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I did have a 31 year old declaring his undying love after 1 meet
Well, that wouldn't be awkward at all. ha. | |
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 6/20/2012 1:57:52 PM | Meh, I've had no problems at all. In fact, things are going better [more dates] now than in my 20's. I look better, feel better, and made a lot of positive changes in my life in the few years so that helps. :)
I'm 32, and oddly enough, I do get a lot of messages from guys in their 20's (as young as 23. yikes!), so either my age doesn't bother them or I guess I don't look particularly old.
Only problem I'm finding is that 30 seems to be the 20 as there a lot of men in their 30's STILL trying to sew their wild oats. I'm shocked by the amount of profiles of guys my age or older that have "want to date but nothing serious" or "isn't looking for any kind of relationship/comittment" [whatever that options says]. I'm like, seriously - what are you waiting for to start thinking long-term?? Do you really want to be 80 years old your kids' college graduation?! | |
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 6/21/2012 7:32:36 AM | | I'll tell you what's much more complicated with dating in my 30s, meeting a man whose sex drive parallels mine. In my 20s, it was easy to meet/date men that had much higher sex drives. Now? It seems like men in their late 30s and early 40s have a seriously decreased sex drive. It's terribly disappointing. | |
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 6/21/2012 10:10:21 AM | | Well I was thinking for a while on that question and I would say def yes. Number one kids most of ppl at 30 have them. Bc they require a lot of time n expected to be arttentained wel that takes those ice weekend day out u question for a date. Some of us have a pet so u also. An leave for a weekend bc there is no one to let poor dog out to use bathroom. Well job u just can't take 3 or 4 day off n take off just bc paying bill car well bills n general child support. Some of us especially guy r also involved in playing on some sports team. That take another night or two. So as I observed n tried it out in last 6 mo every relationship that could be there was dumbed to fail from he go mostly due to time or alone time. It is not harder it is impossible | |
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 6/21/2012 10:33:54 AM | | Also just wanted to add that Internet makes even more tougher than back ten yrs ago when I was in my early 20 when I meet a guy somewhere out I got his undivided attention n he would give my his 100% bc there was no other girl distraction line it is with I signing POF or other site like this one. Guy on here have do more choices of someone who is taller slimmer with more education with no kids with high college education funnier cuter or whatever that could be. I found it a few times guy talking with me n then deleting his profile n then changing his fb profile to in relationship it is very very frustrating tireding n close to mirracle to find someone on here | |
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 6/25/2012 6:42:33 AM | | bang on pet, me i'm finding it hard because as i'm getting older i must be getting uglier 'cause some of the birds i use to go out with were beautiful 2nd in beauty contest beautiful, nee xxxxxxx more, whats up with that, i xxxxxxx must be eh, still gotta do the dance, if it doesn't kill you it makes you stronger, get up and carry on what a...p.s them puddins blaming everybody else, grown people forget them there lost...save yourself and them nearest and dearest to you | |
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 6/25/2012 8:06:33 PM | | I think the answer is no. When a man is in his 30s, there might be less available women in his immediate age group. However many women in their 20s often date older men in their 30s. Also there are some divorced women in their 40s that date younger men in their 30s. | |
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 6/26/2012 7:00:24 AM |
ugly women are screwed because men in their 30s want 20 and 21 yr old women or barbie dolls.
Older women are screwed because they have a biological clock, and men don't, and our sex drives DO come from our subconscious need to reproduce. Men are naturally attracted to younger, FERTILE women. Women are naturally attracted to PROVIDERS, which OLDER men are better at.
So YES, men in their 30s are attracted to 20-25 yo women because they are a natural fit for each other. And women who are still single in their 30s are usually stuck having sex with 20something dudes just looking for sex. | |
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 6/28/2012 9:03:56 PM | | I am 37 and proud of it ! I am not bitter about my choice in father of my children I regret the choices that I made and how long I stayed but has nothing to do with being bitter lol. But I am only one of many women out there in cyber space who are single after kids so take what I say with a grain of salt haha. | |
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 6/29/2012 1:34:19 PM | Hello,
Great topic.
I am in total agreement with you in regards to relating this topic to even my own personal experiences.
I have been on numerous paid & nonpaid websites (if you only seen my list!) since 2004.
I've been to activities in & out of my "comfort zones" doing things & travelling to places I've never would've dreamed I would do.
However, I am chocking my experiences all up to positive endeavors I've accomplished.
