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Savona
| | Joined: 7/14/2009
Msg: 176 | |
| | Decoding the Female LanguagePage 8 of 31 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31) | ^^^ If you are referring to me ... which I think you are;
Opinions are not arguments. They are only opinions. I never said he was not good looking or that he was good looking and so you have proved my point.
Just because a man is built or good looking does not mean a thing. Just like a woman being beautiful or beautiful body or such. We have read all kinds of posts in regards to leagues and he feels he is a league of his own, and perhaps he is ... so those women he would want are in a league of their own too ...
I felt that this OP wants women to come to him so he can pick and chose the best of the best ... well those women want the best of the best too ... and they are going to be very discriminating.
He says he can't read the signals from those women he would be interested in but he is able to read signals from women for FWB or such as one nighters. So why can he read one group and not the other?
Just curious thats all, aren't you, or you wouldn't be posting. His comment about my age has nothing to do with anything. Or his father or what ever ... so flipping funny I just had to laugh. OP's post reminded me so much of my sons when they were in their teens & early twenties, knee jerk reaction sometimes does tell the true tail of a personality now doesn't it. hahaha
Savona
EDIT ::: Just read you last post OP ... good luck dating. I think you have the right idea ... real life is just oh so much better, take your chance and roll the dice that is the only way to win.
cheers | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 5:46:34 AM | I case that Dantwice didn't notice: most people here who said (covered or not) that they use that method came for HIS country.....
Like people in US do not lie at all or never do things under false pretend........
Might be believed on a US site......but I doubt it.
anywhoo, was not on topic. | |
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~Music
| | Joined: 7/4/2008
Msg: 178 | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 11:10:29 AM | | ^^^^^^ And that my dear forums friends is what you call 'good communication'. Instead of becoming defensive and argumentative he reworded his approach to ensure that everyone understood. Indeed, communication can be an art as well. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 11:16:30 AM | &97[43 qoo w7dy q t99r6 g7hdy q5 58j3w <----- decode that!
okokok....translated - You're all such a goofy bunch at times | |
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Ependa
| | Joined: 7/16/2009
Msg: 180 | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 11:22:10 AM | I can't believe I'm jumping in on this,lol. I know better. But...well yeah, I love my country and don't even get me started on the BS lies. It's not like they haven't been around before, or that we're the only ones that do so..but some of the stuff lately has been more than many of us can take. So, not throwing stones here.
Onward... Just so that it's not misinterpreted, I won't mention country or culture names. I don't get into negative stuff like that. I embrace diversity (but I also don't try to close my eyes to it). ...
I've had some experience , in the business world , for the last 15 years..working with other cultures and they actually do (and have , since before it was 'popular') have cultural awareness cultures ...that focus on how to bridge gaps effectively.
Anyway, some cultures actually do consider lying to be talent (to be admired) and used openly as a skill for survival. Just saying. Peace out.
Edit...lol chameloen, I like it =) | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 11:22:58 AM | I like that Dantwise now incorporated Americans as his first statement was only targeting foreigners {I am thinking this is a cultural thing and in their cultures].
Generalizations or denial are never a good thing. :)
&97[43 qoo w7dy q t99r6 g7hdy q5 58j3w <----- decode that!
" I sometimes can't believe what am reading on those forums, Darn am bored, and did I close the fridge's door?" LOL!
Gonesailing: that's why I said that the BM wasn't flirting and only was friendly and social. Business is business! So she had a good tip as I enjoy good service... but not a overgenerous one calculated with what's in my boxers; even if the (devil knows) it has not been used a long while... That little trick anyway never worked on me.
Have a wonderful Monday too dear! | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 11:23:02 AM | I'm gonna send a couple secret and coded messages ALA Babe-Style; those of you who understand what it says please feel free to email me:
1. The Op's an azz. You treat Savona with disrespect one more time because you aren't man enough to handle opinions then I'm going make a side trip to Carson on my way to Washington and find your little piggy work out place, I'm guessing you're not as popular with the local ladies as you'd like to believe you are.
