| The most important virtue over 60...for women and men.
Posted: 8/14/2009 9:18:54 AM | | In a man over 60, the man that attracts my attention has real wisdom. He is secure and confident and is looking for a real mate that allows him to be the best and the worst with complete acceptance. He is searching for someone he can be honest with and not have to be that man that everyone else has determined is a catch. His wisdom has become a part of who he is and it projects in his walk, talk, and actions. He has finally come to the realization that the world does not define who or what he is but it is himself that defines who he is. I have come to these conclusions myself and it has set me free to evolve into the woman I have always aspired to become. Relationships do not define us..We define us..My vote is WISDOM | |
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| The most important virtue over 60...for women and men.
Posted: 8/14/2009 11:42:50 AM | For me, it is simply love. In love comes every other single virtue of any importance. It includes kindness, compassion, honesty, understanding, respect, goodness, sweetness and light. Without it, not one thing else matters -- not status, money, fame, courage, accomplishments. . . .
That's all.
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| The most important virtue over 60...for women and men.
Posted: 8/14/2009 12:06:53 PM | I agree with Me Leona, chivalry is important at any age. I don't see any virtue being THE most important. It takes many qualities to be a good person.
I think some people poison themselves with their own negativity. Perhaps what should be avoided most is negativity and untruths? They say the truth will set you free, non? | |
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| The most important virtue over 60...for women and men.
Posted: 8/15/2009 11:09:51 AM | Well, I'm not quite in my 60's yet, but to me, the most important virtue at any age is compassion.
That word has a very broad meaning, and includes things such as understanding the people around you, and reacting in a way that does not demean them. It also includes doing things you really have no interest in, just because your actions make the other feel good about themselves. It includes being a friend when your friend is in the dumps, accepting that the other person has value, and most of all, total acceptance of whatever (within the realm of being legal and ethical) the other human being beside you has for faults. Heck yes, we all have faults, that make being friends/lovers sometimes difficult. Compassion is so important in dealing with your everyday sanity, and that of the ones around you. | |
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| The most important virtue over 60...for women and men.
Posted: 8/15/2009 12:03:27 PM |
For me, it is simply love. In love comes every other single virtue of any importance. It includes kindness, compassion, honesty, understanding, respect, goodness, sweetness and light. Without it, not one thing else matters -- not status, money, fame, courage, accomplishments. . . .
Wooby, you beat me to it. Of course since you are 60 and I'm not, I shouldn't be surprised. Love for our fellow human beings pretty much covers just about everything else mentioned. And a big Booyah to you for nailing it.  | |
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| The most important virtue over 60...for women and men.
Posted: 8/16/2009 8:45:05 PM | | flowerforce ...... yes compassion. it's interesting that our cultured and religious world has had to create the virtue of compassion when you and i, if we can just relax in our selves in with another person, compassion disappears in favor of a healthy and holy life. i'm healthy and beautiful in my own way but my health and beauty expands in a loving relationship. the taoists ..... lao tzu & chuang tzu ..... knew when they wrote about yin and ying, up an down, night and day. there is a lovely photo book ..... homage to the himalayas ..... by a french photographer, olivier follmi, in which i see faces among the poverty and frozen climate and easy buddhism that i've never seen here, among us. there's a lesson for us in these lovely faces. | |
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| The most important virtue over 60...for women and men.
Posted: 8/17/2009 6:08:24 AM | Since Virtue is a very Subjective Word, Open to One's Perception of,, What is...
I simply state as my ongoing goal in life; If I can Bring a Smile or a Laugh into Someone's Life, ( which has a way of reciprocating ) I feel I've the sufficient wisdom to assume I've contributed to my fellow human.
If that brings someone "very" special into my life,, all the better.
I'm lovin Life like never before, *L* | |
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| The most important virtue over 60...for women and men.
Posted: 8/18/2009 8:16:11 PM | | force of flowers ..... life is a river, if we can believe the taoists, and life is a dance. a river dance. i care about you, which is the first note of the song. when the river begins as a trickle flowing from a tarn nestled among ice peaks, it is still a river, it is still itself. i have compassion for you without ever knowing you. i look at your photo and i see beauty and depth and poetry. compassion flows from that. | |
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| The most important virtue over 60...for women and men.
Posted: 9/12/2009 9:11:06 PM | I have difficulty with questions like this, well, perhaps I over think them, but, it seems if you identify one most important concept, you are discounting others which are probably equally important, and, especially, work in conjunction with each other.
So, I definitely agree that kindness is a very important quality for older people. We need to be kind to one another and to realize the value of kindness at this stage of life perhaps more so than at any other. But, humor is also essential for we need to be able to deal with life, it's difficulties, our decline, loss, and so on with some ability to find the irony and humor in it. As well, compassion is essential. Patience. Stoicism. Many qualities seem to me to be equally important, on their own and because they work in conjunction with each other. They are all so important at this stage of life. | |
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| The most important virtue over 60...for women and men.
Posted: 9/13/2009 6:01:52 AM | "Courage is the most important of all the virtues because without courage, you can't practice any other virtue consistently.
You can practice any virtue erratically, but nothing consistently without courage."................Maya Angelou
Posters to this thread have stated various virtues that are deemed to be the most important, to them. But, so many times, people fail to maintain these virtues because of fear.
As an example: In previous posts, the virtue "love" has been suggested to be the most important....but if fear is holding a person back or a person is afraid to love, what good is the virtue? Without courage, love is just a concept. An illusionary idea.
I think Maya Angelou is onto something.............. | |
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| The most important virtue over 60...for women and men.
Posted: 9/13/2009 6:05:08 AM | | That's a good quality, courage. I still maintain it is a combination of many virtues that will carry us through, and of course we all fail ourselves and others at times. If you know anything about Maya Angelou, she needed to cultivate the virtue of courage pretty much to survive much of her childhood and to flourish as she has. So, I can see why courage is the most important virtue to her. | |
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| The most important virtue over 60...for women and men.
Posted: 9/13/2009 7:46:14 AM | "Faith , Hope, and Love ." The greatest of these is Love.
I am still trying to figure out how I got this damn old . LOL
Some of the things I have learned in my live is that ,you cannot fix people , just love them for who they are . Someone said that courage is the most important viture. I sadly find that virtue lacking in lots of women my age. Lots say that they want love and companionship , but are too afraid of commitment. I am not the man that cheated on you. I am not the man that played with your emotions. Move on and give me a chance to love you. I know that sounds like its easy , and I realize that for some it is not, but at least for myself , I refuse to believe that love and having a relationship at this age is not impossible. We have all been hurt in past relationships , but mine are in the past , and I still look forward to meeting that woman, who has the courage to put past realtionships in the past, and moves on with the belief that there is someone out there that is not out to use them, but just to love them. So perhaps, courage , love , and humor are all important. Steve | |
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| The most important virtue over 60...for women and men.
Posted: 9/14/2009 2:01:54 PM | | Being down to earth and having no illusions about where they are at in their lives. Doesn't matter if they are the most active, fit, and healthy people you know. I'm all for being young at heart. But they'd better have a grip on the fact that it's soon going to be the bottom of the ninth inning and there's no extras in this game. | |
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