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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 9/5/2009 10:31:30 AM | | OP, did she ask you out? If she did, you if you want to. If she did not, then the question is not should you go out with her, but should you ask her out? The answer would be if you can accept her answer (whatever it is), then sure, ask away. I do suggest that you be certain she is of age. You seem to have a reservation about this or you wouldn't have asked here. Sadly, there are people who lie about their ages and you wouldn't be the first man (or woman for that matter) to end up in a bad situation because you met someone in a club who was misrepresenting themselves as an adult when they are in fact under age. If she is really 23 then I don't see why you would be worried about it. Best of Luck. | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 9/5/2009 10:50:38 AM | I agree with ProdigalSon81. That was my first reaction as well! We don't know you or the girl so we don't know what other qualities bind the two of you! Age is not enough information. Are you a mature 39 year old? Is she a doctor, astronaut, advanced professional at the age of 23?
I don't think anyone can give advise just knowing the ages of the people.
And before you start typing "what about statutory rape?" obviously by people I mean the ones old enough to pay rent/mortgage and complain about taxes!
You also asked a question about age gap: it depends on the life expectancy of the relationship. If both people are out to have fun and enjoy life-then go for it! But if there are completely different personalities (home body vs. adventurous) or one person wants children- then someone needs to have a "how far you plan on going with this" conversation! | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 9/5/2009 11:46:39 AM |
At some point a "girl" becomes a young woman and so far Teenna65 believes its NOT at 23 but later on in her 20's or 30's??? Well---I'm guessing this "girl" in question as well as her own daughter have their own ideas when this transistion is made---probably long BEFORE their current ages or what "concerned" parents think appropriate.
Girls of 23's are more vulnerable than those in their late 20's. They barely flew out of the coop, lonely and insecured, and might be looking for men almost old enough to be their dad for support.
OP, I'm sure there are plenty of fun girls with great personality in their late 20's that you can meet . I hope you don't need a 23-yr old to be compatible. | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 9/5/2009 12:24:42 PM | | why wait till a woman has a ton of experience with me. She will only be bitter and angry. Its much better to get them young. when they are wide eyed and innocent. and they have less built up anger. | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 9/5/2009 9:57:39 PM | | I'm in a similar situation, except I'm the younger woman in this situation lol. My situation has a 15 yr age gap. He's not too old to be my own dad, but he's not exactly a spring chicken if you know what I mean... oh the dilemmas of dating! I think I'm better off staying single if dating requires so much hassle...lmao | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 9/6/2009 5:42:10 AM | Been there...done that. Was in a relationship with a younger woman and we lived together for 3 years. When we met, she was 27 and I was 45.
I know your situation is probably different but this was my experience.
It was like a dream come true in the beginning. I believe she really did love me but she decided that she wanted to live a lifestyle that I couldn't accept. She changed. She didn't grow up, she wanted to be a teenager again and that killed it for me. She wanted someone to be responsible so she didn't have to be. Now she has a serious addiction and she's lost her kids!
It may sound like a really good idea at first but I'm here to tell you that it just isn't reality. In your situation, you're both young enough to still find compatibility but as time moves your age will become a factor. A man can get really deep in a relationship like that, so when it comes time for her to decide that she wants something different, it really hurts to watch those taillights heading off down the road!
But since I’m the world’s biggest glutton for punishment; would I do it again? Heck yah! The sex was AWSOME! | |
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| Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger?
Posted: 9/6/2009 3:43:51 PM | | OP, if you end up with her for life the older you get the less big a deal 16 years becomes. At my present age of 66 a sixteen year age difference feels very comfortable and natural to me. In fact it is at the upper age range of women I find attractive these days. I have gone much more, well over 30 years, but we knew we were just having fun together for a while as fwb's. Although I have been trying to get interested in dating women closer to my age I am so rarely sexually drawn to them I am about to give that up and return to the 15 - 25 younger year range which seems to work the best for me for ltr's. | |
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