| Benefit of Dating Single Dad.
Posted: 8/23/2009 5:03:48 PM | Wow i just agreed with everything M-church said, it is a scary day on pof LOL.
No I didn't beat my wife, but at times she could have used one......like alot of women on here I'n sure. But I NOT a physical or abusine person. Nice try though.
Just saying she could have used one, speaks volumes of your woman-hating mindset.
I hope your daughters never end up in a DV situation, you would probably tell them they deserved it and to go back for more. Yuck, just yuck.
I wasn't raised by a single mom either. Two parents....one dad( a man) and one mother ( a woman). Unlike your generation that is filled with "freaks" as two dads or two moms. So tell me, what is THAT lifestyle going to teach the "kids"???.
Neither was I. but just how HAPPY was your 2 parent home?
What lifestyle is my generation goin go teach the kids, oh i dont know, tolerance and not judging people on their gender or other inherent characteristics perhaps?
As far as YOU and people like you that believe "we are all equal". Guess what....we are NOT all equal. That's NOT bigotry...that's the truth. But you keep on living in your gay, bisexual, inbred, uneducated, lifestyle if that is what makes you feel good.
I am gay, bisexual, inbred, and uneducated? Wow nice to know. All this time i thought i was a heterosexual woman and that my folks werent related. Learn something new every day. And yes it is its purest form.
@sweetnessinlove^^^^^^^^ Another woman who has no idea what the hell she is talking about. The only moron here is the one who talks like she knows me. No I didn't beat my wife, but at times she could have used one......like alot of women on here I'n sure. But I NOT a physical or abusine person. Nice try though. I wasn't raised by a single mom either. Two parents....one dad( a man) and one mother ( a woman). Unlike your generation that is filled with "freaks" as two dads or two moms. So tell me, what is THAT lifestyle going to teach the "kids"???. As far as YOU and people like you that believe "we are all equal". Guess what....we are NOT all equal. That's NOT bigotry...that's the truth. But you keep on living in your gay, bisexual, inbred, uneducated, lifestyle if that is what makes you feel good. As far as blacks, asians, hispanics, and jews, well all I can say is I love Hispanics. Asians make great food, my doctor and lawyer are jews, and the guy who picks up my garbage is black. But you didnt answer, are you racist? My garbageman is black also, as well as my childrens doctor and my attorney and my sons ese teacher. Amazing their not all garbagemen and drug dealers isnt it. ay hi to your 3 kids for me. The ones with three different fathers. What are THEY going to learn from YOUR decisions and upbring? Maybe we can all watch Jerry Springer together, and you can tell me the people on the show that you know. I have 3 kids? Wait what? Where did the 3rd come from? Last time i checked i had 2. I guess i must have been strolling down the street and a 3rd baby plopped out of my vagina without my noticing it. Ladies, dont you hate it when that happens? BTW, there are 2 fathers, not 3, the second i was married to and he died. They are going to learn a lot from my decisions, as i have made more smart ones than dumb ones, and will be huge succeses, i am sure of that. Maybe i will see some random big dude bellowing like a redneck that ran out of beer about his no good woman thats bonking his bother and the neighbors dog, that looks an awful lot like you, when i turn on jerry Springer. | |
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| Benefit of Dating Single Dad.
Posted: 8/23/2009 5:22:48 PM |
FYI: You were wrong in your definition of bigotry.
Bigotry : a person obstinately or intolerantly devoted to his or her own opinions and prejudices. That was my definition you fool.
ATTACKING ME shows what YOUR all about. You're right. It does. It shows how repulsed I am by bigotry, misogyny and ego maniacs.
Your just ANOTHER MAN basher. Not at all. If you think for a moment that any real man on this site or anywhere for that matter would want to be in any way aligned to you or your twisted views you are entirely mistaken. There are some very passionate, intelligent, dedicated single fathers on here who unlike you are truly worth of respect and I can guarantee you not one of them stands by a word you've said. | |
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| Benefit of Dating Single Dad.
Posted: 8/24/2009 4:55:58 AM |
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| Benefit of Dating Single Dad.
