| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 10:50:12 AM |
Apparently "The fact that they already have someone's seal of approval adds to their desirability"...!
It sounds like a case of wanting something they know they can't have.
Been there, done that, washing the bike with the t-shirt.....
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 11:19:10 AM | One of the reasons why single women view married men as a better catch is that they already have another woman's seal of approval which adds to their desirability, especially if their wife is attractive too. It's called "mate poaching" and those that appear to be happily married and content with a lovely home and lifestyle make the ideal candidate to poach.
I can understand that phenomenon well. Unfortunately, even when I had on my profile "no married men" this had the reverse effect so I took it off. Some women are pre-disposed to married men because they want to avoid the tedium of a conventional relationship but also because they are avoidant in relationships in general. It's not true to say that most married men are the confident ones either........you try asking those that are abused and hen-pecked by their wives whether they feel confident or not. | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 11:58:59 AM | That would fly in the face of our age-old tradition of blaming women for being 'evil demon temptresses.'
If the hat fits, then wear it. 
I'm gonna go hide now.  | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 12:16:42 PM |
It's called "mate poaching" and those that appear to be happily married and content with a lovely home and lifestyle make the ideal candidate to poach.
BUT (hey it's the big but) the intelligent woman will know that the lovely home and lifestyle stay with the equally lovely wife and kids, and the straying hubby gets a grotty bed-sit and the kids at Maccy D's every other weekend.
Not so glam a proposition now is it? | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 12:26:25 PM | | Dearest me, this tidbit of information poses quite a quandary on us aspiring males! I say I much would rather agree to disagree on this subject, however there were times in my more formative years that this cheery ol' chap did encounter many more an interested female when I was in fact involved with a heavenly madam. And once in a quite quibble I was found to be single again, lo and behold the females have all but disappeared. I have lost my zest, my zeal, my spirit that I had which was carefree when I was with my lady. Women sense this as if they had some sort of mystical extra sensory perception! Mayhaps I shall act as if I were engaged in various haberdashery despite my single status to see if I may conjure up the good ol' carefree spirit once again my boy. Thank you for the quip, cheerio ol' chap! | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 6:10:13 PM | Reading this post, I'm getting the novel idea. To meet more women, who may think I have that lurve of the alpha male, I need to slip on a ring and borrow a couple of you lasses?
:)
Finer things should be so lucky. | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 8:44:46 PM |
I was married and said 'no'. So the man wasn't a cheater and yes the woman (women) were deserving of blame - and all of it- for trying to entice me to cheat.
No harm, no foul. If no infidelity took place, then blame is not required.
Historically, injured wives (understandably) viewed it risky to blame their husbands (breadwinners) for any wrongdoing. If he took offense, he may beat her - or even walk out on her, leaving the family destitute. So lashing out at the seductress became the safer option. It suited men well - they got off scot-free. This culture continues today, even though women are no longer economically dependent on men. | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/16/2009 12:12:44 AM | It does work the other way round too!
When I was married I recieved far more attention from guys. Once I was single they couldn't be seen for dust and I was suddenly viewed as a threat by wives, partners and girlfriends.
I asked a guy why this was. He said it's because as a married woman I wasn't going to want commitment, marriage or babies!
So it's not just 'some' of the female sex that prefer the married ones, it's 'some' of the male sex too! | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/16/2009 12:54:31 AM |
Historically, injured wives (understandably) viewed it risky to blame their husbands (breadwinners) for any wrongdoing. If he took offense, he may beat her - or even walk out on her, leaving the family destitute. So lashing out at the seductress became the safer option. It suited men well - they got off scot-free. This culture continues today, even though women are no longer economically dependent on men.
When you moved to Britain, you did not move to 'victorian Britain'.
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/16/2009 3:13:35 AM |
No harm, no foul. If no infidelity took place, then blame is not required.
No; anyone who makes a pass at someone they know to be married and happily married is a selfish sh*t who is consciously doing something that, if they succeed, will bring pain to someone else. | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/16/2009 8:32:30 AM | I don't think that this is restricted to married men. One thing that I find happens in night clubs quite a lot is that, for example, I've tried to talk to a couple of girls, and they have just looked at me like I was completely beyond the pale or something. Then a friend of mine - an attractive girl who I already know - will come over and start chatting to me in a friendly manner and then wanders off somewhere. Then the 2 girls notice this and suddenly they are extremely interested in me. I think the last time this happened they came over and started trying to compete for me! Whereas 5 minutes before they looked at me like I was some sort of hideous looser.
