| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/14/2009 6:27:18 PM | | Oh trust me, she had the surgery. Other family members were there when she had it in the waiting room. The whole family wouldn't be lying about it. | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/14/2009 6:30:47 PM | | I would love to have one or two more if the right circumstances occur. Right now I have to concentrate on finishing my degree and taking care of my daughter. I had an IUD put in right after I had my daughter to prevent any "accidents" before I was ready. Haven't really needed it...lol, since I haven't been involved with anyone since before I had my daughter. | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/14/2009 8:34:11 PM | I'm done with babies - I've got my two, and am raising them on my own - they're both turning out great, but at this point, I'm ready for them to finish growing up and do their own thing, that way I can grow up and do my own thing!
I got fixed, so it's pretty much out of the question. I've passed on women here because they put that they want kids in the profile. I've not turned anyone down, per se, but I haven't written a couple that I really would have loved to go out with because of that. (It's not fair to them, if they want a family of their own, I can't provide it)
Is it a bad thing? eh, not really, it's what they want, it's just not the direction my life is headed. | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/15/2009 4:07:36 PM | | I'm done having kids and I am comfortable with that decision. I'm in my mid 30's my youngest is 13. I had kids early in my life and now they have their own life and I can have mine. There are profiles that I have seen and think hey he seems cool and then I see he wants kids.. so I move on. Do I think it has impacted my ability to date? not at all. | |
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Posted: 8/15/2009 4:56:30 PM | Hi Isolated1.
I used to always say I was the perfect package as I was a single mother to one son. Being in my early 20s with one son meant that if I met someone who wanted more kids then I would be happy and be able to give them more. While at the same time if I met someone who didnt want to have kids (but was wiling to accept my son) then I was happy as I was lucky to have my beuatiful little boy.
My (now x) husband and I decided to work on our marriage a second time (which was unsuccessful and willl never be successful). Just before leaving I fell pregnant. That means that all of a sudden I am going to be a single mother of 2 children. I was worried that this would affect my possibilities with men as I had two but once again I would still consider another 1 if we chose to.
I believe tho, that I am a woman that can make a special man happy and for those who turn away becuase I have two kids thats their loss.
I do have male friends who dont want kids of their own but are more than happy to take on someone elses kids, while i have others who definately want only their own kids, and others who are in the middle and are happy to take on someone else but also want their own. I did have one friend that was definatley a "MY KIDS ONLY" tpye person until they met their current partner who already has kids and cannot have any more. They are so happy together and the kids are "THEIR" kids. | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/16/2009 2:57:45 PM | I thought I was done at 3 after 10 years married to the wrong man. (we married at 19 because we were expecting) I planned to be single for a decade, then meet someone who was in his late 40s who's children were grown.
Out of the blue, I met the love of my life. I realized how much I missed out on the experience of conciously deciding to make a baby. To love each other so much that you want to create a new person. To spend the pregnancy laying in each other's arms talking and dreaming about the baby's life. To see his eyes light up when he feels those first kicks. To have him support me as I birth his child, kiss me afterwards. To spend our first night together in bed, the baby nursing and my husband overcome with joy. To see this big, maculine guy's heart melt as his daughter looks at him. To watch the man I respect and honour raise children that are a perfect combination of both of us. To cheer over their accomplishments, and together cry at their struggles.
So yeah, now I want more!! | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/16/2009 3:51:03 PM | | i have 2 children and am perfectly content if i never have any more. that being said, when my youngest was born i opted for the IUD instead of the tubal ligation. I know i dont want to be a single parent to any additional children however if i ever do meet mr. really is right and is going to be there tomorrow and next week, next year, etc, it might be nice to have the option of having another child together... it is an option not a requirment. there would be many factors to consider, such as if he has any children already from his previous relationship, what age will he or i be when we finally do meet eachother and have been together long enough to realize its going to last forever, will we still be young enough to enjoy the experience of having another child or will we be closer to the grandparent years. | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/17/2009 6:33:58 PM | | My uterus is definitely closed. I *could* have more but despite what someone else said about the diaper/midnite feeding stages...for me, it's the teenage years. I have a freshman and a junior in high school. I wouldn't mind a newborn or toddler...it's the drama years that are tough! I can't imagine having the patience to go through teaching someone to drive again in another 17 years...yikes. I hope to be enjoying sex in my rocker by then! | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/18/2009 1:56:39 PM | Post 24-25 .
