| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 6/21/2008 9:18:59 AM | It's certainly within the realm of 'Possibilities'...!!!
If two people can Trust each other enough to have an *Adult* discussion....
And...they develop, or already Feel a Chemistry between them....through what each has put in their profile[Photos / narrative], and progress to phone conversations...
There's No Reason In the World why two people can't
Fall-   In-  Love...!!!
...In Fact...I could Fall for any number of Ladies, here
....IF...
they'd just be a Bit more open to a measly C o n v e r s a t i o n..!! | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 6/21/2008 9:41:41 AM | I fell in love on line, i left a22 year old relationship for a man i met on line.
I fell in love with the person he portraid himself to be, we spent hours every day on line chatting and Fridays, which were our special day, we spent hours on end on cam and mic talking to each other.
I am glad i met and fell him and fell in love with him, without him I would not have the fabulous single live i lead today xxx make what you will of that and please feel free to ask questions lmfao xx | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 6/21/2008 9:46:51 AM | | Anyone who says they are in love without meeting in person and spending time with them are "in love with being love"...and have never been in love. | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 6/21/2008 9:53:02 AM | THIS IS WHY I AM VERY CAUTIOUS OF LEARNING ONE ANOTHER ONLINE, IT IS ONE THING TO GET A SENSE OF WHO THEY ARE ONLINE, BUT I WOULD HAVE TO SEE FACE TO FACE FOR MONTHS TO KNOW THE TRUE INTENTIONS OF SOMEONES HEART.
I AM SINGLE TO, DO NOT KNOW IF FABULOUS IS IN MY VOCABULARY, BUT WILL SAY , I LOVE THE TIME I HAVE ALONE TO LEARN WHO SOMEONE IS INSIDE AND OUT.
GOD BLESS YOU AND KEEP YOU SAFE
SINCERILY,
A FRIEND | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 6/21/2008 10:21:22 AM |
Anyone who says they are in love without meeting in person and spending time with them are "in love with being love"...and have never been in love.
Totally, you can't be in love with someone you've never met in real life | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 6/21/2008 10:27:22 AM | | Until you meet someone face to face I think it's totally insane to think you're "in love" with them! You see what is online, there is so much more to a person! | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 6/21/2008 10:29:21 AM | | I dont believe ya can fall in love online but i definitely know you can develop very strong feelings for a person by talking to them for some time. | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 6/21/2008 10:36:26 AM | If the guy doesn't make my hormones go "woo-hoo!" in the first 20 seconds, he probably never will.
I used to think this too until I got involved with a guy that I would not go out with because I wasn't attracted to him. After a few months he really proved to be a good friend when I needed one and I decided to go out with him. I ended up CRAZY about this guy...just hearing his gentle laugh and the way he said my name when I tickled him drove me crazy. I was TOTALLY hot for him ....but not at first. Ever since then I try to give chemistry a chance to grow.
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^^^^^^ Had the same experience Bluepony. I definitely don't agree with the 20 second rule.
I do think that initially online we can get to know someone in a different way and it will help strengthen any future relationship quicker, but no I do not think falling in love online is possible, more of a fanstasy love. | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 6/21/2008 12:45:22 PM | | oh belive me you can be totally. utterly, madly in love with somebody you met on line - believe me i have been there - whether it is right or not is a different matter - but i can and it does happen xx | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 6/21/2008 6:16:26 PM | hi gill,
I have to totally agree with you. I had seen a lady in my youth and never really knew her. I really never wanted to go online but was convinced by none other than my mother to do so. she only told me that I would meet someone special and I would know when it happened. I laughed but she talked me into it. This was before she passed away in 1998. Later that year I went online and kept the promise to do it for her. I went into chat and met quite a few friends I still have to this day. one of them was a lady I started joking with and soon it developed into calling and talking. The calls would last sometimes for 10 to 12 hours and I am here to say it can happen. I fell for this lady and she for me. Tho we are not together now we still talk and she informed me just two days ago the worst mistake she made was not accepting my proposal of marriage to her. here is the funny part the lady was the woman I knew in my youth and had never spoke to just saw her in passing. she grew up three miles from me and walked by my house every day and would wave to me. I didn't know it was the same lady until we finally got together and she showed me a photo of herself as a teen. Yes I can say it can happen online but it may not always work out the way we want. on either ones part. Take care people and let your heart and soul guide you but use good judgement in your choices it may surprise you.
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 6/24/2008 2:17:01 AM | People often lose sight that online dating is just another venue to meet people. If one never meets, then how can they fall in love? Behind a computer, people can project themselves as anything they want to be, whether it's the truth or not. In person, that's a lot harder to do, especially for any length of time.
I always question the sincerity of 'falling in love online'. They might be in love with being in love. They're infatuated with the idea of love and will project what they want in a person onto the lover they've never met.
Either way, setting themselves up for heartache. | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 6/24/2008 3:46:41 AM | Yes, I believe it can happen. Why you ask? Well it happened to me. Took 4 months to finally see her in person. That meeting only confirmed the deep love I felt for her. It lasted two years. She called it off. Was it real? Yes, I am still in love with her. I am old enough to know the difference between love and lust and infatuation. It was none of the above. Yes, we met on the net. But that very rapidly went to the phone and hours upon hours of deep talk, fun talk and really getting to know her.
