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|I have to agree with most of the guys here!. My last date I was prepared to pay for my food and drinks, the guy paid but I did offer. He just met you why does he have to put all this money on the line. Let's get to know each other. If the guy had money to spendsh like that, good for him, and he would be a nice guy for showinng you a good time. However, why did all your dissapointments have to do mostly with his lack of paying, is that how a guy shows he is interested. How about quality time, that's priceless!|
Posted: 8/26/2009 11:42:49 AM
|He is just a garden variety Socialist, waiting for his govt bailout check..... |
Posted: 8/26/2009 1:22:46 PM
|I'd never in a million years meet someone for the first meet at a club, let alone them bringing friends. That kind of attitude to me is not encouraging in the least. II'll be here at this time and place, come if you want but I really don't care either way I'll be with other people and won't notice'. Weak.|
But I do agree, as for the guy's other weird behaviours, he did blow it, specially with the gym clothes. not aoffering to pay for 1 drink is massively cheap as well.
Posted: 8/26/2009 1:51:33 PM
. I suggested a bar but he gave me the song and dance about some money someone owed him so he didn't have too much to spend. When we got to the coffee shop, he didn't pay for the coffee, wore his gym clothes and yawned several times. What is up with that? Why do guys make the contact and chase only to have a lackluster follow through?
maybe he's not a barfly.?
Posted: 8/26/2009 2:04:21 PM
|I am yawning... If one can attract me to meet, I'll pay a nice dinner...|
Posted: 8/26/2009 2:14:13 PM
|Why do 'some' guys do this?|
because they can. That's why!
Jeeesuz ...poor you. You thought he was worth giving it the old green light and he turns out to be a cheap basssterd. and then...he what.....? yawns????
God , he must've been bored out of his fcukin' mind.
c'mon, chins up.....
maybe the next guy will be able to stay awake for a bit and his Mommy might have just given him his allowance.
Ya never know when you're gonna get lucky , darlin'.
~~ KImbo ~~
Posted: 8/26/2009 2:48:31 PM
Ya never know when you're gonna get lucky
This is why many people like to have casual datings; after having some casual datings, everyone asks how to pay the dating bills. What an interesting life cycle!
Posted: 8/26/2009 4:46:11 PM
|Maybe, he stayed up all night trying to figure out how to please you... Perhaps you all need more phone time and better communication about likes and dislikes. If you set your standards on the guy paying for the bill, you won't be able to tell whether he is "worth it" in other areas. Go dutch. |
Posted: 10/8/2009 3:34:02 AM
|What a gross man, eww.|
Posted: 10/11/2009 9:07:20 AM
|Hey folks the OP is a teacher, so money is important to her, because she probably doesn't make much. ( of course I say this not knowing how much they make in canada)|
Posted: 10/11/2009 9:30:58 AM
Well... this definately wins the "Most Appropriately Named Thread" award.
Posted: 10/11/2009 3:51:44 PM
|yawning is natural and uncontrolllable. Can't blame him for that.|
Posted: 10/11/2009 6:59:38 PM
|the fact that you thought meeting him at a club, which you were already going to, with your friend, is just damn lazy....this is not appropriate first meet...and says that you don't really care about meeting him...|
and that fact that he shows up in gym clothes...well, ditto.
neither of you making much of an effort...so yeah, why bother at all?
Posted: 10/12/2009 3:24:00 AM
|Some people arent the people we might expect them to be. At least you found up front very quickly. It took me third of a summer dating someone to find "uncover" I was dating a psycobitc* with ingrained prejudices. Like I said you were lucky you didnt have to waste much time on this person.|
Posted: 10/23/2009 12:59:15 PM
|I dunno about this...I just had an image of Ali G walking in with his gold chain and trackies for a coffee meet, yo. Then the night prior in the same track suit queuing up in some boot scooting night club (can overhear 'Duelin Banjos' playing in the background).|
I guess both parties settled and lowered their standards. Both can call it a horrible experience and learn from it fast.
Posted: 10/23/2009 1:06:44 PM
There was actually a psychological study that said that by observing a man and his behavior on your first date, you can tell with high certainty how he will treat you in the long run. Example:
You two are in a restaurant for dinner. Observe his behavior toward the waiter:
Is he being cheap or generous? Is he smiling or frowning at the waiter? Is he having a dry humor mocking the waiter or he is behaves like he respects him? Did he leave a tip to the waiter? etc etc... observe this, make analogies and symbolic interpretation and you will know what this guy would be like toward you in 10 years time.
bogus example. people are always on best behavior on first dates; 90 percent of even the 90th percentile of jerks know it looks bad to cop unprovoked attitude with the help.
Posted: 10/23/2009 1:21:12 PM
|OP: Why would you invite this man out dancing? How are you suppose to talk and get to know one another? If you had previous plans you should have picked another day.|
Did you have your Princess Crown on when you met him? If not, that would have saved him/you a lot of time.............
Posted: 10/23/2009 2:10:50 PM
|Damn ... that dude makes the guy I met who lived at the homeless shelter seem like Prince Charming ... |
Posted: 10/23/2009 2:40:43 PM
|He wanted you to buy the coffee, then the drinks and the dinner, become your boy toy, have you take care of him, move over your place and drink beers while watching reality TV, and ask some other chic for coffee. |
Posted: 10/23/2009 2:44:26 PM
LOL Hence why its so important to meet in person quickly rather than form opinions based on email and phone calls.
Best advice yet. Seriously...email and phones are for follow up AFTER you meet...not to learn what you think is everything you need to know to meet a guy. Boys lie...girls do too.
Posted: 10/23/2009 2:58:31 PM
|OMG if a man showed up for a first date with me in gym clothes I would run screaming the other way and call the fashion police! |
WTF is the deal with men thinking THEY are the prize doing us a favor just by showing up!?!?!
Do me a favor - if you think it's an honor just to be in your presence and you don't have to bring money or dress up DON'T CONTACT ME in any way shape or form. I've dumped guys like you so often, I'm getting muscles