| are you still sexually experimenting?
Posted: 9/17/2009 6:18:03 AM |
I think that ANYONE answering this question is totally DOOMING their chances at having a quality relationship from this site. Especially the women. It puts you out there in a "seeking sex only" mode.
Actually, seeing some of the ladies answers on this sight is having just the opposite effect. It is refreshing to see a woman admit that they too are sexual beings. And helps to foster the idea that not all women are 'ice queens'.
True, there will be people who would view the repliers as 'over sexed nymphs and satyrs". But those are also, probably, the women/men who think that sex once a year is normal. I want a relationship to include physical intimacy, not ignore it. I don't expect it to be the pinnacle of the relationship, that's like hoping your ability to wiggle your ears will be the apex of the couple. (No, ladies, I can't wiggle my ears, haha!)
So we want to have sex in our relationships and maybe it's a little experimental too. The key word of the whole thing is 'relationship'.
So?
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| are you still sexually experimenting?
Posted: 9/17/2009 8:45:30 AM |
I know you mean well, but as a woman you typically overlook certain logistical issues. That would work only when the water temperature is over 20 degrees (Celsius). Anything colder, and the experimentation apparatus fails.
Well portage to warmer waters.. or get a wet suit? By the way nice new pic of you portaging... I imagine you are getting ready for the big moment?
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| are you still sexually experimenting?
Posted: 9/18/2009 3:02:42 PM |
I think that ANYONE answering this question is totally DOOMING their chances at having a quality relationship from this site. Especially the women. It puts you out there in a "seeking sex only" mode.
Oh, for God's sake. ANYONE who assumes that people, esp. women, who admit to -OMG!!--THINKING about sex must be "seeking sex only" is a COMPLETE IDIOT and is already DOOMED in HIS chances with ME because I'll figure that out p.d.q.
FYI, as we women get older we tend to become MUCH more comfortable with our sexual selves and do not CARE what men WHO CAN'T HANDLE THAT think of us.
As for the original question, I hope and pray to God that I have a chance to experiment with someone else sometime in the next decade or two. And yeah, I've explored my own sexuality quite a bit over the years, but really, really, really want to do more with someone who engages my heart and soul as well as my body. I can pretty much do everything else I want to do or need to do in life by myself or with friends and family, but this is the one thing where I will admit to needing, not just wanting, a man--and not just any man, either! | |
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Posted: 9/18/2009 4:04:57 PM | ^^^ What louise said.
And to the OP:
Yes, no, been there and done a lot but certainly not everything (and why not do it all more than once?), yes, yes, and HELL NO. | |
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| are you still sexually experimenting?
Posted: 9/18/2009 4:41:04 PM |
I think that ANYONE answering this question is totally DOOMING their chances at having a quality relationship from this site. Especially the women. It puts you out there in a "seeking sex only" mode.
this attitude says, 'only pervs discuss sex.' how 1951.
if a woman holds that attitude, she won't be compatible with me anyway, so i've lost nothing by posting here. | |
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| are you still sexually experimenting?
Posted: 9/20/2009 8:30:19 AM |
I think that ANYONE answering this question is totally DOOMING their chances at having a quality relationship from this site. Especially the women. It puts you out there in a "seeking sex only" mode. this attitude says, 'only pervs discuss sex.' how 1951. if a woman holds that attitude, she won't be compatible with me anyway, so i've lost nothing by posting here.
^^^I agree...this is something that suggests incompatibility (with me) and a rather old fashioned notion that women are perhaps wanton in displaying a desire to know themselves better through sex.
Sexual expression is a dimension of who we are and is demonstrated in how we relate to another. We know ourselves better through that expression. To take growth around the 'sex part' out....and to say, I'm fully formed...I'll never change...that's it...that's all I'll ever be<<<<< How does that sound?
I'd suggest that most would say it's sounds rather limited and absolutely uninviting.
No one is expecting to be around someone that is always up on the all the greatest moves; but people want to be with someone that is more or less 'game' at least to consideration generally meaning...not closing doors just because you've always done it that way.
I don't know a lot of people that are in long term marriages...but one thing that I do see if I had to pick at a few trends in the ones I know of is that they demonstrate this aspect of 'reinvention of the relationship up and from the sameness'...by being open to trying some new things with each other now that they are free to do so.
While I don't have indications of my friends sexual lives...what I do see from my perspective is that this willingness to branch into other places to 'grow' in non-sexual ways...likely manifests in the bedroom as well.
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| are you still sexually experimenting?
