| Guys Please help me understand why??????
Posted: 8/22/2009 9:29:42 PM | Yea, what Fa que said! Can't believe I just said that! *lol*
But really, perhaps because she's a newbie ~~~Fa que~~~ & they didn't want to scare her off too quick. Gotta have tough skin round the fora sometimes OP. 
As for me  ~~~Daynadaze~~~ said it perfectly.  | |
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Posted: 8/22/2009 9:35:30 PM | This is the same thing almost every woman goes through. It will never be figured out. You can chalk it up to good ol' fashioned mind games. They tell me that men want to do the chasing and when you show interest, they back away because you've been tagged. But then they tell me that if you don't show interest, they back away to spare their ego. There is no real answer.
The realest advice I have read in a while was that if a man wants you, he will let you know. There won't be any guessing involved. If you are putting all of the energy into it, move on. Don't waste your time on someone who is going to disappear anyway.
Don't waste your thoughts wondering why he did what he did. Do give him the benefit of the doubt. It might not even be personal, he could have just been looking out for his own best interests.
Either way, chalk him up as someone from your past and pick up whatever it was you paused to deal with him in the first place.
Another tip that I have learned personally is if a man is calling you ALL the time at the beginning and you are answering his every call and calling him back every time, it is going to die quickly. Another mind game, he will seem AMAZING but don't make that man the center of your universe before you even know if he's worthy to even breathe in your space. Don't purposely tease him, but get back to him on YOUR time. If he calls at an inconvenient time, let it ring or send him to voicemail. Don't answer and say you'll have to call him later. He is not too good for your voicemail. Not only will he realize that you have better things going for yourself, but your feelings will be balanced if he decides to drop from the planet without a word. Live and learn.
Adylia,
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| Guys Please help me understand why??????
Posted: 8/22/2009 9:40:59 PM | Another tip that I have learned personally is if a man is calling you ALL the time at the beginning and you are answering his every call and calling him back every time, it is going to die quickly. Another mind game, he will seem AMAZING but don't make that man the center of your universe before you even know if he's worthy to even breathe in your space. Don't purposely tease him, but get back to him on YOUR time. If he calls at an inconvenient time, let it ring or send him to voicemail. Don't answer and say you'll have to call him later. He is not too good for your voicemail. Not only will he realize that you have better things going for yourself, but your feelings will be balanced if he decides to drop from the planet without a word. Live and learn.
OH NO YOU DIDNNN....
What a crock of *shit*
Pot, please allow me to introduce Kettle.
So you accuse men of playing games, and then proceed to tell her to play one of her
own?? THIS is why things are so fuked up between men and women.
No wonder so many people are stupified and afraid to date.... because they face this rediculous behaviour and are actually coached to play "the game".
I am 43 years old. The only game I want to play is naked twister, and I will need a flippin backrub after because I am not as flexible as I once was. (oh and a front rub too, because that is still quite flexible..)
Absolute crock of shite up there.... buyer BEWARE
How is that a mind game?Living her own life and responding when she's good and ready means she does not have some man on a pedestal before she even knows much about him. Too many women drop everything they're doing because some guy has convinced them that he's the one (without ever actually saying it). There are so many women that answer the phone to quickly whisper 'It's not a good time, I'll call you later'. What's the point? Don't be afraid of a little voicemail greeting.
Seems like you think women should drop what they're doing for your call? Talk about buyer beware
So now if you answer your phone, and it is a man calling... he is elevated to some pedestal? What ever happened to common courtesy? The fact that you actually buy in to this behaviour tells me a tonne about how sad things really are out there. I feel so fortunate that I have a lovely lady in my life that answers the phone because she is genuinely interested in hearing from me. I think it is pathetic that you can ASSume that someone is looking for control or whatever your twisted thoughts are about why to make someone go to voicemail. Seriously, you may be a great lady, but you are perpetuating rediculous stereotypes and adding to the problem.
If someone is too busy to answer a phone, COOL... I get it, that's why we have voicemail. BUT, to suggest that you send someone to voicemail as a way to "control".. well... again YOU are the hypocrite. | |
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Posted: 8/22/2009 9:44:14 PM | | You are still in your marriage, have had wonderful time(s) by dating another guy, and ask guys for help. So far, you understand nothing about what I posted. What more can you suppose to do? LOL! | |
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| Guys Please help me understand why??????
Posted: 8/22/2009 9:45:37 PM |
It's the plural of ovum, female sex cell or gamete
It's also an oval ornament in architecture, and shorthand for "over" (when texting etc.). Given the context, which is most likely to have been meant? | |
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Posted: 8/22/2009 9:52:39 PM |
Another tip that I have learned personally is if a man is calling you ALL the time at the beginning and you are answering his every call and calling him back every time, it is going to die quickly. Another mind game, he will seem AMAZING but don't make that man the center of your universe before you even know if he's worthy to even breathe in your space. Don't purposely tease him, but get back to him on YOUR time. If he calls at an inconvenient time, let it ring or send him to voicemail. Don't answer and say you'll have to call him later. He is not too good for your voicemail. Not only will he realize that you have better things going for yourself, but your feelings will be balanced if he decides to drop from the planet without a word. Live and learn.
Looks like I chose my wording wrong. Oh well, I was meaning, it seems like more mind games to some-- apparently you. Whether it is or not, what I did clearly suggest was that she not purposely tease him, which is a mind game, but she did get back to him on her own time, which is not.
How is that a mind game?Living her own life and responding when she's good and ready means she does not have some man on a pedestal before she even knows much about him. Too many women drop everything they're doing because some guy has convinced them that he's the one (without ever actually saying it). There are so many women that answer the phone to quickly whisper 'It's not a good time, I'll call you later'. What's the point? Don't be afraid of a little voicemail greeting.
