| Is college really date central?
Posted: 9/4/2009 7:47:52 AM | | You will never have the opportunities in "adult" life to meet single women in your age range as you have in college. Take advantage of it now, or regret your missed opportunities for the rest of your life. | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 9/4/2009 12:15:47 PM | | All through college I didn't date a single person or have a girlfriend despite being active in student government and a few student organizations. Though I was pretty shy and introverted back then. | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 9/4/2009 12:58:02 PM | maybe you should concentrate on your study first of all since that's the reason why you go to college in the first place. it's good to go about doing your daily things when you have sense of purpose. then when you have some free time join the extracurricular activities or clubs to meet more people that share the same interests. best way is to let this people come naturally into your life, instead of forcing it.
well, but then again that was my experience. i'm a girl. i remember i was just doing my own thing and going about my own business and guys would come and said hi. there were guys at the library, at the vending machine, at the computer room etc. i remember i didn't have to do much to get dates. but guys most likely have to do the inititiating. | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 9/6/2009 8:42:11 AM | Is college really date central?
op,
if you don't have the balls to talk to a chick then it doesn't matter where you at or how many chicks are around. a chick knows which guy is most likely gonna bang her on the weekend.
i never dated in college but i always got laid. thats why i matured and slowed down. now i look at women more than just a piece of meat.
the problem with you is...you got no class. you don't standout from the rest of the dudes at school. | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 9/6/2009 9:23:31 AM |
I've been going to the university for the past year now and I know you all have college stories that just blow our minds. Not me, I haven't met a single girl I clicked with on a campus
That was more or less my experience in University... but in my program, the girl-guy ratio was around 50-50.
But I try talking to a girl and I'm already in the red because they're all thinking "Why's there a dude in OUR major?"
The key is Confidence. You simply must not allow yourself to care about what they think about that. Only start caring if a girl shows some interest... and even then, keep it restrained. Otherwise you risk making yourself look like or be a doormat... which in turn will cause you to end up in Friend Zone Hell.
My question is, did you date more guys/girls while in college than before or after college?
In my observation, there isn't that much difference between the amount of dating overall during college or shortly after college. It's harder if you're a guy and in college because most of the girls want someone older or with more money than you. Once you get out there, get a job and have your own place, things start to even out.
The whole 'everyone is dating/having sex with everyone' is a media-inspired fiction. A perfect example is the recent Transformers movie... where all the girls are done up, thin and have perfect makeup and hair all the time. Same for the guys, minus the makeup. Nobody seems to be fat, have bad acne, wearing cheap clothes or be putting a priority on actually learning. And when *I* was in university, MOST people were NOT like what you see portrayed in college situations on TV or in movies.
If you keep yourself from getting tied down and you stay in the game, then you'll find you'll get more sought after as you get older (in your 30s) because younger girls will take you into consideration, as will women the same age ANND women older than you will go for you as well.
I feel like I'm missing out on a big part of the college experience,
I felt like that too when I was in University. Part of the reason is that I didn't live in residence... I lived at home and took the bus/subway to school. But in hindsight, I actually didn't miss anything because much of the so-called "college/university experience" is media-generated fiction.
Look, while you're in school, your priority is to learn and get some good credentials so you can get a good job and afford a nice lifestyle. THAT will do a lot more for getting dates than anything else in the long run.
Focus on learning and getting good grades, enjoy the odd party and if you meet someone, great. But don't sweat it if you don't because time is on your side. Also, at this point in your life, it's also a good idea to get into a regular workout routine because once you're in the workforce, it's really easy to get fat and out of shape... which in turn hurt your ability to get dates. | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 9/6/2009 9:27:31 AM | | high school was so much better... either that or girls wanted to play their games on someone hard to get. lol | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 9/6/2009 10:42:20 AM | | no it's more meet people central i found , i didn't see alot of young people really dating when i was there . more they were meeting people and such . alot were really too busy as well to focus alot of time on dating and all that it involves , they go to the bars alot but not really date alot of the people they meet there i found | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 9/6/2009 10:55:51 AM | | Couple I know in their late 20 early 30's met in college...ethier at a college party or class. I do think it is dating central .. too bad I missed that boat. I went to college later in life and every one was 5+ years younger than me :( | |
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LBA26
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 9/7/2009 5:02:13 AM | stop trying to date and start trying to meet girls. Borrow lecture notes, exchange ideas. Get used to treating them as human beings.
When you can walk up to the prettiest girl on campus and ask her if she has change for some machine, then you're ready to think about dating.