Posted: 9/20/2009 8:51:09 AM | | No, I'm still waiting to have sex (all the way that is) for the first time - at 49 ! So haven't even started experimenting. | |
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| are you still sexually experimenting?
Posted: 9/20/2009 10:29:06 AM | Seems all of you people with the negative reaction to my comment ARENT reading ALL the posts-ad nauseum- on here from women who are CRYING about how men start talking about sex even in the initial emails if not the texting if not the phone calls.
It isnt 1951 by a long shot. However, if YOU WOMEN do NOT want men to start heading for the sexual discussion talks even BEFORE he knows your favorite color, or your last name, or any other part of COURTSHIP, my earlier statement stands.
Women on this site as well as almost every other place opinions can be read are CONSTANTLY complaining and whining and just overwraught with irritation at how quickly men want to get sexual.
You cant offer the cake, then complain about it being wanted.
I'm so glad that you women are so open about your sexuality and how GOOD the communication is, how easily it flows in a comfortable way when it comes to sex.
In fact, it isnt a surprise that MOST of you OPEN WOMEN have on your profile:
"Must NOT have contacted users seeking intimate encounter"
Gawd.. bipolar or what? Or maybe just hypocritical. | |
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| are you still sexually experimenting?
Posted: 9/20/2009 10:54:06 AM |
"Must NOT have contacted users seeking intimate encounter"
Gawd.. bipolar or what? Or maybe just hypocritical.
^^^Not bipolar...not hypocritical...at least not in my case.
I have that on my profile so that I won't inadvertently reply to a person who pursues intimate encounters. The site has set filters to stop a person from posting to others if they've showed a repeated pattern of frequenting and communicating with folks that are there for this reason. I don't want to have to continually monitor that. Simple.
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It isnt 1951 by a long shot. However, if YOU WOMEN do NOT want men to start heading for the sexual discussion talks even BEFORE he knows your favorite color, or your last name, or any other part of COURTSHIP, my earlier statement stands.
^^^As equally does my assessment that it would be an impossible clash to be in any relationship of the sort with a man that has such a limited view...that being that woman should not admit that they are open to exploring the sexual side of their natures.
Women on this site as well as almost every other place opinions can be read are CONSTANTLY complaining and whining and just overwraught with irritation at how quickly men want to get sexual.
^^^While I've read this, I've never once complained of it.
I've also never once met a man who are like as you describe above. And while I've dated rather infrequently from this site over my time here; choosing instead to invest my time on many first meets over coffee; I recall none of these men that I met, striking me as potentially this type.
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Posted: 9/20/2009 2:09:56 PM | | I agree ammazzed. If two people are having a relationship you know what the other likes and doesn't like. And more than not both enjoy experimenting. I think it keeps things a bit more interesting. I for one don't think you are ever too old to experiment. At least I am hoping not...lol | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 2:15:49 PM | | Are you sure you aren't looking for women who want an "intimate encounter" ? I could understand these remarks if you were. I do believe, however, that this goes both ways. I have had men tell me about the women wanting sex the first or second date. Since this is the case, I don't think it is fair to put all the remarks directed to women. You men need to take some of the responsibility here as well. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2009 10:39:45 AM | | You bet your booty!!!! I`ve done many thigs that i hope to do over and over but i never stop searching for some way to get a little deeper or hit the right spot or throw gas on the fire. What fun would that be? | |
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Posted: 9/21/2009 8:33:31 PM | No, I'd like to do more but I'm big and ugly and no woman will have me. Which must be one of the reasons I had this dream last night. All my friends and I were at this restraunt in Montecito the wealthy part of Santa Barbara, and I was waiting for my wife even though I've never been married will here came this woman she was very tall like 8 feet tall wearing a long "Christmas Tree" shaped dress, with long brown hair, a young one I thought "Nice" She turned and said "Sorry I'm late honey." And she had this black beard. She was a woman with a gen. Xer's type beard. I don't want to experiment like that of course I could always shave her. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2009 8:57:07 PM | Sweetest, your directed answers to me are VERY presumptious.
The impossible clash comment is SO self-ego centered on YOUR part to even think that I(with my supposed limited view, a view you know NOTHING about other than this post) would even consider ANYTHING with you in the first place. Where did anything I've ever posted give you THAT idea?
As open as you are about all of this, and your theories of how it SHOULD be between men and women,
How's that workin for ya? Are you finding a plethora of men who think like you and are just struggling to pick ONE?
Jeanne -
I'm sure. It seems you too missed the point of my post or even started to consider the entire breadth of my comments
And we men need to take responsibility for WHAT exactly? | |
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| are you still sexually experimenting?