2. Common - your bar maid was hoping for a big tip. (Yes, you're gorgeous, but she was really needing cash)
3. Rentahusband? Made a mistake in calling me out in the Forums and pretended as if it didn't happen and didn't acknowledge he was mistaken - just went right on as if he'd never been a fool. It was Woman in Progress who made that claim about men and compliments not me and yet you said or did nothing to acknowledge you were wrong - hence continuing to confirm my initial impression of you was accurate.
Sigh. Happy Monday everybody. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 12:20:00 PM | Its not only females who require decoding. Men are the same and I for one just laugh while I have girlfriends who continually try to "figure out men". I really believe that both sexes are guilty.
If I am interested in a guy, I will make eye contact, smile and see if he responds. If I am interested in talking to him, I have no problem starting a conversation and giving him some kind of compliment. At that point, its up to him to respond or meet me half way. If he doesn't seem interested, I don't take it personally, and I just think that he is not interested. If the guy in that situation is that clueless, and can't figure out that I was interested, he is really doing me a favor by not catching on. Who wants a guy as dumb as a stump? | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 1:59:01 PM |
3. Rentahusband? Made a mistake in calling me out in the Forums and pretended as if it didn't happen and didn't acknowledge he was mistaken
Calling you out? Huh? Wha? did I miss something there? Man, you DO like to fight...so much that you look for one where there isn't any.
As for my mistake, I just noticed it now. My bad, you have my apologies. I honestly thought it was you who made the comment about her guy friends not liking to get compliments from certain women.
As for your opinion of me: I could give a pinch of raccoon poo. really. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 2:00:42 PM | msg 154:
I'll take that anyday over "flirting".
It's always interesting to me the differences in social attitudes ...
Variety is the spice of life | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 2:25:28 PM | ...If the guy in that situation is that clueless, and can't figure out that I was interested, he is really doing me a favor by not catching on. Who wants a guy as dumb as a stump?
Yea, we get that some of you think we're dumb if we can't read your minds, but the OP is saying you're dumb if you think there's a possibility that's gonna happen.
If I am interested in talking to him, I have no problem starting a conversation and giving him some kind of compliment. At that point, its up to him to respond or meet me half way. If he doesn't seem interested, I don't take it personally, and I just think that he is not interested.
Ok, real life situation... I'm at the grocery store and some woman going in the opposite direction down the aisle (is that symbolic, or what?) blurts out to yours truly "Nice hat!". That's a compliment, btw. So I say "Yea, thanks, I like it to."
So, am I clueless for not getting that she wants to do me right then and there in the produce section next to the bananas? 
Or did she really want me to ask her out on a date? 
Or any number of possibilities if one thinks about it the least bit, such as maybe she'd like to get the same hat for her bf/hubbie, but doesn't have the cojones to actually ask part deu: "where'd you get it?"
Again, exactly how is one supposed to know what isn't actually communicated, seeing as how the rulebook you've got there hasn't exactly been sent out Priority Mail to everyone on the planet?  | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 2:30:14 PM | Sigh....contentedly contemplating this post:
but not a overgenerous one calculated with what's in my boxers; even if the (devil knows) it has not been used a long while...
And wondering.
Rent- it should go without saying that when someone has been an azz and knew it? That they acknowledge it. Don't know why I was expecting that you would man up to it and feign ignorance but now that we all know - I'm sure we won't have such high expectations of you in the future. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 3:04:40 PM | ["Duhh...everybody "flirts".
I haven't got that kind of time or patience either, for science projects. I've got dating ADD."]
I'm sorry to hear that...it's pretty bad when you don't have the time or patience to "FLIRT" with someone....I bet your a lot of fun Oh and saying "Duhhh" really makes you sound like your in the 6th grade....
[So while you might be patting yourself on the back for your flirting skills, you might just be living in a dream world that what you're doing is the most effective thing you could be doing.]
You really don't "get it" do you. Unlike the girls the OP said flirt with him, I'm not going to "put on lipstick" "play with my hair" , etc as a way of "giving hints" that I'm interested, on the other hand, I'm not going to embarrass myself or the other person THAT I DON'T EVEN REALLY KNOW YET....by blurting out that I like him or that I'm interested or that Ithink he's hot, or that
I want to "git with him" he he....anyway, how uncooth and a big turnOFF.... I happen to like flirting and the men who are smart enough to know I'm flirting....so if you will excuse me, I think I will go pat myself on the back for awhile :-)
[Relationships are about communication. If someone is having trouble from the onset, I simply assume they'll be there in the relationship.]
