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 PinkiePinkerton
Joined: 9/20/2008
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"I've been on here for months and not actually met a soul. Made plenty of friends but this is supposed to be a dating site, right?

Another thing. Do women go for personality or looks? If they say personality, I find that hard to believe.

Point number 3. What is your success rate? I mean I write to at least 20 different women a night, 5 nights a week (100). Out of that 100, I get maybe 10-12 replies. Is that normal?

I'd love to go on one of those POF nights but I suppose fear of failure gets in the way. Anyone experience that?"

Just to give you a few pointers from a female perspective... Take the self-deprecating comment off of the photos. Create something in your interests category that shows you have an imagination and you know how to use it (a good romance requires one IMHO). If a woman receives your note and sees that you have similar interests it is fodder for conversation and possible mutually enjoyable activities I have good kissers listed in my interests category. Let there be no mistake. A Good Kisser prerequisite is mandatory to even get to a second date (or third if he waited til the 2nd one to kiss me). And looks/chemistry IS important. I am more attracted to a man's brain than his crotch though. If the brain catches me, the rest will follow. Plus it helps if he smells good - not like overdone cologne though...Yuck! Hope this helps. Happy fishing
 FreckledTexan
Joined: 5/30/2009
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Posted: 8/23/2009 11:24:56 PM
I am more into personalities than looks, perhaps because I am certainly not a #10 myself. I hope to be judged by my personality and not my looks, but I realize that will seldom happen.
I have met a number of men here and started going on dates with some of them. I have met some really nice men. I have had a great time with each of them, wonderful conversations, laughter etc. But, the chemistry has only been there a couple of times. So I will keep answering every email and sending out some of my own. I know we have to stay positive in all of this. Good luck.
 outdoorsgirl2
Joined: 7/25/2009
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Posted: 8/24/2009 2:34:50 AM
Looks help initially but it is how we experience you that counts. Looks helps attract but do not provide the cement.
 outdoorsgirl2
Joined: 7/25/2009
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Posted: 8/24/2009 2:47:55 AM

BUT, from your email...if you're spending that much time on here and sending out that many emails.....I'm going to take a wild guess and say you sound as desperate in your emails as you sound on this post. You definitely need to take a breather for a bit.


I felt somewhat the same when reading the OP's profile. To the OP, I'd get rid of this part: "I normally improve peoples lives just by meeting them. Hope I can do the same for you". I don't have a name for the emotion this triggered but suffice it to say it made me uncomfortable just reading it. I cannot imagine responding to someone with this in their profile.

Caring and compassion are communicated over time, through emails, meeting together, and seeing how they react around situations that develop.
 crisaiden
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Posted: 8/24/2009 3:16:12 AM
Looks is def. A factor when replying back but its also the vibe you get from the messenger. Some people are jus really creepy and try to hard. I have gone out on dates with some people I have met on this site and the only thing I can say is, your not gonna find the ONE the 1st time, 2nd, 3rd or whatever. Maybe they aren't even online. Jus be positive and learn from every person you meet. If You have standards you will not lower them for anyone.
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
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Posted: 8/24/2009 10:30:34 AM
Well, it's not either or, it's both. Looks is #1 for women and guys. Don't let anyone tell you any different. They're not going to date a humpback midget, even if they have THE #1 personality of all time. And if women on here are saying "personality means more than looks", what they're saying is that looks is #1, but personality will grant you real sustained interest. Especially when you're talking about STRANGERS online. They don't know your personality yet -- looks determines if they're going to write back or not.

So you're batting about .120 in terms of replies. May not be that bad -- depends on who you are and who you're writing to. If you're going after only BBWs and you're batting that average, there's something wrong, and I'd go to the Profile Review section. If you're hitting up the hottest women you can find in a 100 mile radius, then I'd say that you're probably just fine and dandy. Make sure what you write doesn't sound like a form letter.
 DrGr33nThumb
Joined: 5/31/2009
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Posted: 8/24/2009 2:33:58 PM
Have faith and be patient. Ive talked with several ladies from here. All of them were great people. But there has only been one who stole my heart. Her and I have been seeing each other now for a couple of weeks now. And the future is looking fantastic. When the right one comes around, you'll know it. Sometimes a lil adjustment in your profile will help. Make sure you know who YOU are first, and what you need to be happy. The rest will fall into place.

Good luck
Believe in yourself
 ncnurse13
Joined: 6/25/2009
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Posted: 8/24/2009 6:04:40 PM
I have been on this site for a couple of months...only because it is free. I hate those site that you have to pay for, and I think they are a waste of money. When I came across this site, I was estatic.....Well I have replied to many profiles, and out of all the ones I have applied to... I have had one direct contact. In fact we met for the first time this weekend. He was very, very nice. We went out to breakfast and then took a couple of laps around Wal Mart because the weather was soooooo bad. We finally said we would see each other again when the weather was better and we could do more stuff.

I had another person contact me who said he was already in a relationship from this site and wanted to see how things went, but "thanks for writing him".... thats was nice of him to at least acknowledge my letter.

I had a kid get in touch with me yesterday saying how he loved older women and would love to talk to me. I did write him back and said I was sorry, but I had nothing in common with a 32 year old.. and that I had a son the same age.

