| Oral...is it a dealbreaker?
Posted: 8/17/2009 8:28:16 AM |
When I sell my virginity on ebay it'll be to the highest bidder and oral yes/no won't come into the equation at all. As long as my only contribution is to assume starfish position, I'm not fussed what goes on 'down there'.
The only stipulation I make regarding the dreadful procedure of sexual intercourse is that they get their messy business over with as quickly as possible. One can only think of England for so long, hey?
Holy fk it's mum.
1. Dad was NOT an angel of the Lord.
2. Those magazines aren't mine.
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| Oral...is it a dealbreaker?
Posted: 8/17/2009 9:06:48 AM | hehehe, I keep a monocle handy for just such occasions 
the story goes something like this..
"Just baiting ya crazy old witch...but what are you doing here?"
It was a very independent household, but the love was heartfelt and genuine. | |
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| Oral...is it a dealbreaker?
Posted: 8/17/2009 8:14:20 PM | | Unless you have made an agreement that there is to be no oral sex , then I can't see that it is a 'deal breaker' but if when it came to the point , you found the idea abhorrent to you , then you obviously have the right to say 'No ..no oral sex' [ and of course this is where some rapes occur ] . It's all about trust and that is why I believe it is best to 'get to know' a person before going to bed with them . Sometimes it just happens , why not? , and everything is OK.. so good . My mother and father walked in on me as a young and stupid teenager and I'm glad they did . If one of my daughters were to read this post , I would hope it would help keep her on 'the straight and narrow' or anyhow to enjoy her sexual relations without debates as to yes or no oral sex interrupting , as it were , the flow . She is a good and open minded daughter . | |
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| Oral...is it a dealbreaker?
Posted: 8/18/2009 3:31:20 AM | ...is it just me, or do other women wonder why men like to come up with such derogatory comparisons and terms for female genitals? Clams, tacos, axe wound. It's not even good ol' raunchy dirty talk...it's stupid giggling in the playground to see who can come up with the funniest and most derisive comparison talk.
Actually Naamah.. I had not heard any of theses names/talk/lingo... before this thread... not ever....
Do the guys ...where I live talk..like that?.. If they do.. it's not in front of us women..
maybe it's b/c we live in such a small populace.. that reputation.. (whether based on truth or rumour/gossip)... is paramount...
consistently over time.. in small confines... true nature comes out.. or learns/changes..
Peer pressure..in acceptable behaviour.. can also be a positive...
Not to say our young or older men... don't behave greatly.. but they seem open to learning...or talk like this?... maybe they do..
And now I have more respect for them.. for not saying such things..
As I say in my town... WOULD YOU SAY THAT TO YOUR MOTHER?
I am A mother... I am a daughter.. I am a sister.. I am a nana..(go the old er woman)
Ive found once a man has a daughter... unless he is truly.. balless.. ie has to impress the mates..
he will understand.. he does not want his daughter ...meeting guys.. who disrespect woman...
teach her.. to respect men.. then she will look for a respectful man....
you are her role model...
EVERY WOMAN IS SOMEONES DAUGHTER>> SISTER>>> AUNTY>>> NANA>>> MOTHER>>>>> GRANDAUGHTER
actually it will be interesting to see my son evolve into fatherhood... the moment ..
his daughter was born... he said .. shes so beautiful.. men better look out.. (paraphrased...).. as hes trained in infintry...guns...arm to arm combat...
at this stage she will be lucky to ever date....
shes not even 2 yet...
and so are the males... they are someones son.. ( 1 of my ex lovers... talked so badly re females.. I pointed out to him.. his 14 year old son.. is learning... how to treat women.. if ever he spoke disrespectfully to me.. Id walk out.. leave.... he would eventually apologise.... he said I taught him so much.... which helped him.. learn how to have a decent relo....
and that's how I look at the youngins.. someones sons.. future partners to our daughters..
