| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/24/2009 8:01:10 PM |
I always just say for the older person , if you can deal with the broken heart...
Oh yeah -- more than likely it won't last--really. And you'll be stuck with memories of that hottie in your bed. When you go back to your own age it will take awhile to not look for those younger "attributes". | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/25/2009 3:06:39 PM | There are many senerios that may or may not happen.its not like ur going 2 marry her 2marrow...i wld caution u on "judgement" as to her maturity..that age as we all were..experiencing life..new found freedom..ect, sure there r those (rare) at that age can vry well b more "mature" for their age...depends on their enviroment they were raised in..
personal experience: i date frm time to time a gentleman 17 yrs older than i..we have a great time..we enjoy each others cpny..i knw where he's coming frm & visa-versa...no strings attached & wrks out well for "us"..
Good Luck U nvr knw...but i look at life as this:
Ur dealt 1 deck of cards...U only go @ ONCE...better make the best of it 'cause there's NO going BACK & U CAN'T ask 4 a REFUND..so why not "slide into home base (where ever that may b)with a well used body saying "HERE I AM...WHAT'S NEXT"
(as to the term "well used" i mean w no regrets or wish i would of's...not abused via drugs & over kill of alcohol) | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/27/2009 7:03:27 PM | If you find a nice girl that wants to go out with you and is over 18 years old , why not .
Sure get to know her first to see where it can go , and if she's a nice girl.
If only we could be that lucky | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/28/2009 12:35:42 PM | If you both click mentally and physically go for it. Though its hard to say when a person is that much younger. You lived alot longer, experienced more. Sometimes when hooking up the other can seem shallow simply by not understanding where your coming from because of the age difference. | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 9/4/2009 12:00:32 AM |
And what if despite all your indignation, forbidding and furiousness if neither of them cared what you thought and decided to do it anyway?
Is your daughter so stupid she can't make her own decisions? At 23 if she's been raised well one would think her choices would be good for herself. IF she chose a man of this same age difference what is your standing in it anyway?
We're talking about a " girl" here, not a lady or a woman in her late 20's or early 30's.
I know that I have raised my daughter well, and I know she would never date a man 16 years her SENIOR when she's barely turned 22. There are way many decent, employed young men close to her age group for her to date. And, my daughter has agreed with me when asked. (She even added an "EWWW!!!")
I wonder if this one doesn't entertain the idea she could date someone younger yet it's not allowed for a guy? I have a good head on my shoulder and I really never need to even consider dating a young kid (leave that to the aging ladies who need their fountain of youth.) Before you wonder, I suggest you should check out the person's profile before making such juvenile comment. Oh yeah, you're 58, no wonder! Can you imagine our society full of old men dating young girls and aging women dating young kids? What a wonderful world this will be!!!  Tarah0128 Love your post, Teenna! Tarah0128, thank you for your compliment. | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 9/4/2009 12:12:57 AM | When they're old enough to be you're child, it's too old...
That is just NASTY!
(I think anyway)
Do what you want.. Why do opinions you get from people online even matter....? | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 9/4/2009 11:48:33 AM | | "date someone your own age" i have no idea what this means. but, the mere fact, that your asking for mostly middle aged womens opinion on this matter is saying something. I for one, my last 3 girlfriends have all been even younger than 23. Do i ask peoples opinions on it. NO. why, cause i don't care.. shes legal age. that means, shes an adult. and since ive always seen myself as a young dude. and probably always, will, id never have a problem with it. Just by you asking if its wrong or should I do this or that, means your having issues with it. | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 9/4/2009 11:57:00 AM | | I could give so many hypothetical scenarios that would prove how peoples opinions can change. Say, just for example and hypothetical question, say, this guy was a 450 yr old vampire, but he looked and acted 35, and he liked to date girls around that age. would you tell him, dude, your to old. no, You probably wouldn't, why. cause he doesnt look old. see, thats the whole crux here. If a person looks young, he will be percieved as being young and vice versa. age is a man made concept. how we see age, how we visualize things as old or young, is all in our minds. if a 70 yr old man, dated a 25 yr old woman, but he looked no older than 30, and he didn't look funny or weird being with her, nobody would say anything. why? cause everything in this world is visual, its what we see. age, is just a number, i can make up any number i feel like. Many people are so close minded, thats why they get old. cause they don't realize, age only exists in your mind. its how you view it, will determine how that number effects you. | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 9/4/2009 11:41:52 PM | Red Buttons,
<div class='quote'>Is your daughter so stupid she can't make her own decisions? At 23 if she's been raised well one would think her choices would be good for herself.