I am realizing that if I never meet "the one", at least I can say I've lead a busy, active life.
When we're in our 20's sometimes, things are "easier" since we're more open, wilder & free. We tend to take more risks & that's because we're inexperienced....
I wish everyone lots of luck here but, don't get all consummed by these sites & lead a good, healthy, active life. | |
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 8/30/2012 12:40:43 PM | | I think in the 30+ agegroup it is harder because most people have settled down already so less choice available also most of your social circle are married with children so it is easy to feel under more pressure to find the right man and settle down as well | |
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 9/5/2012 9:02:13 AM | | lol I wish I got emails from men in their 20s. All I get are the men around 39and older, so I had to change my age range. Im sorry if you are single at 39 and never been married Im going to run because you have commitment issues. I have a young spirit and prefer to date younger men. I cant believe men these days just all of them wanting to just bang anything tis rather sad. I pretty much have given up on men and just go to the gym. At least I dont have to be a size 0 or 2 to go to the gym | |
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 9/5/2012 10:07:52 AM | Some of these posts are inaccurate ,lol, at least from my experience. {Men in their 30's want women 20-25}
Really? I have come across so many men that say women in their 20's are insecure, club hoppers, don't know what they want, not ready for a relationship, jealous, drama queens, etc. When I had my profile up I'd get blown up by guys in their early-mid twenties and not all were just looking to hook-up. I'd say that 75% of my last bf's were 3-5 years younger than I am.
Ask your doctor and do research, women in their 30's are actually just as fertile as women in their 20's. Fertility only dips SLIGHTLY and it's in your late 30's. Men DO have a biological as well btw, as sperm depreciates as men age and the prime time for them is also 20's and 30's. My current bf is 4 years younger than I am and we work well together:-)
Men who are ready to settle down, from my experience, want 30 something women. Why? They're accomplished, secure, confident, know what they want, have high sex drives, drama-free, can still have babies and many of us look really young and have the body of a 20yrld.
Cheers to that =) | |
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 9/8/2012 10:56:54 PM | | Exponentially harder. Dating a woman in her 30's who is separated or divorced is nearly impossible because of the hurt/trust issues. A guy in his 30's like me who has divorced is seen as damaged goods or the reason for the divorce as the one who cheated or was otherwise at fault. Singles (never married) have it tough to an extent with image issues and the whole "fear of commitment " thing. But not having experienced the other pains of divorce and such helps them in my opinion. | |
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 9/9/2012 12:35:05 AM | I settled down with my boyfriend into a cozy LTR at age 30, so I really dont know what it would be like to be out actively dating in my 30's, but I imagine it would have it's pro's and cons. Pro's being that having been around the block you know exactly what you want, can compromise on, and wont tolerate or settle for, having a pretty full sense of developed identity and self-love and acceptance, which makes a person truly beautiful. The cons, some may be jaded or hurt by past traumas, declining fertility, and for me personally, I feel like I was a lot hotter in my 20's (on a purely superficial level anyways).
25 was my favorite age, so far. That was when it felt like the universe was shining on me and my life was perfect in every aspect. High paying job, madly in love, newlywed, amazing Husband, lovely Daughter, a new baby on the way, looking forward to birth, young and purty, not jaded at all, growing into a full fledged young woman, I MISS that time so bad. My Mother has advised me that my 30's will be my best years. I hope so! I think I will be so buried in the everyday grind of raising a family I will wake up one day in my 40's as an empty nester and be like "WTF where did those 30's go"?.....lol. | |
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 9/9/2012 9:15:35 AM | Luckily for me I actually look hotter than I did in my 20's. Same body, but even more toned& hard now, go figure.
People think I'm around 24 yrs all the time. I feel sexier& way more confident than I did in my 20's as well, so it
really depends on the person. =) | |
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 9/10/2012 8:56:01 AM | | Well i ain't after a barbie doll. Just someone i can look at and say yes i am attracted to you inside and out. As the thread goes yes i have found dating after 30 very difficult and now i got my little girl full time that adds an even harder spin on matters. I have been on here 3 years i know i ain't the most attractive fella around but still after three years, i would have expected at least one date. But alas not a single one they look but just don't seem to want to find out who i am. | |
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 9/10/2012 1:26:31 PM | | I don' t know, I went from relationship to relationship in my 20's with a few dates here and there. Most people in their 30's have a lot of walls and barriers up, not to mention baggage and list or requirements. I've enjoyed my dating life for the past 3 years. | |
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