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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 10/20/2009 8:51:52 PM | | I must say, reading through some of the posts and not all given the length of the whole thread but one observation that i have noted is that a lot of people don't seem to just like people and chatting with them. There seems to be this criteria that needs to be met before anyone will talk to anyone and this makes me wonder whether this is evident to other people which makes people less approachable through there body language. I'm not sure how a persons body language changes when they appear to have an ulterior motive but maybe that affects things. Just thinking out loud. | |
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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 10/21/2009 3:28:03 AM | OP
Theres one thing missing from your post. Why you think it's hard for men and how you determine that it's easier for women. Ya ya I see the BS about how men are "supposed to do the approaching" and the women can "just sit there and accept or reject"
I've been having a hard time STAYING SINGLE for god sakes. I dumped my ex because she was cheating and literally that day a girl who was looking at renting a room in my house says to me, "Well, even if I dont end up taking the room, you want to go for coffee sometimes? You seem like a really cool genuine guy."
I took her up on it and now five weeks later I got myself a girlfriend. I'd say that pisses on your deduction that women never do the approaching. Although you may be right.. to this day she still doesn't consider our first meeting a "date". Lol. I did.
What I have found changed my success rate with women was my mindset. When I dry as a bone (or my bone was dry.. or whatever.. I was single for a long time) I'd enter a bar or a room or whatever and hang with my buddies and then single out some girl to hit on and try to get "in with". Rarely if ever worked. Why? Because instead of just "talking" to the women I went straight in for the kill. Women can sense when they're being treated like a target and then their "not interested" light dings on and then you're screwed. Waste the rest of the night trying to get her interested and you're going home to Lefty and another issue of Spank.
However, if you dont fret about picking up ANY GIRL AT ALL, and just linger around, talking to as many women as you like without trying to pick any of them up... one or two will give you the signals that they really like talking to you and will start hanging around a lot more. THEN you can move in and start showing interest and see if they bite; if they bite then you spend the rest of the evening talking to her and whammo... next thing you know you got her life history, her home phone number, her work schedule for the next few weeks, her life goals when she wants to get married and a voicemail on your answering machine by the time you get home thanking you for the great evening and how she was SOOOO GLAD SHE MET YOU.
Lol, sounds like your trying way too hard buddy, try the above technique, may not bag one the first time around, but trust me, you swath enough women like that and you'll tag and bag right quick and you'll end up with a girlfriend in no time. You'll actually end up having a hard time choosing which one... because you may not be used to having more than one girl interested in you at a time. Just remember: one at a time big boy... they have a womens' union and if they find out your playing more than one then you're going back to dry as a bone land... and theres no technique that will help you overcome the "two timing jerk" label other than moving to another town.
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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 10/21/2009 3:40:09 AM | Ah, yes. I had hoped that the OP would benefit from venting, get it out of his system, and move on. But lo, these many months later, it's the same story. I realize he has issues, and hope he works them out, though it doesn't look like it's going to happen here.
As to average guys being "undesirable," says who? I prefer them! I'm really not attracted to pretty-boy model/movie star types. I prefer my man to look a bit rugged and real. Besides, average guys get play all the time- most of my friends are married to average-looking guys. And they're not rich, either. Check out the wedding page of your local paper. You'll see mostly average folks tying the knot.
The truth is, most of us are average-that's what it means. And most people are in relationships at least some of the time. If you find over and over again, that the women you approach don't seem to like your looks, you might consider approaching a different type of woman. Also, take a look at the profiles of male posters on this thread who are not put out by the inequities of dating. Most of them are doing quite well on this site, and I think a lot of that stems from from their appealing personalities and positive attitudes, rather than great riches and fabulous looks.
I'm willing to concede that you guys don't have it easy. Although, even though I've already said it a million times, I'll say it again- a lot of average-looking women don't have it easy, either. I'm so seldom approached by a man, that I started taking the initiative 25 years ago. If I sat back and waited for the right man to approach me, I'd probably never even have had a boyfriend, and would own at least 40 cats by now!
