| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/11/2009 11:59:54 AM | Ok...I am going to assume this is a scientific experiment since there is the identical post for a girl going out with a younger guy. Should be interesting to see the respeonses and if the opinions differ.
Having said that, it would depend on what your goals are. This would apply for either sex. I assume the older person in the relationship might not want kids and the yoonger one might want them. As long as you are truly on the same page about serious issues like that, why not? If it is just for dating and not long term, again, why not as long as the other person is aware of the goal. I do think there is a difference in the other case where the guy is 30 and the female is 46. I think once you hit your 30s, you are way more mature than at 23 year old. (IE probably more settled in a career choice) To do a true comparison on the experiment, I think you have to put the ages the same. I wouldn't really like to see a 39 year old woman with a 23 yr old guy either. Just too much difference on where they are in life. | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/11/2009 12:56:47 PM | I agree with the people who've said if it's just for casual dating there's really no problem. But looking for something long term with someone that much younger than you could be problematic.
This is kind of happening to a friend of mine. He is 38 and he is interested in a girl who is 24. He already has kids, and doesn't want any more, but she's going to want her own some day. She loves to go out and party (naturally) but he's past that, everytime he reminisces about something like a song or movie from the past she is too young to remember it or she was in elementary school when it happened so and the conversation gets awkward. He's finding it's not as sweet as he thought it would be just looking at her. | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/11/2009 2:33:29 PM | | The only people that think age matters are jealous people. Hey if he's 39 and can attract a 23 year old more power to him, I'd go out with her. If she wants a LTR though and you don't you should be honest about that. | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/11/2009 2:45:15 PM | Isn't there a supposed magical formula for a person's minimum dating age - half your own age plus 7, so according to the magical formula the minimum age of the women OP should be dating is approx 27.
By the way I do not subscribe to the magical formula, thought I would mention it as it is something that is often branded around on Aussie blogs and forums. | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/11/2009 2:52:28 PM |
what do you think?
I think you ought to find someone your own age. These big age disparities are ridiculous. They're a joke. LOOK....you have nothing in common with her, and she has nothing in common with you. Don't be a spectacle.
Find someone within a couple of years of your own age bracket, and stick with that. You'll have more of a shot of being compatible, and won't look ridiculous. | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/12/2009 4:35:08 AM | | Personally, I wouldn't do it myself OP. If you actually have a lot in common, then this speaks volumes about yourself and not in a particularly good way. Even so, if you persist, view it as a fwb or fb situation---nothing more, nothing less. | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/12/2009 4:45:09 AM | I have talked to woman younger than me and most are frustrated with their own age group....bunch of video game playin four wheelin goofs...that dont want to work either....in the end you will want a woman of your own age as she will want a guy somewhere around hers.....young men are taking a long time these days growing up when we used to work hard and play hard and pay for our mistakes....nothing like that these days.....good luck! | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/12/2009 4:51:05 AM | | I say go for it. The age difference isn't that bad as far as I am concerned but I have always been more attracted to men a bit older then me anyway. :) | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/12/2009 4:53:46 AM | If you were sixty and she was 44 then you two could make a go of it. Maturity knows what it wants.
Listen to all the guys close to your age who have said they dated a girl that age....note that they are single right now.
Be mindful of your pea-ness...it doesn't understand how the brain works. | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/16/2009 4:06:29 AM | Message 9:
If you're going to categorize into the age brackets you did...I don't think 66/50 is moot. One is almost 70 while the other is still relatively young, probably still working... Not that it's a no-go...or that it couldn't work, but I don't think it's more inconsequential than your younger examples. | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/17/2009 12:28:54 PM |
think the bigger question is a 39 yr older hanging out with college students at a club??
Because they can? Hey, if I'm still single at 39 and no woman takes me off the market, I'll do it. | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/17/2009 12:32:34 PM | I think you probably aren't going to listen to anyone's advice about this, and you'll probably do what ever you think is the right thing to do.
My opinion after dating someone that was 12 years younger than I am, is that I wouldn't do it again.
But you'll do what you do and you'll experience what you experience and it will impact your life, her life, and the lives of your children. | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/17/2009 1:16:13 PM | Heck yeah why not....I was 41 when i divorced my x and my first dating girlfriend was 23.
It was a learning experience for me I discovered it wasn't for me and that I prefer women that are closer to my age, so the experience was well worth the time...
Give it a try and see what happens you might have fun..... | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/17/2009 2:13:42 PM | Do you FEEL too old for her? Can you keep up with her? In the sack? In all-night partying, club-hopping binges? What is she into? How wild does she like sex? What's her energy level? Are you into these things too? Do you have her same energy? How long does she stay at clubs to feel sufficiently danced out and exhausted? How long do you? THESE are really the questions you need to ask yourself.
At age 23, she's an adult...legally anyway. Question is: Does she ACT like an adult? In the sense of being straight-up, forthright and up-front in your conversations? Or does she still play childish, pubescent high school games?
Pursue it and find out! If you two are on the same pace and energy level, are honest and communicate well, I think it'll work out just fine, at least until you hit 50; then you might have to slow down...but she'll be hitting 30 and will probably be wanting to settle down and raise a family (yikes).
Since you have "great conversations", great! Just try to swallow your own controlling impulse (I'm speaking from personal experience here)...it'll make you FEEL like her father. | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/17/2009 8:58:00 PM | I'm 28 and have been dating someone 45 and it's the best relationship I've been in yet.
It depends on the person but from my own experience, 23 and 28 are as far apart as 18 and 23. 28 and 33 not so much.
It's not the age difference as much as the maturity difference, and where you both are in your lives. How adult is she really? How adult are you?
My BF says he's not normally attracted to women younger than 32 or 33. Even then, most seem too young. I had to pursue him!
Not every relationship is serious or long-term though. If all you both want is to have fun together now then go for it. | |
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