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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 10/30/2009 9:30:05 PM | I think we learn as we grow, if we choose to learn instead of being close minded and decide that it is the world that is flawed rather than accepting that we may be the ones who may need to become more for what we have experienced.
Maybe instead of thinking that all women are "out to get you --- lie, cheat, and take advantage of you" you would better serve yourself by examining your choices and letting go of some of your anger, cause you are hurting yourself more than anyone else by carrying that around. Yea, some people are jerks and some people are users and some people will chew you up and spit you out and leave you wondering wth just happened. But there are also people that are sincere and kind and have integrity -- and its up to you to choose which you let into your life.
Being a couple years older than you, Robert, I can tell you that life isn't always going to go along perfectly...you may have to deal with unexpected and unwanted b.s. that you feel you can hardly deal with...we all do. Its how you react to it that matters, whether you let it defeat you or make you stronger is up to you. Your beliefs and desires are your own, and knowing yourself is a good thing, but labeling people and making rash judgements about people based on your limited experiences is foolish. Open your mind, learn from your past, and let it make you a better person. Believe me, people are not going about their lives trying to tick you off...so you encountered a few jerks, welcome to the world, don't let them destroy you cause if you do you let them win. Be strong, be smart, and drop the persecution complex...there are good people in this world too, you just have to choose who you align yourself with. | |
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 10/30/2009 10:04:27 PM | beth you or right i am 59 year old and i belive there good lady and good man and bad one i have had lady that just looking for some one to take care of them but i am here for one reason to fine a good lady but on the other hand you got man that or looking for sex so you have bad man and bad woman so i am not say nougfhting about anyone
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 10/30/2009 10:54:59 PM | i have discover this furom and was happy to find this thread.
i was talking with friend the other day about this FACT when you cross 30 yrs
it seems to be really hard to find the right women.
is like the same feeling to be in the middle of no where and always looking for the impossible.....
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 10/31/2009 12:06:05 PM | hmmm, I think it depends on a couple of factors specific to you rather than the overall dating market place.
On the surface dating in the college years is expected and your surrounding by your peers of both sexes which all share a mostly commonality which as you grow older seems to diverge once leaving college you are no longer surrounded by the same mix of people with almost identical points of view but rather a huge sea of different social and economic groups of people with an ever changing point of view. Can you find a pool of mid-thirties divorcees with similar points of view? Yes but I would hazard to bet you still would not find an abundance of those in one place or even a majority of those with overly similar views either.
People tend to have more baggage (views) the older they get these can become real obstacles for them in social situations as now they tend to preclude people from conversation or even consideration for conversation based on these views. I tend to like people with different views and find conversations with these people can be rather interesting but not everyone shares this thought process. It appears a lot of people tend to look for "like me".
Not sure that helps or not but my alternative answer is not as inspired or as thoughtful. The fact is not everyone shares your experience, I know plenty of people who date far more in their 30's, 40's and 50's than they did when they were in their 20's.
I would not trade my current abilities for those of my youth even if I could look 18 again. Of course I still have my hair! LOL, but I know bald dudes who can still catch the eye of some of the hottest women in a room so I am not sure that would change my view.
It comes down to learning hoyw to communicate or as some call it skills! LOL If your the gregarious type its easy if your a loner quiet type you better be damn movie star hot or she will never notice you are even in the room.
I do know my best advantage is the complete inaptitude of others. Its not that I am particularly great so much as they are so damn bad! 
PS: I disagree about acting your age! What's important it to know when to not act your age!
This is different than lying of course! I appose lying in general it can suck the fun right out of life! Besides I look damn good when you compare me to those my age! When you compare me to some college dude maybe not so much! LOL | |
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 11/3/2009 8:24:27 AM | | I am having a much rougher time dating in my 30s than I did in my 20s. I have always been someone who was running a few years behind everyone else and I find that most of the women my age I have met are expecting a certain level of stability, comfort, etc at this point in our lives. Now there is nothing wrong with that at all but it makes it difficult for the ones like myself who are still figuring stuff out. It also doesn't help that most of my interests still include things like going out to see hot new bands and collecting records. I sometimes feel it's hard to relate to women my age yet at the same time I have a hard time relating to a lot of women in their 20s as well. I hope it's going to get easier but I have a feeling it just isn't at all. | |
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 11/3/2009 2:42:36 PM |
Women are bitter and angry at men in general because of the bad choices they have made for fathers of there children...
