| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/23/2009 10:16:28 AM | I'm wanting to believe they have higher expectations,,,
The last ten or twelve dates complained the coffee was too weak and the donuts were hard.
I go out of my way to have Fred save the used coffee grounds and day old donuts. Do you think the women appreciate my thoughtfulness? I'm showing them I know how to save money! I have adjusted one thing though. I always call Fred the day before I have a M&G because he forgot one time and I was caught dumpster diving for the day olds as she showed up,,,
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/23/2009 10:28:23 AM | That's an understatement. How about do some women have more expectations than they have shoes. Yes, it's a resounding Yes 
Well at first, some of them don't appear to have any expectations, these High Expectation Woman, (HEW's) during the dating stage seem to be very positive, even laid back and show no real attitude one way or the other as to what they want, and in my opinion, they seem very impressed with what they first see, so you also see great potential. This stage is known as First Contact.
She lets you pay for the first date, and then praises you for being such a gentleman. You may not realize it, but this is when you will start finding out about HEW's and their E's. This stage is known as the Payment in Order to win the Treasure.
Little by little you will get to know her better, and as she reveals more and more of herself you feel the Treasure is soon to be yours. If for any reason you become doubtful that this relationship is healthy, she may offer to show you bits of the treasures, but then uses delay after delay by finding reasons why your not quite worthy, but will always promise that this will be the last thing you have to do before the treasure is yours completely.
Next thing you know your at Lettellier or Browns helping her pick out some designer shoes that your buying her for your 1 month anniversary. 
I won't say that all woman are HEW's, because frankly, some of these incidents just go unreported. | |
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/23/2009 12:01:51 PM | No, women don't have more expectations than men. It's just that you're so amazingly incredibly hot (those "few extra pounds" on a 55 year old man, that unkempt gray Islamist terrorist beard-rrr!! yum!!!) that the moment women see you their minds immediately go into long-term mode! You heartbreaker, you!! You're gonna make all the other men on here jealous!!!  | |
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/23/2009 12:05:51 PM | ah, c'mon guys.
on this topic, i'm beginning to think that people (men and women) exist in three categories:
1-- way into your stuff (that doughnut's not good enough, i hate it when you talk on the phone for more than 10 minutes, ew i hate your neighbourhood, when are you going to move, that's not how you use that software.... and so on)
2-- easy to be around, interactive but non-intrusive (ie open, consultative, rather than buzzing with expectations)
3-- off in their own worlds, either narcissistically or just indifferent
all of which can change depending on the relationship.
i'm all for category 2.
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/23/2009 12:08:52 PM |
... it's best not to have any, in my humble opinion.
i have one - if i make i date with you, i expect you to show up.
(yes, i got stood up - AGAIN - last weekend...) | |
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/23/2009 12:12:05 PM |
...you will be able to meet women who have the same type of expectations as you do.
he didn't say the SAME expectations!
the question was if the female of the species has MORE expectations than the male of the species. | |
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/23/2009 12:21:51 PM |
he didn't say the SAME expectations!
the question was if the female of the species has MORE expectations than the male of the species. Quite right. He didn't say same expectations. But, I'm disagreeing with him that women have more expectations than men. I believe that is just a perception if you look at things from a limited, one sided point of view. Both men and women have the same amount of expectations, in general--in fact, people do, in general. That's what I'm saying. Women don't have more, men don't have more. Therefore, the thing to do is just find someone who wants the same or similar things as yourself (not you specifically, but anyone, in general...)  | |
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/23/2009 1:11:54 PM | I think this is a good question. I don't know if there is a gender connection. I think there could be - those damn nurturing hormones! I know personally that I have to wrestle my expectations into a reasonable state. Some might call it expectation- I call it hope.
One of the worst things about dating at this age is that you KNOW what you are missing (the closeness, the intimacy, etc.), but you are too worldly to delude yourself about the people you meet! Not that I want to blunder ignorantly into a bad relationship, but those rose-colored glasses were kind of nice sometimes. | |
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/23/2009 1:14:50 PM | ~OT~ The only expectation I have when meeting: that he at least resembles the pictures enough that I know who he is. Oddly, that seems like a tall order.  | |
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/23/2009 1:33:34 PM |
~OT~ The only expectation I have when meeting: that he at least resembles the pictures enough that I know who he is. Oddly, that seems like a tall order.