Like several posters above have said- you are responsible for your own happiness. Life can be hard and unfair for anyone, regardless of gender, and it's up to all of us to decide if we're going to complain and do nothing, or take action to achieve a positive outcome. | |
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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 10/21/2009 3:45:46 AM | I think SOME people have life in general a lot easier than SOME other people. As for this particular 'battle of the sexless' .. pffffft! 
If 'Love, Dating and Relationships' were "easy there would be No "special", no need to "work" on anything, no room for GROWTH, no Appreciation
.. no point.
OP - Life gets 'easier' when you realize that YOU are the captain of your own ship and you stop blaming the crew of another ship for your lack of 'navigating' skills. | |
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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 10/21/2009 10:13:10 AM |
I have yet to meet a man that actually doesnt think he is the best thing since sliced bread, doesnt think he will rock my world, doesnt think he is a sexual god, doesnt think he is good looking, doesnt think that all he needs is a coupel of hours to convince me that he is right for me, etc, etc.
It would take more than a couple of hours... but the rest is true.  | |
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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 11/4/2009 12:55:44 PM |
It's always been peculiar to me that most of the people I know who go right into another relationship after a break up.... are women. From the people I know who do this... 90% of them who are women.
Most (not all) men I know are single for quite a while after a break up. A factor in this must be options....the women have more options (i.e. guys ready and willing to date them) while the guys have less.
Usually it's a number of things, a major one being women grieve better as they seek emotional support and take less time to move on.
That's why the remarriage rate for men is much higher?
http://ezinearticles.com/?What-Every-Woman-Should-Know-About-Men---5-Little-Known-Facts&id=1893713 | |
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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 11/5/2009 5:21:30 AM |
I must say, reading through some of the posts and not all given the length of the whole thread but one observation that i have noted is that a lot of people don't seem to just like people and chatting with them.
Yep, people think that if they go on a date and spend their time and money and someone isn't interested that it is a waste of time. I consider none of my dates a waste of time, whether or not I saw them again. I met someone new and most times I have an enjoyable time (that's because I can keep a conversation going). The negativity on here is ridiculous and frankly I'm not interested in meeting someone like that - they MAKE me feel negative with their whiny azz posts. They want a kind hearted woman with no drama? They should lose their own drama and that might improve things. | |
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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 11/5/2009 4:58:08 PM |
Yep, people think that if they go on a date and spend their time and money and someone isn't interested that it is a waste of time. I consider none of my dates a waste of time, whether or not I saw them again. I met someone new and most times I have an enjoyable time (that's because I can keep a conversation going).
I've spent lots of worthless dates. But a guy has to take those financial chances in dating. One time I went on 5 dates in one month and spent about $400 as a total. All 5 were not interested BUT told me a couple of days later. C'est la vie, sometimes a guy has only the thrill of getting a date. | |
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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 11/5/2009 5:55:36 PM | ^^^^Please don't complain about money! I used to live an hour outside of town and I would come into town, pay my gas AND my way most times on dates. Most times, we both paid our way.
If you are paying $400 for 5 dates, I think you are nutso and if you think they are worthless, it's our own dam fault and attitude. A guy does NOT have to take those chances - you are dating the wrong women.
I'm tired of the whining from most of the people on POF. There are alot worse things in life to worry about. Try having to concentrate on making it through a day without pain, or nausea from the chemo. Honestly. Most of you need some perspective because your negativity is so ugly. | |
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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 11/7/2009 3:08:03 AM | The thread that keeps going and going...
I've said a few pieces way back.
It's obvious the OP thinks it's harder. Are we really going to convince him?
I agree with him but it's not going to change the usual proceedure like it or not.
Reguardless of trying to make it all equal PC or whatever...
Maybe we should put the thread to bed. It wants to sleep, it's been up too long lol! | |
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