| Personal Happiness.
Posted: 10/3/2009 7:04:45 AM | I used to be happy when I was bringing up my daughter, able to encourage and help her in her pursuits, which fortunately were in an area I loved and knew enough about to assist her. It wasn't easy, we both made sacrifices in other areas, but were happy.
I don't know what makes me happy now - I just know it's not the life I have. Everyday I am learning or recognising new things about myself, I'm throwing away 'easy' for 'unpredictable' because I have to. Easy street hasn't made me happy. Maybe I still won't find happy, but at least I am going to look for it.
I think we are probably less happy now than our parents. Maybe we work for xyz thinking it will make us happy and once we get that, realise xyz doesn't make us happy at all - then we have to realise just how much life and possiblilities we have wasted/lost.
I think there is a lot of pressure on youngsters which prevents them just being irrisponsible kids who learn as they go along. ie you need this qualification, this exam, this lifestyle to be successful. Childhood should be about learning life, not aiming for a specific goal.
I have half an idea of the changes I need to make... to hell with being 100% smart or sensible - 50% sensible will do for me - hey it takes time to turn things round completely lol | |
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| Personal Happiness.
Posted: 10/3/2009 2:55:24 PM | Grand Parent's were definitely the happiest - they knew where they stood in there relationship roles, they knew how to make do, they were part of a considerate and caring community.
Parent's were unhappy - They were pressured into thinking they had to be together, They stuck by there vows but couldn't cope with the pressure, they had problems with health and wealth and were part of a gradually growing selfish community.
Me I'm happy enough - no sense of community any more is the only let down but I do not participate in the competitive race of today's society, am happy with my lot and if I have the opportunity to gain more then that's a bonus but am not going to make myself unhappy doing it. I can accept when relationships don't work, I have learned that it's actually okay to be a wee bit selfish and so I think I am your average Jo happy go lucky person.
My Teenage son - I'm glad to say is individualistic, doesn't fret about what he hasn't got and appears to manage relationships pretty well, he's respected by his peers and his elders because he knows how to give respect. I fear for him all the time though as things today are moving so fast and I feel that greed is the all round cause of the problems arising in our next generation. Things have to be bigger, shinier, and cost more than anyone else's and i'm afraid that it's allot of the parent's from my generation that encouraged this, now their kids have to keep up this farce - the pressure of greed! | |
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| Personal Happiness.
Posted: 10/3/2009 8:32:22 PM | | I put up some bird boxes last year in a local nature spot, I was gently bullied into it by a lovely old lady , and I'm looking forward to seeing how many are occupied next spring, 5/10 would be good or 7/10 maybe. | |
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| Personal Happiness.
Posted: 10/3/2009 11:27:45 PM | I am shocked to say this but Iam happy being on my own. Sometimes I do get bullied by friends that every woman needs a man in her life to be happy. I tend to disagree whenever I have been miserable it has been due to a man being present in my life.
My daughter is happy and I am hoping that I am able to provide her with the right balance in her life to make the right decisions for herself.
Yes, I do believe that there is someone out there for me but I am in no rush to find him or for him to find me. As a male friend of mine has told me I am very hard work and I doubt I would ever change so it will take a man with an iron will to cope with me lol. | |
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| Personal Happiness.
Posted: 10/6/2009 2:18:31 AM | I believe that happiness is a feeling & it is within. Once we are happy within ourselves we can share it with other people and it expands. It cannot be attained by chasing things in the outside world. I feel happiest sharing good times with family, friends or someone special.
I agree with the comment above about labeling kids. This should never be done because they end up believing it because they do not have the experience to challaenge it & it limits their potential to grow. (laziness on behalf of the person doing the labeling. | |
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| Personal Happiness.
Posted: 10/8/2009 12:12:58 AM | Of course i'm happy I've got 4 amazing childern who, i'm totally proud of. I have a roof over my head , I have job which it not the most brilliant job in the world but it pays, i own my own car , I'm taking my childern on their first ever holiday aboard ( although my ex and his now wife thought no way would i save up for it .......psml really? i've done it) Proved alot of people wrong who thought i would never be anything who's smiling now ? .................mio!  | |
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| Personal Happiness.
Posted: 10/8/2009 8:18:24 AM |
“Happiness is a Cigar called Hamlet!”
So does that mean that happiness causes lung cancer?
I am probably the least happy person I know. Personal expations always are higher than ability as a result I never achieve what I want. Constant lack of achievements leads to missery! | |
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| Personal Happiness.
Posted: 10/8/2009 4:46:39 PM | So does that mean that happiness causes lung cancer?
No it means you die happy!
What you say is sad really, give yourself a break. We all have the constant potential to be better; that doesn't mean that we should live in a permanent state of self dissapointment for what we have not yet achieved. You need to value yourself for who you are and not what you havent yet achieved! | |
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| Personal Happiness.
Posted: 10/8/2009 6:13:21 PM | | I agree with you. Happiness is found from within. I have come along way in life as most of us have. Learning to like myself and getting rid of the things that are not pleasing to me has brought me to where I am today. | |
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| Personal Happiness.
Posted: 10/9/2009 2:10:21 AM | I am happiest when I help someone I care about, it is nice to make people smile.
True happiness is having all things in place with few worries, being content with our life's is the main aim of us all.
I feel stability is a main factor for young and old, when it comes to feeling content. | |
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| Personal Happiness.
Posted: 10/9/2009 3:43:08 AM | | 10 pints of lager and a spliff and I,m happy as larry | |
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