Posted: 8/24/2009 6:07:57 AM | OK, an angry ranting lunatic hillbilly racist, homophobic, misogynistic "man".
I live in the south and have never seen such a redneck attitude.
Must be awful to live life so angry. | |
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| Benefit of Dating Single Dad.
Posted: 8/24/2009 7:54:35 AM | How is being a housewife BS? I know lots of married couples where the woman is home with the child and it was the decision of both parents. Before you were divorced did you work? It's a lot easier to build credit back when you've had uninterrupted work and experience doing something. It's almost impossible to find a job that will pay the bills if you haven't worked in 10 years, regardless of possessing a degree. I could see your point if the woman was hiding behind the fact and not pursuing a career or trying to better herself because she was a housewife for so long. But it's not as easy as, OK.. I'm now divorced time to get a high paying job and support my kids. *snaps fingers* poof it is done.
I would suggest that you need to meet better people if the ones you know do not have the things you describe. I don't generally meet people like that and I live in one of the hardest state to make it in. I know the type of people I want to be friends with and those are the people I choose to befriend. It's all a choice. I'd argue that the majority of single parents fit into the categories you describe yourself as fitting into. Yes there are more single mothers on assistance, as there are more single mothers out there. The housewife thing is not BS and most who are on welfare are on it temporarily. It's a small percentage of people in it who are abusing the system, for you to assume otherwise tells me what kind of person you are.
I agree with sweetness.. I'll forward you my bills as well.. :~) | |
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| Benefit of Dating Single Dad.
Posted: 8/24/2009 8:05:28 AM | | mddog... there are plenty of men who have ridiculously low child support ordered and don't pay it and the courts do nothing about it. It's all about which ones know how to play the system and how persistent the CP is. It has nothing to do with gender. I know a good father who missed a payment because he was in Iraq fighting in the war and they issued an arrest warrant for him. I know of a deadbeat dad who owes a ridiculous amount of money, the state knows where he lives and they do nothing. The whole system is screwed up.. but that's another thread.. | |
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| Benefit of Dating Single Dad.
Posted: 8/24/2009 8:52:55 AM | ^^^Agreed on CP which is not uniformly enforced. NC has tough support laws.
I wasn't trying to dig on housewifes. I get upset at those that use it as an excuse, not to better themselves. A minority of women I would say. This isn't supposed to be about who is superior, but more about the good things a single father has to offer a woman, as a potential partner. | |
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| Benefit of Dating Single Dad.
Posted: 8/24/2009 4:21:36 PM | Hi there, Just reading through there.
I'm 19, I make a higer average of money than most of the UK per male head. (No it's not boasting) Age doesn't matter when it comes to income/benefits, whatever.
And yes, It takes a lot of responsibility, in my opinion. Not as hard as the public seem to make out though ..
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| Benefit of Dating Single Dad.
Posted: 8/25/2009 6:17:24 AM | | There are good things a single father has to offer. But that's only true if the woman is interested in the man himself and is willing to deal with his child. I'll date single fathers and those who aren't. I've met single fathers or are more irresponsible then their child free counterparts and vica versa of course. No one is better then anyone, it's completely dependant on the persons involved. I'm not knocking single dads. You could say the same about any person who has a child and any person who is a little bit mature. | |
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Posted: 8/25/2009 9:21:26 AM | | Yep.. just as you have said you've met irresponsible custodial single mothers.. Not all of them on either side are irresponsible of course.. but to say that fathers are better simply because they are fathers is ridiculous. Making a blanket statement like that about any one group regardless of what group it is or the statement being made is ridiculous. | |
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| Benefit of Dating Single Dad.
Posted: 8/25/2009 5:49:31 PM | That wasn't the point I was making with the arguement. The point is the point out the many good qualities that single fathers have. Of course this is a generality, but a good population sample of most single fathers. That is why it is titled the benefits, and not why single fathers are superiour.
5. I want to add something to my list of items, generally speaking of course, single fathers tend to be more responsible with there money. That there bills are paid regularly, and they save. I mean this can be generally presumed to be true, whereas, with single men without family responsbilities it can be a crap shoot.
