| The most important virtue over 60...for women and men.
Posted: 10/13/2009 8:07:47 PM | """I'm not sure that virtues for 'over sixty' people should be any different than virtues for anyone of any age. To see and understand from the broadest perspective possible is the greatest strength anyone can have. When one has this ability, so much else follows. Such people, with this capacity, are people I greatly admire. (They are often people we call 'old souls.')"""
I think the biggest difference is that by the time one gets to or passes 60, they should have enough self-knowledge to have come to terms with who they are and be happy with what they are. If they haven't done that, or changed who they are to someone they can like, no virtue is going to matter. | |
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| The most important virtue over 60...for women and men.
Posted: 10/13/2009 8:14:15 PM | I think the biggest difference is that by the time one gets to or passes 60, they should have enough self-knowledge to have come to terms with who they are and be happy with what they are. If they haven't done that, or changed who they are to someone they can like, no virtue is going to matter. Sounds like a nice idea, but what I am seeing, in reality, is that as people age they are not more liketly to grow wiser or have more self knowledge or come to terms with who they are. People pretty much stay the same .... there are as many people in their 20's, 30's, and 40's who are wise, self aware, and accepting as there are people over 50 or 60 who are. | |
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| The most important virtue over 60...for women and men.
Posted: 10/13/2009 8:21:54 PM | """Sounds like a nice idea, but what I am seeing, in reality, is that as people age they are not more liketly to grow wiser or have more self knowledge or come to terms with who they are. People pretty much stay the same .... there are as many people in their 20's, 30's, and 40's who are wise, self aware, and accepting as there are people over 50 or 60 who are."""
One can only hope. I was thinking of the people I personally know. And in particular, one who swore it wasn't his fault he was the way he was, it was all his parents' fault for the way they raised him. I doubt if that one ever grew up. I also knew his cousin, which was how I'd met him, and the cousin was, while not necessarily a nice man, one who at least took responsibility for what he did himself. He was what he was, and he knew it was no one's fault but his own. | |
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| The most important virtue over 60...for women and men.
Posted: 10/14/2009 8:09:36 PM | I noticed that someone said they think having faith in god is a virtue.
Virtue … desirable quality … asset …benefit … goodness … morality … integrity
Virtuous ... moral ... righteous ... honest ... worthy ... honorable
What's so virtuous about that?
A lot of horrible things have been done to others through the years because of religion. Also that insinuates that having faith in that one god would be a virtue but what of those who don't believe in the same god? Are they then incapable of being virtuous?
Anyway ... I can't name any one "most important" virtue that a person over 60 might embrace. I know about myself ... and know what I'd like in a partner, but there are so many wonderful combinations, I really can't choose just one that I'd like to see or find in a prospective partner. | |
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| The most important virtue over 60...for women and men.
Posted: 10/15/2009 2:28:33 PM | If the ForumFilly will allow me to add to her comment...
I don't think it is the kind of acceptance where one invites them over for dinner. But, rather accepting everyone for who they are. If someone is violent or rude, then accept the fact that some people are that way, and stay away away from them.
When I was younger, I felt it was necessary that I understand things, and if something was awry (like violent or rude people), I felt the need to fix the problem or at least make it better. These days, I accept rude people (and bad drivers) for what they are and don't give them another thought. Failure to do so would allow their bad mood to contaminate my good mood. Acceptance! | |
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| The most important virtue over 60...for women and men.
Posted: 11/10/2009 1:01:10 AM | | I do think there are a lot of virtues that are important, but I feel for me at least, the one thing that is very important is my "confidence of who I am".... or should I say, who I have become. I may not be young anymore, don't have the same figure, maybe a few wrinkles, maybe a few hairs going grey (although I don't have any wrinkles or grey hair yet...true)..... but I feel that if I can love myself and accept who I am, and grow old gracefully and still be confident and not be insecure .... then that makes me peacful. And along with my confidence, I must also have my integrity.... very important. | |
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| The most important virtue over 60...for women and men.
Posted: 11/10/2009 8:04:26 PM | Most important virtue to me? It's certainly not religious intolerance.
Why? Because religious intolerance is not a commendable quality or trait, i.e. not a virtue.
Laughable how one without virtue makes a pretense of posting anything on the importance of any? 
*shakes head, expells gas, blows nose, and belches simultaneously | |
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| The most important virtue over 60...for women and men.
Posted: 11/11/2009 7:43:46 PM | Don't know if it's a virtue or not, but the single most useful trait for me since I turned 60, is the ability to laugh. At myself first of all. At others, not so much. *With* others, always. Also much treasured in a mate. I 'spect it's going to be even more important next year. . . .
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