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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 8/14/2009 10:55:16 AM | This looks like another "nice guy" thread in disguise. Dating is not easy for either gender.
I have asked fellows out and I have been asked out. I have also been rejected many times . That is just part of life. Go find a life coach and get some confidence in yourself. My take on it is quit complaining and if you see a woman you are interested in ask her out. What is the worst that can happen? She can say no. Big deal. For every no you get you are one step closer to yes. | |
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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 8/14/2009 11:11:35 AM |
It takes time, maturity, confidence and comfortability to get over our superficial selves, some never need to, some never do.
Also keep in mind average lookers one day may be hot lookers in a few years. A lot of people also find out to their dismay that hot looks can fade conversely with years, too.
Truer words were never spoken.
To be honest, though, I often search out what you might call 'average' simply because they are usually nicer then 'hot' guys. And yes, I will go up to them and talk to them.
I suggest the OP do this. Next time you go out, don't look at the gorgeous gals, make eye contact with some average looking woman and smile. I'll bet you will get her to smile back and maybe even come up and talk to you. | |
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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 8/14/2009 12:06:35 PM | We do not have it easier. I can give you this rundown of what we go through. Not that men don't have dating problems, but we do put up with madness.
Why it's Harder for Women to Date:
1. The guy that wants someone with an athletic build (not all athletic builds look like hawaiian tropic models)
2. The guy who thinks there was a 'spark' and starts to stalk you
3. The slob - looks great in public and when you go to his home it's just out of control
4. Mama's boys (nuff said)
5. The 'I forgot my wallet' or 'wow, what you ordered was expensive' (mind you, you are at a mid-dining level and the bill is only $40 - $60) OH! The guy that says he had a great time and only pays for his half.
6. The guy who touches you without permission on the first date
7. The guy who has lied about everything he told you to get the date (this one usually tells you the truth then laughs about it as if wasting your time is funny)
8. Taking the time to dress properly and he shows up in some lame bull$hit
9. Mr. Whiplash that can't focus on you because he is still on the prowl
10.The guy that gets completely smashed and tries to spend the night with you
11. Mr. I like to talk about myself, no really, he never let's you get a word in and then orders your food for you
12. The guy who said he had no children and as it turns out he has a football team
13. The guy who is all sweaty and coked up. There's that runny nose thing too
14. Mr. After Dinner Onto Sex as if I was starving to death and must show gratitude for a meal.
15. The guy that wants you to meet his family after a couple of months
16. The guy that all of a sudden wants to give you a curfew
17. The guy that wants to change you because you are wild eventhough that's what he was attracted to in the first place
18. Guys who ask 'why do you need so many shoes' (ha ha just thought I'd throw that in)
19. The guy who talks about his EXES
20. The constant liar. It's never usually anything a normal person would lie about he just lies
21. The****BLOCKER. Ugh this is the one douchebag who you rejected and he will make it a point to walk over and stand so close that the guy you are interested in has to ask if 'you' are with 'him'.
22. Men who give a weight limit. Just so you know guys muscle weighs more than fat. I had a date once commend me on my fitness and asks how much I weighed. He thought 135 or so. When I told him 168 he almost hit the floor! F.Y.I. stop posting weight limits especially if you are not in shape!
23. The guy that freaks out because you are 30. Newsflash boys: we are not our mothers, nobody is trying to marry you and have kids, and you are missing out because we are peaking sexually.
24. The guy that says he's going to call you and seems super excited about you then 'poof' nothing.
25. Insecure guys who need to be stroked every minute of the day
26. Little guys who want to where those chunky 'short guy shoes' (which are hideous) and not want you to wear your heels too high.
27. God's gift to women guy
28. The guy who was perfect until you realize that he tries to perform sex like he's a porn star. He never listens to what you want, he just hammers away.
29. The shadower. He's everywhere you go! You can never have a moment alone. He even talks through the door while you are peeing.
30. The guy with no tact. You know the one who will loudly go 'is that a hair on your chin' or talk about your sex life in public and think that's cool! WTF!!!
31. Grown men wearing Ed Hardy and all those other douchebag Ts and trucker hats. UGH! They are usually overweight too which makes it worse.
This is just a taste of what women go through while dating. Whether we want to admit it or not . There's more if you want it. Now suck it up and don't be one of the descriptions on my list. | |
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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 8/14/2009 12:10:50 PM | LOL! As a Plain Jane myself, I often get asked out, and DO some asking, but I always thought I was asked out because of my boobs!!! Dang it!
