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| | How important is sameness to you at this stage of the game?Page 4 of 4 (1, 2, 3, 4) |
....my take is....ready for it?.....first born from any old school Jewish family where guilt ranks supreme...fly the coop(home raised city) and marry anti Jewish partners.
This may be true. I wasn't raised in an "old school Jewish family" in that my father was dead set against us going to Temple and being raised Jewish, so I grew up with no religion, however, possibly the "guilt by association" with family members was still there... finish your plate, think of all the starving children, etc.? When I flew the coop, I was 17 and ended up in the hippy section of town, and was single until I was 35, and when I did marry it wasn't because he was an "anti-Jewish partner." Although raised Catholic, he wasn't religious either, and for a while we went to a nondenominational church together, which is where we got married (by a gay priest)! | |
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Posted: 8/21/2009 7:39:46 AM | May I take a moment of your time to introduce you to
...keyzguy369...
We've discussed his sculptures and I can assure you this man is also salt of the earth.
...Is there a woman out there seeking a decent, artistic, obviously strong, dude?
btw, Uncle Michael is educated, he is not shy, he did not ask me to do this, but he certainly deserves my compliments.
I hope he takes me up on visiting us here in North Vancouver BC and i know we will one day gladly visit him in Key Largo.
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Posted: 8/21/2009 8:41:48 AM |
my take is....ready for it?.....first born from any old school Jewish family where guilt ranks supreme...fly the coop(home raised city) and marry anti Jewish partners.
My sister was the first born and I was the one to fly the coop. I flew into the US to start my career.. Obviously I did not marry an anti Jewish partner cause if he was we would not have been coupled.. However having said that he was not of my faith..
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Posted: 8/27/2009 12:07:34 AM | well leonia, you and i are clearly relatives. i married my first irish husband in grad school with a protestant university minister, whose wife was fooling around with my female friend. her partner was by my side, so hope i really didn't marry her --as my husband was elsewhere in the room when we were pronounced. i wore my white t shirt dress with cherries on it for non religious symbolism. the next hubby came straight from scotland and my bag piper played hava nagila. for this i wore a "white dress", uncle louie marched me down the aisle to misa luba (the african catholic mass) and the ex stepped on a wine glass, as my african american friend sang spirituals. note: first hubby attended this wedding with his family! but, i figured the white dress was owed me. the recent ex SO was welsh descent. nope! they don't have to be the same as me. just wish they were less the same as each other!
as to the great northwest: be careful. if you are "of color", be sure to get the naacp to tell you where "not" to drive through! it amazes me how liberal everyone thinks they are out here. adapt to their ways and they'll welcome you. but they will be "anti" your heritage?!* not everyone mind you and just make sure a majority of some outside ethnic group doesn't "invade" the town in too great a number.
as for me, i like diversity, different histories and ethnicities and a celebration of it all. not just the in crowd deciding who does what! it does take a willingness to reach outside the comfort zone. so here i am reaching out to the great northwest, with a brooklyn jewish accent. never had one before , but it has become a great comfort to me lately. | |
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Posted: 8/27/2009 1:47:25 AM | God how boring would that be - get together with a mirror image of you and die of boredom with nothing to chat about.
Nah opposites attract and it can be fun talking about what you both did today rather than knowing what the other person did - hence 'The stony silence' with nothing to say to eachother (we have all been there), turn on the TV to cover up the relationship has died a cold hard death. | |
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Posted: 8/27/2009 4:12:05 PM | the humormonger said,
i think "sameness" is essential when it comes to core values. here, i'm thinking things like morals, integrity, honesty, and so forth. the world view of how to interact with society is an absolute for a couple. for example, how could a moral person sustain a relationship with a con artist? ...it just wouldn't work, since the moral person couldn't respect their behavior.
Bingo, as different ideas, energy, their hobbies,etc, are fun and interesting and good to do and enjoy,, YET, the core values can never be compromised unless you plan to change him or her with sorry, dire results.
Chose wisely my friend...and if not...you might be crying in your beer later.... | |
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Posted: 8/28/2009 2:04:28 PM | I would call it like minded or compatible. That has to to with similar values, skills and abilities and lifestyles. The little things like music and entertainment are moot in my opinion. I am always up for expanding my horizons as far as music and activities go. In relationship I want to know if we are on the same page regarding relationship, marriage, finances, lifestyle, hygiene, health, friends and family. | |
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