| the art of flirting
Posted: 8/26/2009 7:27:15 PM | Flirting at the supermarket is the best fun................I agree. The only trouble is I still go home alone.................
spicey..is there an actual way to pick up at supermarkets?
has anyone had success?
I saw this guy once at the supermarket.. our eyes met.. I thought.. (which I rarely do)
hmmm nice... and I thought.. well you don't know if theyr'e married etc.. nor would I have the confidence.. to approach a man.. anywhere really..
turns ...out I saw the guy at my local.. well I just blushed/went quiet..
realised he lived in my town somewhere...
next time I saw him he was in the main street in his pj's and dressing gown.. (im hoping he was in the hospital and was just taking a walk.. all in 1 street here..(im hoping he was going for a smoke away from hospital)
otherwise.. I dunno.. .. couldn't be bothered getting dressed?..
all I could hear was my dad's voice.. saying.. you sure have lousy taste in men...
hmmm.
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Posted: 8/26/2009 9:39:54 PM | Hmmmm flirting at the supermarket!
When I was 16 (in high school) my part time after school job was working at the local supermarket! I was always chatty to the customers (I talk a lot).
One night this guy hands me an envelope & says it's an invitation of sorts and walks off.
So after my shift I ended, I read it and it was a full on love letter saying I was the nicest girl he'd met since he'd move to Melbourne 6 months ago, telling me about himself and would I like to go out. (It was 2 pages handwritten and the ONLY love letter I've ever recieved). Keep in mind I was the checkout chick who scanned his groceries once a week!
It WOULD have been very sweet except he was 33 and I was 16!!! And being a very innocent 16 year old from a Catholic girls school I was mortified & sooooo embarrassed. I just about died. I had to get one of my friends to call him & tell him no thanks as I am only 16. Funnily enough he never came thought my checkout on Wednesday night again!
So, I'd say careful who you flirt with at the supermakert. :) Lots of jail bait working there! | |
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Posted: 8/26/2009 11:29:39 PM |
omg.....the supermarket stalker.....
don't you just love being chased around the aisles.....not
No daffie, I wasn't stalking her, we were just out of synch. In fact I became self-c0nscious after our second or third crossing so I skipped an aisle but either she skipped one too or was faster than me so we ended up crossing s everal more times.
Thanks for the support spicynicegirl. After daffie's reply I thought I'd have to keep my eyes down at the supermarket from now on. | |
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Posted: 8/26/2009 11:54:03 PM | I once gave a guy advice on flirting. telling him that that woman he had smiled at at the freezer dept just 20minutes ago, had stopped what she was doing and watched him walk away... told him he had missed his opportunity.... I was just messaging him on his mobile, he was still out, and we lived at opposite ends of a city..... he took my advice and went back looking for her, found her at a coffee shop close to where he had been shopping.....asked her out...
When they were talking later, she asked him why he had come back, so he showed her all the text messages I had sent him that day....trying to get him from being shy, just advising him on opportunities missed......
They are a couple now, into their 4th year of marriage, they have ababy due in a few months....
I have never met him, just corresponded, via emails and sms...told them to treat me like a * Maiden Aunt*.......I`m just there to steer them in the right direction....
next.................  | |
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Posted: 8/27/2009 12:08:19 AM |
....."that man was smiling at you mum".....
omg.....the supermarket stalker.....
If someone be it male or female smiles at me at the supermarket, or any where else for that matter, I'd hardly think they were a stalker... and if our paths continued to cross I would be the one to pursue it further, given that I do not believe in "coincidence" ... possibly making me the "smiling stalker"
Today, give a stranger one of your smiles. It might be the only sunshine they see all day.
keep on smiling  | |
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Posted: 8/27/2009 1:53:02 AM |  sometimes when people catch me stalking, I smile.
Doesn't always seem to stop them calling the cops, I guess it looks a bit weird standing outside some stranger's window smiling *shrug*
I guess I should wait until they turn 18 okay that's just beyond even my sense of humour 
Nah the trick about smiling is to raise your eye level when you do it...
And...don't tell them it's because they've got something stuck in their teeth  | |
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Posted: 8/27/2009 2:02:54 AM | | Im sure Bruce Lee once quoted to his students..... "You must learn the art of flirting, without flirting...." | |
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Posted: 8/27/2009 2:48:09 AM | You're more than welcome Rob.................now get back to that supermarket and enjoy some innocent flirting!!