And if ever one steps over the line.. b/c i am not a cougar.. if im old enough to birth you.. Im your elder...I don'y fark what im old enough to birth... that's 14 years generation.......at least.... (other peoples choices are theirs.. that's mine) the last couple guys .. ive been with are 6 years younger... but id prefer... my own age slightly older.. if they have the self awareness/EI... if not..
and I want respect as my son's mother..ie if he asked... I can answer honestly..
mind you both my parents at one stage ran off with lovers.. the same age or younger than me... and im talking i was like 17/... 18... both of them..
yukkkkkkkk
and yes im completly different in my town... hippy/free love... but I cop that judgement.. but I still say my beliefs.. stand my ground.. but maybe they respect .. ..
the fact... I do.. and I respect their choices..
ie..ill pick any of them up.. after they fall..regardless of their choice..
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| Oral...is it a dealbreaker?
Posted: 8/18/2009 3:39:15 AM | well truth is I've only ever heard these terms once or twice and it sounded weird, what we do is write them in car and girly magazines like Street Machine and People, the staple diet of any workshop lunchroom
I do hear yank girls calling them hoohoos and bajingos on sitcoms and song lyrics. | |
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| Oral...is it a dealbreaker?
Posted: 8/18/2009 7:35:17 AM | No - but it is nice.
I'm more of a giver than a reciever, Can give back massages till my hands are numb but cant handle anyone massaging me, go figure.
Girls you should be able to tell by the foreplay and oral what sort of person you are with. If a guy can do either for hours on end, and not require anything more that to see you satisfied in return, then your on the right track. | |
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| Oral...is it a dealbreaker?
Posted: 8/18/2009 9:33:21 AM | | Greyingred: men do have the capacity for mental intimacy, of course they may need some lessons from their female partner. As to oral or not: some people get pleasure from seeing their partner in ecstasy. I can't imagine having sex with someone who isn't sexually satisfied by seeing their partner satisfied. | |
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| Oral...is it a dealbreaker?
Posted: 8/18/2009 12:53:20 PM | Oral...is it a dealbreaker?
Hell YES!! What r u guys doing with the other minute & a half if your not doing that... | |
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| Oral...is it a dealbreaker?
Posted: 8/19/2009 12:38:04 AM | yes.
guys and girls like oral. pleasing ur partner/lover is must.
is it a first date thing.... no. or it shouldnt be...
if hes worried about a cramped neck maybe u should try a more comfy position, ie u on top?
give him some pillows.... (trying not to be too descriptive)
also is it excpected to be a 2 way street? not so much in my books maybe its more work for girl,
also salt water to wash taste out after is quick and easy if there is any "fluids" involved
also if it a sychological issue get a dude thats more liberal, otherwise ur sexlife will get stale | |
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| Oral...is it a dealbreaker?
Posted: 8/19/2009 1:08:46 AM | ^^^^^^ I think you may have got too excited too quickly...
It actually means in a hippy/free love town.. I'm the resident celebate...
buggar hey...
well mostly.. about twice a decade I just break out and run free...ha ha ha..
ok Im not counting so not exact...
last celebate stint was about 6 years.. my best mate reckons its 8 years...
Im into year no.. 1 again.. reckon..... that could have been nanas last stand.. or whatever you'd call it
sighs..
actually I was going to write to hallmark.. there is NO... nana got laid .. cards..
cause it was a frickin celebration.. I can tell ya.. (yes I put the r back into celebate)
buggar hey...
But I really don't like ques.. so Im not lining up to be the next.. notch on.. a hemp belt..
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| Oral...is it a dealbreaker?
Posted: 8/19/2009 1:12:43 AM |
ou want the money shot to count. Anyone will agree that one torpedo vs the multitude of orgasms a woman has at her disposal is sh1thouse odds and we should really try and make ours last until our shot is placed at a stage where she can't take anymore and your little warhead breaks her back and she sinks into the seas of ecstacy (sorry about that last bit... but I couldn't resist the urge to sound like a poetic twat)
awww never mind...eventually you will realise that there isn't just one shot in the barrel. Tis the way she pulls the trigger. As for seas of exctasy.......yup ekkies will help big time and much more fun than viagra.