That's why people need to be very careful who they chose to have a relationship with, If the guy can't tell that you are obviously flirting with him, or if he has no time or patience for this...do you REALLY want a relationship with this type of guy...sounds kinda clueless and impatient to me.....not fun at all. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 3:25:11 PM | CautiousLuv - I am still laughing at your comment about "dating ADT" - I have met many people who demonstrate it. What a great line!
Colonelingus - the comment I made about a guy being as dumb as a stump was only a reference to the men who didn't get that I was interested in them by smiling and then approaching them and starting a conversation.
I have met and dated some really interesting men in some of the strangest places like at a sporting event, dr's office, coffee shop, etc. Your comments about the grocery store are interesting, because I think its funny,when a guy is going in the opposite direction from me and I smile at, or talk to. The ones who were interested and were going in the opposite direction that I was going, seemed to be going in the same direction by the next isle, and they approached me for further conversation. I believe that you must be prepared for an opportunity when it presents itself. Its those who snooze.......................that loose. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 3:30:31 PM | | Haywire .....I was actually trying to quoting someone else but it didn't work right....dang it!!! | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 3:49:09 PM | I'm sorry to hear that...it's pretty bad when you don't have the time or patience to "FLIRT" with someone....I bet your a lot of fun
I guess our definitions of having "fun" are quite different.
You do realize that you can flirt with someone you've already clearly established an interest in, and that it's a whole lot more fun, right?
"Duhhh" really makes you sound like your in the 6th grade....
It's commensurate to the level of comment I was responding to. It's called sarcasm. I bet you're NO fun....
You really don't "get it" do you.
Au contraire, I do get it. Totally...
I'm not going to "put on lipstick" "play with my hair" , etc as a way of "giving hints" that I'm interested, on the other hand, I'm not going to embarrass myself or the other person THAT I DON'T EVEN REALLY KNOW YET
You'd rather forgo an opportunity in order to avoid a potentially suffering embarrasment, or a blow to your ego. I get it...
That's a man's job.
See? I do get it....
by blurting out that I like him or that I'm interested or that Ithink he's hot, or that
I want to "git with him" he he....anyway, how uncooth and a big turnOFF....
Now you're being silly and extreme.
Believe me, telling a guy that you like him, is NOT a turn off. And nobody is suggesting that you need to go over the top.
I can't speak for other women on here but what I'm saying ( and I believe what other women might be saying) is that there are effective ways of flirting without just blurting out "hey, I'm interested in you" if I'm flirting with someone THEY WILL KNOW and then if by some weird chance they don't know or at least don't act on it .....I'm going to assume he's either very dense or just not interested
You feel it's fair to assume that the man is dense if he isn't sure if he's reading the "signals" right, huh?
It's up to the one sending the message to make sure they're communicating properly and not being misinterpreted. If he's not "getting it", it could mean a variety of things other than how "dense" he is.
Since you think you've got this all figured out, let me explain what you don't get.
Men and women are a dime a dozen, and nobody needs to put up with any BS. Playing games at the onset of meeting someone is never a good idea. And the best way to find out if someone is sincerely interested, is to cut though the bull.
Thankfully, I'm not in a position that I ever have to put up with childish antics, or grovel for attention from the opposite sex. I assure you, the fastest way to turn me off, is to bore me with your ambivalence, and I don't care how "hot" you think you are. There's always another one just as "hot" as you are, who won't hesitate to communicate directly, like an adult.
Like I said earlier, Trix are for kids.
Keep patting yourself on the back, while getting passed on by, by guys like me, who do just fine without the immature BS.... | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 3:53:17 PM |
Men and women are a dime a dozen, and nobody needs to put up with any BS. Playing games at the onset of meeting someone is never a good idea. And the best way to find out if someone is sincerely interested, is to cut though the bull.
Thankfully, I'm not in a position that I ever have to put up with childish antics, or grovel for attention from the opposite sex. I assure you, the fastest way to turn me off, is to bore me with your ambivalence, and I don't care how "hot" you think you are. There's always another one just as "hot" as you are, who won't hesitate to communicate directly, like an adult.
Like I said earlier, Trix are for kids.
