileys doesn't forgive the ignorant, snide sarcasm.
Who are you to tell Red or anyone else that they have "nothing else to give" (I assume that's what "nohing" meant)?? At least she's got an actual, visible profile, and something intelligent to say. And it might just be possible that "finding love" is one of the reasons she's on this site which contains the forum you seem to think you own, ya twit.
"Happy new year year" to you, too. Now how 'bout trotting back to your stack of sticky Penthouse pages, and leaving the adult conversations to those who've got some constructive thoughts? | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 6/11/2008 9:46:26 AM | Is it love or lust? For me, the pleasure of the actual act of falling in love is enough for right now. Lust is awesome too; feeling sparks you might've thought were a thing in your distant past is unbelievably awesome;)...
The man I chose to be with is a 100% the right man for me, for right now. He's a dime plus 99 lol.
Although I must admit that I did NOT fall for him on-line. His profile was quite gruff, and I was expecting a grumpy old man lol. And his profile pix do not do him justice.(he is very handsome and sexy!!) And, if you are not a writer who strictly writes comedy, humor and sarcasm are sometimes lost.This man makes me laugh more than anyone I've ever known. Plus he is so deep (f**king brilliant) still that didnt come out in his profile. So my response to this notion of falling in love on-line doesnt cut it. It doesnt happen in reality. Prince (or Princess) Charming will not arrive to whisk you off to his /her castle. Forget fairy tales. And gals you probably already know this on some level but the majority of men online :devil"are only looking for T&A, a booty call if you will. Truly, listen to your gut instinct: if something feels even slightly 'off' chances are in reality its a potental train wreck waiting to happen.There are so many creepy stalker types online here. Please, listen to that inner voice that tells you something just aint kosher.
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