6. Single fathers tend not to be drug abusers, or dealers. Generally speaking of course.
Maybe you could add to the list of positives about men with childern. | |
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Posted: 8/25/2009 6:04:36 PM | | Sorry.. I can't. I've experienced the opposite of what you are claiming. The single fathers I've gone out with lacked many of the qualities you list. Their child free counter parts that I have dated, have their act together. I respect single fathers and haven't met one that didn't love their kids and treat them well, it's the other areas they are lacking. I don't want to turn this is to a negative thing, so I'll just stop there. Maybe it has a lot to do with age and area you live in? | |
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Posted: 8/25/2009 6:19:36 PM |
Ladies, instead of writing flame messages. I would presume that some of you have dated single fathers in the past, could you share your experiences. Good or Bad. Was it overall, better then dating someone without childern?
I dated a single father, and I married him. He was raising his child 100% alone. I was impressed by his dedication as a father. There is nothing wrong with his ex-wife, in fact she got remarried and had 3 more children, so it wasn't as if he was a single father because he had to be.
That being said, if I had to choose between a man with children and one with no children who had the exact same qualities, I would pick the childless man. But that's just my experience. | |
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Posted: 8/27/2009 7:36:06 AM | While it was his single father status that initially drew me to my ex, it is ultimately one of the major factors that destroyed our relationship as well (that combined with his cheating and lying, finally abuse).
1. He has a job, yes, but used it to do many things behind my back.
2. He had less than a semester of college because it was too hard.
3. He will never own his own place because he has such terrible credit and doesn't care to fix it, instead got us all evicted twice due to his lies and lack of paying bills due to his secret habits.
4. He did not own a car of his own the entire time we were together while I on the other hand owned 2 outright when we met.
5. He made himself out to appear family oriented in the beginning, but as I got to know him, discovered he was too immature to be a parent and left his daughter to be raised by his parents and sisters so that he could run around without care.
Not to mention he continued to put HIS daughter from his prior marriage ahead of OUR daughter together rather openly.
So while your benefits are likely true of many single fathers, it's sadly not true of all of them. Before I met him, I had a great job, my own apartment, decent credit that was building and lots of friends. HE insisted we move in together because he didn't like my complex, HE chose for me to stay home after our daughter was born more to raise HIS daughter for him than to care for my son and our daughter I see looking back, HE ruined my credit when I was forced to get bills in my name just to keep utilities on.
I'm not letting my bad experience with him keep me from seeing the possibilities of other single dads, I still believe that a guy raising his kids is more able to understand what i'm dealing with as a single parent than someone without kids. But I definately have a better idea of what I will and won't put up with now thanks to him. | |
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Posted: 8/27/2009 1:02:19 PM | I dont know why they give men full custody of kids if there is nothing wrong with the birth mother.
Well, they give women full custody of kids if there is nothing wrong with the birth father.....
What makes the woman any more special than the father....? The father has just as much right to be the custodial parent as the mother... the child is 50/50 product of the father and the mother.... | |
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| Benefit of Dating Single Dad.
Posted: 8/27/2009 1:16:39 PM |
There is nothing wrong with his ex-wife, in fact she got remarried and had 3 more children, so it wasn't as if he was a single father because he had to be.
Why doesnt she ever see her kid? Did they get in a custody battle in court and she lost? Is she allowed to see her child whenever she wants?
There was no court battle. My husband had his son for the summer, and when he was supposed to give him back to his mother for September, for the school season, she said she couldn't take him yet. Her house was not ready or something like that. My husband told her that he will be keeping his son here and putting him in school here, so that he doesn't miss any of the beginning of school.