Why he got deported?????? If he married you he would get a citizenship even he was in an illegal status before. Why did the deportation occur? | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/18/2009 2:05:26 PM |
I once thought of having more for my new relationship sence my tubes are just tied ,but i dont want to take the chance of being a single mom again. And me and my girls arent alone bye choice theyre dad got deported 2 and half years ago and my 3yr old doesnt know him .only for the phone. Idont want to see my girls hurt and crying again and so depressed for not having theyre daddy .They still would like to have one.My girls are ages 13,8,7 and 3. Im 30 yrs old all my friend s say give it time,well ive been waiting to find someone on here and else where. I dont believe it will happen for the fact i get told i have to many kids by almost every guy i talk to here.
FOUR children is A LOT. Were you married to their father? Do they all have the same father?
Post 24-25 .
Why he got deported?????? If he married you he would get a citizenship even he was in an illegal status before. Why did the deportation occur?
Maybe he didn't want to stick around, who knows. | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/18/2009 3:02:38 PM | My Girlfriend got her tubes tied quite a few years ago...
She didn't want any chance of any more kids... now she's regretting it deeply... but it doesn't look like much can be done about it.... | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/18/2009 5:00:57 PM | | I have two kids and I would like to have more but it is not diffinantly a deal breaker for me but I was friends with a guy and he wanted to date but when I found out that he had a vasectomy 10 years before and not regretted I had to wonder how he would want to be with my kids 2 and 4 so yes it's a deal breaker for me because my kids are so young and if they don't want kids of their own why would they want mine around | |
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Posted: 8/18/2009 5:14:07 PM | | Well I'm getting to old to have more childern...I have two already.I would have loved to have more kids.. Im not sure about more kids..I still havent found a man yet soo I sure by the time I find one I will defaintly be way to old for more kids.. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2009 6:39:01 PM | | I only have one child and i want another . I prefer only one more and I want to be married not just in a relationship. If a man has no interest in having a child or another child then i would not date him. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2009 10:20:37 PM | | I'm DONE! I am not trying to repopulate the earth here... lol... I have one of each. I'm more than happy with that. I don't think my kids are the ones "holding me back" in the dating world. I am. Hell, right now, I don't even wanna get married again!!! LOL... | |
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Posted: 8/19/2009 5:53:15 AM | I may be young ,yes, but I really don't want any more children of my own.
And I guess my reasons for that are kind of selfish, but i am happy with the one child I have now!
I am open to dating/marrying someone with kids though | |
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Posted: 8/19/2009 1:11:16 PM | Well am a 27 year old single mum to a 8 year old girl and am defo done with having kids people say you never no but i no i dont want anymore i would get sterilised if they would do it but they say am to young . If i was to start a long term relationship i would let him no from the start were i stand. | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/19/2009 9:48:25 PM | | I would have be in really good circumstances to have more kids. As a single parent, I have my hands FULL with the darlins I already have! | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/20/2009 9:57:46 PM |
Well am a 27 year old single mum to a 8 year old girl and am defo done with having kids people say you never no but i no i dont want anymore i would get sterilised if they would do it but they say am to young . If i was to start a long term relationship i would let him no from the start were i stand.
I was 25 when I got pregnant with my daughter and brought up the "tying the tubes" topic with my doc. It started because I wanted a VBAC (Vaginal Birth After Cesarean), he asked how many more kids I wanted and when I said "None, that's another thing I wanted to talk to you about," he said it was best that I do the C-Section anyway. I wasn't in a relationship, my daughter's sperm donor ran, and he did it. It depends on the doc. Though they can't stop you from doing it either. If that's what you want, go to another doctor. | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/20/2009 10:57:42 PM | I wish that question were posed as two questions instead of one. I have no problem dating someone who has a child/children. However, I have no interest in having any more babies. In fact, I felt so strongly about the subject that I had my tubes tied a couple of years ago. I didn't want any "accidents". It has been a deal breaker for me a number of times, in fact now, I typically bring it up fairly quickly in conversation - especially if their profile says they do not have any children. That always gives the thought that there is a strong likelihood that they will want some at some point.
I will say this though....my last two dating relationships have been with men who had baby/toddler age kids. I have just about ruled out dating anyone with children that young again. In both situations I found myself being the constant free babysitter, the diaper changer, one actually had the nerve to expect me to get up on the weekends with his daughter at 6am while he slept until 11 or so! That happened twice before that relationship was over. I hate to discriminate against anyone with children being a single parent myself, but I think I've decided they have to at least be past the toddler phase for me. | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/21/2009 1:54:34 AM | NO way i have 3 kids and I plan to have fun now. Call me selfish i dont care cause I lived the so called perfect family life for 11 yrs. Time for fun now I think  | |
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