It is as real as falling in love with your neighbor. I understand the nay sayers that it never happened to. But it happened to me. | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 6/24/2008 3:55:10 AM | | Not only can you not "fall in love" online, you can be friends with people online that you would not normally be friends with in person. Example: I connected on facebook with my partner's buddy's wife, since the couple moved out west. Since then, we've had some rich online conversations and she's said, "Why didn't we connect with each other like this when I lived back east? We could've had fun times together." Yeah, I like to think that, but back then I generally got not-so-great vibes from her. Although we can be good facebook friends, I doubt we'd make good friends in person. | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 6/24/2008 4:19:06 AM | DARLINGNADA ( Nada)
You are a wise lady and I (as a fellow Scorpio) cannot fault any of your comments. I can only applaud them whilst at the same time recommending to the other ladies on this site to
read your words in which they will find the definition for that ever popular word "LOVE".
What more could one add....you have said it all perfectly.!!!
Dont change, treasure your wisdom and insight. | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 6/24/2008 4:26:16 AM | | I do not believe you can fall in love online. You can determine a few things, like common interests and attraction...but love? No way. | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 6/24/2008 4:34:35 AM | | i agree... also u really havent had that good feel for eachother nor have had that test how well call clicc in person... love also no way.... | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 6/24/2008 1:56:10 PM | | Some of History's greatest love stories were created from letters,hand written "love" letters which strengthened bonds until they met face to face.An interesting study at UC Davis in California determined that we have a magnetic "aura" if you will surrounding each of us.Some are + polarized and others - polarized but still a form of Electrical energy.Seeing that to be "online" you must have electricity and allbeit this is very far fetched,could it not be a possibility the energy from some is "felt " by others.I know way out there,we do experience this daily and we call it chemistry/attraction.I know many couples who met online and have been together for several years sucessfully.I do not discount the ability of "falling in love".I do however agree with you that it takes many years to actually Be in love.So mayhaps the Falling part is a beginning,and the Being is the result? | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 6/24/2008 3:05:02 PM | | I have meet some pretty wonderful women online - I think - but this is cyberworld. I'm not gonna forget that. People can be deceiptful - either on purpose of accidentally - Good writers are good at it - that's not to say all good writers are either unscruplous or crazy. Some aren't - but some are. How can you fall in love with someone you really don't know? I guess I'm just too jaded for that. Let's face it, it can be tempting to be someone you think the other person wants if you never have to meet...but what's up with that. You can't judge a book by its cover - and you can't judge sincerity and truthfulness by a profile or an email - all you can do is hope and if you are lucky - to meet AND THEN fall in love. I love emails I get from some women and would sincerely love to see if thier souls are as pretty as their words - I'm sure some are even wonderful enough to love - for real. | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 6/24/2008 3:24:00 PM | I think 'romantic love' is an illusion... there is only love, and most forms of love are based on friendship, if a relationship isn't based on friendship, you only have sex.
Mother love can be one form of love which is not based on friendship, but as the child grows you would hope that side would develop too. | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 6/24/2008 3:31:56 PM | I can't fall in love online.
The "online" aspect is just the conduit that allows me to meet a woman. The love will come from sharing experiences together and growing attached to each other. | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 6/24/2008 3:40:09 PM | Notta chance, nope,nadda,zippo.......won't,can't happen........
Infactuation , yup, lust, yup, lah lah land...........most definitley....... | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 6/24/2008 4:14:25 PM |
I've read several threads/posts that seem to assume that people can "fall in love" while only having met online. Personally, I don't believe this is possible.
Love is a very powerful emotion. It can happen anytime anywhere.
I don't think that love is something you "fall" into.... like an uncovered well you just happened to not see
On the same analogy, love is something one can fall into.... like an uncovered well one happens to find when one falls in it without notice. | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 8/2/2008 10:20:05 PM | I think I felt this really weird feeling for the girl Im seeing now before I ever met her, but I doubt it was love. I had read so many of her posts on these forums and was just so mesmerized by her personality and extreme sexual prowess that it made me want her in a way I cant describe, albeit she had a boyfriend. With a little luck, I was in the right place at the right time, and her former man could not commit for whatever reasons, shall I say incompatibility?
Of course, many people choose to be something other than themselves, living in an alternate identity through these forums, so I was fortunate that she turned out to be just like the persona that she represented on here. Who can pinpoint something immeasurable though? It is absolutely possible, but unlikely, and very risky to fall in love with someone you've never met. Certainly, anyone can fall in love based on their own standards and qualifications for that feeling, but when you choose to give that to someone loosely and without proper research, heartache looms ever close to you. | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 8/2/2008 11:01:03 PM | | I didn't fall in love online and don't think I could. I developed a connection with someone through these very forums, took it to email, and since then have spent hours on the phone getting to know him. I don't hesitate to say that I love him now that we have had that in-depth interaction over a period of time. We still have not met face to face due to distance but he will be here in under 2 weeks now and I have no doubt that this is love. | |
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| Falling in love.... online?????
Posted: 8/2/2008 11:28:02 PM |
I've read several threads/posts that seem to assume that people can "fall in love" while only having met online. Personally, I don't believe this is possible. I believe that you can have a very strong attraction... an infatuation... but I believe that real love can only grow once you've met and spent time with a person in real life. But then again, I don't believe in "love" at first sight (love and lust should never be confused) either, and I don't think that love is something you "fall" into.... like an uncovered well you just happened to not see. I'm interested to know what others think. Can people really love - I'm talking romantic love here, not friendship love - someone they've only met online?
Absolutely. Without going into too much detail, it can certainly happen. In fact, it happens all the time. Now perhaps it isn't for you, and that's fine.
Love is about intimacy. Knowing someone. Knowing who they are, where they've been, where they'd like to go. Sharing dreams, aspirations, silly stories. Its knowing someone better than they know their self. Why would you not be able to do that online? What prevents this? | |
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