I have no ex-husband or baby's daddy to speak of so I am not bitter. Do not generalize women in one neat category.
I find dating in my thirties to be better than dating in my twenties. Why? I really don't know, but it is easier and more fun.  | |
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 11/3/2009 3:30:04 PM | I totally agree with oregonsaint. It is very hard. You tend to think in consequences, things we did not do when we were in our 20's. I'm single I'm in my 30's and I don't have kids, but even then, I find it hard, because now I really know what I want, and don't like waisting my time, so I do not date anyone, and I expect more of men. The list is so long now I feel I have a checklist. 
But I still believe there is someone special out there and I still hope to find that gentllemen which I can connect and enjoy the beauty of life. | |
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 11/3/2009 6:25:12 PM | | The biggest single problem with dating over 30 is that huge population of single, unattached people no longer exists. Once you are in your 30s, you are in couples' society. Most people are married, living with someone, or whatever. People are alos more experienced. They've been burned a few times. They are going to be more cautious because they've learned from those experiences that there are many, many lousy people in the world. I don't think there is an answer. It is just harder, and that's that. | |
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 11/4/2009 2:19:23 AM |
yes, dating is much harder now. Men want younger chics
And for men that are interrested in woman there own age, well unless he is very good looking, and/or has extremely high university degree, well woman will not even look at him, and much less want anything to do with those men | |
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 11/4/2009 2:27:17 AM | Yes most definitely!! I see why people from the real OLD SCHOOL got married young!! Too many people TODAY spend or spent their 20's "wilding out", casual dating and being utterly stupid!! Sooo when time passes on, guess what??? You see people in their....YEP..believe or not.... their 30's acting like they did in their WILD 20's and they NEVER MATURED!!
Yes times has gotten crazy with this 30's is the "new" 20's crap and many people found reason to be stupid and immature ONCE again... Now u have people in their 40's and 50's being stupid!! Go figure!!
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 11/4/2009 1:27:43 PM | | Yes dating is more difficult in your 30's. I meet single women that have lots of children and are just recently single. For me I'm not wanting to complicate my life so fast or want an insta-family. The older you get the harder it is to find someone with less baggage. We are busier in life than say in early 20's when still in college and in a more sociable environment. Looks go downhill unfortunately especially in late 30's. I'm 33 and it hasn't been easy that's for sure! | |
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 11/9/2009 12:24:44 PM | I think it's harder. Not sure I would really describe myself as "bitter", but I'm definitely not as easily impressed as I used to be.
It makes it even harder for me to get out of unhealthy situations too, because once I actually find someone I'm intereted in after however many lame dates, it's hard for me to give up.
I think I was oblivious (and happily so) to the games that a lot of men play when I was younger. Now that my eyes have been opened, I don't enjoy the process as much. | |
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 11/10/2009 1:30:07 PM | | lol...well if it helps out I had date last tuesday. was going to have another one on Saturday but around 2:30 am she texted me to let me know that God had just told her in a conversation that I'm not good enough for her. lmao...I'm thinking you know what a boost to my confidence that with all that is probably going on in the universe that God took the time to tell this 20 something that I wasn't good enough for her. I think in my 20's I was blinded by the beauth and youth of the women in their 20s and not the strangeness. | |
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 11/19/2009 10:35:06 AM | Ditto^^^
I got married when I was 14, divorced at 25 worked, worked, worked and then went back to school. So from 25 to 37 no dating for me. So far I've been on a few dates on which I had plenty of fun, but nothing more. However, I do not regret it it was my descision, and one that I was happy with, since I felt my responsabilities came first. Now that my kids are older I have time to dedicate to myself and whomever comes into my life. | |
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 11/19/2009 11:07:55 AM | | actually you didn't date from 14 to 37. Understand that you don't have any regrets and that it was your decision. However...it is society's fault as a whole for letting stuff like that happen anywhere in the world. Children should be allowed to be children...you weren't even allowed to be a child if you got married at 14. | |
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| Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 11/19/2009 1:27:38 PM | | me and my ex were together since we were both 19 till i turned 30:) so missed all that 20 s dating thing..iono about if its harder than when ppl are in their 20s but i am surprised by the amount of mind games and all the issues ppl seem to have nowadays...it seems that u got two choices or atleast that s what ive come across men that are wanting to settle down like tomorrow or men that just want to fool around...i got this weird idea that i want to casually get to know someone and see where it leads mind i might be coming out of left field but just to find out if it is the age thing im going to try dating a few 20 year olds to find out : ) | |
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