Geez it's the only fun I have anymore................. | |
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Posted: 8/27/2009 4:18:47 AM | I went for a bit of a flirt today... err shopping ,I mean...
a pretty lacklustre journey through the aisles it was..with hardly a possiflirt,or poss, to be had... not a lot of eye contact or smiling going on...
until..quite by chance as I happened to pick the shortest line at a checkout...
it was manned ? womanned.. by my favourite all time checkout chick... quite a honey, in a married gold ringed kinda way... and she always remembers me, as we've had a few laughs over the years ..... sigh....
a kick in the pants on the way out?.... | |
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Posted: 10/9/2009 1:02:27 AM |
As far as human behaviours are concerned evolutionary psychologists believe that "sexual" flirting is man’s way of engaging pleasurably with a member of the opposite sex, with the ultimate goal of reproduction. Now call me stupid, but most men "today" looking to pick up are not thinking about having children with the woman!
No men looking to pick up are not thinking about have children with the woman, but they never were that is not how it works or what is being suggested. Humans have evolved to love sex and to love the consequences of having sex when they turn up nine month latter. The idea is that our psychology will necessarily have evolution of in a way that insures that we behave and interact with each other in a way that is focused upon getting our genes successfully into the next generation. This is the ultimate cause of much of our behaviour though not necessarily the proximate cause that we are conscious of.
Of course given that the costs of error in selecting a mate are far high for females than males we can and expect to see very different behaviour even though they are subconsciously focused upon the same goal.
An excellent example is the famous experiment in which a group of women are asked to smell t-shirts in which healthy young men have slept and select the one the smell of which they find most pleasing. If you ask an of the women to explain why she prefers one to another she will provide some explanation that will be the proximate cause of her preference the ultimate cause is that the young women will subconsciously chose the t-shirt of the young man who’s immune system is the least like her own, insuring that any children that they might have will be more resistant to parasites and rapidly evolving viruses. Is that not cool, it put a whole new completion on being told that you stink.
Not surprisingly women are nine times more sensitive than men to the odours relevant to this purpose. Interestingly in the same test pregnant women prefer the smell of men whose immune systems are closest to there own, i.e. their close male relatives, and of course the contraceptive pill mimics pregnancy. This has lead to speculation that women who meet men when on the pill, will find them less attractive once they stop taking it, which could be after they have married and that any subsequent children will be more susceptible in terms of both, kind and severity, to early childhood diseases. I believe that there is a study of this now being conducted and it will be interesting to see the results.
It is just lucky that the evolution of human psychology has been overwhelmingly driven by sexual selection through female choice or women might have some legitimate complaints about more than a few typical male behaviours. | |
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Posted: 10/9/2009 1:19:17 AM | Unless somebody is severely socially challenged I don't really see the need for any Art of Flirting courses. I think if you really like somebody you will naturally and automatically act and be your most amusing, charming, entertaining and wittiest - ie flirting - without even aware that you are !  | |
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Posted: 10/11/2009 8:10:38 PM | | [QUOTE]spicey..is there an actual way to pick up at supermarkets? [/QUOTE] I'm pretty sure I once saw a book written on this subject lol. It had things like how to judge if they are single by the items in their trolley, how to approach etc. | |
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Posted: 10/11/2009 8:26:57 PM |
the young man who’s immune system is the least like her own, insuring that any children that they might have will be more resistant to parasites and rapidly evolving viruses.
Wrong and right.....the t shirts were so full of viruses that only the woman who didn't die and was still conscious was able to choose.
Flirting is not an art in Australia. I so miss Europe for that. I used to have this butcher (notorious flirters) and every Sat I would do down, flirt and get cheap meat (NO NOT THAT TYPE OF MEAT HE WASN"T MY TYPE!!). One day I had HAD to take the BF and bammo...couldn't flirt and no cheap meat....ever again....dag nab it. I have one brother who was the most charming flirt, I would watch women of all ages just going gaga because at no point was he anything but a gentleman. The little bugger would have three or four women on the go, they would all know about eachother because he was always honest and yet they would put up with it. I find flirting here can often be misconstrued as a direct come on and then one has the horrible task of having to back up to almost prudish behaviour to get them to go away.