Yeah,,, you try that living under a bridge and see how far you get,,,
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/23/2009 2:43:40 PM | Well...I think we have more offerings than expectations...
But speaking seriously about expectations...we all have different standards(I do not mention dreams...plans...etc).So first...you have to be on the same level with your partner.
Think what you want to offer...and what you are expecting.
A man on dating site is offering sex...and expecting sex... so his balance is Zero... | |
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/23/2009 10:02:14 PM | Can't speak for all women, but my only expectation is that we have a place we can have good conversation, a nice atmosphere (outside is my favorite; but whatever's good) and no distractions.
That is literally my only expectation; it can be a bottle of water in a park; as long as the conversation's good, the park's pretty and the water's cold, it's all good.
But since I don't know what expectations men have when they meet, i can't answer the question in comparison...
(but since my expectations are pretty low key, I'm doubting it)... | |
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/23/2009 10:05:19 PM | We all have expectations, they are just different, that's all.
To state one has no expectations, be they specific or general, is losing sight of the whole process.
We go EXPECTING that it will turn out well, and that's just the start.
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/23/2009 11:09:58 PM | | I think it all depends on the situation,but in this (first meeting) situation, I know I do not come with any expectations. I am going to meet some one I barely know, but have found interesting enough to have a face to face with. So I show up prepared for several variations of meet and greet. I usually wear casual attire in case we go walking around a park or on a beach etc. Most of the time I know ahead of time what we will be doing, coffee, drink ,lunch. but sometimes it is improvised on the spot. and my motto is be prepared if you really want to get to know this person you may have to go a tiny bit out of your comfort level. | |
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/24/2009 6:53:52 AM | I finally came to the conclusion that many people have unrealistic expectations. I have to wonder if that is because they simply wish to remain single..
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/24/2009 7:07:27 AM | | Yes! Women are looking for a perfect long-lasting relationship while men think about getting laid. If a woman was with a man for several years and he would not commit, she considers all those years like a waste of time. A man NEVER thinks like that. Afterall, he got laid all those years. And loved. So, he was not lonely. | |
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/24/2009 7:12:16 AM | | I can only speak for myself, but I expect a woman to be a decent human being, I expect the opportunity to show her that I am one too, and I expect her to have the same attitude. | |
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/24/2009 7:13:42 AM |
...I expect the gentleman I am dating to have a penis between his legs and smaller moobs than me...
It would also be nice if his don't sag quite as much as mine. Gravity is SUCH a ****... sigh. | |
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/24/2009 7:21:13 AM | Although I no longer have any expectations regarding a first meeting my hope is that she has a sense of humor, is pleasant, that we have some chemistry and a good time talking and getting to know one another.
As far as women's expectations, I have actually met a couple who pulled out a small notebook and proceeded to question me from a list they had written down. It was ridiculous! The first thing most women I meet want to know is what I do for a living, no doubt to "qualify" me. They also want to know a lot about my family situation. Women are quite practical. It has been said that whereas men fall in love with their eyes, women fall in love with their ears.
In particular I no longer expect the women to be the age or the weight they have represented themselves to be. To bet on that is worse than going against the house in Las Vegas! The vast majority of women I have met lied about their ages by from 3 to 12 years and their weight by double digit pounds, even double digit kilos. Since these women had misrepresented material facts about themselves I wanted nothing to do with them. | |
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/24/2009 7:30:44 AM |
In particular I no longer expect the women to be the age or the weight they have represented themselves to be. To bet on that is worse than going against the house in Las Vegas! The vast majority of women I have met lied about their ages by from 3 to 12 years and their weight by double digit pounds, even double digit kilos. Since these women had misrepresented material facts about themselves I wanted nothing to do with them.
Gosh that's terrible to hear. I'm shocked. Because men are so honest online. None of them lie about their HEIGHT, weight or AGE. How unfair that these honest guys are meeting women who lie about their weight. Thank God for ussearch and peoplefinders!!
After so many years I finally figured out that there is an almost foolproof way to meet men. It's called real life and it works like this (now I'm a living testament since I work with women and children, don't drink and my hobbies are things like knitting and studying Italian) wherever I go I make eye contact with all men-all ages, all types. I smile. If they say anything at all, I respond in kind. That's it. A funny thing happened-since Feb. I have been asked out by 5 different men in real life. I was able to see all these things in person right away and not worry about honesty or games. | |
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