If you haven't met a single girl in 15,000 students that you've clicked with, either your standards are too high, or you are coming across as creepy.
Other things to try. Get a new hair cut, new clothes, a new cologne.
Try joining clubs on campus. Get hobbies that involved meeting people.
Dating is easier in college because you meet so many new people, share classes for a term, and then go on. People go back to school to add dating opportunities to their lives.
Ketch | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 9/7/2009 7:29:03 AM | | All I know is if you want an active social life in college/university, don't enroll in engineering and don't live too far off-campus. I did both, what a horrible time...lol | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 9/8/2009 9:37:25 AM | I had a great time in college, even better than HS (which was great for me).
I went away for school and live in residence my second year. However, the key time for me was frosh week. That is where I met alot of people that I would continue talking to for all four years I was in school.
While my school had alot of people coming from other towns, like all young people, cliques tend to form quickly. I joined a social club, a film club and a common interest club and form many friends there. I also had a relationship with a Fraternity (because I was a DJ back then and offered my services for free) and while I had alot of "superficial" relationships there, but I got invited to all the great greek parties. I also had good relationships with my neighbors who were also freshmen from another town, of which I still keep in touch.
I found that meeting people in class is most often hard because the cliques have formed by that point, especially if you are in those "mega-classes" of freshmen year. I found that I met more people in study groups that form in the smaller study classes that are lead by grads.
I had a good time during college and the only thing I regretted back in those heady days was not marrying my college sweetheart. | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 9/8/2009 10:12:41 AM | | Looking back at my college years, I now think that college is definitely the best place to meet someone for long term or even marriage. Most of my married friends have met their wives in college and it's worked out really well for them. Not so much for me :-) | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 9/9/2009 2:52:27 PM | | It sure wasn't for me. Everybody seemed to have their own clicques of friends and didn't want to expand it. it was one of the most disappointing parts of my college experience. Of course I didn't date in High school either. | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 9/9/2009 7:41:12 PM |
All I know is if you want an active social life in college/university, don't enroll in engineering and don't live too far off-campus. I did both, what a horrible time...lol
You sir have given some good advice. I fell into the same trap. | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 9/10/2009 6:39:10 AM | Bah you can enter engineering and still get laid if you actually know how to have fun and not be a total nerd (if you work towards an athletic bod like I did, that helps too). Just take some electives from the departments of education/nursing, and you'll be swimming in chicks; join one of the intramural leagues, hit the university gym a.k.a Eye Candy Central...
Back at McGill University in Montreal I was perpetually surrounded by the tastiest assortment of fresh-faced, young taught women the likes of which I'll never see again. Sure the single young professional lifestyle phase I'm in now is also fun since I have some cash and freedom, but hell nothing beat being able to pick up a girl for free on Frosh week and just shag each other's brains out in Residence.
If you don't avail yourself of these wonderful times at your disposal, I'll gladly pay your tuition to take your place and have another go! 
P.S.: Those that tell you picking girls up in class doesn't work are also smoking crack. One of the easiest times to get laid is during exam cram time in the library because it's stuffed with stressed out girls from out of town that would love nothing more than a little "stress relief" before they pop off back home for the holidays and can pretend nothing happened when they get back, if they so choose...   | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 9/10/2009 7:37:10 AM | "P.S.: Those that tell you picking girls up in class doesn't work are also smoking crack. One of the easiest times to get laid is during exam cram time in the library because it's stuffed with stressed out girls from out of town that would love nothing more than a little "stress relief" before they pop off back home for the holidays and can pretend nothing happened when they get back, if they so choose... "
Damn, shoulda went to McGill instead of Western. Maybe it's the Quebecois atmosphere? Cause I used to always have a good time with french women when I visited Montreal. | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 9/10/2009 11:08:25 AM | | I've been in college for a year and I haven't got a date yet. Granted, most of the female students on campus are young enough to be my daughters. Ok, maybe getting a date from school is out of the question for me. | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 9/10/2009 1:39:39 PM | | I don't know. I was married when I went to college. My wife and I went together. If it was dating central, I really missed out on it. (I don't think my now ex would have appreciated it) | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 9/10/2009 1:56:25 PM | If you think you're more "feminine" because of your major, then this will haunt you til you die.
Not saying you should change majors, but change your mindset. Also get away from trying to meet women in class and try to meet them in social settings where the major isn't the big thing. | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 9/10/2009 2:01:32 PM | | Women can meet Men anywhere, but Men can't really because we have to play our cards right, and if we play them wrong, not only do we get rejected, but we can get in legal trouble even if it was not our intention to break the law. | |
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