What is the matter with these guys. You state true facts on your profile.. have a nice pic posted... and NOTHING happens. I get so disguested. I am far from ugly and do have alot to offer in a relationship. I am not looking to hop into bed with the first guy I meet... I would just like a nice dinner or coffee and some nice conversation. I am not looking for someone to slip a ring on my finger or anything else like that? I just want to start off slow... but how can you do that if no one responds..... Very frustrating to say the least. Any suggestions....????? Thanks
 nico_time
Joined: 2/19/2007
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Posted: 10/2/2014 2:10:18 AM
i think woman are more superficial than they make out but the justice of this is that us men, prefer woman that are humble and so that is why younger woman are met.
i find it laughable when woman with relatively ok looks would check criteria for their prince when they themselves are no work of art.
since woman focus on looks as a main part of their choir, then it is expected, in this perverse age for them to focus on good looks.
i find the polarity is between desperation and untocuhable princess attitudes, oh i am too good for u.

love never came to those that were ugly, whoreish and perverse in their actions/
 kj521
Joined: 8/8/2012
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Posted: 10/2/2014 4:49:25 AM
^^^^^^^^This what I find laughable........

From your post above......


" i find it laughable when woman with relatively ok looks would check criteria for their prince when they themselves are no work of art."


And this from your profile......



"i despise the idea of woman having to tick of the criteria box and it is amazing to see a poor person turn rich, they cannot appreciate their life despite their fortune, this is similiar to woman on plenty of fish, most of whom i would not take seriously unless you looked like a martika at 25 years old."


Read that last part again...."unless you looked like a marika at 25 years old"


You didn't say "humble" like.....you said "looked" like!


So let's recap......you despise and find it laughable that women with OK looks have a criteria yet you, yourself, who is OK in the looks dept. can have a criteria based on looks????

The only thing I can think of that explains this dichotomy is that you over estimate your panty dropping skills in real life and a truer reflection of said skill is evidenced by your online responses! Good luck to you, though! :)
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
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well, if we're still here....:)
Posted: 10/3/2014 8:01:08 AM
geez, KJ, you missed how many times his post begins with:

I

:)

If you have great personality but lack the looks they're looking for...you'll make a great friend.
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
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well, if we're still here....:)
Posted: 10/3/2014 8:06:43 AM
Some of the best dating relationships in my life have come via online dating.
A particularly special one arrived via this website, so I have no complaints.
 hemingway114
Joined: 6/16/2014
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well, if we're still here....:)
Posted: 10/3/2014 8:14:05 AM
I've met about 25 women and had about 60 dates via POF. I've made a few friends too. I'd say it works.
 TLC200
Joined: 7/26/2014
Msg: 89
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Posted: 10/4/2014 7:55:44 AM
I met my BFF here so....

I've had quite a number of good and bad dates, been stood up, been told i'm not a match, have told others they are not a match, been hoodwinked and used for entertainment by people who were secret penpals, met wonderful women and strange bi-polar women as well as FWB's.

I do most of my dating in TRW (the real world).
 ClooneysTutor
Joined: 3/30/2014
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Posted: 10/4/2014 8:11:57 AM
Met lots of attractive strangers.

I've got dozens of stories.

Found lots of things, flings and even learned several acronyms, but sadly, only a few girlfriends.

The one thing it hasn't been is boring:)
 Eternityboresme
Joined: 8/20/2014
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Posted: 10/4/2014 9:00:08 AM

i think woman are more superficial than they make out but the justice of this is that us men, prefer woman that are humble


Is that why your primary focus in your search, is based on the good looks of women who are not blondes?


and so that is why younger woman are met.


Whatever that means.


i find it laughable when woman with relatively ok looks would check criteria for their prince


I don't focus on looks, not because you tell me I shouldn't; I don't because I see men as whole people who should be accountable for their behavior, responsible, and not Act like whiny, puerile little shits who compose messages like "women are stuck up, sleezey, picky twits who pass me over!"( Sounds familiar, dude?)


when they themselves are no work of art.


In other words, females shouldn't set the parameters of what should or shouldn't happen, in their own dating lives, regardless of their perceived "ok" looks, because some idiots complain about their preferences? What an abomination!

Females don't have to consider your preferences nor feelings before they write their profiles.


since woman focus on looks as a main part of their choir,


And men don't? All men have to do is tick they don't want to meet somebody with larger body types. They can click on their photos, decide if They're suitable for them, without so much as reading the profiles and find somebody else more attractive. (Women are often discouraged publicly by weak men to make very personal decisions; but they can still assert their choice-making autonomy and weed out the "fat, perverse, whiny, entitled, ****y, puerile, ugly" ones on POF. You sexists are not satisfied until the women you like are forcibly coerced I to talking to you. Too bad.)

You, for that matter, have already decided that "ugly" females are not preferred. I don't know how you define "ugly" but I think women have the same right to pass you over should _they_ see you as ugly, without being accused of being a "whorish, perverse" princess ****. (I've heard the same old nauseating complaints from less-evolved male subscribers to this site how "intimidated" women are to approach their profiles, because they look much younger or look good in general.. I'm very honest and I do tell them the woman may pass them over because they don't find them attractive. It usually ends the discussion and the prospective of dating, thank goodness.)


then it is expected, in this perverse age for them to focus on good looks.


Isn't that what YOU expect????


find the polarity is between desperation and untocuhable princess attitudes, oh i am too good for u.


Given your disgusting, "perverse, whorish" sense of entitlement, I'd say they're right.


love never came to those that were ugly, whoreish and perverse in their actions/


As you're finding out for yourself, at the present.
 Eternityboresme
Joined: 8/20/2014
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Posted: 10/4/2014 9:02:45 AM
I'm never short of an interesting, enlightening conversation, even if that's a person with whom I'd not meet, ever. This is my third brief dating attempt in PoF. Things are much different for me, this time around, and even if I don't maintain anything with somebody I meet from here, the experience is always appreciated.
 CTRLvector
Joined: 9/21/2014
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Posted: 10/4/2014 7:40:42 PM
I met a girl on PoF, and I am happy with her.

99 times out of 100, women go for looks on dating websites. Although that is not a gender exclusive, same general rule applies for men.
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