| Is this enough to ditch her?
Posted: 9/15/2009 11:14:17 AM | | hahaha! sorry man but i just cant help myself. it's not like you are both 15 (unless shes a genius, 15 yrs old and already taking her masters degree). unless she's actually a woman trapped in a man's body. ok, kidding aside, you both seem to be responsible adults. if her reason has something to do with religion, then i cant really help you. you can ask god. if it's getting pregnant that she's worried about, then use a condom. yes, you are both in love and are both respectful towards each other. she has her wants. so do you. both wants should be respected. talk to her. and ask what her real reason for abstinence is. if you really cant take it anymore, then you could suggest to her a cooling off phase. no responsibilities towards each other. both will be given the opportunity to ask yourselves what is it you really want. or if you both really want each other. and if you both do, one has to make a sacrifice here. the question is who. | |
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| Is this enough to ditch her?
Posted: 9/15/2009 11:22:46 AM | | This thread is depressing. I think I'll go hang out at the "three day rule" forum. | |
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| Is this enough to ditch her?
Posted: 9/15/2009 11:27:35 AM | "Get her wasted, and give her an excuse to let go. Give it to her. Never mind her objections. Make some sort of connection first, though."
But...but...I thought that was called RAPE!!! (scratching his head in confusion) | |
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| Is this enough to ditch her?
Posted: 9/15/2009 1:56:21 PM | Wow, classy girl arn't you?
Seriously, cheating should never be an option for any reason. Now, then, to the OP: Grow a pair and tell her how you feel, let it be know. If she confirms that she want's to wait, then you have two choices:
1) If you love here as much as you claim you do, then wait with her.
2) If you want a good sex life, then it's time to break it off (without stepping on toes if possible), and start a relationship with a sexually active partner. Oh yeah, remember to rubber up, I don't wanna spend my tax money on you.
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| Is this enough to ditch her?
Posted: 9/15/2009 3:24:34 PM | um you know they already broke up right?
in fact he just got done telling us that after they parted ways she apparently has no problem hanging out with another guy who she may or may not have been boinking on the side.
pretty much point for the people that guessed she was cheating!! | |
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| Is this enough to ditch her?
Posted: 9/15/2009 4:00:07 PM | | I think she's being grossly unfair on you and you have to be completely honest with her and tell her that you have waited more than long enough ....... | |
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| Is this enough to ditch her?
Posted: 9/15/2009 4:35:58 PM | | If she does not know you are on pof show her this forum and see her reaction tell her that sound like your relationship ...but realy 4 years thats a prison term and even prizeners get laid somehow same way..... | |
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| Is this enough to ditch her?
Posted: 9/15/2009 4:49:05 PM | If she won't have sex with you now do you think she's going to want after marriage?
Tell her how you feel and go get some. Sex is an important part of a relationship. Do you really want to continue a sexless relationship? | |
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| Is this enough to ditch her?
Posted: 9/15/2009 4:52:09 PM | So she wants to wait until marriage. That's her choice and her opinion and you don't want to wait. You need to respect her choice.
And you are already cheating...your on here aren't you?
You'll have to find someone else who shares your values and beliefs. | |
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| Is this enough to ditch her?
Posted: 9/15/2009 5:03:28 PM | She would wait a long time to find another guy who would go four years without sex.
I think you should start dating others. Four years of a celebate relationship sounds like torture. | |
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| Is this enough to ditch her?
Posted: 10/3/2009 4:08:06 PM | If it was me, I would have dumped her sorry a** already. I'll be damn if Im gonna wait another one to two years before she actually starts to spread her legs open.
Seriously dude, she's not worth getting frustrated over. Lose the b*tch. | |
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| Is this enough to ditch her?
Posted: 10/3/2009 4:32:23 PM | "Is this enough to ditch her?"
You know what always confuses the bloody hell out of me?? This idea that people have that they have to have ENOUGH of a reason to let a relationship go when they aren't happy.
Let me be clear: YOU DO NOT HAVE TO HAVE SOME SORT OF GREAT, INTENSE REASON TO END A RELATIONSHIP THAT DOES NOT MEET YOUR NEEDS.
Hell, if it comes to that, you don't even need to have some sort of great, intense reason to end a relationship that IS meeting your needs provided that you're not legally bound to each other.
You do not need to be with someone that you don't want to be with. (Again, unless you're legally bound to each other.)