Posted: 9/22/2009 2:45:38 AM | No to the first five questions and yes to the next four.
I don't have anyone in my life right now so experimenting sexually is a bit difficult....................... | |
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Posted: 9/22/2009 3:17:38 AM |
And we men need to take responsibility for WHAT exactly? Well YOU could start controlling the amount of aggression you're showing in your posts. Sweetest was responding to your post in a normal fashion; no need to get all personal and nasty. (You may not have intended to sound harsh, but you do, imo.)
OT: Well, it does take two. You're limited in what you can think up when there's no one to play with. | |
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Posted: 9/22/2009 5:23:32 AM |
I have that on my profile so that I won't inadvertently reply to a person who pursues intimate encounters.
Well, those people who have intimate encounters as their goal are just people like the rest of us. We are all, I would think, here in hope of arranging an intimate encounter at some point. Its ascribing this bold face admission to some amoral perspective that I think is probably unfair and unjustified and based on some assumptions and generalizations about people.
I think that few men or women would want to associate with someone who goes from encounter to encounter in an endless series of meaningless one night stands, but having read a few of the IE profiles on this site I really don't get the impression that that is what is going on with these people, at least not the ones in this age group. | |
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Posted: 9/22/2009 6:15:02 AM | So much quarreling here, but sometimes talking about sex does unleash highly charged emotions.
are you still sexually experimenting?
To the original question:
Yes, in a way. Each new lover is very special. Something old, tried and true becomes very new and exciting, in the way I respond to her, and she to me. I am awed by the emotion and my body's response to orgasmic events, and the discovery of a willing partner who's libido matches mine!
Not sexually experimenting would be like saying you can't teach an old dog new tricks.
Well, I may be an old dog in some eyes, but I am more than open to learning new tricks, anytime! | |
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Posted: 9/22/2009 6:52:12 AM |
Sweetest, your directed answers to me are VERY presumptious.
The impossible clash comment is SO self-ego centered on YOUR part to even think that I(with my supposed limited view, a view you know NOTHING about other than this post) would even consider ANYTHING with you in the first place. Where did anything I've ever posted give you THAT idea?
^^^I just happened to be one of those who as you put it...
Seems all of you people with the negative reaction to my comment ARENT reading ALL the posts-ad nauseum- on here from women who are CRYING about how men start talking about sex even in the initial emails if not the texting if not the phone calls.
^^^and posted my 'negative' reaction to it--nothing more...nothing less.
But in case you forget your post...to which I was responding, here it is again...
I think that ANYONE answering this question is totally DOOMING their chances at having a quality relationship from this site. Especially the women. It puts you out there in a "seeking sex only" mode.
^^^My point. I'd never be with anyone that means YOU or ANYONE who had this rather stunted, unenlightened and completely limited perspective imo, which is so far from my own. That's the genesis of my interaction on this thread with 'you'---again, nothing more...nothing less.
How's that workin for ya? Are you finding a plethora of men who think like you and are just struggling to pick ONE?
^^^Great actually. Thanks for asking...Howdja know???? Yup. I recently picked just one.
Moving on...
I have that on my profile so that I won't inadvertently reply to a person who pursues intimate encounters. Well, those people who have intimate encounters as their goal are just people like the rest of us. We are all, I would think, here in hope of arranging an intimate encounter at some point. Its ascribing this bold face admission to some amoral perspective that I think is probably unfair and unjustified and based on some assumptions and generalizations about people.
^^^I'm not into judging--never was. I've always had a problem with POF assuming that people who are upfront about wanting this should be somehow penalized by selecting it. I simply don't care; and truthfully have had many intimate encounter offers that come from all statuses.
My reason for having this selected on my profile is simple....I don't want my capabilities to contact others to be taken away because I didn't pay attention to the POF rules and to the fact that I replied to email from a person who has selected 'intimate encounters'. That's my understanding about the rules of this site; and I'd rather not be monitoring that. I have always tended to receive a lot of mail, and made an attempt to reply to all; something which was clearly noted on my original profile. It's just easier to whip off letters on a Sunday morning without having to be overly concerned about tripping that filter.
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Posted: 9/22/2009 6:57:51 AM | | Well, actually, you don't get penalized for replying to messages from that type of profile, only from making initial contact with them. At least that has been my experience. I have received the occasional contact from a woman with an IE profile, and I have replied that I was not interested, and have not been subsequently blocked from contacting others with that restriction. | |
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Posted: 9/22/2009 2:19:59 PM | | Am I still sexually experimenting? I would like to think so. Sometime in the future I even plan to do it with someone else. | |
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