The child's mother met another man and got married, and had 3 more children with the new guy. My husband's son did get to go visit for holidays and summers. His mother had moved to another state, 6 to 7 hours away. | |
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Posted: 8/27/2009 4:05:09 PM | Shaniqua,
I just hope that your never in a postition to effect a families life (your's exclued of course). I have no idea why your an angry bitter woman. I would wager that you're in social services. Pitty. I got my son through no maliace, and no I did not pay off his mother. I do resent you even insinuating such a thing, it reflects poorly not on me but you. I will say a prayer for you. | |
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Posted: 8/27/2009 7:37:57 PM | I don't think niether a single mom or dad is better then the other..They both have their own differences and whatnot..I will say as a single father myself,it kind of sucks that it seems some (not all) baby momma's only care for the support check..I do not have any issuses paying support..I raised it 10 dollars in court b/c i felt the first price was not enough..My only headache about it is when I'm compared to the deadbeat dads out there when I'm far from...
I do not live on my own..Yet..lol..I was kinda forced to move back home when me and my daughter's mother split..I worked at Target for 2 years all while supporting my daughter,her mother and paying my own bills (truck payment etc etc..) But honestly,reading some of these comments everyone is leaving some make complete sence and others I think lack sence..But this is the country of freedom of speech..I suppose.. | |
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Posted: 8/27/2009 8:07:00 PM | You sound very angry(personal?)...or do you just hold the same arcane assumption as most in the system that a vagina automatically makes you a capable parent? How about a parent who was given custody of his two biological children(ages-2yrs.2mos. & 7mos.) AND a five yr. old girl her mother had from a previous relationship?Then the mother goes weeks/months without so much as a phone call with intermittent spats of seeming to care for the kids followed by heartache and broken promises. My kids have been with me three years now, and yes, I have a penis! Just give men their due please, there are many great moms who juggle work in and out of the home while insuring their children are raised as happy, well adjusted children. The men who also do this deserve as much credit I think. Lord knows it would help us over the slap in the face we receive while we do our best with none of the support from courts,government run social services for single parent families. or heaven forbid...financial aid from the other parent!!! Single dads will understand the added roadblocks.
But again, if your kids are happy, congratulations to you whether you are a mom,dad or couple. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 3:36:46 AM | gadgetdoc ....
Given Futureshocks unwavering position and opinions supporting single men not to mention chastising single parents..especially women...I think she should answer Shaniqua's questions....
Just sayin  | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 3:58:33 PM | Lizbeth,
I've crossed swords with FS on her postion before. I say something when I see something wrong. I am sure that FS can answer her own questions. But I do not wish to see such anger and hate directed at anyone. Shaniqua comes off as a biggot, and I don't have to like it. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2009 6:44:58 AM | FYI to those who think dating a single dad is nice, in someways it is, in other ways it just sucks for ex: when he has the kids for the weekend and you just come over for a visit and there is no kiss at the door or even how ya doin, we watch cartoons all day or play video games, why not do something that everyone enjoys, (like going outside and enjoying the day together), I understand he only has them twice a month and wants to please them but if you want a woman around (and just not for a boody call) it won't last long. One more thing he is paying child support, ie the more money he makes the more the x can take, (PA) so the more children he has the less money he has. So guess who gets stuck paying the restaurant bill or whatever you 2 want to do. U Ladies on POF look at the whole picture of the man not just his profile pic. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2009 6:19:42 PM |
FYI to those who think dating a single dad is nice, in someways it is, in other ways it just sucks for ex: when he has the kids for the weekend and you just come over for a visit and there is no kiss at the door or even how ya doin, we watch cartoons all day or play video games, why not do something that everyone enjoys, (like going outside and enjoying the day together), I understand he only has them twice a month and wants to please them but if you want a woman around (and just not for a boody call) it won't last long. One more thing he is paying child support, ie the more money he makes the more the x can take, (PA) so the more children he has the less money he has. So guess who gets stuck paying the restaurant bill or whatever you 2 want to do. U Ladies on POF look at the whole picture of the man not just his profile pic.
Look at it from the perspective of those children. They only see their own daddy twice a month! They deserve to have their father's undivided attention for those visits. What kind of woman needs a man's attention every single day? What kind of woman can't understand that the man they are dating has children who need him and love him, and who don't get nearly enough of his time and attention as it is? | |
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