One can only think of England for so long, hey?
I can't plagarise another's more than twice on one thread (new rule cos there just aren't enough for me to feel truly secure and dominated) but I resemble that remark. Actually am wondering whilst the whole world is laying back and thinking of England...which of course, quite rightly they should what do we, the english think of....and little boy jokes are out...cos some of us are hetro. lying back thinking of Australia....nah too dry. New Zealand...nope they prefer wool......France...a possibility but all that garlic and hairy armpits. ...?
Naamah....trouble is it is even worse if they have ridiculous, infantile names as well...nothing worse than a man who says he adores your flower or wee wee  | |
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| Oral...is it a dealbreaker?
Posted: 8/19/2009 1:41:16 AM |
there is NO... nana got laid .. cards..
yup and dag nab it a niche market that we have both now exposed to the world without patent....dooomed. | |
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| Oral...is it a dealbreaker?
Posted: 8/19/2009 6:23:51 AM | This thread reminds me of a true story starring my sister.
A few years ago...the boyfriend at the time and myself were over at my sisters...The boyfriend who to his credit was a bit of a stud muffin and prompted by a few too many ales got into a in depth discussion with my sister about his favorite subject..that being SEX !!!, I was in the kitchen doing god knows what, but I could hear them chatting away.
Then for a few minutes at a time all I could hear from the boyfriend was:
"Your Kidding ????"
"No Way ???"
"Get Back"
"Whoa !!!!"
"Shite"
"Fcuk Me"
Intrigued...I re entered the living room to see for probably the very first time..a look of complete horror and disbelief on the boyfriends face...ok...mmmm
He splutters:
"Your sister doesn't give head !!!"
Um Ok...um...way too much info hon...but at the same time I so spun around and I too looked at her in disbelief ... (you think you know someone just cause you share the same DNA and bedroom once.. ...apparently this is not the case) ....."so you dont like um peeling the banana is that rite..? ".
"Yes" she informed us and then she went on to say that she did it once..hated it and never has again...however shes very open to receiving it....I too at this point sunk to the sofa with mouth open...
"Ergh how does that work ?" I asked...she looked at me like Im the stupid git that I am..and she said..." I just say No - not negotiable and therefore its not done...and doesnt happen and lay back and enjoy what he can offer "
"Okey dokey" I replied.............she then went onto to say that French Kissing was out as well and so was a WHOOOOOOOOOOOOLE lot of other stuff - boyfriend by this stage, sinks to floor in full cardiac arrest..
That nite in bed with boyfriend..I said with my mouth full..."Hon you kinda chose the rite sister !!" his reply "No shit Sherlock"
Fast forward to four months later, said sister got engaged....after her fiance took her to Paris....and proposed under the Eiffel Tower....guess thats your reward for not doing the deep south nasty .............
Meanwhile I ergh um enjoyed the delites of my boyfriend only to be subsequently dumped and him , he went onto marry Marcia Brady' go figure.....
So do guys want a bad gal initially but in the end prefer vanilla icecream ???
Oh btw..sisters marriage lasted only 16 th months...he screwed around on her (not that I condone that) ....me thinks I know one of the reasons why !!!!
and me ...mmm well I suck on ...............................................Chupa chups now...
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| Oral...is it a dealbreaker?
Posted: 8/19/2009 3:55:19 PM | How on earth can it possibly be that?
Can't imagine a gal who doesn't and can't be bothered trying to imagine any guy who does. Having said that confusing thought, let's not get ahead of myself, metaphorically speaking that is. Apologies.... was severely on the turps last night. Can't find me rollies and the coffee's all drunk.
....... bugger and smiles. Left them in the toot. Small blessings. Hates re-rolling soggy ends and can barely tolerate the taste of wee, or tea.