Seems like you think women should drop what they're doing for your call? Talk about buyer beware.
Adylia,
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Posted: 8/22/2009 9:52:57 PM | Adylia...my dear Adylia that is THE BEST summary I have read in a long time!!
Sorry a poster disagrees...but that has been my personal experience with a lot of men, and a personal experience of my friends, and something I continually read online. Sorry if it bothers some men to hear it, but um hello it IS the truth of what we have gone through. If it bothers you, then don't do such a thing to women yourself.
The kind of thing Adylia summarized and effectively explained (if indeed it could EVER be explained or understood) is something that causes a lot of pain to a lot of people. It's made me wish I was either gay or asexual, I GET SO FREAKING SICK OF IT. | |
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| Guys Please help me understand why??????
Posted: 8/22/2009 9:53:57 PM |
OH NO YOU DIDNNN....
What a crock of *shit*
Pot, please allow me to introduce Kettle.
So you accuse men of playing games, and then proceed to tell her to play one of her own?? THIS is why things are so fuked up between men and women.
No wonder so many people are stupified and afraid to date.... because they face this rediculous behaviour and are actually coached to play "the game".
I am 43 years old. The only game I want to play is naked twister, and I will need a flippin backrub after because I am not as flexible as I once was. (oh and a front rub too, because that is still quite flexible..)
Absolute crock of shite up there.... buyer BEWARE
And apparently I quoted that wrong too! LOL. Oh well life goes on.
Adylia,
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Posted: 8/23/2009 12:50:26 AM | | Well since everyone is different your best bet is to ask him this question. Maybe he's simply a very controlling individual. Maybe he has a wife/gf (don't call me, i'll call you or i might get in trouble). It sounds like it wouldn't work out and i'd move on if this is driving you nuts. Obviously not good for you already. | |
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Posted: 8/23/2009 2:18:17 AM | | I don't know you, and I don't know him so I can only address this in generic terms. There is something about you he doesn't like, at first he tried to overlook it but it just got harder and harder to let it pass. He tried to end it politly without having to do battle with you, I would say that if he thinks you are demanding or pushy, he would be cautious about interacting with you in a way where you would try to force you ideas and opinions on him. Most people are affraid that they are going to be talked into doing something they don't really want to do, so they avoid any interaction with people they feel are stronger than them. | |
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Posted: 8/23/2009 4:52:15 AM |
How is that a mind game?Living her own life and responding when she's good and ready means she does not have some man on a pedestal before she even knows much about him. Too many women drop everything they're doing because some guy has convinced them that he's the one (without ever actually saying it). There are so many women that answer the phone to quickly whisper 'It's not a good time, I'll call you later'. What's the point? Don't be afraid of a little voicemail greeting. I'm confused... so answering the phone now is suppose to mean that I'll drop everything for the person that is calling? And why whisper that it's not a good time to speak to the person? Why wouldn't it be a good time? Because some television show is on?
I can't imagine why anyone would put any effort into ensuring that someone they are dating feels like they're an option rather than a priority.
Seems like you think women should drop what they're doing for your call? Talk about buyer beware. Conversely... why would any man want to get into a relationship with the woman's voicemail? Talk about buyer beware... | |
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| Guys Please help me understand why??????
Posted: 10/23/2009 8:55:52 PM | | My 18-year old son recently announced to me (to my delight, of course) that some of the biggest turn-offs to him are women who cannot spell or use proper English, whether in spoken or written word. Hope it helps! Good luck! Love, Titus | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 9:00:36 PM |
Why is it that he can call all the time but when I say I want to see you Im demanding?
The problem is that you are likely to get emotional and beg for answers as to why its ending instead of just accepting that its over and leave it at that. You don't want to BEG a man to stay with you because you like him. You don't need to ask for his reason,... him dumping you is good enough. Accept it like a good girl and get ready for the next guy. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 9:06:35 PM | | Maybe you have a hard time with rejection like the rest of us. People dont like confrontation when they want a relationship to end. Women do it very well, they just stop, say thier busy, dont respond to phone calls, put it on answer machine. Move on to the next perons, accept it as a reality of some people that avoid confrontation. It is easier for me to give advice than be in your position because when your going through the emotional turmoil its difficult to understand why someone isnt feeling you. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 11:10:36 PM | it's really very simple - men pursue you until they catch you. As soon as they perceive they have you wrapped, they'll move on to the next challenge.
Watch a man play a video game - when it's new - they play it constantly - they'll even drop some other interest - then, when they beat it, they lose interest. If a game isn't challenging enough, they soon grow bored. The more challenging the game, the more they play it.
In short, you are what's called 'a pushover'. I'm sorry, but there it is.
Only YOU can stop this pattern. Knowing is half the battle
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Posted: 10/23/2009 11:36:20 PM | My favorite phrase is this one: Rejection is ___ protection. Fill in the blank for whatever you believe in. (god, source, my, yada yada) But true, take it with a grain of salt, keep it moving, its a numbers game.  | |
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Posted: 10/24/2009 12:13:12 AM | | The answer is simple and obvious. They're JUST NOT INTO YOU. It should be obvious. You read more into than was there. Get over it. Welcome to the human race. Some times you get the bear and some times, the bear gets you. That's life. Get used to it. | |
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Posted: 10/24/2009 2:23:22 AM | | First of all, being on POF and other dating sites gives everyone a large variety to meet a woman and a man. So if something don't work out, don't worry about it ! There is some one for everybody! Just move on to the next " physical attraction" at the web-side! - Man are way to be-light to hurt your feelings , to actually telling you " you are not, what the are looking for, or some one ells likes to date them.- Your assumption" It's all about sex " may or may not be right. Aldo sex is a very imported part of a relations ship! Unless the are looking for a mother, do look after them. | |
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