OP, just get out there, and check out someone you wouldn't normally go after. If you like blondes, check out a brunette, or a redhead. If you go for supermodel types (and we all know you want to!) go for the librarian looker, or the soccor mom!
Start with a simple, hello.
Sometimes stepping outside of your comfort zone opens a world of possibilites to you!
Good luck!! | |
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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 8/14/2009 1:00:29 PM | When it comes to an actual relationship, I think both have it equally difficult. It's not easy to find someone who's a good match even for the short-term.
If you're talking about sex and one-night stands, then yes, women have it far easier - IF they're even open to the idea. Unless a woman is exceptionally unattractive, she can almost always find a guy willing to have sex with her. Men looking for one-night stands often greatly lower their standards versus what they'd find acceptable for a relationship. | |
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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 8/14/2009 2:33:05 PM | POINT OF PURE LOGIC:
There's only ONE way you can test this. Find twins, one male, one female. Let them live their lives together normally for say,twenty years, then force BOTH to have sex change operations. Then wait another twenty years, and have them compare notes.
Other than that, your statement is way too general to have any real meaning. Its probably true that an attractive woman will tend to find it easier to meet and date men (provided she isn't picky) , than an equally attractive man will, simply because tradition still holds that men must make the first move (after the woman secretly signals him to, of course). It is certainly easier to be the one saying 'yes,' or 'no,' than it is to be the one who has to form understandable sentences through a brain clouded by fear and desire. Past that, it all falls apart. The RISKS to both sexes emotionally are fairly close (though it often appears to each, that the other recovers more readily than they do).
I suppose if you are looking at the financial side, it is certainly more EXPENSIVE for the men, again more due to tradition than anything else. But that isn't what you asked. | |
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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 8/14/2009 2:39:49 PM | Since when is a passive approach to life been the key to getting what you want?
You should thank your lucky stars that you're a man and can go after what you want.
Women are pretty sad just sitting there waiting for something to fall into their laps. You're able to go out and take from the world what you want. Being passive is LAME.
It must suck being a girl sitting there in the corner eyeballing guys and wishing they'd come talk to her. | |
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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 8/14/2009 3:09:13 PM | | Op...personally speaking, I will contact a guy if I like what I read and see. There are so many people on these dating sites that it's crazy to just wait for someone to contact you when he or she may not even know you exist.....life doesn't come to you , you need to go out and get it ...and that applies to dating as well. I also don't take rejection personally (which is why many people hesitate to make contact)...I know that I cannot be everyone's type , nor is everyone my type...I just choose not to take it personally. | |
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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 8/14/2009 3:15:35 PM |
I'm a guy who thinks Women have it way easier, or just not as hard as Men do when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, Boyfriend/Girlfriend, etc. Does anyone else have to agree with that?
I'm not sure I would word it quite like that. LOL
Remember the global population (for the sake of this argument) is one to one ratio. If there are millions of lonely, single men, there are likely equal number of women as well, and it's being lonely that sucks.
Which probably explains why there are always that one guy who has 12 women around him and 11 other guys standing all alone and horny. LOL
know it's tradition, thats the way it has always been, the guy initiating the date and relationship, and unfortuneately for the shy guys, thats the way it is always going to be. I hate it when women complain by saying they have dating and relationships harder than men, or just as hard, those women have got it so wrong.
Not tradition...probably more like genetics...I think every living specieies on the planet works this way. Men persue, women choose.
Grass is always greener on the other side...think about it from a female perspective...constantly having non-attractive men approaching you wanting in your pants and having to say "NO"...as a shy guy I'm sure you can appreciate how difficult it is to say "no" and knowing your going to hurt his feelings, right?
It's not easy no matter how you look at it... | |
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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 8/14/2009 3:54:18 PM | and 11 other guys standing all alone and horny. LOL And the OP would think that's why it makes it easier on women, cos there are all these guys hanging around like horny dogs waiting for them.
Women know that most of the other guys are "just horny" and don't really care who they stick it into as long as they get off. Sure it's easier for us to pick up if we just want sex, there's a whole plethora of 'horny' guys out there just praying someone will want to lay on their back for them. But are they on the same page as the woman who is looking for love and a relationship??? I think not!!! | |
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