Another example, when I was at university my best friend at the time was an absolutely stunning girl and even though we were only friends and she was in a relationship,she used to act like we were going out with each other. I remember I was at a party and was chatting with this girl who was being very forward and invited me to her place eventually. I said 'yeah why not', and then she said 'Aren't you bothered about your girlfriend?'. To which I said 'What girlfriend?'. After that she started to have a go at me for pretending to have a girlfriend and she wasn't interested any more.. | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/16/2009 8:45:34 AM | | i know a couple of women that actually target married men because usually they have the finances to pay for presents once the girls get what they want e.g a new 4 poster bed they then get in contact with the wife tell them whats going on the guy gets thrown out by his wife goes off to see his girlfriend who says its over he ends up homeless and penniless | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/16/2009 8:46:04 AM | | I think this is all to do with the the fact that subconciously people want what they can't have. An example of this is my own situation. When my sister and step sister's split up with their previous partners, all they wanted to do was immediately find another partner as they felt that they 'needed' someone in their life...............and the men ran in the other direction. For me, when I split up with my ex, the last thing I wanted to do was meet someone else and get involved in another relationship, be someone else's wife/partner etc..............and the men came running - well, ok, a couple broke into a trot!! When something is seen to be unattainable, it becomes all the more appealing. It is like when as a child you were told no, or that something wasn't allowed..........it becomes all the more exciting. | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/16/2009 1:52:41 PM | i would say that msg 11 is probably spot on.
My two cents worth would be that the attraction is based on the desire to be in a relationship that makes the person seem more attractive rather than the person specifically.
Especially if the couple go well together, it appeals as a nice package and something that they would like to happen in their own life in terms of finding someone for a relationship.
On the flip site, women in relationships can often appear more sexy than single women for similar reasons. | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/16/2009 2:09:13 PM | Wafta,
I still feel the cheater has done more harm than his/her accomplice...
THEY are the ones who made a promise to be faithful.
if we're going to be pedantic, that the man wouldn't be able to cheat on his wife if there weren't any women out there prepared to sleep with married men!
I'm afraid that statement doesn't sit well with me... the promise to be faithful is cheapened by implying that temptation should need to be removed.
As for married/unavailable men being more attractive, I have noticed this can be true for me, but only until I know he's unavailable. I quickly distract myself elsewhere once I know.
My theory is, its either that the man is just attractive to many and is more likely to have already found someone because of it, or because he has developed traits that make him seem a good life partner because he's had to learn them in his relationship. | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/16/2009 2:29:25 PM |
As for married/unavailable men being more attractive, I have noticed this can be true for me, but only until I know he's unavailable. I quickly distract myself elsewhere once I know.
Damn...i didn't think of that, people can appear attractive before you discover that they are in a relationship. Blows a hole in my theory. | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/16/2009 2:39:02 PM |
No; anyone who makes a pass at someone they know to be married and happily married is a selfish sh*t who is consciously doing something that, if they succeed, will bring pain to someone else
True.......but there's a lot of married people who enjoy having their cake and eating it too. They are really the ones who are selfish... not to mention greedy! It's mainly men of course!
So lashing out at the seductress became the safer option. It suited men well - they got off scot-free. This culture continues today, even though women are no longer economically dependent on men.
This statement implies that women are stupid. I'm sure any women with an ounce of common sense will put the blame where the blame is due, with her straying partner, not on the foolish seductress who is usually to be pitied. | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/16/2009 2:49:25 PM | I think some single women like to be a cuckoo in another woman's nest.
I was the victim of one and my mate in work, had a real biatch do a job on her. Took her husband and re-planted him in her home and rubbed my mate's nose in it. Tried to get my friend's marriage annulled and then married her husband (who my friend truly loved) in a big flash wedding and insisted that my mate's little girl was bridesmaid. They then tried to get custody of her little girl and when that didn't work, she had a baby of her own. I remember my friend weeping on my shoulder that "she has stolen my life"
I know the married man is complicit, but some of these women are beyond belief.
Oh well, it helps if you believe in karma... | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/16/2009 2:51:44 PM | No its not true
I want a man of my own, not somebody's reject...why would we want a married man? They are usually overweight, dont know how to dress and under the thumb despite getting no sex...thats their problem not mine...what on earth is attractive about a married man?
I never ever go there...but have had men lie to me and subsequently found out they are attached/married...whats the point? | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/16/2009 11:31:39 PM |
I want a man of my own, not somebody's reject...why would we want a married man? They are usually overweight, dont know how to dress and under the thumb despite getting no sex...thats their problem not mine...what on earth is attractive about a married man?
I never ever go there...but have had men lie to me and subsequently found out they are attached/married...whats the point?
I've never been married, but i have heard that, the sex life can become unsatisfactory or non-existent after marriage. Is this quite common? | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/17/2009 12:08:57 AM | MATT only when a man stops offering guaranteed notices..............
True.......but there's a lot of married people who enjoy having their cake and eating it too. They are really the ones who are selfish... not to mention greedy! It's mainly men of course!
A person have to be married for this to be the case tho? | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/17/2009 12:12:58 AM |
They are usually overweight, dont know how to dress and under the thumb despite getting no sex...
That could be a description of any man ............ married or not.
Thank goodness it's NOT the case 
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/17/2009 12:18:38 AM |
They are usually overweight, dont know how to dress and under the thumb despite getting no sex...thats their problem not mine...what on earth is attractive about a married man?
For once, I am rendered virtually speechless.....................what a ridiculous stereotype view this is. Perhaps you should ask some of your married friends what they think of you? | |
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