My young daughter has been known to make some bad decisions and it's up to me to steer her straight because I care.
<div class='quote'> But all this above ^^^ qoutation is about ONE woman’s daughter and that daughter’s reaction to a rhetorical question. Adding a EWWWWWW doesn’t change or add to a darned thing here---just ONE opinion or comment.
My 22-yr old daughter's reaction was her silly, natural response to the absurdity of the question.
When I had made my earlier post, I was referring to my reaction should my daughter make such stupid decision with an opportunistic "gentleman".
Some young girls will likely be rebellious and make bad choices/decisions, and there will always be old wolves ready to pounce.
<div class='quote'>But then we have to bash me for being 58 as though that’s somehow a deficiency.
Over centuries, isn't it typical of older men to support the idea of them dating young girls.? When I read your age, I commented, "no wonder."
<div class='quote'>I wonder if this one doesn't entertain the idea she could date someone younger yet it's not allowed for a guy?
And, my response was :
<div class='quote'>Before you wonder, I suggest you should check out the person's profile before making such juvenile comment.
<div class='quote'> I refer to someone calling me at 58 juvenile who is a mere 43 which completely baffles me how that even figures into all this?
I'm not calling you a juvenile. I said you had made a juvenile comment (referring to your wondering "if this one doesn't entertain the idea she could date someone younger", in this case 16 years my junior.) That ticked me off!
No disrespect to you, Red Buttons.
<div class='quote'> As for there being “way many decent employed young men close to her age......” these forums suggest that is NOT the case at all. Younger women are constantly complaining about the severe lack of such qualities—maybe y’all live in an as-of-yet undiscovered part of the country? LOL
Like I said, my daughter has common sense and is with a great bunch of friends who happened to be employed. We live in Southern CA by the way.
Back to the topic, this is only my opinion in regards to dating young girls.
But, once the ladies reach their late 20's, then it would be more acceptable because they're older. | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 9/5/2009 5:15:02 AM | Yes OP. Why not? What's the worse that can happen? Someone gets hurt. But no matter how close in age two people are that's always a risk. I'll borrow a phrase from almost all of the "cougar" threads here, but alter it silghtly. "You go boy!!!"
Just as it applies to 50 year old woman actively seeking college kids so should it apply here. Except in your case you seem to be looking for a date rather than a sex partner. | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 9/5/2009 7:57:19 AM |
She is 23, I am 39
Sure, if that's what you both want. Enjoy the ride while it lasts. However, beware. Young girls are very fickle. Don't count on any long term relationship. | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 9/5/2009 10:31:30 AM | | OP, did she ask you out? If she did, you if you want to. If she did not, then the question is not should you go out with her, but should you ask her out? The answer would be if you can accept her answer (whatever it is), then sure, ask away. I do suggest that you be certain she is of age. You seem to have a reservation about this or you wouldn't have asked here. Sadly, there are people who lie about their ages and you wouldn't be the first man (or woman for that matter) to end up in a bad situation because you met someone in a club who was misrepresenting themselves as an adult when they are in fact under age. If she is really 23 then I don't see why you would be worried about it. Best of Luck. | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 9/5/2009 10:50:38 AM | I agree with ProdigalSon81. That was my first reaction as well! We don't know you or the girl so we don't know what other qualities bind the two of you! Age is not enough information. Are you a mature 39 year old? Is she a doctor, astronaut, advanced professional at the age of 23?
I don't think anyone can give advise just knowing the ages of the people.
And before you start typing "what about statutory rape?" obviously by people I mean the ones old enough to pay rent/mortgage and complain about taxes!
You also asked a question about age gap: it depends on the life expectancy of the relationship. If both people are out to have fun and enjoy life-then go for it! But if there are completely different personalities (home body vs. adventurous) or one person wants children- then someone needs to have a "how far you plan on going with this" conversation! | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 9/5/2009 11:46:39 AM |
At some point a "girl" becomes a young woman and so far Teenna65 believes its NOT at 23 but later on in her 20's or 30's??? Well---I'm guessing this "girl" in question as well as her own daughter have their own ideas when this transistion is made---probably long BEFORE their current ages or what "concerned" parents think appropriate.
Girls of 23's are more vulnerable than those in their late 20's. They barely flew out of the coop, lonely and insecured, and might be looking for men almost old enough to be their dad for support.
OP, I'm sure there are plenty of fun girls with great personality in their late 20's that you can meet . I hope you don't need a 23-yr old to be compatible. | |
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