Sorry but I have to say I agree entirely with all of this.
Just wanted to give props where they were due. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 4:09:57 PM | I don' t think there are universal codes, for men, or for women really.
One woman twirling her hair and batting her eyes? it 'might' be a code for something.
to another woman, it could just be that she has a tic, and an eyelash stuck in her eye.
but you might be talking about casual flirting, which happens all the time, everyday somewhere which is kindof cool , if you're paying a little bit of attention.
nah....codes are for kids
big people might wanna use words.
course, what you choose to do with the information you get that somebody digs you, then, well, that's a whole other topic anyway.
I bet I'm not alone in thinkin' that if I have to wonder, or guess, or decode, or mindread, or fill in blanks, or connect obscure dots
then hey, I got other shIt to do.
Kimbo | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 4:35:40 PM | Bottom line what we're talking about is a man and a woman communicating or attempting to communicate. Unless you're lecturing or teaching a class or entertaining, it's usually a one to one convo.
So the present "challenge" is focusing on those conversations, one at a time (even if you are talking with several people, it's not all at once).
I really do try and most often succeed at giving that person my full attention, however when my thoughts drift to me that's a sign that I'm not engaging. Could be the person or the present topic, so I may just excuse myself and try again or decide I don't care to.
I don't experience much of this decoding because the people I talk to, generally, understand what I say when I say it the first time and I don't have much patience for responding to the (at times ridiculous) sexual entendres. To me that's tedious and boring.
Yes I get flirting and enjoy it on occasion, but the "dancing" around part gets old soon IMO. Someone has to come clean, say what their interest or potential interest is and let it go at that. My experience is if you dance around too long, then after a while noone knows who's leading, or who wants to lead.....or if anyone is leading.
When I think about decoding it reminds me of the Marx Brothers movie I think it was A Day at the Races and buying the code books. Those who've seen it will understand. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 4:48:17 PM |
For example: Playing with your hair, putting on lipstick, telling us something that does not quite make sense... (yet we are supposed to know EXACTLY what it means).
I am often amazed at how many "hints" I missed when I finally start dating a women. We'll talk about when we first met, then laugh about it. But seriously girls.. Men DO NOT think like women, and most of us CANNOT understand your "hints" or "language" when it comes to letting us know you are interested.
Guys have their own code, but it is VERY simple. A grunt or a look here or there and we get it. Just because your girlfriends get these "hints" does not mean men will!
As the OP's original statement went - I think most everyone is in agreement that these shenannigans have no place in "mature" adult interaction while pursuing a real relationship with relevence in their personal life. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 6:33:03 PM |
Just go out there and pursue them.
Charming usually equals romancing which often equals "lying"..
Really? That's a pretty twisted way to look at it.
Let us know how that's workin' out in the future. k?
I hate doing that because it always ends up hurting women... but it's all part of the game/mating ritual of life/field or whatever you may call it.
TOODLES
You hate doing that? (somehow I'm not sure of that but....) And it's all part of the game? Hurting people is all part of the 'game'?
So, if you perhaps leave 'bodies' in your 'wake', it's all part of the 'game' and come what may? Man, oh man. *covers eyes*
And just as a point....some helpful, friendly advice OP.......'TOODLES'?
You might not want to use that word in the real world....unless.....uhm, well, a lady you're trying to 'romance' might wanna immediately friendzone you and take ya shopping with her.
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Posted: 8/17/2009 6:41:40 PM | | I've been through about 1000 boxes of Cracker Jack's, but I've yet to find that elusive secret woman decoder ring. Guess I'll have to *munch* start on *munch* the next 1000 boxes. *burp* | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 6:52:51 PM | From the initial contact, to dating, to intercourse, to marriage, our society
seems to have designed things so that it's all up to the man.  Is that fair? Nah!
Sooo you want the woman to be more aggressive do you? Not gonna happen.... why you ask??? WOMEN CAN'T HANDLE REJECTION that's why. | |
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p~s
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Msg: 200 | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 7:01:04 PM |
Women have pretty much lost the ability and/or willingness to pick up on when a guy is leading IMO.
Ummmm...so how can a girl tell when a guy is leading [besides his trying to get in our pants?]
Seriously though, are men subtle? | |
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