It's inconceivable to me that oral can be a deal breaker. Known three gals in my almost ended life who'd never given and two who'd never received. Neither situation lasted very long. Sometime in my late twenties I became aware that the be all and end all of loving (and banal...... not to be confused with anal) sexuality is not entirely confined to the two sets of terminal nerve endings which produce orgasm. It takes less than an hour to stimulate a woman into a state of wanton abandonment. Once there, any and everything is possible, including the sometimes dreaded oral, as natural as night following day.
As far as I'm concerned a quick lick or little dab 'll do ya is a cop out. Seems to me it's often forcing the issue of orgasm, or at least trying to. Gals can be brought to multiple or a continuous orgasm quite readily. Neither circumstance requires oral sex or indeed per se any stimulation of their genitals at all. Practise, practise, practise guys. Keep her legs closed and try to bring her to orgasm without any tongue touching or penetrating of the furry bit. It's a whole new world out there when you achieve this and you're begged to stop..... and better still you're only just getting started.
Personally, I am a generous lover, and I get a lot more enjoyment from teasing and kissing every inch of her body for hours, and mixing in a half hour or so of mind blowing muffmunching.
Now here’s a guy who’s learning his stuff.
The only stipulation I make regarding the dreadful procedure of sexual intercourse is that they get their messy business over with as quickly as possible. One can only think of England for so long, hey?
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| Oral...is it a dealbreaker?
Posted: 8/19/2009 5:16:15 PM | A man was approached by co-worker at lunch who invited him out
for a few beers after work. The man said that his wife would
never go for it, that she does not allow him to go drinking with
the guys after work. The co-worker suggested a way to overcome
that problem: "When you get home tonight, sneak into the house,
slide down under the sheets, gently pull down your wife's
panties, and give her oral sex. Women love it, and believe me,
she'll never mention that you were out late with the boys."
So the man agreed to try it, and went out and enjoyed himself.
Late that night, he sneaked into the house, slid down under the
sheets, gently slid down his wife's panties, and gave her oral
sex. She moaned and groaned with pleasure, but after a little
while, he realized he had to take a leak, so he told her he'd be
right back, got out of bed and walked down the hall to the
bathroom. When he opened the door and went in, he was very
surprised to see his wife sitting on the john.
"How did you get in here?" he asked.
"Shhhhh!!!" she replied, "You'll wake-up my mother!"
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| Oral...is it a dealbreaker?
Posted: 8/19/2009 7:51:13 PM | I am never quite sure whether I want to read Greynomads jokes....it is a bit like picking a scab.....it appears to be fun until you get the last part of ripping it off....argh...that was so gross and bloody funny.....stop grossing me out, having a high tolerance for humane nature and bodily functions I am not used to it. | |
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| Oral...is it a dealbreaker?
Posted: 8/19/2009 8:45:01 PM | | Well, yes, like many women here, it would be a dealbreaker for me...if he accepted being pleasured and repeatedly didn't take the initiative to do that for me. The time frame is a bit flexible, not a first date thing neccessarily - gee if he had a headcold I wouldn't expect him to suffocate. But over time (whatever that needs to be) of lack of reciprocation, I'd be getting the message that this is one really selfish dude - as he was - and exit stage left. | |
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| Hilly you sure have started something here
Posted: 8/19/2009 10:22:05 PM | Well being because I"sepaerated" I will have to look into the far future for this problem to "arise" again.
People want and need for different reasons. Apparently just a good ole "missionary" will do it for some peeps. No friggin way.To fully pleasure a womans body, it needs to be touched/feeled/tasted and if your lucky enuff....zapped by electricity(might be caused by a lot of friction )
Dealbreaker...hands down
But you can't beat the "touch" though.....Just that slightest touch on any part of the bod that makes you "alive"
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| Hilly you sure have started something here
Posted: 8/20/2009 2:31:53 AM | | hmmmmm ok...i had to jump in on this one as well......i dont think it would be a deal breaker...on my part anyway.........performing oral sex happens to be one of my favourite things to do!!! lol and it doesnt really worry me if it doesnt get returned. hell i havnt had oral performed on me for the last 10 yrs lol (last 2 relationships didnt want to do it) and i didnt really care...as long as i could have my fun going down on them :) | |
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