Have to say though the last flirt had me giggling. The ruse was to step up a ladder to see the dog over the back fence...seems being tall and wanting to touch me bum he had to get me to climb a ladder....clever, funny especially as I didn't see it coming. Am so out of practise.....except in Supermarkets...tis such fun, harmless and whiles away the time in queues. I even half flirt with women. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2009 12:45:53 AM | Re message 37 - Well I'm thinking of asking my local supermarket to put in a bar on Friday nights as that seems to be when most of the single people are there!!!
I did have a guy stop and ask me about the eggs once. It's too long a story to explain but because I was tired it didn't register to me that he may have been flirting at the time. The only thing I didn't understand was why is it when you go there looking your absolute worst men want to flirt with you??? You know trackpants, hoodie, not looking too fancy and possibly in need of some deodorant after a long day and you decide to quickly duck down and get a few things to try and beat the Saturday rush.................. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2009 1:16:23 AM |
why is it when you go there looking your absolute worst men want to flirt with you??? You know trackpants, hoodie, not looking too fancy and possibly in need of some deodorant after a long day
The same reason that, if you are shopping in the second-hand automobile market, you want to get a look at car that has been recently traded in; before it is sent to the detailer and then moved back on to the lot looking like a million.
I am afraid that there are dishonest traders in every market, in this one for example, the winding back of odometers is endemic. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2009 4:27:12 AM | | I'm inclined to agree. I sometimes wonder if I have the same definition of flirting as others. To me, flirting is just being friendly & perhaps complimentary. But for me there is a distinct difference between being flirty and being sexual. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2009 9:27:04 PM | | ^^^^^ agree. Now will you please explain that to the average Aussie male cos they just don't get it. | |
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Posted: 10/17/2009 9:05:50 AM |
Am so out of practise.....except in Supermarkets...tis such fun, harmless and whiles away the time in queues. I even half flirt with women.
And I bet no-one accuses you of being a stalker!
Now will you please explain that to the average Aussie male cos they just don't get it.
I'm sure most of us get it all ready, but women keep arrogantly assuming that our friendliness is an indicator of our overwhelming desire to put another notch on our belt rather than just connect with another human being. If I was stalking everytime I smiled and said hello to another human being that I don't know already there would be a lot of women and men of all ages racing down to the magistrates office to take out an AVO against me! I just can't help being friendly!
Vanaheim, you crack me up! That's awesome brother!
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Posted: 10/28/2009 4:17:58 AM | I agree with Daffie ("i don't think you can learn how to flirt.....there's a big difference in knowing how to flirt in comparison to being an out and out tease.").
You can learn art but you can't teach an art...and an art is anything which requires intensity, flair & challenge, immediacy and creative restraint: all rolled into one. Nah, going to charm/flirting school doesn't give anything like the same hot flushes, pounding-in-the-ears-and-chest, and smack between the eyes that flirting does - gooooood, brooding, responsive flirting, that is. The kind that makes slow, intimate kissing feel like a soggy sock by comparison. | |
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Posted: 10/28/2009 9:16:50 PM | .( This has lead to speculation that women who meet men when on the pill, will find them less attractive once they stop taking it,)
As you are an obviously learned scholar perhaps you can tell me if this also applies to post menopausal women? If so maybe I should just give up  | |
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Posted: 10/30/2009 3:53:43 PM |
of course the contraceptive pill mimics pregnancy
I thought it was to mimic menstruation, after all the pill was used to avoid pregnancy.
Have been on the pill and have gone thru pregnancy.... the effects were nothing alike
This has lead to speculation that women who meet men when on the pill, will find them less attractive once they stop taking it
hmmmm the pill has the same effect as beer goggles??
so the invention of the pill was just an unattactive man's plan to dominate the world and help all the uglies have a chance to procreate??, well I'll be damned | |
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Posted: 10/31/2009 6:22:22 PM | | European flirting, hmmmm? There are a lot of countries in Europe, so that's a pretty sweeping generalisation. But it is true that the Australian flirting technique , from the male side, could do with a bit of improvement. However there's a sort of honesty in the Aussie male's approach, you know, rocking back on his feet and looking around the skies .."Looks like you'll be able t' get the washing dry luv." Trouble is that after you've exhausted the washing topic and the weather, he gets all embarassed, says "Nice t' meecha" and vanishes (?) Aussie men are more at home with Aussie men, simple as that. However there's something off putting about a Frenchman, say, letting his lips linger over your hand. Italians are pretty up front with a girl but oh my God , the Germans...... you can hear the heels clicking as they assure you that you are "Chust charming end zo beautiful, sherly chu cannot pee from Australia? French, berhaps?" | |
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