No that that's over with, on to the actual problem. You need to be honest with her. You need to say, "I love you, and I want to marry you, but I can't wait two more years to have my sexual needs met when I've been waiting much longer than I wanted to anyhow. I feel like our relationship is suffering as a result of this decision."
And then you see what she says. Never, I repeat, NEVER give an ultimatum. Don't say, "If you don't sleep with me, I'm leaving you." You need to decide, however, if leaving is something that you're willing to do. I imagine that it is. If it wasn't, you wouldn't be asking the question. | |
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| Is this enough to ditch her?
Posted: 10/3/2009 5:52:36 PM | Okay, it's not "loosing" , it's "losing" and furthermore you've joined this site in February and have been keeping a line in the water for some time and you come onto the forums and ask this?
You're just looking for a way to absolve yourself of the responsibility of actually ending this relationship.
You honestly need sympathizers before you can cough up the guts to do it?
Hey, you've been hanging in there for your "pure virgin" this long, another 2 yrs ought not be a chore.
Then again, you'll be sparing HER the problem of having YOU for a husband.
So yeah, break it off. It'll be win/win for you both. You'll finally get laid and she'll finally be rid of the cad that you are. | |
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| Is this enough to ditch her?
Posted: 10/3/2009 6:05:58 PM |
In 2 weeks, the girl that I thought was very reserved, is seen going around with another guy. Generally I would never assume things, but this girl I have known for many years. If she's going out to malls with a guy, it means he's more than a friend.
I was pretty shocked.
I called her one of the nights, about a week and a half, or two ago, asked her point black who the guy was, and she told me "its none of your business".
Didn't see this when it was originally posted... I really kind of hate her now. I doubt this is anything other than a way to hurt you, but it worked, and it was cruel.
It isn't nice to him either, to use him like that. But then it's already been established that she is more than willing to use a man to fulfill some emotional need, without considering his feelings at all.
Twisted, silly bint.
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| Is this enough to ditch her?
Posted: 10/4/2009 8:52:32 AM | ANYTHING is enough to ditch someone. If all you have is the vague feeling you should ditch someone, that's enough. No one I know wants to be kept around out of sympathy, or because you "really think you oughta."
What, you need a rule book? There isn't one, never has been. If you want to go, go. | |
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| Is this enough to ditch her?
Posted: 10/4/2009 9:07:18 AM | OP I've been with a woman for 4 years. She's my first love and believe it or not, we've yet to have sex. We are both in love!
Ok how do you know that she hasn't been banged by other men??
Dating a woman for 4 years and no sex gives a new meaning to Blue Balls!
There's a big malfunction going on with both of you, need professional help fast.
Your thread is FUBAR and you need badly to get laid AIAYOYO.  | |
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| Is this enough to ditch her?
Posted: 10/12/2009 2:07:29 PM | Dude, its hard to come across as genuine when you preach about your urges like they actually MATTER. There is a price to pay for every last thign we do in this world, be it good or bad. Here is some questions you should ask yourself:
Do you actually love her?
If yes, then stick it out and don't complain..she hasn't left you yet and nor you her. If its that big a deal that sex needs to happen, its twice in part your own urges and the social constructs of society tugging at you telling you that you should be having sex right now. Sex doesn't NEED to happen, even if nowadays its being handed out like gift certificates.
I'm 23 years old and proud to be a virgin and I feel cleaner because of the choice. Higher standards are hard to keep nowadays because society is that darn shallow. Ask yourself this second question: do I want to be that way, or do I want to stay with this woman that I love for the rest of my life, and mean it as I say it?
Be true to the cause, and be prepared to face the fact that no decision you make will be easy, and either way, you'll have to suffer in some aspect loss. Thats normal and the way it should be. I actually sympathize for you: you have a tough decision to make.
I just hope you make the right one. | |
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| Is this enough to ditch her?
Posted: 10/12/2009 2:12:14 PM | | leave the situation if it comes to the point where you lost attraction +plus respect for her. Leave | |
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| Is this enough to ditch her?
Posted: 10/12/2009 2:17:26 PM | That is a lot to ask. I mean kudos to her for wanting to stay pure as the virgin Mary until marriage. But you must want to exPLLLLODE!!!! hahaha
Ok. So. The bottom line is. You have a choice to make.
You can wait.
Persuade her.
Do other things.
Buy a toy for yourself.
OR...do the amoral thing and cheat. | |
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